a neurodivergent villain who gets shit done.
|| the personal is practically political over here. || motto: who has the time for that? definitely not me.
i need y’all to actually raise girls to live for themselves, and not in the shadow of whom they could be because they’re going to be somebody’s something someday. it’s a very unfair burden.
I had a panic attack last night and these tips helped me, so I'm sharing.
You may also want to stop talking, acknowledge you're panicking and that you can get yourself out of the state.
Share with anyone who might need this.
#panicattack
#mentalhealth
my feminist vision is a world where men are really scared to touch women and girls without their consent, or speak violently to or about them, knowing that the consequences will be painfully inevitable.
It sucks how as a person from a low-income family, you may never get to independently decide what you want to do with your life (professionally) and pursue it without overthinking the financial implication and unpredictability of the future. I’ve been moving with crazy courage.
Suddenly, Nigerian men want to marry the daughter of a rich person, but swear a woman who doesn't want to suffer with them is a gold digger. Oh they also hate broke shaming. Plus, they like Tolani's "low-keyness" lol.
The double standard stinks. Can't take y'all seriously ever.
Moved into my new apartment today. I hope I don't have to go back to renting a smaller space.
I pray that I will keep going higher and never come down.
🙏🏾
I'm receiving house warming gifts in cash. Thanks and God bless
❤️ 😙😂
I grew up where teenage pregnancy was rampant. Girls were dropping out of school here & there and that was the end. Heck, a girl in my class couldn’t write SSCE because she got pregnant in SS3. Why do we treat teenager mothers like dirt, like their lives are over? They’re not.
If a woman likes you, she’ll do anything for you. Forget all you read on social media, women are born nurturers! If your woman doesn’t do or give (except on the basis that she doesn’t have, of which we still find ways to do things), then rethink am. Woman fit tiff for you my guy!
Many feminists have been saying it since Roe vs Wade. What is happening in Gambia, Uganda, and even the rise in cases of femicide in Kenya are not separate events.
We are seeing an erosion of human rights and regression in “democracy” in Africa in real time.
once I accepted that I’m weird and not a wife material, my life became easier. I’m not auditioning for anyone’s approval or validation; I’m simply living
for someone who likes to just show up as herself, broke or not, perfect or otherwise, the thought of the mind games one has to play to “win” in romantic relationships stress me out and I have accepted that I am not built for these dynamics. May the force be with all players.
I made it to the next stage of one of the applications. 😭
I didn't even hesitate before submitting the requested document.
I think that's the only/second congratulatry email this year.
My own is that you can’t fight for gender equality while insisting that it’s a man duty to take care of you, solely because you’re a woman. Men’s entitlement to women’s bodies and women’s entitlement to men’s money are symptoms of patriarchy. You can’t end one without the other.
i genuinely am uncomfortable with the fact that traveling/relocating out of Nigeria is an achievement. it is problematic in a way that hurts.
ps: this is not about the people leaving and their joy, but rather the situation of the country and why we leave it.
Feminist knowledge will save you. You may not have many friends or be partnered, but you’ll live a life you’re certain of, one that is undoubtedly yours.
Our sisters in Kenya are marching this month to speak up against the incessant killing of women in their country. If you’re not in Kenya, but would like to stand in solidarity with them, follow the conversation via
#EndFemicideKE
and join them in demanding for justice & security.
Stop killing Kenyan women. We are tired, we are angry, we afraid and most importantly we are done keeping quiet. Join us on 21st, 27 and 28th January for activities happening across Kenya aimed at protesting the rise in cases of femicide.
#endfemicideke
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#handsoffmybody
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women shouldn’t have to share their traumatic experiences or write thesis about why they deserve equal rights as men, after all, we are all humans and I do not understand why one group must establish and assert dominance over the other. It will never make sense to me.
I passed out of NYSC today. I moved here with so much fear about how I'd pull through on my own. Did my internship interview to work at
@accountlabng
right on my bed in camp.
The big win is that I got a new job even before NYSC was over.
I began the month with job loss; the project is ending abruptly due to internal reasons.
I don't want pity. I don't want to talk about the pain or sadness.
I'm open to opportunities. Kindly share.
I'm skilled at:
Project Management.
Communications.
Content Development.
🙏🏾
I’m not a baddie or slay mama, I’m a nerd. And quite frankly, I have no interest in investing in unnecessary beauty standards or anything that doesn’t feel like me.
Rihanna shot the man in man down because he sexually assaulted her at a bar. All this while, I thought it was a cute song; didn't know it was about a survivor ending a perpetrator's life.
What
@kikimordi
is experiencing now is a clear example of how digital harassment can translate to physical harassment or even violence, and it is hurtful, very hurtful to watch. especially because this thing started off from something that centered SH survivors, not its creators.
Let's be sincere, this life is really not that it and I wish you'd stop treating people who are suicidal or have suicidal ideations like they're crazy.
everything she said. Nigerian men, no matter how progressive they claim to be, are still at the core very patriarchal. they will only take you seriously if they did the "chasing". If you did, they'd see you as "cheap" and "desperate". annoying lots, fr.
I used to be a strong advocate for women shooting their shots but it has a 1 out of 10 success rate.The rest is just sex and you being the laughing stock of a WhatsApp group for YEARS.
So pleas NO!
A man killed his girlfriend, confessed to her murder and is still walking freely. In Nigeria.
Please spare a minute to join people demanding
#JusticeforAusta
🙏🏾
@thetobiayodele
is the brave lady who was courageous enough to do what was right, on behalf of all women who truly want to be liberated without coddling anyone.
She is my friend and I am absolutely proud of her. We, her feminist sisters, are proud of her. ❤️❤️
Today at Alausa, a brave lady collected the microphone from the Nigerian women's president for praising Lagos State Governor's wife Instead of mourning the death of Oluwabamise Toyosi Ayanwole
#IDW2022
#JusticeForBamise
A year ago, I overdosed to take my life.
This year, I started seeing a psychiatrist and got on antidepressants.
I'm better, really better.
You too can get better.
If you suffer from any mental health illness, you are not alone.
I love you. Keep going.
#WorldMentalHealthDay
I hate that we have to keep reminding you like you're still in creche, but sleeping over is not consent. Don't spike anyone's drink this weekend. Nakedness is not consent. Consent for one activity is not consent for all. Consent can be withdrawn.
Don't rape or harass anyone.
We keep talking about the poor eating the rich someday, while failing to acknowledge that the rich has been eating, exploiting, and killing the poor via capitalism and in classist systems and spaces for ages.
Feminism saved me lol.
It may have made my life a bit more complicated because people cradle their shackles, and I have to interact with such people (largely why I hate going out), but it liberated and taught me it was okay to trust myself, judgement and values.
Because boys are barely raised to know how to receive/give love, whilst being respectful to their partners, and girls are overly trained to give love and do unpaid labor, at the expense of themselves.
I'm sending love to anyone who hasn't been happy during this period.
I hope you find happiness in whatever you can. ❤️
PS: Even if there's no light at the end of the tunnel, may you unlearn the shame of asking for help, so your friends can buy you a generator/an inverter. 💕
Nigerian women are at
@nassnigeria
today to reject the Constitutional Amendment Bills on Equality passed yesterday, which reflects that the National Assembly does not think Nigerian women are relevant and have autonomy.
#NigerianWomenOccupyNASS
Nigeria is one of the most dangerous places to raise a girl child. The society will fail her, the legislature, judiciary will whisk her off when she holds on to them for justice.
But we keep fighting. It's a fight for our lives. A fight to just... live.
✊🏿
#JusticeForKhloe
people say I'm good with words, but I think it's the other way around:
Words are good to me, they open up to me, showing me their malleability and possibilities of what we can do together.
Hi, I am a Corper looking for a PPA in Abuja. Because I'm new here, I need an organization that pays well and/or provides accommodation. I studied Anatomy but have 3 years experience volunteering in Communications, Content creation and Management, Advocacy and Project management.
Feminists will be fighting for their lives & rights, but your concerns are that we’ve made ourselves undesirable for male partnership. That in itself is misogyny. The constant pressure on women to partner with men & procreate to keep patriarchal & capitalist balance in check.
If you are a young person looking for opportunities, please set boundaries with older people (especially men) with power and influence.
They will try you. And if you're not careful, you'll fall prey.
Every Tom, Dick, and Harry inserts "feminist" in their tweet and gets famous on Twitter.
They are milking your outrage.
Not every tweet is worthy of your reply.
I'm available for freelance work:
Writing.
Editing.
Project management.
Social Media management.
Executive Assistant.
I can't apply for full time jobs because of NYSC, so I'm missing some opportunities.
Kindly recommend me and send opportunities my way.
Thanks.
My landlady/house agent increased my neighbor’s rent by 50, 000 NGN and mine by 600, 000 NGN for the same size of apartment (a one bedroom).
Do i need a lawyer?
The two things that gave me anxiety attack last week have resulted in congratulations. 😭😭😭😭😭
I got a new role + into
@ONECampaign
Fellowship!!
I am screaming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Something quite weird happened last week: While I was brooding over a rejection call I just got, I received a congratulatory email for something else. I was torn between continuing crying or being happy, so I had an anxiety attack lol.
Laws on abortion are made by men who do not know the psychological and economical implications of pregnancy, especially on young people who aren't ready to be mothers. Women need representation in the legislative.
I want to see women thrive. I don’t want to be the first or only woman anything. I want many women winning and living a life free of hostility. And by God, I look forward to learning, growing and doing better at this.
I sent a pitch for an application sometime this month and I didn't hear back until today. This thing, they're selecting 10 people in the Global South and Eastern Europe.
THEY LIKED MY PROPOSAL!!!!
A feminist researcher and writer I will continue to be. I needed this validation!
Because a strange man told me this evening if he got a hold of my breasts, he'd suck it dry.
Because being around strange men gives me anxiety due to a history of being attacked by one.
Because men kill women.
Because men rape women.
Because the list is fucking too long.
When what we should be really doing is offering support, integrating them back into the education system, and pushing for a system that works for ALL women and girls. Pregnant or not.
Sis,
"Wet" and "Tight" pussy are not the standards of pussy.
If your pussy ain't wet baby, use a lube. If it ain't tight, that's okay. Plus, penetrative sex is not the only enjoyable form of sex.
Don't have sex with people who make you insecure or reinforce your insecurities. ❤️
It is official. I got promoted and need to stop downplaying this. my boss told me this morning that they value my knowledge on gender and facilitation skills, and want to use more of that on the team while someone else handles logistics.
I am so proud of myself right now.
three meetings today and I just finished the second one. I also sort of got “promoted” (more work basically) on my primary consultancy and I don’t know how I feel. but my boss said the team has been impressed about my work and felt I could handle it, so I guess that’s good.
Healthcare workers need to drop their judgmental, religious and morally pure reactions at the door of their house before leaving for work.
In a country where abortion isn't legal and young girls die from unsafe abortions, their insensitivity is really dangerous.
Hello, a 21 year old survivor of sexual violence is in a critical condition. She is anemic and in need of A+ blood. If you’re in Abuja and can come to the National Hospital, please send a dm to
@dnfoundation
or text Elizabeth on 07016973704. Thank you.
Kindly rt.
Blocked a friend who kept pressurizing me to open up to him last night, because he could help.
He was almost driving me crazy.
Some of you do harm in a bid to help.
Tuck in your savior syndrome.
Empathy will make you listen more than talk/pressure.
Inclusion doesn't threaten my existence. I've not been hurt by a trans woman before or know someone who has been, so I'm working with what I know. I know trans women are more at risk. So, why should I gatekeep? I'm working with empathy and basic human rights. Till I know better.
Hi, if you have been harassed online as a result of your stance on women rights issues/Feminism/Sexual Reproductive Health and Rights, kindly send me a message. I'm working with an organization to document the lived experiences of Nigerian women who have faced digital harassment.