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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

8 months

I know the answer but humor me: If your parents don't allow your partner of 7 years into the house, it's socially acceptable to spend holidays with him rather than family, right?

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4 months

I bought this icon of Christ creating the mathematical forms SO FAST, my texting thumb cramped.

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3 years

Last night, 23 years ago, Matthew Shepard was beaten so brutally that his face was completely covered in blood, except where the blood had been washed away by his tears, tied to a fence, and left to slip into a coma. May his memory be eternal.

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6 years

This literally is the height of my day:

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This is Nikita. She got caught in some wild flowers today. Didn't seem to mind. They make her happy. 13/10 would rescue when she's ready

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6 years

Ted from Schitt's Creek is oppressively hot. Oppressively.

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6 years

I know they hate us, but Christian publishers should at least find *a* gay to run these things by....

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3 years

*sigh*

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8 months

@MikeKling4 When I came out she said a photo of the two of us was "disturbing" and "disgusting," so....

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8 months

@pipofsuffolk Thank you ❤️🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍

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2 years

@Swilua The Divine Feminine is PISSED.

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5 years

You know what? I'm Christian and I'm gay. I'm attracted to cute men, and I love my partner. If other Christians don't like that, or think I don't belong in their ranks, they should kindly step off.

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5 years

I love how Kanye can be a theologian because he wrote an album, but I can never be because I'm a gay.

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@ByCoupletMade

4 years

Today, my grandma with dementia told me, "I still pray every day; I just dont remember the words anymore." That is what I call spiritual mastery.

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@A_MoonMay Nope. It's because we're gay.

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5 years

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1 year

Whenever you feel like you aren't good enough at your job, just remember that some PR consultant got paid to release this:

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8 months

@banjo_b0y Oh it's not the not married thing; it's the gay thing.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

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4 years

What's your theology in ten words or fewer?

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2 years

Should I just settle and say that Jesus is God? I'm tired.

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3 years

My grandma is dead. May her memory be eternal.

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4 years

OMG, I just realized that Rome just stabbed queer Catholics in the back on the Ides of March lolololol.

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6 years

My periodic reminder that the Theotokos is not the exemplar of Christian femininity but the exemplar of Christian *personhood*.

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1 year

Never forget that the Catholic Church was super hyped about canonizing the "Saint of 9/11" until they found out he was gay and ministered to gay people. Then they memory-holed the whole thing.

🕯Mater Britta🕯

@PotentiaEtActus

1 year

I cannot lie, I found myself unexpectedly overcome by emotion when I saw the chaplains exhibit in the FDNY museum. Then a child asked me if I “was alive on 9/11” and I was overcome with…other emotions

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AJ the Lost and Confused

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5 years

The life of Gay Christians in miniature: Saturday: reading comment after comment questioning whether I'm a heretic and/or a threat to the Church Sunday: waking up extra early to 1) prepare Matins handouts bc no one else knows how the rubrics work and 2) practice the melodies

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2 years

I'm always a bit aghast when I remember the Church of England doesn't do same-sex marriages. Anglican aesthetics is just so inherently queer; it's just such an anomaly.

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3 years

The Roman priest at mass tonight somehow made the Feeding of the 5k into a rant against BLM, critical race theory, yoga (?), and suggest that God sent the pandemic to show America what happens when it doesn't pay God enough attention Will no one rid us of this meddlesome Church?

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3 years

@WhoresofYore I desperately want to know what the concept behind this photo was.

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11 months

I love how this was not written about the Christians in Gaza but the gay blessings.

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6 months

Every once in a while, I'm talking to an Episcopalian, and it comes up that they're straight, and I have to take a beat because I'm always shocked to remember that they let hetero folks into TEC.

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2 years

I know this sounds crazy, but I need to gut-check: it's alright to spend Thanksgiving with your partners' family and not your own at age 36, right?

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@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Today I learned how hot Hermann Rorschach was, and I'll never look at inkblots the same way again....

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@ByCoupletMade

4 months

Him: "look at this pretty cathedral [sic]!" Me: "It looks Catholic. Oh wait, it's Episcopalian." Him: "How do you know?" Me: *points to rainbow flag*

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@ByCoupletMade

2 years

Like this if you'd lay down your life for Baby Bunsen.

Bunsen, BEAKER, and Bernoulli

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2 years

Baby Bunsen!

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3 years

Them: "I hate wearing a mask into Target." Me: "Not only do I not mind this mask, I never want to appear in public again unless I'm fully veiled from the rest of humanity."

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5 years

My grandma was speaking Spanish to this woman in the grocery store a few weeks ago, and the woman started crying and said "it's so nice to have someone to talk to. I don't speak English well, and I'm scared to speak Spanish anymore." :(

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Why spend money on therapy when I could spend the money on an MDiv?

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@ByCoupletMade

5 years

My partner texted me "🍑 time" this morning. I thought he was propositioning me; apparently, he was referring to impeachment. We live in confusing times.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Never forget that there are multiple states to this day that mitigate or completely excuse murder when a man feels uncomfortable by a man's advances, ie, when a man is treated how women are treated every day in this country and worse.

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@ByCoupletMade

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TradCath: "we can't let the lay rabble have a voice in the church and discern truth for themselves!" Me: "So, listen to the bishops, then?" "No! We can't let Synods do their own thing! We have to centralize!" "So... papal centralism then?" "NO BERGOGLIO CAN'T BE TRUSTED"

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5 years

Lol, the first thing this article lists as to-dos when feeling depressed/suicidal is to "talk to family about you feel." What straight person wrote this?

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6 years

"You're a millennial? So, are you really into avocado toast?" "No, I'm really into eschatology."

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@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Honest question: has anyone ever heard "love the sinner, hate the son" used against anyone other than LGBTQ ppl?

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

5 years

Yeah, no offense to my Side-B friends, but this idea that all The Christians want is for gays to follow a universal sexual ethic is bullshit. As the fracas over the Revoice conference shows, they hate us for existing and insisting on continuing to exist.

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@ByCoupletMade A good friend of mine left the Church (Baptist flavour) because he admitted to liking men and the church expelled him. He wasn't "practicing", just existing. He's found his way back in via Episcopalianism as they were the only ones around who didn't actively hate his existence

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AJ the Lost and Confused

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4 years

I just realized that Twitter is my gay bar—my safe space where I can "hang out" unashamedly with queer ppl and be my queer self without having to feel self-conscious. Whoa.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

2 years

@phiafacetious How is y'all not inclusive? Also, tell these ppl I'll stop once emglish gives me another second-person-plural pronoun.

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1 year

Yeah, I've never understood how they think that Christ is all-powerful and has already conquered, but also if we don't do something drastic, Satan will drag all of humanity to hell.

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1 year

christian nationalists don’t believe christianity is compelling enough by itself so they think it has to be mandated by the government

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1 year

Today was the last sermon of my mom's favorite priest before he's transferred. It was about loving God more than your children, and the example was a mother who cut off her lesbian daughter. My mom cried saying goodbye, and told him how much he has meant to her. Ugh.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

5 years

Randomly sad this morning that my parents don't—and never will—accept me as gay. And that they see me as sick and disgusting. I don't know why I'm sharing, but sometimes it helps to cry out into the void, just to get it out.

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3 years

One of the assailant's lawyers tried to get his client out of trouble by claiming that he become enraged when Matthew hit on him. This "gay/trans panic defense" is still viable in many states in the US.

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@ByCoupletMade

3 years

May Matthew Shepard's memory be eternal

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

5 years

Thinking that Christian imagination began because of 19th century white men, and then wanting to carve them into the sacred ground of native peoples, is such an unintentionally apt metaphor for American Christianity, I can't even.

The Babylon Bee

@TheBabylonBee

5 years

The founding fathers of Christian imagination: GK Chesterton, CS Lewis, George MacDonald, JRR Tolkien. Get the new shirt:

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2 years

Agreed. But do they *deserve* us?

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3 years

Homophobia is just misogyny by another name.

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2 years

@GalacticaGay314 No, not at all. I think our generation was raised on AIDS anxiety.

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@ByCoupletMade

6 years

I'll never forgive society for robbing me of an important part of my teens and twenties by pressuring me not to come out until my 30s.

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@ByCoupletMade

5 years

My mom, a self avowed "pro life warrior," just yelled at a couple coming out of christmas mass bc they didnt get out of her way fast enough. The mother was holding a baby, & the father was holding the baby's oxygen tank. They were trying to stop the baby's blanket from falling

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@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Good morning to my they/thems, she/theys, he/theys, and everyone of their ilk. Y'all are beautiful.

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@ByCoupletMade

4 years

If you don't have a crush on at least one of your mutuals, do you even exist?

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@ByCoupletMade

9 months

I just found out that a friend has been delivered from the heterosexual lifestyle, and I'm SO excited.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Democratic Party: "We can't forgive debt or contain the pandemic, but we can light candles and kneel with Kente cloth like CHAMPIONS!"

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Performative opposition is the raison dêtre of the Democratic Party.

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3 years

I've heard multiple people on various media platforms say that the Russians and Ukrainians should have a 24-hour ceasefire tomorrow to allow everyone to celebrate the "fellowship" of Easter. This is why basic religious literacy is important, y'all.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

8 months

I just discovered young Freud and everything makes sense now.

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3 years

The assailant's attorney alleged that Matthew had caused the incident by putting his hand on the would-be assailant's knee after the assailant and his friends had pretended to be gay to lure Matthew out of a bar.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

5 years

The trads are going to LOSE IT, but I don't care anymore. La Virgen, remember your children who are persecuted this day.

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@ByCoupletMade

3 years

She's home!!!!!!! Say hello to Cassandra (Cassie). If you don't absolutely adore her, you can unfollow right now.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

4 years

Just really feeling tonight that I don't have a future, a family, or a church who wants me. There's no point in prayers, but it feels a bit better to shout into the void.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

4 years

A miracle happened to me tonight. May God, the One-Who-Is, be praised.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

2 years

This is the most unhinged trailer I've ever seen, and I'm pleasantly surprised.

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The first trailer for Greta Gerwig’s ‘BARBIE’ has been released. The film releases on July 21 in theaters.

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4 years

Outside of the shittiness of today, I had one funny anecdote: My mom's canceling her Netflix subscription bc they signed a documentary deal w Pope Francis & he's using the $ to give "homosexual priests" a cushy life where they can drink "appletinis or whatever homosexuals drink"

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Do you realize how crazy it is that the last 5 years would have been extremely different—abd better—had someone maybe named Paul just stayed a rabbi 2000 years ago, instead of falling off of his horse and convincing himself that he knew Jesus better than those who knew him?

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

6 months

"Chat, give me the woke version of 'Jacob have I loved, and Esau have I hated.'"

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4 years

This Dreher event is my chance to tell him in a PUBLIC SETTING that he is one of the inspirations for my queer theology, and that I wouldn't be a gay man of faith without him. I'm SO TEMPTED to do this, reader.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

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3 years

Look, I know we don't know each other, ma'am, but my upbringing was a masterclass in Christian jargon, gaslighting, and weaponizing prayer. I know how this game is played.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

3 years

Look, all I'm saying is that every bar is a gay bar if you try hard enough.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

2 years

God wants to respect our free will, the way a good parent lets their toddler walk off a cliff because it's where the kid *wants* to go, you see.

Mason Mennenga

@masonmennenga

2 years

so you’re telling me an all-powerful and all-loving god *could* save everyone from going to hell but doesn’t???

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4 years

Me, to a Christian, "please, in the name of all that is holy, please stop calling everything you like doing that is public a ministry." Christian, making YouTube Bible-unboxing videos, "I consider this a ministry."

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4 years

"Christians to the Gays: you are called to nothing."

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@ByCoupletMade

4 years

Let me get this straight. The church can't bless same-sex unions because "it is not licit to impart a blessing on relationships, or partnerships, even stable, that involve sexual activity outside of marriage." But we can commune STRAIGHT couples who are remarried w/o annulment?

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@ByCoupletMade

4 years

Also, for Christmas I'd like my mom to stop using "homosexual" and "pedophile" as synonyms.

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@ByCoupletMade

2 years

Watching LGBTQ folk be hurt by supposedly affirming denominations makes me actually a bit grateful that I grew up Catholic because I at least knew they hated me from the start.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

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For those that don't have experience with catholic pronouncements about LGBT issues: If a document begins by reminding everyone that LGBT or some subgroup thereof should be free of "unjust discrimination," duck; a wallop is coming.

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Sufjan the Theologian

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@frference

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From an essay contained in the liner notes of Sufjan’s 2nd Advent/Christmas collection. #Advent 💀💟

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3 years

Them: "Embrace true masculinity; return to tradition:" The tradition:

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@pontifemme

3 years

how can you, as a man, attend an 18th century Rococo-style church?

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11 months

This whole controversy reminds me of an Episcopal church I saw once with 2 signs on its lawn: one that was rainbow and had plenty of "acceptance" platitudes, and a second discussing how camping on church property was not allowed and would be strictly enforced.

Unworthy Hand

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Charging for tickets to a Christmas service is bad, but finding out that the national cathedral requires people to be financial contributors in order to GET BAPTIZED is the thing that really makes me want to go full anabaptist and shut it down entirely.

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5 years

Y'all do know that, throughout history, people have lived saintly lives and found theosis WITHOUT weekly Eucharist, right? Like, y'all know that Sunday Eucharistic liturgy is just a SMALL PART of the Church's liturgical life, right?

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4 years

This reminds me of the time when my mom said she doesn't need to go to confession because she doesn't sin, as she lives alone and doesn't date.

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@ByCoupletMade

4 years

@mikeduncan tea/coffee

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@ByCoupletMade

5 years

If you are wondering how far I fell last night down the liturgical online rabbit hole... I now have the text of a supplicatory canon for protection during time of alien invasion.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

2 years

What if—and hear me out—I decide to become a biblical literalist, but JUST with the Song of Songs?

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@ByCoupletMade

3 years

I'm not going to quote-tweet the silly 'America' article. But I will say that if the Roman church—or any church—is going to insinuate that sexual/gender minorities haven't tried hard enough to figure out how to live within their rules, they clearly haven't met any such minorities

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5 years

My mom casually said that coronavirus was punishment ffeim God for "having enough" of people's "evil lifestyles." Anyone want to guess whose "lifestyles" she was referring to?

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@ByCoupletMade

4 years

I really wish my mom would stop using "homosexual" as a slur.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

3 years

I was going to delete and repost, but I'm going to leave that Freudian autocorrect there for me to process for awhile. Oof.

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

4 years

CW: suicide I just realized that I haven't had any sort of suicidal ideation for well over a week. 😀

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

2 years

I told my mom I live with my partner. She took it about as well as your expect. Send vibes; I feel like shit.

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@ByCoupletMade

5 years

I'm always baffled by people who think that the point of biblical scholarship is to determine what the "original Bible" said. There is no "original Bible."

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1 year

More harm than good FOR WHOM? HMMMM?

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AJ the Lost and Confused

@ByCoupletMade

5 years

Spending $500 on a complete set of the Ancient Christian Commentary on Scripture is a bit nuts, right? That's 65% off, but still nuts. Right?

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5 years

Roses are red, But brown, given time. Fuck all oppressors. That's it; that's the rhyme.

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