Michael Slepian @michaelslepian Twitter profile

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Michael Slepian

2 years

I woke up at 5am this morning and was too exited to fall back asleep! Today is the day. The Secret Life of Secrets is out now! So grateful to so many who have supported me along the way. If you have ever kept a secret, this book is for you!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Oh no! An author’s worst nightmare. I just realized two of my papers begin with the exact same first sentence.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

11 months

I’m excited to announced that I have been granted tenure at Columbia Business School. I’m grateful to so many who have supported me along the way - mentors, colleagues, friends, my partner. And I’ll add something here that I haven’t revealed anywhere:

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

Excited to share a paper many years in the making! Now online @ Psych Review, a new model of secrecy and how our secrets pervade our daily lives (during conversations that require concealment, but also all the other moments when your secret comes to mind)

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Please help spread the word! The Secret Life of Secrets is now available for pre-order! (ICYDK pre-sales really help a book out) The book is based in 10yrs of my research, and so much more. If you've ever kept a secret (and you have), this book is for you!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

11 months

It was my grad advisor who suggested we should study secrets, when I first told her I was interested in the idea that holding onto information can feel like a burden. I know she would have been proud to see where this idea has taken me. I wish she could have seen it.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

4 years

Excited to share our new research on everyday identity threats. We find inclusion and belonging are two different experiences. Feeling excluded strongly relates to negative affect, feeling non-belonging strongly relates to feeling inauthentic

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

Please help spread the word - just announced post-doc! The Management Division of Columbia Business School is hiring! The post-doc will receive a research budget and collaborate with faculty. See the ad below, and reach out with any questions!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Excited to be able to hold this in my hands soon!

Crown Publishing

@CrownPublishing

2 years

“Michael Slepian has spent the past decade studying the psychology of secrets, and is ready to reveal his findings to the world.”— @AdamMGrant @michaelslepian 's THE SECRET LIFE OF SECRETS is out on 6/7!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Web developers, don’t forget that we can see the folder names in your URL (and maybe don’t use the label “upsell”)

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

4 years

On the latest episode of the Hidden Brain, I discuss new research on the secrets people keep, how our secrets hurt us, and what we can do about it.

Hidden Brain

@HiddenBrain

4 years

Psychologist @michaelslepian has found that 96% of people are currently keeping a secret. This week, how secrets tether us to the past and, sometimes, keep us from stepping into the future.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Please help spread the word - just announced post-doc! The Management Division of Columbia Business School is hiring! The post-doc will receive a research budget and collaborate with faculty. See the ad below, and reach out with any questions!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

Please pass this along! Just announced - the Management Division at Columbia Business School is seeking to hire a post-doc for two years! Due Feb 20 - see the attached for more info, email application to the listed address, and feel free to reach out with any questions!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

I can't see the number 2020 and not think the election. All citations to two author papers published in 2020 are going to look like campaign ads to me.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Fascinating new work by @ashleymartin14 @maliafmason Q:what does it mean to look human? A:display of gender. Removing gender cues from avatars, aliens, & people dehumanizes them. Take note of this hidden bias (gender is humanizing) + check out these rocks!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Compassion is not simply a feeling but rather a motivational force that shapes our behavior and relationships with each other and the world around us Excited to read and just pre-ordered Choose Compassion: Why it matters and how it works by @JamesNKirby

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

That feeling when you realize the psychologist on the Sopranos said it first: "Psychologically, a secret is a heavy load. It leads to feelings of guilt, which further burden the mind.” ... a feeling quickly replaced by seeing Tony's response to this research-backed conclusion.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Please spread the word - just announced and application due soon - the Management Division of Columbia Business School is hiring for a 2-year post-doc - Deadline is Feb 1. See details in below screenshot of SPSP ad:

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Please help spread the word - Lab Manager Position available at Columbia Business School's Behavioral Research Lab. A great opportunity to work with a range of faculty and student researchers in the business school - more info at the link!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Is social psychology still the science of behavior? I think the right question is: Was it ever? I've always favored Dan Wegner and @DanTGilbert 's definition of social psychology as the science of human experience

The Message Within

books.google.com

Society for Personality and Social Psychology

@SPSPnews

6 years

"He found that from 45 empirical articles, only four went beyond participants answering questions or filling in surveys; overall, only 6 per cent of the analysed studies measured actual behaviour." via @ResearchDigest

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

We keep secrets to protect ourselves. But our secrets hurt us all the same - in multiple ways (and concealment isn’t one of them). Really enjoyed putting together this piece for SPSP on our latest research on secrecy!

Society for Personality and Social Psychology

@SPSPnews

5 years

New #SPSPblog : The Problem with Keeping a Secret by @michaelslepian

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

For those dealing with the stresses of the job market, just get in a little tiny plastic car and cruise around a little. Or at least watch these videos

Rats taught to drive tiny cars to lower their stress levels

Researchers taught rats to drive tiny "ratmobiles" in exchange for food, which helped the rats relax.

www.bbc.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

How do we judge a face? Different trait judgments have different fingerprints @HehmanLab @JkayFlake @C_AMSutherland

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

How do secrets hurt? In a recent JPSP, we find there are three dimensions to our secrets: 1. morality, 2. relationship-oriented, 3. goal-oriented. Each dimension has a unique harm (shame, isolation, uncertainty) and each offers an avenue for intervention

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Excited to share my first-ever op-ed on people who kept their vote secret during the 2016 Presidential Election Work done with @jessicasalerno5 & @katiehgreenaway In the paper we discuss the role of motivation in secrecy. The op-ed touches on the politics

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

The Secret Life of Secrets. @NewYorker

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Had such a great conversation with @LizEgan @nytimes about The Secret Life of Secrets!

Unpacking ‘The Secret Life of Secrets’ (Published 2022)

In a new book, Michael Slepian considers the costs of keeping quiet.

www.nytimes.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

So excited for The Secret Life of Secrets to sit on the same list of these amazing books and authors! @zoebchance @Econ_4_Everyone @DanielPink @ayeletfishbach @NinaMazar @dilipsoman @SethS_D @arthurbrooks @erezyoeli @Linda_C_Babcock @lise_vesterlund

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Merriam-Webster-'they' has been in consistent use as a singular pronoun since the late 1300s; the development of singular 'they' mirrors the development of the singular 'you' from the plural 'you', yet we don’t complain that singular 'you' is ungrammatical

Merriam-Webster dictionary adds 'they' as nonbinary pronoun

America’s oldest dictionary claps back at grammar snobs as it embraces more inclusive definition

www.theguardian.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Interested to learn about your and others' secrets? This piece in the Guardian gives a brief preview of The Secret Life of Secrets, which is now available in all the places!

Dare to share: how revealing your secrets to others can improve your life

It will deepen your connection to your confidante and may improve your situation, says Michael Slepian

www.theguardian.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

That feeling when going through a new set of proofs and you discover that a copyeditor has helpfully placed a negative sign next to a standard deviation.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

How can we make people feel more comfortable confessing to past misdeeds? Help them realize they have changed since those misdeeds, and are not the same person anymore. Super interesting new paper by @BA_Helgason @JZBerman

Beth Anne Helgason

@BA_Helgason

2 years

🚨New paper🚨 out at JEP:G on how to facilitate confession of past misdeeds: @JZBerman and I find that encouraging people to reflect on how they’ve changed as a person increases confession and reduces justification of past transgressions.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

So enjoyed presenting to the Secret Science Club. An amazingly welcoming and thoughtful community who asked great questions!

Secret Science Club

@SecretSciClub

2 years

Shhh… it’s all very hush-hush! Secret Science Club presents experimental psychologist & author @michaelslepian on “The Secret Life of Secrets” LIVE & IN-PERSON @BellHouseNY in Brooklyn Wed, June 22, 8PM (Doors open at 7:30PM), Free! PLUS! Cocktails, tunes & pizza 🍸🍻🍕🎧

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Really enjoyed speaking with Big Think about The Secret Life of Secrets! They put together this fantastic video covering *some* of how our secrets affect us, the secrets people commonly keep, and how to cope (a great teaser for the book if you haven't checked it out yet!🤫)

Big Think

@bigthink

2 years

There are 38 kinds of secrets. The average person has 13 at any given moment. @michaelslepian explains how that can affect your health.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Calling all psychology and management/OB researchers - be my colleague! We are hiring in the Organizational Behavior area of Columbia Business School. We start reviewing applications Sept 15!

SPSP Career Center

@SPSPJobs

6 years

RT @SPSPJobs : Columbia Business School seeks assistant, associate or full (tenure-track) professor of micro-organizational behavior. PhD required. Apply by Sept 15 2018. #ApplyNow

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Excited to share a write up of some our recent secrecy research in Scientific American via @sciam

Why the Secrets You Keep Are Hurting You

It may not be what you think

www.scientificamerican.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Has anyone out there ever done a Reddit Ask Me Anything? I've never even seen one, so any advice / tips would be much appreciated! Also, next Monday, July 11 at 11:00 am ET you can join me for a Reddit AMA - all about secrets! (on the r/IAmA thread)

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

How do people with ease make any trait judgment from a face alone? People expect certain traits to covary. Perceived covariance + a few basic judgments (from resemblance/generalization?) explains the richness of face perception. Super cool work by @rystoli @HehmanLab @freemanjb

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Does anyone have any good recommendations / resources for different ways to demonstrate the robustness of a result from a large data set? Testing every possible model, and tallying the number of times a predictor was significant? Bootstrapped confidence intervals on coefficients?

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

Great coverage of our work @TheAtlantic - hiding #secrets is not particularly harmful. Thinking about them is.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Many more great sentences about secrets can be found in my book The Secret Life of Secrets, which comes out next week! Pre-order here:

The Secret Life of Secrets by Michael Slepian: 9780593237212 | PenguinRandomHouse.com: Books

“If you’ve ever wondered why we keep secrets and what motivates us to spill them, look no further. Michael Slepian has spent the past decade studying the psychology of secrets, and...

www.penguinrandomhouse.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

It turns out a bar is a perfect venue for a research talk. Had a great time talking about secrecy @tasteofsciencenyc last night!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

New paper with @drbrockbastian keeping a misdeed secret? you escape punishment from others, but punish yourself

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Uh oh. Looking at the Behavioral Identification Form (BIF; Vallacher & Wegner), and yikes - this item no longer usable: "marking a ballot" or "influencing the election"

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Really important insights from this new paper! 1. Dominance isn't the only way to reach higher status Instead status can be obtained by gaining others' admiration and respect. 2. You don't need to think of your status as obtained at the cost of others' - we can both rise together

Shai Davidai

@ShaiDavidai

2 years

My new paper (w/ the incredible Patricia Andrews Fearon) is out now at JEP:G! And, as the kids say, a thread...

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

So much interesting food for thought in this Nature paper! "When participants learned more about a stranger, they felt as if the stranger also knew them better" and for this reason, also believed the stranger would be better able to detect their lie (in a 4 truths and 1 lie game)

Michael LaForest-Tucker

@michaellafores

2 years

Pleased to announce that my paper with Anuj Shaw was just published in @Nature ! Full-text public pdf:

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

The answer is yes, Nathan. The answer is always yes.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

The price of secrecy: Having secrets is not a problem. Thinking about them is. @TheEconomist

Having secrets is not a problem. Thinking about them is

Weighing heavy on the soul

www.economist.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

Looking for a post-doc? The Management Division of Columbia Business School is hiring! The post-doc will receive a research budget and collaborate with faculty. SPSP job ad here: - application due in a month - please help spread the word!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

I'm honored to be included in a list of so many amazing books! What amazing company, thanks Behavioral Scientist!

ideas42

@ideas42

2 years

What a year it's been in the world of #behavioralscience 😊 Revisit some of the highlights with @behscientist 's list of notable books published in 2022.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Should you reveal someone's secret? Insightful analysis of this question in @WSJ by @EBernsteinWSJ 1. Get others' advice on whether revealing is the right thing to do. 2. Do benefits outweigh the costs? 3. Give the person an opportunity to reveal it first

Should You Keep a Secret?

A friend confides in you about a health crisis or a love affair. How do you decide whether to keep someone’s secret when there are good reasons to tell?

www.wsj.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

1 year

Excited to share this piece for @aeonmag ! How do our secrets hurt us, and what can we do about it?

Your secrets hurt your mental health. What’s the alternative? | Aeon Essays

Holding back the truth can take a huge toll on your relationships and your mental health. Why? And is there a better way?

aeon.co

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Later this morning, join me on Reddit for an Ask Me Anything -- all about secrets! 11:00 am ET at

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

costs of smartphones are fairly subtle" 1/2 point on a 7-pt scale. But let's see .5 / 7 = .07 -- is that small? 7 points on a final grade means the world to a student. 7% was Obama's 2008 popular vote margin. I think we sell ourselves short when we call effects like this small.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

One not so secret about me is that when I'm "off the clock," I still regularly think about and talk about secrets!

Psychologists Off The Clock Podcast

@OTC_Psych

2 years

This week on POTC, @michaelslepian and Yael discuss the personal and relational value in sharing as well as the impact of keeping secrets. Join us for surprising statistics and findings on secret-keeping...

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

If you live in NYC come to The Bell House this Wed to learn about secrets over drinks!

The Bell House

@BellHouseNY

2 years

WED 6/22: @SecretSciClub presents Experimental Psychologist @michaelslepian ! Dr. Slepian explores the psychological costs of hiding our inner worlds. When should we confess our secrets? Who makes for the ideal confidant? and more! FREE! Details:

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

1 year

Attention English speaking parts of the world outside of the US - The Secret Life of Secrets is now available in paperback!

Robinson Books

@BooksByRobinson

1 year

@michaelslepian 's wonderful and revelatory guide to the secrets we keep (and those we choose to share) is out today in paperback. This book is too good to be kept secret!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Oops the SPSP job ad link for our open rank position in the management division of Columbia Business School is down - find the application here:

Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Calling all psychology and management/OB researchers - be my colleague! We are hiring in the Organizational Behavior area of Columbia Business School. We start reviewing applications Sept 15!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Our biggest sex secrets revealed. What could be more interesting? Had fantastic conversations with @JustinLehmiller on his Sex and Psychology podcast (part 1: all about secrets in general, part 2: secrets about sex and relationships)

Justin Lehmiller

@JustinLehmiller

2 years

This week is all about secrets on the podcast! Here's part 2 of my conversation w/ @michaelslepian , where we do a deep dive into sexual & relationship secrets, including the most common things we hide about our sex lives and how to reveal intimate secrets.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

Wrote a little piece for Scientific American - Uncovering the Secrets of a Trustworthy Face #science #faces @sciam

Uncovering the Secrets of a Trustworthy Face

Explaining our sense of who is reliable with the power of expectations

www.scientificamerican.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

"When people exist in networks tailored by others to not offend, the info they hear tends to be that of which they already approve. Were they to hear secrets they disapprove, their attitudes might change ... patterns of secret-hearing contribute to stasis in public opinion."

Sarah K. Cowan

@SarahKCowan

3 years

Just in case Cecily Strong's @nbcsnl bit on her #abortion and keeping it secret, wanted you to read some science on it:

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

4 years

We also introduce the Identity Threats Questionnaire, which allows studying identity threat across diverse contexts, allowing for conclusions that generalize across situations and identities, rather than being constrained to studying one marginalized identity at a time.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

@jinxgoh @jonj Hah yeah I was daunted by how much work it was to submit to CRAN. And so I gave up officially distributing it. It does that (and more!) - will send it over.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Catching up on psych books this summer and just finished @zakijam 's wonderful The War for Kindness. A single situation can push people outside of their empathic range, and this can accumulate. The appendix evaluates the evidence for each claim too - more authors should do this!

Jamil Zaki

@zakijam

5 years

It's the best kind of surreal to announce that THE WAR FOR KINDNESS is out today! I truly hope this book can be useful, illuminating, and empowering to readers, and can't wait to hear your reactions. Much more at: ✊🌻❤️

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

@JkayFlake @talyarkoni @doctorwhy It can be uncomfortable to try to negotiate, but when done the right way, it is unlikely to offend the other person, and is likely to increase your outcomes.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

Wow, it is shocking to see this all laid out like this: sexism at every stage of academia. A real wake up call for how decisions should be handled at every stage of the academic career. There's a lot of work to be done.

Sam Sommers

@samsommers

5 years

Difficult but important read. And worth sharing and reflecting on with your colleagues and students.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

I find the the most challenging time-management task is how to handle small but important tasks (eg, email) getting in the way of big tasks (eg, writing). As a solution, I've started doing them on different days. eg, small things - set aside for Fri / squeeze in on a teaching day

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

"There’s no better time for a book on the psychology of secrets to reveal itself." @WSJ Excited to see the Secret Life of Secrets reviewed in the Wall Street Journal! Thanks @SilverJacket !

‘The Secret Life of Secrets’ Review: Monsters in Our Closet

A psychologist suggests that our deepest secrets can wreak more havoc if left untold than if shared with someone we trust.

www.wsj.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Honored to be included in this list of amazing books!

Non-Obvious Company 🔜 #SXSW

@Non_Obvious

2 years

We just selected The Secret Life of Secrets for the 2022 Non-Obvious Book Award Longlist! Congratulations to @michaelslepian , and the entire team at @CrownPublishing . #nonobvious #secretlifeofsecrets

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

We can keep a secret — but should we? Learn about the secrets we keep and the effects that our secrets have on us @voxdotcom

What keeping secrets does to you

We can keep a secret — but should we?

www.vox.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

How should we best spend our time? The answers contained in Happier Hour: How to Beat Distraction, Expand Your Time, and Focus on What Matters Most. Really looking forward to reading this!

Happier Hour: How to Beat Distraction, Expand Your Time, and Focus on What Matters Most

www.amazon.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

“don’t rely on willpower. Instead deploy science-backed strategies that make self-control easier. You can, for example, use laziness and limited attention to your advantage — by putting temptations out of sight and out of reach”

Angela Duckworth

@angeladuckw

5 years

"science shows that helping people do better in the internal tug-of-war of self-control depends on creating the right external environment"

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Michael Slepian

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6 years

@JkayFlake @doctorwhy @alexiagalati @talyarkoni @JkayFlake you're right requests framed as negotiation are "intimidating to women [being] inconsistent with norms for politeness" By contrast, framing situations as "asking is much less intimidating ... as this language is more polite and role-consistent."

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

“A new book explains why we keep secrets and provides useful guidance around whether or not to reveal them.” Thanks so much for the kind review of The Secret Life of Secrets, @GreaterGoodSC !

When Do Your Secrets Hurt Your Well-Being?

A new book explains why we keep secrets and provides useful guidance around whether or not to reveal them.

greatergood.berkeley.edu

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

An unexpectedly exciting thing about writing a book is seeing it in the collection of your childhood library! @NoBrunsLibrary

North Brunswick Library

@NoBrunsLibrary

2 years

Searching for a fascinating & engaging #summerread ? Check out the new #nonfiction #books on @NoBrunsLibrary shelves now! @MarkLeibovich @davidmcraney @JonLemire @ShambhalaPubs @michaelslepian @brianmclaren @Kathryn_Miles @MacmillanUSA @sstodola

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

Mechanism for accuracy of trust? Kids with trustworthy faces are treated more kindly, and then behave more kindly.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

I have yet to see my book in the wild, but I love it when folks send me photos like this! Thanks @JinXunGoh !

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

4 years

@bxjaeger @simoncolumbus @johnpaulwilson Agreed! An important point here is we are talking about inclusion into minimal groups with no information other than the face. Context would certainly be a moderator.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Dear beloved collaborators, please do not put the date of your draft in the the file title. Sorting by file name does not sort this correctly, and date modified is already captured in the metadata and very easily already sorted by. Version 2, 3, etc IMO is far more useful.

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@michaelslepian

2 years

Great preview image.

How many secrets are you holding from these 38 categories?

In "The Secret Life of Secrets", Michael Slepian explores how holding secrets affects our relationships, psychology, and well-being.

bigthink.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Greater Good’s Favorite Books of 2022 - thought-provoking, practical, and inspirational science books of the year. Thanks @GreaterGoodSC for including the Secret Life of Secrets! It's an honor to sit on the self with these other amazing books!

Our Favorite Books of 2022

Greater Good’s editors pick the most thought-provoking, practical, and inspirational science books of the year.

greatergood.berkeley.edu

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

4 years

We also identify 30 everyday situations where people feel like they don't fit in. Among those with a marginalized identity, they report experiencing an average of 11 identity threatening situations a week.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

What is harmful about secrecy is not having to hide a secret, but having to live with it. @qz

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

@ianhussey @JkayFlake But if different groups interpret the scale differently, wouldn't that be a reflection of a *real* difference between the groups? Is the problem that we can't be certain that the difference actually relates to the desired interpretation of the scale, even with a real difference?

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

@JkayFlake They may not be able to get you everything you want, so be sure they are working toward getting you the things that matter most to you. While signaling priorities makes it less likely you get the low priority things, it makes it more likely you get the high priority things.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

4 years

Could polls where Biden leads Trump be wrong? “Hidden Trump” voters explaining Trump’s 2016 victory has been debated. ⁦ @washingtonpost ⁩ interview with myself, others argues the landscape and reasons for secrecy has changed. The polls should be right.

Trailing badly in polls, Trump points to ‘hidden’ voters and the ‘silent majority’ as path to...

Researchers and political analysts say differences between this year and 2016 are stark — making it unlikely that unexpected voters alone will be enough to change the president’s fortunes.

www.washingtonpost.com

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

@JkayFlake If one of your requests is notably important to you, you should also signal that. For example, trying to get support for a partner might be your highest priority. You should reveal which requests are more important to you.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

@JkayFlake #NotMyResearch

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

@siminevazire The “Does Science Advance One Funeral at a Time?” paper which previously made the rounds found outsiders are largely responsible for paradigm changes

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

@rystoli For your distribution if you haven't already.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

Thanks so much, @angeladuckw !

Angela Duckworth

@angeladuckw

2 years

I’m enjoying this wonderful new book on the psychology of secrets by ⁦ @michaelslepian ⁩

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

6 years

Secrecy fail. “Attorneys for Manafort inadvertently disclosed the allegation in a court filing on Tuesday. Sections of the filing were meant to be redacted, but the text underneath several blacked-out lines could be copied and viewed.”

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

@PaulEastwick @datingdecisions @andrewang91 @daviddesteno @lauriesantos This sounds like it would make a huge difference -- thanks for the tip!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

@datingdecisions @andrewang91 @PaulEastwick @daviddesteno @lauriesantos Thanks, this is super helpful!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

@JkayFlake @HehmanLab Thanks a bunch, super helpful!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

2 years

@OpenDoorTherapy Keeping secrets is often easy. Living with them, however, is another matter.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

7 years

@jinxgoh @lxyzxy Could a job helmet make you take more risks like a bike helmet? And thanks for forwarding along!

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

3 years

@tweets_on_camp Hey Limitations, can you step over just a little bit to the right.

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Michael Slepian

@michaelslepian

5 years

@dwajkhul I agree! That is a simplification in a media soundbyte. Many folks, however, do call shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride as uniquely self-conscious emotions. See the excellent

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