One of the biggest problems with social media is that it has made our lives "cumulative." We can't reinvent ourselves, which is necessary for growth and happiness.
Proud to see my little girl (left) take the Marine Corps oath after finishing officer candidate school in Quantico over the weekend. My second child to join the USMC. Commissioning as an officer after finishing college next spring. 4’11” and tough as nails. Semper Fi
Want to start feeling happier today--and bringing more happiness to others? Today I begin a series of essays
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on how to build a life on strong foundations of love, well-being, and purpose.
My wife, daughter, and I have just walked the Camino de Santiago, the ancient pilgrimage across Spain lasting from a few days to several months. Ours was a week, from the Portuguese border to Santiago de Compostela. Here, a brief reflection (with photos) on our journey. (1/17)
Want to start feeling happier today--and bringing more happiness to others? Read my column “How to Build a Life”
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every Thursday morning on how to build a life on strong foundations of love, well-being, and deep purpose.
Did you know that if you talk a lot about politics, even people who agree with your views will avoid you? Or that inordinate attention to political news makes you ignorant of world events? Read my “How to Build a Life” column
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today for more.
I am so pleased and grateful to report that FROM STRENGTH TO STRENGTH will open at
#1
on the New York Times bestseller list. Thank you to all who are helping to spread and share the habits of love and happiness as we age!
I am excited to announce that I have joined forces with
@Oprah
Winfrey on a new book called BUILD THE LIFE YOU WANT: The Art and Science of Getting Happier, coming out September 12th of this year and available for pre-order now at . We hope this book will
Last month I walked the last 160 km of the ancient Camino de Santiago in northern Spain with my wife (aka la Catalana) over the course of a week. Here are a few photos for anyone interested. (1/11)
My "How to build a life" column
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today tells you the seven investments you can make at any age that research shows will pay off for your health and happiness when you are old. A little thread here. (1/9)
Our family remembers today the men and women who have given their lives for our beloved country, and proud of those dedicated to protecting our way of life, including our son.
The world often tells us to “love things, use people, and worship ourselves.” But the truth is, to find real happiness, we must “use things, love people, and worship God.” Embrace this wisdom as you navigate life’s journey. Stay humble, seek truth, and let God’s will guide you.
A short meditation: I do not know what lies ahead next month or next year. But I do know that I am alive today. I will not waste the gift that is this present moment.
I was honored to meet yesterday with
@SriSri
during his visit to Washington at
@artoflivingusa
. We had an inspiring conversation and I am looking forward to working with him to spread happiness here in the United States and around the world
Gratitude is not a feeling we have to wait and hope to have. It is a pattern of behavior we should bring into our lives on a regular basis, like choosing to adopt a workout regimen.
Give the following gratitude-workout routine a try. THREAD:
My new book with
@Oprah
is officially out. 📚
We invite you to begin a journey toward greater happiness, as we show you how to improve your life right now – instead of waiting for the outside world to change.
Start building the life you want:
To all of you who celebrate it like I do. I want to wish you a very Happy Easter, the holiest day in the Christian calendar that celebrates the resurrection of Jesus, but also the beginning of the radical movement of God's love for us and our love for each other.
If you don't
Thirty years ago, we made a collective bargain with engineers and bureaucrats to make us happy. They gave us mechanistic solutions to complex human problems. It didn't work.
Have you lost something that defined your identity? Maybe it involves your looks. Or your social prestige. Or your professional relevance.
How might this loss set you free? Some lessons from Beethoven for your consideration.
Each night after dinner I go for a walk, alone in the cool of the evening. I consider the day—what I did, and what I neglected. I think of the two things for which I am most grateful, and make resolutions for the next day.
Like everything else in life that is worthwhile, pursuing happiness requires intellectual energy and real effort. You simply have to do the work. The good news is that the work will be joyful, and the results quite wonderful. My latest
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My column
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today focuses on envy, the killer of happiness and the only deadly sin that is no fun at all. I doubt any of us can eradicate it, but we can fall prey to it a lot less if we know how it works. (1/8)
For the next six days I won’t be posting, because I will be a pilgrim on the Camino de Santiago (Portugués), from Tui to Santiago de Compostela. If you are so inclined, join your prayers to mine for a new year in which we share more love and build more unity.
My column
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today helps you deal with loved ones who fall under the spell of conspiracy theories. It can be very upsetting and throw a wrench into your relationship if you let it. (1/8)
The world tells us that changing our minds is a sign of weakness. In truth, it is a secret to happiness. See my “How to build a life” column today
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to see how to do it.
A lot of research shows that a walk in nature has a potent impact on happiness. I try to do this each day when I can, if possible right after a meal. This is today’s post-lunch walk.
We are so grateful today for those who gave their lives for our country, and to those who would do so if called. Proud to count my son (CPL, USMC 3/5, Weapons) in that latter group.
Devote the back half of your life to serving others with your wisdom. Get old sharing the things you believe are most important. Excellence is always its own reward, and this is how you can be most excellent as you age.
#aging
#serveothers
#happiness
Do you act unhappy to show you care about the ills of the world? This is very common, but it is a mistake for you—and for the causes you care about. Learn more in my “How to Build a Life” column
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today:
If you’re like a lot of other Americans, you’ve become a bit more of a potty mouth over the past two years. Here's how to curse in a way that keeps you both happy and out of trouble, in my column
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:
If you are an urbanite with an indoor job, tied to your devices all day and night—if you haven’t spent serious time in nature in months—then you are probably suffering some noticeable malaise. See my column today
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Remember the advice of Saint Andre Bessette today: instead of living in the future or dwelling on the chaotic things in your life, prioritize what’s most important and find peace.
The secret to happiness isn’t falling in love; it’s staying in love, which depends on what psychologists call “companionate love”—love based less on passionate, highs and lows and more on stable affection, mutual understanding, and commitment.
#love
#happiness
If your closest bonds of friendship and family are leaving you feeling empty, try adding baseball—or something else that’s not "useful." See my “How to Build a Life” column
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for more ideas:
Two phenomena bring joy to your work: the belief that you are earning your success, and evidence that you are serving others.
Great leaders strive for these things for themselves, and work to provide them to those they lead.
I strongly recommend that you take this spiritual expedition if you can, no matter what your beliefs or religious tradition. It will change you in ways you cannot predict, and you will forever be a pilgrim in your life. Buen Camino. (17/17)
True fulfillment in our later career stages isn’t about constantly adding more achievements but rather focusing on what truly matters. By chipping away the jade, the unnecessary, we reveal the masterpiece within.
Of his time in Utah, Brooks said, “Part of the thing that I’m learning is that this is a distinctive place in our country and in our world. And a big part of what I want to do is I want to bring the magic that’s right here, and I want to bring it to the rest of the country.”
Do you feel out of place where you live? Do you pine to go “home,” wherever that might be? Read my “How to Build a Life” column today
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to learn about this sensation and what it is trying to tell you.
Parents: When you don’t know what to do, be warm and loving.
For happiness, the parenting technique that truly matters is warmth and affection. As my wife used to say when we were at wit’s end with our son, “I guess we should just love him.”
The recent presidential debate has sparked a lot of discussions, but let’s shift the focus to our own lives. Many of us write our life stories with great detail, but forget to plan a meaningful ending.
I learned from a wise mentor that finishing a little early can be better than
The next time you call your mother, ask her about something going on in her life that doesn’t involve you at all but that is important to her. See if she faints. For more Mother’s Day tips, read my “How to Build a Life” column today
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.
Aristotle: A magnanimous person “does not bear a grudge, for it is not a mark of greatness of soul to recall things against people, especially the wrongs they have done you, but rather to overlook them.” And generosity stimulates human happiness.
My column today
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is about kindness, and how practicing it can make you a lot happier. It also tells you how to do so—and about the forces holding you back. (1/7)
Research from Japan shows that habitually drinking coffee reduces all-cause mortality. Studies in mice suggest that it does so by, among other things, encouraging autophagy, the biological process of cleaning out cellular trash, which naturally slows as we age.
#coffee
#caffeine
To feel happy and successful, people often look to benchmarks and boxes to check. This is a scorecard approach to life, and it’s a mistake. In my “How to Build a Life” column today
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, I show a better way.