in 2021 (-2022), I had the worst burnout that lead to me being actively suicidal. alot of things helped me through it. I'll just record them as i remember in this thread 🧵
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@AluberTwink
Standardized tests are always exclusionary in one way or another and there's no guarantee that a parent passing the test is gonna stay the same. Abolishing family and socializing child care is a much more viable option tbh.
@AluberTwink
I get this. But professionals have also been historically wrong many times. The problem is kids are stuck in nuclear families where the parents have all power over them. Even in a joint family context, kids are much less traumatized. Community child care is essential.
@cervixpiercer
@RueCodey
i think it's cuz they are exes and ppl just felt like they had to choose between them like when kids choose bw their parents during divorce ukwim
@lacoveys
to me it looked like Eloise saw her w a sense of admiration or familiarity. when they left in the carriage Eloise and Michella were holding hands
oh to have supportive parents like this. my parents kicked my sister out of our house in the middle of the night cuz she tried to break off her engagement. indian families are an institution held together through patriarchal violence.
17 years ago I broke off an engagement. flew home & never saw him again. called my dad to pick me up at the airport no questions asked (he did). called the firm I wanted to work at & asked them to reopen the offer I had declined (they did).
met my husband <2 months later…
I've seen both "this is so weird cause Neil gaiman's work is so full of kindness and empathy" and "this makes total sense, cause Neil Gaiman has written something problematic in the past" and I think people need to stop seeing creators through this lens.
@boatnaviegator
As a fat trans man myself, I used to be extremely confused whether what's affecting me is dysphoria or dysmorphia. I realized I don't have to make a distinction between these two. My dysmorphia is a physical manifestation of my dysphoria.
Not a nazi "vibe". Man stfu w the vibe politics. Just because something feels wrong to you does not mean it's actually wrong. Zionists ARE colonizers who have inflicted immense sexual and physical violence on Palestinian children and that is a fact.
I was telling my mom how I never want to marry considering majority of my cousins had really shitty experiences in their marriages and the rest who didn't are assholes who uphold patriarchal values and my mom just went "not all marriages are like that. look at me and dad" LMAO
While I agree to this piece, something that often misses the eye is how the invisibilisation of women from movies is correlated to the invisibilisation of women from the fun, "happening" circles. (1/n)
me talking about splitting and my therapist goes, our goal is to bring balance so it not only helps you but also prevents hurt of others and i said "oh don't worry. all my meltdowns are internal". she just looked at me so done and went "you understand how that's bad right?"
I'll never forget the time I was extremely stressed and overwhelmed and had an autistic meltdown in the living room and my parents just pretended I don't exist and talked shit about me while I was in the same room???
@wileysprings
Yeahhh. Would've been a neat circle. Atleast they could've become friends after Adam helping them out w the breaking shit up catharsis scene (season 2?).
the universal fear of public speaking implies that at some point in human history, there was something that looked like an auditorium full of people, but wasn’t
when you have abusive parents, you tend to take sides. glorifying one while villanizing the other. in recent years I've glorified my mom, believed in her capacity to love me warts and all. my dad was the cold one. my mom was the misunderstood one.
My friend observed how it is also interesting that our ground queer politics is almost an opposite reality of the west but a lot of online/offline discourse does not address it and tend to universalise the western queer experience. We definitely have a class issue here (7/)
when you've been neglected for years, you forget that people who actually love you don't ignore you? they actually value your presence in their life and not just tolerate you. they notice things you do for them.
Autistic lesson in communicating with allistics number 327: Pointing out you meant exactly what you said, not what was read into it, apparently is implying a whole load more things you didn't say and will get you into further trouble.
technically? i mean a lot of refugees who could manage to escape do come from wealth. doesn't mean they're privileged after they become refugees obviously. people with less wealth cannot even flee their countries in most cases.
YouTubers needing to censor words like 'murder', 'suicide', 'genocide' and 'death' in their videos is one of the bleakest displays of the rampant sanitization of the Internet. I'm watching a video where so much had to be censored and muted that the sentence was incomprehensible.
Calling zionists pedophiles on twitter is NOT the same as Auschwitz. You know what is same as the Auschwitz?? Dehumanisation and genocide of Palestinians.
discussing my pay is almost the first thing I did on the first day of my first job. i got called "money minded" when I asked about overtime policies. capitalism is hell.
@raewolff_
Wait until you learn that they don’t want you asking your coworkers about their pay because it’s different even tho y’all do the same work for the same job
alcoholism is a psycho-physio disorder that makes one compulsively drink in a way that is harmful and detrimental to their well being, followed by neglect of different aspects of life such as work, relationships etc. the mental component is so essential not just the outward signs
not people in the comments glorifying this behaviour and calling it cute. my heart is gonna give out in a year or two dealing with this kinda shit every day
Why do brown parents get disappointed when you tell them you are planning a trip? They react as if it’s a bad thing! Whenever I tell my parents about my plans to travel they react as if I am doing drugs or committing a crime! Why on earth! I’ll never be able to understand this.
🌈வானவில் ஆதரவாளர்களுக்கு ஒரு கேள்வி.!?
Hormone மாற்றம் காரணமாக ஒரு ஆணுக்கு ஆண் மீது, பெண்ணிற்கு பெண் மீது ஈர்ப்பு & காதல் வருகிறது எனவே அவர்கள் தங்கள் விருப்பப்படி இருவரும் இணைந்து வாழ வேண்டும் அதற்கு அரசு அங்கீகாரம் கொடுக்க வேண்டும் என்று கேட்டு போராடுகிறார்கள்.... எனவே
Can’t stop thinking about the interactive museum display I saw yesterday where people were prompted to write down “an object” they’d been given at some point in their lives, and every single person wrote down an abstract concept instead :(
"it is damaging to autistic people" society already never fucking cares about us??? I'm yet to meet a person who is very respectful and accommodative of autistic people but too bad a self diagnosed person changed their perception. What are these imaginary strivings for image?
uk what i actually don't like about the comment "your understanding is from your 6th grade textbook"? is that we teach kids a lot of incorrect things just because we believe they won't understand the complexities of the world.
being a relationship anarchist is mostly like feeling stupid about being a relationship anarchist in a hierarchical world with people who'll readily reduce you to your labels and expectations and to meeting their needs and wants. it's so dehumanizing.
Transmen are trans.
Non-binary people are trans.
Intersex people exist.
it's weird that we even have to say this in the first place.
Some of you may consider this minor non issue. Go check out this timeline to understand the scope of the issue: (4/)
everytime I reach out to vent/ask for support, I do it as a last resort after trying out everything I could try (some techniques are not even attemptable) and it makes people think that im giving excuses when they suggest the things that I've already tried and didn't work for me
if you don't drink as often but to do certain essential things like work, intimacy, socializing etc or when you're stressed, you need alcohol, then you might be an alcoholic. but you def have alcohol dependency.
it's so hard to look at someone and see them as they are without ascribing meanings and fantasies to them esp when u r autistic and maladaptive daydreaming is ur primary hobby
I feel like I'm too self aware to relate to movies about messed up people and relationship toxicity. I get that there is no other way to show the dynamic but it's just like ehhhhhh
@Chinmayi
You don't owe anybody apology. Platforming Vairamuthu is wrong. Point blank. So many people here are ready to weaponize woke sounding language to delegitimize the opinions of a rape victim. Twitter is a cesspool of hand wringers. So don't apologize and more power to you ✊🏿❤️
people who are irked by me "airing my family's dirty laundry" online should think about who stands to gain from keeping your family secrets. generational trauma is reproduced within the silences, in the things that families don't talk about that shapes your entire personhood.
i was talking in therapy about how i often put myself in seemingly dangerous situations,, I thought it was a suicidal thing. but we followed the line of thoughts, and turns out it's just blind confidence
if you drink every single day but you can just go off it for a month or more, and don't feel the need to drink, you're probably not an alcoholic. you just have a routine.
the truth is, both of them resent me on a deep level that they never acknowledge. they can only pretend to love me when i achieve some unrealistic standard with constantly moving goalposts
@Chamelea22
i like attending classes but i would also like the option to miss them without consequences or being able to set accountability in the ways i want. attendance policies are too stringent and ableist and it's just overall v discouraging
i love you as in im researching your disorder. i love you as in i let myself be quiet around you. i love you as in your interests are my interests. i love you as in I'll kill your father
ik everyone is talking about reading pages in college but if I didn't have mandatory attendance and not linking my self worth to academic performance, I would actually read a lot more