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@irinadumitrescu .bsky.social Essayist, critic, professor. Editor @CCdot_net , column @TheTLS , podcast @LRB , writing in NYRB, NYT, BAE, elsewhere.

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Irina Dumitrescu
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This has me thinking of all the women who spend their 20s and 30s taking care of other people + working, and only find substantial time for their own artistic work in their 40s or 50s. They've got plenty of energy for writing, but often have to stop believing things like this
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Visited someone today
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Ok. I bite. To the question of why academics in mediocre jobs put out second books that are not good, just done, here's an answer that might be tough to see from within the PhD
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Irina Dumitrescu
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this was a long thread but here's what I really want to say: academia is collapsing, nobody reads anymore, the mediterranean is boiling, wars keep starting, who cares where you work or if your monograph could be so much more, write, write if you at all can
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Ok. I bite. To the question of why academics in mediocre jobs put out second books that are not good, just done, here's an answer that might be tough to see from within the PhD
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Irina Dumitrescu
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My thoughts on this have not changed since I wrote this piece for @thewalrus last March. The point of writing assignments is not to produce more writing in the world, it is to teach students how to think and how to express themselves.
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Megan Fritts
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Second week of the semester and I've already had students use (and own up to using) ChatGPT to write their first assignment: "briefly introduce yourself and say what you're hoping to get out of this class". They are also using it to word the *questions they ask in class*.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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When you come up with the best book idea but it's already been done
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
Dudes too, of course. But there's a particular phenomenon I've seen in writing classes, of middle aged or older women who have something they're burning to say, but they've spent a lifetime being told they don't deserve a voice
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
This has me thinking of all the women who spend their 20s and 30s taking care of other people + working, and only find substantial time for their own artistic work in their 40s or 50s. They've got plenty of energy for writing, but often have to stop believing things like this
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Irina Dumitrescu
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There's a whole discourse on here about how much reading uni students of literature should be able to do a week. This is one side of it -- 100 pp a day as a normal amount to be expected. /1
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the future lasts forever
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600 pages of reading per week (especially if most of those pages are from novels) is totally reasonable for full-time college students. That’s less than 100 pages per day. If a college student can’t read 100 pages per day without cheating they should not be in college.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I have nothing but admiration for midcareer scholars with unglamorous jobs who manage to research & write anyway. We should all be so tenacious.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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This whole thread is worth reading. What I want to press on a bit is this: Just because a new technology has arrived that disrupts our teaching does not mean the best thing to do is integrate it into our teaching.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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You start to realise that success in academic publishing, for most people, means hearing from an MA student that your book really helped them with their thesis. Or seeing your book, that you spent ten years on, cited in the footnote of someone you don't know. That's it.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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As though there weren't enough messages out there telling women -- or anyone who didn't get an early start -- to stop trying, that they've missed out, they're never going to make worthwhile art because they're too old
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Thank you for coming to my very middle aged TED talk
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
Is anyone else finding Google almost useless for information these days? The top hits for any given query are multiple websites that look different but have the same banal, unhelpful, (I assume AI composed) text.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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My colleague just came by with the most perfect Christmas gift, especially for a chair
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I find myself still trying to make every academic article, every book really large and substantial, which in practice means I spend years on them without publishing. Bc the choice is often not between "ok enough" and "great", it's between "ok enough" and nothing at all.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Guys, this new #tradwife trend is dull and depressing. Let's normalize #oldschooltradwife , the way they did it in the Middle Ages
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Irina Dumitrescu
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And I can't even think what possible evidence there could be for the claim. Are 25 year-olds consistently writing better novels, poetry, memoirs, plays, nonfiction, than 45 year-olds?
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Meanwhile, on average, you're likelier to have heavier responsibilities outside of work too. There are kids. There are ailing pets. There are parents who are ageing and dying. There's your own body falling apart, so now your schedule has to include doctors & workouts & physio
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Actually... I was just wondering, how *does* one write a bad, easy monograph that earns a promotion and raise? Asking for a friend.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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So how do you write a second book when you have no support and you basically have to steal time from everyone else to do it? You drop the solo genius thing. You start to accept that maybe scholarship can also work through small, gradual contributions to a larger edifice.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Most people in "podunk towns in the Midwest for 45K a year", if they are even lucky enough to have gotten that job in the first place and have stuck it through to tenure, will find that tenure brings them: a tiny raise, way more service work.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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So there are PhDs with these responsibilities too, and certainly ppl post-PhD, but I think it's fair to say that as you get older the sheer number of time and energy you owe to *other people* goes up. Which means less time for you. And now, surprise, you also sleep worse.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Maybe your book won't change the world. I mean, it almost certainly won't. But say it's not brilliant. It still puts a block in the edifice. There were arguments in my early articles & book I realise now were half-baked, but other scholars did smarter things based on them.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I actually tried for 100 rejections one year -- I think it was around 2017. I didn't get anywhere near it, but that was the year I broke into a number of new publications (including the NYT), simply because I took a freelancer's approach to rejection.
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Sam Haselby
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Writers are people who get rejected way, way more than professors can usually handle. It's a different mentality, one with a less acute sense of intellectual property.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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It's almost five years since I began reviewing books for the general public (I was writing essays and memoir before). This piece for @TheTLS was my fourth review. The picture still takes my breath away.
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Irina Dumitrescu
8 years
This is such a brilliant observation.
@The_Big_Quiet
Steve Edwards
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Fear of Obama drove up sales of guns. Fear of Trump is driving up sales of books.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Now, instead of having 4-6 years to polish and improve a manuscript that was usually drafted during the PhD, with all the time and structure that meant, they are on their own when it comes to finding time to research something totally new from scratch, draft it, polish, etc.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I never thought I was the kind of person to fall for a scam, but then I traveled to Denmark to kill a monster and it turned out he had a *mom*
@mooninabucket
Francesca Leader
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I never thought I was the kind of person to fall for a scam, but then I married Edward, who turned me into his personal secretary while he allegedly worked on his “Key to All Mythologies.”
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
Let me repeat that in different words for the folks in the back: we do not have to adopt new technologies into our pedagogy just because they're there. We don't. It's a lie that we do.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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But the summers! Well, not everyone has summers. Maybe you have to teach during the summer because you're in your late 30s/40s and you also have more responsibilities. Depending on your admin duties those might not stop in May. You just have so. much. less. time.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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oh my lord we are about to have ulysses discourse
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Meanwhile you are trying to work on your second book, and literally no one cares but you whether you do it or not. They care about you being DUS and getting the course schedules done, not about your research glory.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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It takes some force of will to write and publish a book under these circumstances. You have to really want it. But you also have to accept that it's not going to be the book you dreamt of writing. It's not going to be anywhere near it.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Anyhoo, I was trained in the model of "everything you put out has to be brilliant and potentially prize-winning." It not bad at the start of a career, as a push to reach beyond what's easy in the work. But it doesn't hold up long term.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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If you are like most people, at this point you've seen that your lovingly polished first book, which you told everyone in your cover letter would change the world, changed exactly nothing. It probably didn't get a prize, a ton of reviews, a conference dedicated to it.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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@robin_ep_myers Let me tell you about mangoes in Europe
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Your family wants you to be there for them. What's the advantage if you make full? A tiny raise? Oh but maybe if you publish Bk 2 you can move to another podunk city and make 55K, but then that will mean they're all uprooted. There's nothing in your second book for them.
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
Countertake: It's brave to show a manipulating ex's private texts so that other people can see what coercion looks like, so that we can *talk* about abuse rather than hiding it. The women I know with coercive men are too ashamed to ask for help.
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Emily Nussbaum
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It’s gross to post your ex’s private texts unless you have a really solid reason to do so—& this holds true even if your ex was a thin-skinned, manipulative weasel. That used to be a given, but it clearly isn’t anymore
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Your colleagues only care about your second book if it enables you to get promoted to full and take on *other* service responsibilities. Hey, maybe you can take your turn at chairing the department!
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Irina Dumitrescu
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My general move as I've taught more and more is to reduce the reading list but try to go into the work in greater depth. I did this even more radically during pandemic lockdowns, when keeping students engaged over zoom was a real challenge /3
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Are there men who are not wealthy and actually enjoy being the sole provider for a family of eight? Does that level of pressure and worry work for anyone? This seems to me like the fantasy of someone rich or who has no kids and doesn't know what it entails
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a heavily pregnant housewife with six toddlers, living on what appears to be a modest salary, is not having a good time. This is a political view that benefits men
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Irina Dumitrescu
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The story of AI in writing/art/"content" is going to be the story of so many labor saving devices. Instead of freeing up people's time, it's going to ratchet up expectations for productivity for anyone who lives from the work.
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You know what’s classist? Acting like poor people need a computer to write their books for them instead of money and support to help facilitate their art.
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
I don't think any of these activities were better for my students' intellectual development than: 1. reading a good book 2. talking with their friends 3. sleep
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Irina Dumitrescu
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most of all: write, or make art, make a video game, make *something*, because if you don't make things you will spend a lot of your time trying to pull down the people who do
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Woman briefly escapes desk, wanders around in nature, sees cows and has no thoughts at all
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I think we're allowed to be suspicious of tech that encourages our students to outsource not just their writing, but their thinking, because that's what writing is.
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Irina Dumitrescu
2 months
I feel seen.
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John B. Holbein
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timeless
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Irina Dumitrescu
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New tradwife: accepts that it is men's role to lead and women's role to support them Old tradwife: argues with bishops about Scripture in front of everyone, tells a parable about a pooping bear, roundly wins the argument
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Irina Dumitrescu
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don't write because of what most people out there will say. most of them won't care. write because it lets you think on paper. write because it lets you craft something. write because it changes who you are to write.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I would love to see more public humanities that brings the best and most careful modes of academic thought to the public sphere, and less of the kind that chases controversy for its own sake. Yes I know both exist. I want the proportion to change.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Some of the counter arguments: Students can't read 100 pp a day with any depth or attention Students faced with that kind of reading load will give up before trying Different genres demand different kinds of reading /2
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Academia would be healthier if more professors were empowered to focus on teaching and/or research and/or creative work and/or outreach, rather than dealing with the constantly growing, unnecessary bureaucracy and paperwork
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Tyler Austin Harper
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Academia would be healthier if more professors were empowered to focus on teaching, rather than producing work they don't care about for journals nobody reads. We are incentivized to prioritize the part of our jobs that matter least, cutting corners on the part that matters most.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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This is why, when I teach public writing to academics, I advise them to ask for a fee as a matter of course. For those with a day job, journalism is a side hobby. But they can unwittingly undercut freelancers who write for a living
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Daniel Kennedy
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I've received enough emails like this to view retirees who dabble in translation as an infinitely greater threat to my livelihood than AI [in this case I had no choice but to suck it up and accept a lower rate]
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I went on vacation for a week to deal with stress and exhaustion, and wound up writing about how medieval people dealt with stress and exhaustion for @TheTLS Afterthoughts column
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Irina Dumitrescu
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New tradwife: has 7 kids Old tradwife: has 14 kids, is beset by demons, visited by Jesus wearing purple silk, now has regular conversations with God
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Given my students' reactions, I suspect I still have a heavier reading list than many other instructors, though for me it's wild how short it is given what I assigned ten years ago, or what I did in coursework 15-20 yrs ago /4
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I spent significant chunks of my 20s and 30s living in Berlin and never wrote a book about it. Can't tell if that's the dumbest thing I ever did or the smartest.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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LifeGPT is the breakthrough. It's making AutoGPT look quaint. Here are some ways you can use LifeGPT to automatize life tasks and superboost your efficiency:
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I will say this: given what I'm hearing from educators at the secondary and postsecondary levels, given my observations of students and of middle school kids right now, the outlook for reading is really not good. /12
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New tradwife: makes Coca Cola from scratch Old tradwife: starts brewing business, that doesn't work, tries her hand at milling, the horses are cursed, can't find help anymore
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Irina Dumitrescu
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And here's another thing I'm hearing from educators (and know from my own experience): WE are having trouble concentrating. WE are having difficulty reading and focusing on longer texts. Because we've also been forced to stare at screens for the past few years.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I wish I had a good answer. I'm skeptical of anyone who takes one hard-and-fast position (Make them read 1000 pp a week ! It's oppressive to ask literature students to read at all!) I think if you have experience teaching you realize students are so varied/10
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Irina Dumitrescu
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But what I see when a generation or two loses reading -- not as work but as pleasure -- is also the loss of an entertainment which is calming, escapist in a positive way /20
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Irina Dumitrescu
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@AgnesCallard It seems like the possibility of talking to people was excluded here to begin with. But some of us actually talk to people when we travel! Whether or not travel or anything else makes us more virtuous is a question, but some things you don't learn from a reason schedule
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Irina Dumitrescu
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@upstatefederlst We had the same conversation with a dude trying to sell us a fridge. Turned out, the main "advantage" to hooking it up to our phone was that the company could gather data
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Btw, probably best not to dunk on Murakami here -- it seems this twitter account is a bot. But the sentiment is one that's pervasive, and I think it's worthwhile countering it.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Some will go to any length to do well in a class, and will hold themselves to much much higher standards of performance than I would ever expect. Some will do less than the bare minimum and then try to renegotiate the minimum. What pedagogy can account for both? /11
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I've grown up surrounded by digital tech, I'm not against it, it has its uses. But I've also seen two decades of trendy ideas about incorporating it into classroom work go by, and most of it amounted to little, frankly.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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That said, increasingly I'm finding that students have a hard time even doing what I think is a very pared back amount of reading. Some have told me they can focus in class but not on their own. Some I suspect adjust their efforts to the expectations. But I can't really tell. /8
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I find the framing of this tweet strange. Conferences are where I get in-field intellectual stimulation, explore particular ideas in depth, get feedback on WIP, get teaching ideas, and build enduring scholarly communities. Are direct career benefits the only values?
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Samuel Perry
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Academics: Can you directly attribute a job, raise, collaborative relationship, or some professional benefit you wouldn't have otherwise gained to attending an academic conference? Other than good times w/pals, if you'd never attended conferences, would it have tangibly cost you?
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Irina Dumitrescu
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So many public discussions of "academia" are broken from the start because people use it as shorthand for "a handful of elite US universities." It's like talking about film but you've only ever seen Avengers movies.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Ready to write a truly fresh culture piece: Why we need to bring back the practice of forcing your guests to sit in your living room for hours and watch a slide show of your vacation photos (editors dm me)
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Irina Dumitrescu
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We are allowed to decide that, for our students and their needs, some structured time *away* from digital tech is useful, valuable, perhaps even irreplaceable.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Please start to question the idea that the only reason to use daycare is immediate financial need for both parents to work. Daycare is not a crime. Mothers having jobs that they find fulfilling and meaningful is not a crime. And kids can develop well in community.
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also: academia bulks up the critical muscles but lets the creative muscles atrophy. beware the narrow-mindedness of jumping to conclusions about the value of any particular work in the bigger picture.
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@Porkchop_EXP @JohannaLaakso5 This happened to me! I had to provide an "original birth certificate no older than six months," and I needed proof that there were no marriages inscribed on my birth certificate in Romania, a country I left when I was 5 yrs old.
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New tradwife: keeps popping out babies Old tradwife: tells husband she'd rather see his head cut off than have sex with him again, shouts about the music of heaven in bed
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Long-standing dream achieved: to find something I wrote in an airport shop. I'd prefer for it to be a book, but unless I write "The Valkrye's Guide to Hot Sex with Trolls and Loving Yourself Just As You Are", that might take a while
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Amiens Cathedral. Worth standing in the pouring rain for this.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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We are allowed to think about whether a new tech is the best way of teaching our students, given who they are and what they need and what environment they move in.
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@iconawrites Another fundamental diff: cultures that think weddings are a party for the couple's pleasure, vs cultures that think weddings are a way to join two communities
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Irina Dumitrescu
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So students using AI are not only denying themselves practice in thinking and writing, but they're training themselves to think and write in the most generic possible ways. Maybe that's the goal of some educational systems, but it shouldn't be.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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There was the time we were all supposed to have our students do blogs on course materials. We were supposed to have them do chat groups in whatever terrible site the university had decided to pay for. Or wikis. And the students did it, half-heartedly, because they had to.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Nothing our students will do involving a screen will help them concentrate better. Nothing our students do involving a screen will help them read and understand and reflect on longer texts. Nothing.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I will add this: though I prefer to go deep into texts, the skill of reading a lot of parts in a short amount of time and culling the main points is also an important one. There's a value to getting students to practice that. /14
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So sad that they can't afford any books or twelve baskets of knitting projects.
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Minimalist interiors are so inspiring.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I never saw any evidence that these make-work activities made students better readers, writers, thinkers, that it made them more engaged or better at discussing material with one another.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I find this all tricky. On the one hand, doing a lot of translation and close analysis in class has been great. What students do when they "read" is often to let their eyes move over the page. This happens to me too, of course. We use class to review and work on comprehension. /5
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New tradwife: never leaves the farmstead Old tradwife: goes on pilgrimage to Holy Land, travels through Italy and Germany, follows daughter-in-law to Danzig, catches rides with complete strangers
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Irina Dumitrescu
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There is incidentally a history that goes back at least to the Middle Ages of recognizing that stories, music, poetry can give the stressed mind much-needed rest /21
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Irina Dumitrescu
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Here is the back, with a quotation from the Volsunga saga, and a reference to Borges' short story, "Ulrica"
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Irina Dumitrescu
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It was moving to be there in person. People had left laminated copies of his poems on the shrubbery, and here, tucked close to the gravestone, were a few more items. The jar held pencils and pens, a bracelet, and some folded up paper. I wrote a poem too and put it in there.
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Irina Dumitrescu
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I'd also add: using AI for brainstorming, ok, seems innocuous. Isn't that the same as bouncing ideas off of a friend? Well, not exactly, bc LLM's tend towards what is most *likely*, so tend towards clichéd ideas. Human beings can think new things.
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Irina Dumitrescu
2 months
New tradwife: shows befuddling loyalty to one mediocre seeming dude Old tradwife: has confusing celestial throuple situation with the Father and the Son
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Irina Dumitrescu
2 months
I teach a lot of Old and Middle English, so the need for close attention is there, but even with a critical text that might not seem challenging to me, it really pays off to take class time to work through it. /6
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Irina Dumitrescu
1 year
They already have that habit. What I am hearing from educators, not just where I am but in other countries too, is that they have enormous difficulty concentrating. They struggle to read longer texts.
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Irina Dumitrescu
2 months
New tradwife: husband tells her to put away pageant gowns, she does Old tradwife: husband tells her to put away fashionable slashed clothing and headgear with gold piping, she reminds him that her father was mayor and she's not going to dress like a peasant
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