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@ToniHargis

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Author of above book b/c standing up to sexism is everyone's job. Brit/Yank/Geordie/wIdow/feminist Troll blocker

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Joined August 2010
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2 years
@RebeccaPapin I have a friend who was a high ranked Navy Pilot, flew in war & then flew commercial. She used to get hit on in the airline lounges by male pilots, who assumed she was a flight attendant - until her entire crew came to tell her they were ready to board! Their faces!
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@jchelle36 OMG - 1. Microwaved water? 2. Milk in before the t-bag? 3. No steeping of t-bag? You need to take that Union Jack off the Tweet.
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My husband died yesterday in an NHS hospital. Altho terminal w cancer, the 'care' this past week was shambolic neglect, devoid of compassion No one should die like that #BrokenSystem
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@TheRealTicTac @giovaknd Why does there have to be that extreme event? Women are free to walk on just because they don't want to shake his hand. We don't need to explain.
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@DrProudman And next week we'll have admitted DV abuser commenting for the BBC at Wimbledon. Because we're worthless
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@SkylarJordan @JimMFelton "Sex gone wrong" is the new "What was she wearing?".
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@GoReadJonnie @RebeccaPapin It's not work shaming; it's calling out the assumption that women will never be pilots, which some of us have actually heard. (Also traffic control.)
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@jordynbrianna__ @AdamParkhomenko @rosaSPARKS___ And how patronizing he was. Using that little, calm voice as if she were a 3 year old needing a nap.
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@bdk1521 Other people's marriages are indeed no one else's business until one of the partners is placed at risk of harm by the behaviour of the other, and this is no exception.
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@nytimes He said "African Americans and immigrants" in the same breath. What is that all about. African Americans ARE Americans.
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@AlchemicalDaddy He's not 'speaking agst popular opinion'. He's encouraging boys & young men to demean half the population. Respect & equality for women is not an opinion, it's a basic human right.
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@olivgilberto_ @yunatalks Yeah, that's quite often used to dismiss the lack of female representation.
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@DmSllvn @giovaknd Even more so with some of the outraged comments, demanding that the women 'should have' shaken his hand. No. Women don't owe men a handshake just because they demand it.
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@robdelaney Why aren't Brits more alarmed about this. As someone who lived in the US for 27 yrs till recently - we do NOT want insurance-based healthcare.
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@lumpygravy29 @neuroticgremlin Wondering if this is the ultimate defence of toxic male behaviour - "Women - men can do whatever they want, YOU need to change the way you live".
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@_JessicaDavies We really need to feel ok about saying "This is making me really uncomfortable".
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5 years
@JimOToole @juliaogiehor @Peston Or just don't abuse a woman on the Tube..............
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@FrAnKiE_SHeHuLK @ntvnyr173 @SenWarren @SenGillibrand @realDonaldTrump It's deliberate deflection b/c most of the time even they can't defend the crass Tweets. Gotta try something.
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@erickacknowles It's slang that originated from the movements of people with cerebral palsy and other physical disabilities. That's the WHOLE point about slang - it often starts off as an insult & then just becomes normalised. Using it to refer to movements is referencing the origin.
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@TalbertSwan They also said he hated America but so far, all I'm seeing is a guy currently in the WH who is hellbent on taking the country either down the toilet or into the hands of Putin.
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To those citing Katherine Ryan's supposed promiscuity as a reason why Brand can't possibly be a sexual predator ... it doesn't work like that. It's not a set of scales. A woman's behaviour doesn't cancel out the guy's #Dispatches
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@therealroseanne Oh please. If he had done any of these things he'd be congratulating himself on social media every single day.
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@EdGullion @FrAnKiE_SHeHuLK @ntvnyr173 @SenWarren @SenGillibrand @realDonaldTrump Someone remind this genius that Trump is the President. Even though Hillary won more votes & they can't get over it.
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@amikegreen2 Probably have to have a C-section. So she's mandated to be cut and stitched. They willingly put the life of an 11 y old child 2nd to the continuation of a fetus?
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@CBSNews I have two sons and I can honestly say the the two older Trumps and their father are everything I don't want my boys to be.
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@susanshushanna @Takemewithyou05 @chrisrickett Many of us are also just so gobsmacked that we don't come up with a response, and then kick ourselves later when we think of something appropriate.
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@BylineTV @kimleadbeater A woman who has every right to be afraid, is being commanded not to walk away & to talk to large, aggressive men she doesn't know. The entitlement.
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@ElenaBjxrn @dani_brennan_ Oh, you're totally right to have been at the very least 'bemused'. What you do in those circs is share the cost of the 1 ticket you have to pay for.
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@caitlinmoran Tone-policing, and referring her to a man for guidance on how she should sound. Esp when the place is usually full of braying men. Grrr. I'm about to explode with the #everydaysexism
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@chrisfayers @emrazz General manager's response, when told about it was “She’s not a child, she’s 17.” Unbelievable. #ableg
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@mis_cue @LouisatheLast @MeghanMcCain And let's not forget - infanticide is covered by the law and people would be prosecuted. Ridiculous charge.
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@juskickingrocks @SarahNevada1 Wow - that didn't take long.
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@CarmineSabia @nowthisnews Er, yes she does. If you're ok with the kind of racism Trump incites, you don't get to dip in and out when it's as blatant as this.
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@JessPected And not one of those men who declined, raised the alarm? Thanks guys.
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@Sonic_Screwup @BarristerSecret Reminds me of the time I was in a Hall of (crazy) mirrors. Couldn't tell where I was going, what was a mirror, what was real etc. So I put my hand out - straight into the mouth of an oncoming woman!
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@lbob15 "I've written this stuff for 20 years" has to be the worst defence of appalling behaviour ever.
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@KensAudioBoston @RebeccaPapin Because of my friend, we say "Must be Navy" every time there's a drop landing! LOL
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@Drbrodiepaters1 People who think private care can take its place don't realise that - they don't have A&E, don't take acute patients - can exclude pre-existing conditions There will be a huge black hole of cases not being covered
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@Sandy_Beech1 @HRHMHowler @janecody13 I'm trying to decide whether it'd be lovely or horrifying to live in your world where anything you haven't personally experienced simply can't be real. I guess it works for you though.
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@glavezilla @_annarebecca No it wdn't. You're implying that women are fooled by good looks. How do you know he isn't good looking anyway. She's creeped out by him. And let's not try to imagine how he'd respond if she tells him to go away.
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@sturdyAlex @MargaretDunne13 @MattHancock @DrRosena @JonAshworth @Keir_Starmer Also shows the default of many men when confronted by a smart woman they can't fully answer. Just smack 'em down w a quick reminder that they are "less than". Might as well have told her to 'calm down'. Grrr. #everydaysexism
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@MindYaBidnez @therealroseanne Yup. Rosanne will be the new Director of BS in the WH.
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@AnnadeBuisseret Just in case you missed yourself being absolutely dragged by the Secret Barrister, I made a copy for you. Thank you, once again @BarristerSecret When will they learn?
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@dmshaw85 @JayCarney @ClassicMP That should be up to the parents. And it won’t make a difference while the NRA pays off Congress.
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@ida_skibenes @chrisfayers Many Trump fans couldn't find Israel on a map even with a highlighted version.
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@threaps @Heidi_Colthup @DelphiEllis It does a really good job of showing the "damned if we do, damned if we don't" reality. And WHY guys think this type of insistence will make women more amenable to them is beyond me.
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@OhNoSheTwitnt @ScottGreenfield Burning question is "Do you know any women who actually "let" themselves be raped or assaulted?"
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@gtconway3d So why didn't Mrs Conway blow the whistle?
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@Jeaux90 @sueveneer @BBCr4today @KarlPhelan @JustinOnWeb If you've ever worked or volunteered in a women's refuge, you know the lengths to which their abusers will go to get to them.
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@natelege @ask_aubry Nah. Women are always having to change their behaviour to accommodate gross men. Let's put the onus back where it belongs - on gross men hitting on women when it's not invited.
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@ivorytowerjourn @LornaMoxham Yes but that's not really the point being made. Whether or not to put it on b pass is 1 discussion; being treated differently from 2 men who have the same title-ing on the b pass is another.
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@DrProudman Oh come on - haven't you seen all the campaigns telling men to check their women for cancer? Oh wait ...
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@DrRosena Your tone was more measured, respectful and informed than I've seen in a long time in that place. I admire you for not jumping over the table at him, but...social distancing. Please everyone, make this go viral. This #everydaysexism is NOT ok.
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@emrazz But women are still paranoid, playing the victim and man haters. Right?
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@ClarkeMicah @MailOnline They are making non-consensual contact illegal and if you fall into that category, so be it. You're not entitled to women's bodies.
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@HelenBaumander @RebeccaPapin @jen_macgregor They always out themselves. (The sexists, not pilots.)
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@shannonrwatts How is this not some kind of child endangerment? You have a dangerous piece of equipment near your child and you handled it negligently.
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@Telegraph Guess what Angela, we don't accept any blame.
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@peterrhague @karenwhybro No one is pinning crimes on you. However, you're clearly less bothered about murdered women than you are your hurt feelings. And that's part of the problem. Men's hurt feelings trump women's safety.
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@RemakingManhood They also need to realise that legally forcing women to increase the birthrate, is putting women off even more.
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@Jo3vsMo3 @babybluesunday @giovaknd We don't owe you a handshake. Stop insisting that women do what a man wants. That's how it all starts.
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Anyone else think moving the #MeghanMarkle #waxwork away from Harry is just another insult to her? (Not that I'm a huge royal fan, just a human fan.) #madametussauds #MeghanandHarry
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@mominmedicine Good! For some reason commenting on thin kids is ok. My response to "Are they anorexic?" was "No, and they're not deaf either."
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@UVWunion They should also ask the firm to go through everyone's expense claims. They'll find a lot more slipping through than a bloody sandwich.
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@SirKennyRob @rolandscahill As a woman of color, she's no doubt been doing that her whole life - dealing w people who openly disrespect her.
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@emrazz @WentRogue Can you imagine regular people saying this at work? Oops, I couldn't be arsed to do the research and now look what I've done. But it's still not my fault.
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@LBC @LadyColinCampb @AndrewCastle63 So let me get this straight. She's staying away from the Coronation circus (as many demanded), but she still has to make every move in deference to the family that allowed her harassment? Hmmm
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@thecrazycannuck @emrazz No pal. I'm not doing your homework for you. And you don't get to order me around like that. You're not in Trumplandia when Tweeting at me.
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@ThatUmbrella Just in case you don't see his answer, absolutely schooling you -
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@spawnofKahn @emrenaegriff @NoContextBrits He could have sat down on any bench. Why spoil something a young woman is doing? Oh yeah, to remind her who's in charge. Carry on.
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@ceo_of_offsew @giovaknd Perhaps respect women first (by leaving them alone) and it'll be reciprocated.
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@JamieHalls22 @bren3687 @ShortD19 @StephenAtHome That comment simply reflects the company you keep. There are many, many doctors, nurses, engineers, teachers, etc from south of the border. Get out more. It does wonders for the mind.
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@piersmorgan "Kids need strong role models" says the worst example of humanity on Twitter.
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@OhNoSheTwitnt @_celia_bedelia_ @ScottGreenfield Come now, we all know that men with guns are scared off when you talk loudly and clearly to them.
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@talkRADIO Um, did I miss something. Was Starmer ever running the country? I thought it was the other guy who'd made a total balls up of things.
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Standing up for women who are kissed full on the mouth uninvited, does NOT minimise women who have experienced 'worse' sexual abuse or assault. That's the mantra of trolls It's not a pie. Sexual abuse comes in all forms & we call it out for everyone.
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@smartgirls4gop @jacksmom8102 @AmesCG @tedcruz @realDonaldTrump The real response is Protecting Americans.........against what? The GOP are in control and we have no #CHIP , and no government. Way to go Trump. #TrumpShutdown
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@HKrassenstein @CorporatePiggie At this point, his moral failings are but a footnote. We need to so something about the USPS and Russian re-interference.
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@emperesspenguin @MarlowNYC And went to the popular parties where they plied him with booze and he threw up and cried.
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@funkymonais @ChelseaClinton @HillaryClinton YES - she's going to choose not to have one, while keeping her nose out of the business of other women. SO glad you understand the issue. Get my Point?
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@3d_historian @lolidefi Exactly. There is no 'right' to sit so close to someone that they feel unsafe during a pandemic. This is about boundaries as well as so-called rights. He has a right not to wear a m ask, and she can set boundaries. The numbers are going back up.
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@JMPSimor @BorisJohnson So wait - it's "very difficult" to tell women what to do with their bodies, because someone (presumably women) might call you out on it? And look how smoothly he throws women in there as just another "problem" one can't get one's way about any more.
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@DaddyFiles @sciencemilkcow @MotherResister Where the heck were the teachers in all of this? That could have been a real celebration of everyone's individuality.
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@stevieanntas Said this earlier, but it's ironic that men are complaining about fewer women getting married & women walking away from marriages (b/c financially independent), but they're still the ones being dragged to the altar.
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@crfjohn @junebonacich @amalieskram Yeah, that usually gets us labelled 'difficult' and 'unprofessional' and then we're fired.
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@Shes_deathProof @BoneVision @ShaunKing @sambuca360 Come to think of it, I was asked to leave a table a few years ago because another family wanted to be nearer the Sports TV. Since we were half way thru' our meal, I said no. No Police, no harassment, nothing. Gee.....
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@InkdMegz It makes us sad that some men are toxic predators because we won't submit our vaginas to these idiots. I like men. I like masculinity. Most women do. Don't have a tantrum because feminists want to control their own bodies. There ya go. 💏
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@OhNoSheTwitnt In other words, 'she was asking for it'. Let's just have the quiet part out in the open eh guys?
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@DrProudman I think if my jury had admitted that they just 'went with their gut' I'd be appealing too. Most people's guts don't understand legal subtleties.
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@DailyMirror Experts (aka women) also say - We don't give a flying F.
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@emrazz Isn't it funny how they reckon they can "pick up signals" from women, when it suits them though?
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@jeffmason1 @realDonaldTrump See Donnie, when you're outside the bubble of your base, it's not all roses.
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@DrProudman All these people (rape apologists) saying she's 21. In the clip of his 'joke' he even says she's 19. A teenager.
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@collinspatk1 Can we somehow phrase things so they don't sound like an obituary.
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@emrazz There's a TikTok at the moment in which a woman invites other women to notice how many times the guy in their life (dad, spouse, brother, etc) corrects, challenges, adds to - whatever she is saying. It's not even aggressive but it's ALL the time.
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@JakeHepple1 @crowdfunderuk Hilarious that you accuse immigrants of scrounging benefits, yet you're okay with helping your criminal mate scrounge to pay for the consequences of his violent actions. You couldn't make this shit up. Lol
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@MarshallCohen @TrueFactsStated @WhitneyWReports OMG. Imagine living thru that horror, and then having an entire political party treating it like a tourist excursion.
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@DonJohn26024501 @bearaboi He is amplifying the message that we all need to be more aware of male violence against women & girls. There isn't an ounce of self-congratulation in the tweets, & it's got pple talking. Perhaps put yr keypad to better use.
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