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Nanda

@SpeaksNanda

4 years

no-one is proposing to take ideas to their logical conclusions, relax

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Nanda

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2 months

I've been to therapy exactly once in my life - I went because I'm 15-45 minutes late for absolutely everything, and wanted to know why I did it. The therapist started by asking whether I enjoyed being late. I thought about this and realized that yes, I did, hugely.

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2 months

I'm still late for everything but I usually take a moment now to appreciate how good it feels.

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2 months

@nefertitillated Yes.

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1 year

Would like to see "brain underdeveloped until 25" discourse acknowledge that it also starts meaningfully decaying shortly thereafter, if you're dating a 39y/o then I'm sorry to report that you groomed them

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2 years

"attachment styles" mostly just a polite social code for "strong/weak negotiating position"

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1 month

@blakesgarden @CATHYMCCALY @jonathanbfine This response is great because it highlights that a lot of angry art criticism comes from a place of feeling art should possess a sacrality that it just basically doesn't except for a very small number of people

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2 years

@greffoir204 @benedict_rs "American journalist dropped by, wanting to talk about Graham Greene. I told him that Graham would have been a success at whatever he turned his mind to. He took this to mean that I was an admirer of his work. Nothing could be further from the truth." (Anthony Powell)

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5 months

Something weird about committed relationships is that their pleasures are so disproportionately in the realm of the outwardly visible and their sorrows are so private

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5 months

People are totally unwilling to believe that some women just do not like sex even though they are attracted to men and want a family. Yes, their husbands are good, attractive, give them orgasms. The women just aren’t interested in sex. I saw this all the time in mom groups.

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2 years

@poetrygrifter you're doing your civic duty (selfishly fighting your corner for your own particular arbitary subjectivity), everyone should do the same

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1 year

@Interrobang_2 @HTHRFLWRS Euler's prime prediction is the canonical example!

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1 year

@proetrie for evil to triumph, all that is required is for good people to rationally respond to incentives

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1 year

@PrinceVogel in every magic player there sleeps a sense that the cobbled-together "some stuff I own" deck is the best and purest version of the game

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@SpeaksNanda

11 months

@user84829272 It's always weird to me that there's no socially legitimate way to say "I prefer serial monogamy" when it's what so many people clearly want.

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@SpeaksNanda

2 years

consider a man w/ long straight hair, naturally he works in tech, you know the type. this association is chiefly caused by:

meta-gender in 1-sex-pop

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2 years

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10 months

Thread in which I am, at 40, rereading INFINITE JEST, which meant a lot to me as a teenager and early twenty-something.

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

Are there any great writers who were Spiritually Reddit?

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@SpeaksNanda

11 months

@TedaboyMTG It's cool how they put 8 glistener elves in the very first set

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1 year

@TamingofdeSchuh amazingly good tweet

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

@almostnora @sympatheticopp all time tweet

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

Very 1910 how every terrible dating screenshot tweetstorm is just a miscommunication between people of slightly different social classes about whether wealth should be displayed overtly or downplayed as implicitly striver-y.

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26 days

@IntractableLion I don't understand this discourse at all because my response would be "it's nice".

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@SpeaksNanda

2 years

@heysareta @anne_theriault @braintree_ What a beautiful child!

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

@annelysegelman eight chairs is funnier than chair but I think 'chair' is better than any of the next six so I'm optimistic

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@SpeaksNanda

7 months

@CartoonsHateHer @Setzer7777 a confusing aspect of the time was that will carling was considered attractive but there appears no photographic evidence for this

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1 year

@Actualwebutante It's so nice that there are others.

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

@MattOsterndorf The proliferation of images of extremely beautiful people has been a societal negative and not a small one, we should do whatever we can to stop it.

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@SpeaksNanda

2 years

weird thing about this pattern of child-interaction is that it really is extremely thought-provoking but the child is totally uninterested in your answers and is just enjoying the vulgar exercise of power

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2 years

most people can't give reasons for what they believe after about the 4th or 5th iteration of why, anyone who has interacted with a child knows this

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1 year

@adrusi I slept under a giant shard of glass on the basis that if I stopped being lucky, life wasn't worth living

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@SpeaksNanda

10 months

@NLRG_it I really love the idea that for everyone claiming the US is 1% muslim, or that 3% live in NYC, there's some other guy being, like, "idk - 60%?"

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

i think my ideal romantic relationship is one in which you exchange messages every 3-6 months

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@SpeaksNanda

2 years

#3 will win this poll but I don't know if it should

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4 years

Temperamentally too proud for simping but I respect and admire those who are capable of it, anyone who simps in public is showing that they're capable of the very best human emotion and not ashamed of it.

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2 years

When you die, you suffer over a week all the harm that you have caused others, then enjoy over a restful month all the joy and comfort that you've ever given. Then you disappear, surprised to the last how little there was of either.

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2 months

@El__Bohemio @meatballtimes The bimodality of distributions isn't actually any particular comfort to people in the overlapping bits.

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@SpeaksNanda

3 years

Nanda return celebration - one like, one reflection.

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

@Interrobang_2 @HTHRFLWRS Basically the number of primes less than x is close-to-but-less-than the result of a function until you get to unimaginably huge numbers and then it flips and it's bigger than those numbers instead.

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1 year

my most hated-by-all culture-war-truce opinion is that one should largely believe promiscuous women on the question of what men are generally like and believe promiscuous men on the question of what women are generally like

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@SpeaksNanda

11 months

@BjornIronSkull @thechosenberg I think I know what you mean and I think it's basically unrelated fwiw

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@SpeaksNanda

7 months

One take I never see in AI-art debates (presumably because both sides find it equally repulsive) is that a lot of AI illustration is already genuinely thrilling, but that thrillingness tends to be of a pornographic nature.

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

Without downloading any pics what's it like dating you probably quite a mixed experience, I can be very sweet but there's a level of inattention that tends to upset people, the world with other people in it is not my home

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

the best cultural advice I have ever received is when my dad pointed out that ballet instantly gets 50x better if you stop viewing it as art and start viewing it as pornography

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

@Interrobang_2 @HTHRFLWRS With modern computing we think the point at which it flips is about... 1.397162×10^316??

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@SpeaksNanda

3 years

men will learn everything about the roman empire but not develop basic reading-level latin, smh

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@SpeaksNanda

3 years

Reply to this tweet and I will set you a task and detail a curse that will fall upon you if you fail to accomplish it.

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@SpeaksNanda

1 month

@blakesgarden @CATHYMCCALY @jonathanbfine Sometimes the angry person actually is one of those people in which case their complaint I personally find very sympathetic, and sometimes they aren't and they just sort of feel art should be sacred anyway, to someone, though not to them.

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5 months

Once again confused that my experience with high school maths - essentially five years of enchantment with the most thrilling and rewarding set of ideas that I have ever encountered - seems like a totally out-there minority take even among people who enjoy mathematics.

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

Thread where you can post poems or paragraphs or songs and I'll think about them and tell you if I like them.

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

maths ability discourse has been very trying this week so please enjoy this very beautiful and unique room I got to teach a kid maths in today

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

"High Time Preference": played out tainted by associations w/ scientific racism impossible to remember which is the good one Ana-coded/Bulimia-coded: fresh & new cleaves reality at the joints lana del rey is the most important artist of ou-

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

Everyone knows the thing where 15% of the internet is just making up types of guy and then getting mad at them but what I hadn't understood was how fun it was to do.

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

Somewhat compromising the austerity of this account to ask very sincerely for an explanation of this, probably the single aspect of twitter discourse that confuses me the most.

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

tried that teen filter thing and didn't feel anything in particular but did find it remarkable that it managed to maintain almost everything about my appearance while presenting me with someone who was recognisably, undeniably, American

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@SpeaksNanda

3 years

@Lithros @Kirsten3531 i am interested in good anti-vegetarian arguments - I am vegetarian and find it very tiresome, but it seems frustratingly clear I should be, if you have them, I'd like to hear.

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

There seems to be a whole genre of advice about how one should get married looking for a thoroughly bad time and while I admire its realism I'm always left wondering what unstated upside the person thinks is too obvious to be worth mentioning.

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@SpeaksNanda

3 years

@qorprate It's good how the second one is much more obscene

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

"performative" has been drifting towards "fake" and away from its original/academic "i name this ship" defintn because every time you try to use it correctly you have to imagine a guy popping up to say "blockchain solves this" and actually being right, which is insufferable

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

you'll end up with some predictable blind spots (overestimating the amount people drink, for instance), but it'll be a much weaker bubble effect than that of people who generalise from themselves and their friends

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

Thinking about "one person always notices the dirt first, should they always be the one to tidy" and I guess it's the kind of thing Ayers considered too concrete for ethical philosophy but I'd love to see someone try.

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@SpeaksNanda

3 years

One thing being here has valuably taught me is that the shape of my interests (poetry, porpentine, mtg, maths etc etc) - is absurdly typical of a particular type of person, and that the actual weird things about me are that I'm having a good time and don't like relationships.

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@SpeaksNanda

10 months

@CartoonsHateHer I'm always impressed at how completely the advice ignores not just "the person you are talking to has different goals" but even like "the person they fancy isn't literally exactly you"

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@SpeaksNanda

1 year

Almost every opposite-sex person close to me is someone I've loved or dated or kissed or absent-mindedly slept with ten years ago and these relationships are now absolutely without the slightest sexual charge; this is clearly not the experience of most but - why not?

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

There are so many ways to be beautiful other than to be desired.

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@SpeaksNanda

7 months

I'm referring to art that's high-saturation, high detail, high contrast, content centred around blandly beautiful young women, etc etc - these reliably seem to pour out of every program because the patterns MJ etc have extracted about "what people like" are, basically, correct.

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@SpeaksNanda

11 months

It's always weird to me that there's no socially legitimate way to say "I prefer serial monogamy" when it's what so many people clearly want.

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@user84829272

11 months

No offense but if this happened to me I’d kill myself immediately

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4 years

forever uncertain if the comfortable zone for liking someone's selfie ("close, but very slightly inferior, to my own level of attractiveness") is a relative measure or an arbitrary constant I just happen to be slightly better looking than

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@SpeaksNanda

10 months

I first got it out from Swiss Cottage library in, I think 1999 or 2000 (age 17?) - I'd vaguely seen it mentioned in a magazine somewhere. I was interested in America. I guess to some large extent this will end up a review of that 17-year-old?

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3 years

@Kirsten3531 I tend to think it maintains a little of its prior sense - 'unwilling or ineffective at doing housework and other detail-orientated female-coded things'. So for me, it's specifically sleeping around out of it being the path of least self-mastery, a kind of drowsy acceptance.

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2 years

Think the big disconnect in male-female dating-app discourse is that men are mainly looking for advice on wooing women much less intelligent than they are, and don't like to admit it, so women give them advice on wooing women like them.

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4 years

Had obviously understood that I would age out of understanding younger people's reference point but I had assumed they'd come to be opaque, boomer-using-computer style, rather than just increasingly painful and difficult to take seriously.

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3 years

@maybeelse

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2 years

@policefala they're - i don't know they just - you know what i mean & i'm glad of that

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2 years

@TheCaptain_Nemo chess is difficult precisely because humans are naturally so bad at it

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4 years

Aching to say positive things - if you'd enjoy being complimented just like/message and I'll be so pleased.

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2 years

I feel in general when assessing ideologies you should mostly think about what they look like in the hands of an energetic and ambitious 22y/o from a rich family who has charmed and finagled her way to leadership roles within a number of ivy league college societies

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1 year

@adrusi No, I was just powerfully drawn to extremes and since my values were artistic/bohemian/capital-R-Romantic ones (as they still are), wanted to embody and act on them in an extreme way.

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1 year

@cauchyfriend

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2 years

@danielleboccell I spent a lot of time afterwards trying to understand what people had found so profound and I think the main thing I realised afterwards was that they just had a much filmier separation between art and pornography

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2 years

@strangestloop you actually don't have to like one another!

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3 years

(Uncharacteristically personal) - to what extent is 'fear of rejection' actually fear of something else, the fear of admitting that the world belongs to those who ask, that all our grace and modesty must now be viewed as nothing but a sunk and wasteful cost?

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4 years

Is there anyone now writing who gives erudite but unambiguous answers to everyday moral questions?

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4 years

@TheOrangeAlt @literalbanana @bigmastertroll 1) Pointing is indicating an object and bringing into a zone of shared understanding/intuition. 2) Dabbing is a deliberately meaning-refusing gesture that draw attention to the self. 3) Making them opposite is brilliant because they're both basically just sticking out your arm.

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4 years

There's this great LeGuin essay about early Fantasy - your friend would tip you off about some shop in Pittsburgh or somewhere, you'd slip behind a curtain into the cellar. "You got the stuff?" "Uh huh, we got it." And then you'd buy some idiot poem about elves by an Elizabethan.

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2 years

@nightajar Joy is really good!

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1 year

@sympatheticopp

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6 years

actually jaws is the name of the doctor

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@parafactual

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1 year

It reminds me of how I used to read wine criticism and think "but really isn't this a lot of effort to source some subtle flavours, can't a rich palette of scents be acquired without all the fuss" and had totally missed that alcohol makes lots of people feel pleasantly high.

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7 months

And with literature I'm happy gatekeeping, I'm willing to say "this moves you? very well, read more until it doesn't". But I wouldn't deny that Ao3-and-its-consequences have been a research lab into what people by default care for, and I think AI pictures are often the same.

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3 years

@saturnyams

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2 years

Thread of poems set on exam papers for 11-year-olds, which I therefore end up discussing with my students.

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@SpeaksNanda

2 years

A particular confusion of getting older is realising that there are aspects of you that stem from the very specific culture of your upbringing, and yet how that culture somehow only existed inside particular walls, so can never be shared or related or consoled about with others.

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7 months

Are these good pictures? I don't know, I don't have the artistic training to tell. But they're thrilling pictures, to me that's inarguable, they're bright and hyperdetailed and hit hard in the first second of viewing. (I've picked these examples quickly).

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2 years

thread about my mother

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2 years

@unicron_buddha_ god is extremely clear about his preferences and this is very tiresome for those of us who might wish they were otherwise

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2 years

@self_beware repetition emphasises/highlights something, so doing this directs the reader's attention in an unintended direction

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9 months

@CartoonsHateHer one of the surprises of being 40 is that the entire decade turns out to be about watching your increasingly decrepit and troubled parents fall apart completely but tv does not inform you that this is the theme

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@SpeaksNanda

4 years

Extremely & endlessly frustrating that all the best resources I have for learning come from people with a radically different subjectivity to mine, i.e. people who wrote things.

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3 years

A while ago there was a post here by a spiritualist guy (iirc youngish, black, maybe right-wing) to the effect that crystals were traps planted by the fae and that everyone he knew who used them had horrible things happen to them, how can I find this again, I think of it often

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