I'd like to invite you to a party... PITY PARTY is coming this July. And I hope you enjoy it as much as
@MarianKeyes
@laurenbravo
@LindseyKelk
@Lecv
and Louise O'Neill did...I think (hope!) it will make you laugh. And cry.
“It’s just like wartime,” she thought, after waiting for eighteen minutes to enter Tesco Metro in order to purchase a bottle of Malbec and a large Toblerone.
ME: Phone, I have a very important meeting in July. Here is the date. Please don't forget.
PHONE: Sorry, I am only going to remember one thing for you ever, and it's The Battle Of The Boyne.
The quiet period between Christmas and New Year is a really lovely time to catch up on all of your reading. For example, I am currently reading the Wikipedia entry for Laurence Llewelyn-Bowen.
What breaks my heard about the Louis CK story isn’t just the abuse of women - it’s what happened afterwards, how they were forced to be smaller and quieter and hide their talents to protect an abuser.
What is happening isn’t the work of a handful of creeps with “problems”. THIS is a world where men are given the space to abuse and women are tacitly encouraged to be complicit because AFTER ALL, THAT’S WHAT WE’RE THERE FOR, RIGHT?!?
The Emily Ratajkowski piece is truly courageous. It’s brought home to me how wrongly dismissive I’ve sometimes felt about her and other women who appear to benefit from the ‘privilege’ of staggering beauty.I shouldn’t have needed reminding that all bodies can be hard to live in.
I think about this A LOT. A few years ago I read something that claimed 30 per cent of women surveyed wore their knickers over their tights, and 20 per cent of women “didn’t know”.
I used to ghostwrite a column for Dappy. My one good story is that he liked to pretend to be a shoplifter before taunting the shop assistants by suddenly and dramatically producing his credit card. He called this "doing a madness".
I am very sad to hear that Accessorize has gone into administration. Have a horrible feeling that it might have something to do with the fact that I haven't been able to spend nine thousand pounds on sarongs in the Gatwick terminal branches. Before a two day holiday. To Dublin.
I am NOT ENJOYING La La Land. It is like being trapped on a bad date. A great musical is a work of art and this is a £9.99 Live Laugh Love print in a TK Maxx clearance bin.
Our boiler is broken. I've put on a hat, a scarf, three jumpers and some gloves. If I can roll a six, I get to have a go at eating some chocolate with a knife and fork.
This is absolutely devastating to hear,
@Waterstones
- Tilly is a passionate, engaged, devoted asset to your company. And it's devastating for the legions of us who have spent a lot of money in your shops on books that have been written to make everyone feel seen and included.
Hey
#BookTwitter
. I think you hopefully all know I generally try to keep this a positive space, but I can’t really put a positive spin on how I feel right now.
My heart is broken, and I’m so disappointed in a company who won’t forgive a single mistake like this.
Hey
@itv2
PLEASE don’t advertise weight loss products during
#Loveisland
- you’ve got an impressionable audience who might already be worrying about the way they look. Be responsible. Be better.
@stuheritage
My Dad would say standing ovations. Every time he goes to the theatre he gets furious about how it’s “the symptom of a culture that celebrates mediocrity”.
I hate to brag, but I’ve been going through my photo album and I’ve had a really magical year. I’ve achieved things beyond my wildest dreams and I really do feel profoundly
#blessed
.
HARD WON LIFE LESSONS FROM YOUR LATE THIRTIES - HOW TO WRITE AN EMAIL
1. Write the email
2. Delete half the exclamation marks
3. Delete the other half of the exclamation marks
Deleting my dating apps because I want to meet someone the old fashioned way, pricking my finger on a spinning wheel, sleeping for decades and waiting for True Love’s kiss to find me.
There must be a German word for the specific grumpy sadness a person feels when they Google that blue flowery dress Jodie Comer wore on Killing Eve and discover it is a Vampire’s Wife one that costs six hundred pounds.
I offer this as an entirely unscientific observation - for global and personal reasons, pretty much everyone I know seems to feel utterly burned out, broken, grinding to a halt. I think we've been trying to make sense of big things for so long, now smaller things are felling us.
Last year, I was sexually assaulted. Because of the
#metoo
movement I felt that I could report it - and that I had no need to feel ashamed. If it was not for
#metoo
I’d still be keeping it secret. I was able to heal because of the courage of other women. Thank you.
#IWD2019
Gosh, imagine being a man and having an advert make you feel inadequate, not good enough, and maybe a little guilty. I LITERALLY CANNOT IMAGINE HOW THAT FEELS. *all of the side eyes in the world*
Friendly* reminder (*not actually that friendly if I'm being entirely honest). Absolutely fine not to like a book. Put that thought on Instagram if you must! But if you tag the author you will make them feel truly terrible for some time. Do you like to make people feel terrible?
By the time you’re 35 you should have saved up a year’s worth of carrier bags under your kitchen sink - and by the time you’re 40, enough carrier bags to hold all of your retirement groceries.
All emails now:
Hello! Remember us? That hotel with the gritty beds just off the A34? You stayed here for a conference in 2015? You can make these messages stop! Just tell us that your Dad's dead.
I think I’m allowed to say this - just found out that
#Insatiable
is the highest new entry in the hardback fiction chart this week. All my love and thanks to the truly miraculous booksellers who are getting the word out about the 🍊 without being fully open!
.
@thetimes
I’m a subscriber and I think I’m going to cancel. I am so utterly enraged and disappointed by the dog whistle racism in this tweet. This is some of the most irresponsible writing I have ever seen.
I stopped drinking alcohol just over a hundred days ago. My drinking seemed 'fine'. No-one thought it was anything other than 'normal'. But it was making me very, very sad.
By the age of 30 you should have:
A Whatsapp group you hate but feel too guilty to leave
An extremely expensive scented candle you bought three years ago, with about half an hour of wax left
A Zoopla habit that makes you feel slightly more depressed every month
My parents are moving and they have discovered some teen and pre teen diaries. Was hoping to discover evidence of precious writing genius. Found furious unsent letter to local radio station demanding that they play more ‘classic’ PJ and Duncan.
I might look like an adult lady opening champagne and saying ‘twist the bottle, not the cork’ but in my heart I am screaming ‘LIGHT THE LAMP NOT THE RAT’.
GUYS! Big personal news - hate to brag, but I know that you're often inspired when I share my achievements, so here goes: Just found out that I've gained nearly a stone since March.
The LAST thing I’d want is a relationship with someone who keeps me on my toes. My marriage works because my husband and I love sitting on our arses.
#loveisland
"Hi there, I'm a huge fan of your work. However, I have been completely silent about my fandom until now - because I need you to post on Instagram about my new business, which is selling bars of soap made from tiny squidged up bits of old soap, for awareness."
Do you love your job - but hate trying to make it love you back?
Are you sick of Imposter Syndrome,
#girlboss
talk and the Sunday Scaries?
Have you had white wine and kettle chips for dinner lately?
Meet Harri and Imogen…
#careering
Freelangst - the point in early January at which your smugness about not having to return to an office transmogrifies into questioning your career, future and very existence.
At 33 I am still insecure enough to hold a security pass instead of wearing it around my neck because I don’t want the imaginary cool girls to think I’m “sad”.
Love the idea of
#buynothingday
- but I've spent the year trying to get to the bottom of my shopping problem and if you are struggling with the urge to get down with "mindless consumerism" I FEEL YOU. Please don't beat yourself up if Black Friday makes you feel out of control.
I’ve struggled with the calendars and tracker apps, but the only thing that works for me is this: If I start thinking about spending £500 on a Dyson hairdryer, I know that my period is two days away.
I am heartbroken. I worked with so many HUGELY talented people. If you were outside watching it happen, please don’t pontificate on what went wrong, it doesn’t help us. Please find ways to continue to support the work of the amazing team instead.
The Pool is officially over. No one can say anything coherent right now. But we have fucking done our best. My colleagues are steel. My managers are steel. I am sad.
I FINISHED MY BOOK I FINISHED MY BOOK! (The one I’m writing, not the one I’m reading.) I’ve had two mojitos! Life is lovely! Everything is gonna be just fiiiiiiiiiiine! Until I get my edits back!
Reeva Steenkamp was killed. In England and Wales alone, two women a week are killed by their partners. Last year the number of women killed by a partner or ex rose by a third. Violence against women is endemic. This erases Reeva. It erases the women who have died violently.
“Why are boys’ feelings girl’s responsibility?”
@sarapascoe
in today’s
@TheSTMagazine
is infuriatingly excellent, this piece is worth buying the paper for. I CAN’T WAIT for Sara’s new book.
Me: If a failing high street women's clothing brand reissued their old designs, my pals and I would buy everything and they might survive!
Unknown bald, bearded man on Twitter, who is wearing a fleece in his profile picture: YOU ARE QUITE WRONG.
WRITING TIP: If you’re working on a novel and you have lost all track of when you set it and how much time is supposed to have elapsed, throw in a quick “It was unseasonably misty...”
I'm sure this is too too obvious and they have either done it, or there is a very good reason why they haven't done it, but I'm sure Laura Ashley could make KAJILLIONS by reissuing their archive pieces.
Me, reading an interview with a celeb: Ah, they are 35. That is why they have achieved so much. They are a proper, actual grown up.
Brain: You do know you’re 34?
LISTEN, MATEY. TODAY IS NOT THE DAY FOR THIS. THERE ARE 364 DAYS OF THE YEAR THAT AREN'T THIS SPECIAL ANNIVERSARY. DO IT THEN. AND DO IT ON YOUR OWN TIME. DO NOT PIGGYBACK ON THE WORK OF WOMEN.
“I won’t go to the little Tesco because their milk selection is rubbish, they only have almond...” Tell me the sentence YOUR brain was thinking when you realised YOU had become a twat.