as a ciswoman i have a lot of freedom in my gender ๐ so my pronouns are whatever!!! im chill!!! like i usually go by whatever gets trans women with self esteem issues the most turned on ๐ so its she/her if they have mommy issues ๐ and he/him if they have daddy issues ๐ค
@twitchyspoonie
bras are one of those things where i truly think we need to repopularise tailors. i genuinely dont believe that mass manufacturing can accurate capture most peoples needs and true sizingsโฆ
im speechless. what the fuck is GOING ON?
how does the LGBT+ RIGHTS GROUP not even reject A TRANSPHOBIC โREVIEWโ DONE BY ANTI-TRANS CONVERSION THERAPISTS that rejects 98% OF AVAILABLE CREDIBLE EVIDENCE ?!?
i need to move off this forsaken fucking rock donโt i?
The Cass Review, an independent review of gender care services for children and young people, has been published today after almost four years. We know that elements of the review and how it is covered in the news may cause concern for trans children and young people and their
why are 90% of trans men i see on twitter birthday boy โim just a lil guy i couldnt possibly be trans/misogynisticโ and every trans dude i know irl is like โsister stand behind me i will protect youโ
whats up with that. does twitter brainrot do that much. lol.
you know what fuck it.
there are some people who are mutuals with me who have had completely abhorrent opinions devoid of empathy in this last discourse.
like ive genuinely lost so much respect for people whose opinions i actually held in high esteem before this.
ppl outside of the uk trans community โcriticisingโ DIY HRT dont know how bad it gets here. private healthcare is too expensive and has year long waitlists. NHS gender services have 8-12 year waitlists. getting HRT as a minor is next to impossible now. fuck off you slimy cretin.
Muta really did have the opinion of some ordinary gamer. Bro was fearmongered DIY HRT for minors, and even sided with the fucking UK government cracking down on a DIY HRT supplier. This medicine helps prevent suicides, and these sites are often the only way minors can access it.
like im going to start blocking people. you can say you hate men and ill stand by you, you can say femboys have a tendency towards transmisogyny and i agree.
but spewing the same rhetoric used to demonise transfeminine expression, but towards gnc men, and calling it good?
โoh yeah i oppose the patriarchyโ *perpetuates the idea that feminine aesthetics are divine and unique to only those with female bodies* *perpetuates rhetoric calling gnc bodies ugly* *perpetuates policing of gendered expressions to enforce rigid categories defined by sex*
you know what word i have for supporting the scapegoating of femininity? for thinking its fetishistic when men wear โwomensโ clothes? for supporting harassment of men who embrace feminine aesthetics?
misogyny. you are actually being misogynistic.
now that my swelling has gone down from ffs, every time i glance at myself in the mirror i just go โhiiiiiiiโ and then giggle i think my brain has imploded
i am not a thirst trap or a porn account or anything adjacent. if you as a porn account follow me, rt or make a comment that is more degrading than complimentary i will instant block. i post selfies bc im proud of my appearance, and nothing more.
liberation of the transfeminine body can only happen in tandem with liberation and freedom of feminine expression in men and im 100% serious and if your kneejerk reaction to that is to call me a suck up to men then your brain is rotten to the core. i dont want you near me.
either we โboymodeโ for years OR at some point in our lives us trans women have to navigate the world as a visibly feminine person who others (mistakenly) gender as male/masculine. if that period of time is judged harshly, less trans women will feel comfortable coming out
@lucisev
its so fucking easy. trans men are men who have been treated how women are in our society, at some point in their lives. thus they are more likely empathic to the struggles. but thats too hard to say for some reason? look at our โfeministsโ dawg we are cookedโฆ
@chipilonita
the real ticket is that โmore queerโ isnt a real fucking metric just be a raging lesbian and get on with your life in whatever way works like lmaooo
im angry. im so fucking angry. and ppl wonder why trans ppl use private services or self administer hormones. because the services they want us in are just designed to be intrusive, miserable experiences aimed at desistance. i want to scream.
My daughter and ourselves had our first appointment in the new gender services set up as a result of the Cass Review outlined here Here are my reflections: 1/12
(a) the sexuality doesnโt actually inherently do that de-centring, thats what political lesbianism dies
(b) the idea that a woman being attracted to a man is something that inherently centralises men as a political class in their lives is insane
@servicemasc
i did a few paintings using my feelings about gender as emotional context and my sister said to me, without context when looking at them, that they overcame her with a profound sadness but she didnt know why. i hope im beating the accusations ๐ญ
@peachmilfshake
@Pupperdoon
asking people to help them with things directly is somehow โexhaustingโ. ive had people say โits tiring to have to ask you directly to help me all the timeโ and im like its LESS EFFORT THAN PLAYING MIND GAMES LIKE BE SERIOUS?
very political take, but tranfems should recognize that capitalism is good for us, and gives us with the ability to provide for ourselves and our community. We are very capable workers, and can create amazing things, and be fairly paid for our work. This is already the case.
hey girlies!!! โจwould it be okay if i used they/she pronouns ๐คฉ??? its justโฆ i want trans women to be more comfy around me, theyre really put off by me when i say im a cis bicurious girl ๐ญ. does this also mean i can say the t-slur!!!?? ๐ i think that would be fun tbh ๐ค โฅ๏ธ
you know what fuck it.
there are some people who are mutuals with me who have had completely abhorrent opinions devoid of empathy in this last discourse.
like ive genuinely lost so much respect for people whose opinions i actually held in high esteem before this.
would really love the allies who vocally support trans women to appear next to me please itd be amazing. solidarity with my trans brothers but the idea that trans women get a lot of meaningful support from allies relative to trans men is not correct
Can allies also show their support for trans men too? Because I see a lot of you support trans women vocally (which is amazing by the way, I too support trans women) but there's nearly not enough vocal support for trans men. Please, please, please include us.
logging off for the day. my blood is boiling. the sheer heartless precision in this whole review and its subsequent praise by british media and organisations is getting to me.
likeโฆ the idea of โde-centringโ men in ones own personal life is hilarious. even if that were a possible thing to do, its not like being attracted to only women inherently causes it, or that being attracted to men excludes it.
this is what an entire nations healthcare system is using to excuse medical discrimination btw. an โindependentโ โreviewโ that excludes *98%* of all clinical studies on the topic and then comes to conclusions that *funnily enough* disagree with the *98% they removed*.
the (on average) ONE person youโre in a relationship with does not mean the rest of your life takes a different shape. stop acting like sexuality is literally your whole identity.
i fully believe a gay guy can โde-centreโ men as a political class from their lives, and that quite a few actually do that. same with bi people. just bc you find a gender attractive doesnโt mean youโre gonna bow to their political or social oppression lol. the insanityโฆ
@alyraejepsen
no. some people are actively mocking feminity in men. i dont support femboy communities online at all, theyre often deeply fetishistic (unironically) and transmisogynistic. but that critique is not what im talking about. i have seen some deeply troubling things.
now this is no longer a little vent amongst my small follower base:
1) trans men are awesome and i love them
2) most trans men are amazing allies and on average so much better than cys men when it comes to transmisogyny
3) Clarifying that โ90%โ is obviously exaggeration
my contribution to the โtrans woman facial hairโ discourse is that i have permanently red skin and multiple scars on my upper lip from shaving so intensely and often that i constantly drew blood
@elle_carnitine
its ironic isnt it because a lot of actually effective strategies for mental health are to work within the limitations that it sets, in order to adjust how you live to be more healthy overall, which then makes your world better, thus easing depression symptoms
@DroningG
exactly. i critique social forces, communities and attitudes. i do not critique the individual appearances of people, i think its a low blow and cruel.
@killa_inkk
@infiniteindust
this is misleading because breaking down food with heat makes certain nutrients more bioavailable and digestible while reducing others. in fact fire for cooking is one of the key reasons why humans are advanced as we are, by predigesting food into useful compounds.
even if diy was more dangerous (its not, so long as you get regular blood tests) id still support it because for a lot of trans people its Transition or Die (or Live in Debilitating Depression until you can Transition and basically have No Life or Joy)
@MahimikoUmbral
experiencing any misogyny will make you, usually, more empathetic. in fact often trans men can experience *worse, but different* misogyny, because the enforcement of womanhood is more violent towards them when closeted, because they often decide to resist it more than others.
i do not like femboy culture; i think it lends itself to incredibly toxic ideals and serves as a funnel for vulnerable people to oversexualise themselves in a desperate attempt at validation to patriarchy. but you dont need to be a cruel piece of shit to people to say that !
@girldrawsghosts
i started in 2017, where everyone i met went through the same cycle; confusion then contemplation then acceptance or rejection. transphobes were usually so through ignorance/ostracisation, but now most are fear/anger addicts instead, hell bent on eradication. its insaneโฆ
@lildevilhorns
@pissvortex
cheaper than going to the cinema and tons more interaction and fun. some of the dumbest memories i had with my friends were stupid little multiplayer horror games
@SillyStinkyMeow
its a game about how even in the depths of pain and suffering, in a hostile world that makes no sense, when everything is confusing and nothing matters, when there is no hope of redemption or happy endingโฆ
there is still love. and its between two women. stay mad bigots ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
@jackiedotnet
the best trans rep she can do now is be a cool and good actor in general. having a trans person just exist and be a regular a-list actor is really really normalising for us tbh. โtrans repโ roles just box her into being โthe trans actorโ instead of โthe actor thats transโ
@bloomfilters
>7 feet tall
>haunted by buried trauma
>hopeless romantic
>dismissed as an object with no regards to her emotions/needs by her society
>resilient even in the face of a completely hostile world
yepโฆ
just remembered transmisogyny exists ๐๐ญ๐ฅบโฆ so fucked up ๐โน๏ธโฆ just to let u know im single btw dollsโฆ so messed up what they do to youโฆ ๐ก
simultaneously, if a 16 year old lesbian calls men ugly online, perhaps we maybe ignore that comment instead of signalboosting it, followed by considering maybe NOT sending her death threats. perhaps.
the reason i talk about this- i oversexualised myself before i had the language of transness. it is fucking misery. serving yourself up as an acceptable type of degraded oversexualised feminine person for patriarchal consumption fucked me up for ages and we shouldnt encourage it.
@TheGayChingy
holy fuck ive written so much about how much this angers me just let me have some silly little fun playing make believe whilst getting railed like ?!?
have been informed its for cutting eggs. crazy that they invented a device specifically for torturing closeted trans women. c1s people are suck fucksโฆ
a lot of tgirls end up thinking the only way to pass is to be beautiful and hyperfem and dress to impress but the disappointing truth is that being mid with a passing female voice is the easier way
not all femboys are trans, not all trans people were femboys, but regardless of identity we should be *analysing this stuff to help people*. the goal of the social critique is not cruelty, its understanding, and being cruel to any man just for being feminine is disgusting.
diy. now. idc if medically supervised hrt doesnt get banned, you need to know how before its too late. this is to everyone, but especially the us and uk given our recent events.
@Aliceinwunderl3
talk to other girlies about dumb shit you enjoy or wax lyrical about how annoying society is or some bullshit yk. i Certainly dont really enjoy talking to ppl whose initial reason to even reach out was just horny or jealous or โgoalsโ or w/e
fyi this post is about non british people, hence the airquotes. its about visibility, mainly online. ive met many strong trans women in my time who weather the storm, not conventionally attractive but their beauty shines through their souls.
โthird gendersโ are rarely treated with equality, and often serve a function to Other trans people, esp transfeminine identities. they are often not True Nonbinary identities and instead used to shape transsexuals into a form that their cissexual societies can accept
@robin_glomps_u
@CISFAKER
genuinely? dont copy words, or vowels, from voice training. work from exercise examples/paper instructions to develop your resonance+vocal weight to be lighter, and your pitch to be where you want it, and for example voices to think about use ones of your preferred accent.
@peachmilfshake
@Pupperdoon
plus when you give up sincerity and directness you also stand to build resentment for no reason. the โyou dont careโ line is so fucking annoying because yeah, it will feel like nobody helps you if you never Just Ask them?!?
@bloomfilters
@starfader
i equally think its important not to turn a blind eye to how the way feminity is perceived in men also affects trans women. because the general attitudes of scapegoating feminine expression and aesthetics does impact us.
yknow, if we are vagueposting about this.
@furiousnor1
@saltysauerkraut
if someone in a healthy scene used their safeword that pretty instantly makes one Not Into It anymore and stop. like the consent is the whole point its like the same kinda thing as watching a movie; a way to explore feelings (in this case kinks) in a SAFE environment.