My son just handed me the post today in tears. There was a letter addressed to "The parents of 'deadname'" unbelievably from Tavistock. The gender clinic we are supposed to trust with the care of our child. Because that wasn't bad enough, they ....
As a parent of a trans child I have never been more furious than I am right now. How the fuck can a study that started with 44 children, was not double blind, where only 8 out of the 44 filled out the survey be good enough for the NHS to stop prescribing puberty blockers 1/
My son has just found out his new teacher is the LGBTQ lead, which sounds good when your son is trans until you remember she is the one who insisted she needed to send a letter out to all the parents to make sure no one had an issue with their child sharing a room with him ...
Included a separate letter that I am supposed to give to him, explaining the utter mess that is trans health care and they addressed that to his dead name also. My sons NHS records have been fully changed and he has a new NHS number, the fact they did this...
Is utterly disgraceful. I am in a parents group and it would appear this is very common. I literally have no hope that my child will get proper support through the NHS.
So in fairness to Tavistock, it turns out it didn’t come from them, it came from NHS England. Have raised a complaint with them, let’s hope they take it seriously.
Just to be clear, if you come here to be abusive or attack my parenting skills, don't bother, I automatically hide and block. Your views are irrelevant.
I emailed
@Mermaids
when my son was very young, feeling a little stupid because I was sure his insistence that he was a boy was a phase. The response I got was kind and supportive, they didn’t try to persuade me either way, they advised me to simply listen and show him love. 1/
at residential and insisted it was the right thing to do according to her LGBTQ training. She has been swerving all my requests for a meeting and she announced to him today their new class name will be Harry Potter themed. The next year is going to be fun.
Should also say that thanks to the wonderful
@Mermaids_Gender
who listened to me cry down the phone for over an hour about it, sent me loads of helpful information that forced the school to back down.
whilst tens of good quality research studies that show the effectives were dismissed due to not being double blind? Who would allow their distressed trans child to take part in a double blind study? It would be utterly unethical and pointless given the fact the child would 2/
Awful woman in swimming changing rooms told me yesterday my 9 year old son should be in the men's changing room, im not sure she was prepared for me to laugh. 2 and a half years from transitioning my son still smiles when people say things like this to him.
know fairly quickly they had a placebo when their puberty continued. Puberty is not subtle. The review is absolute bs, they knew at the start what they wanted the outcome to be and everything since then was about proving their point. Meanwhile my happy confident child 3/
medical treatment that they need because the government are a bunch of hateful greedy corrupt people who will say or do anything that rich billionaires tell them to do with no care for the devastation it causes. I’m officially done with this shitty awful country. 5/
will be forced through a puberty that even talking about it is so distressing. I had to sit him down today and explain what is happening for the first time and I cannot begin to explain how heartbreaking that was. How the fuck do you explain to a child that they won’t get the 4/
For the transphobes turning up to attack and tell me all the ways I'm a bad parent, don't waste your time, I hide replies and block instantly. My child's life is not up for debate.
Thanks to
@sajidjavid
I have been asked twice today if my child has been sexually abused, purely because he is trans. I can't live in this country anymore, where is a good country for trans people to live?
Utterly astonished to hear LGB Alliance, a hate group that support and campaigned to keep conversion therapy legal were given funding by
#NationalLottery
. Legitimising an organisation that targets trans children is disgraceful.
@TNLUK
At no point, ever, has anyone tried to persuade me on what action I should take, they haven’t frightened me into any type of treatment for my son, they haven’t said or done anything inappropriate, they just simply listen and offer advice. The way Mermaids are portrayed 3/
I took this advice, still sure it was a phase that would pass. It never did. Over the years I have called Mermaids multiple times, sometimes just for someone to talk to, other times for practical advice on how to change his name or how to handle school residential 2/
is just simply lies and bares no resemblance to any of my experiences or those of the other parents I have spoken to. It is nothing short of an anti-trans campaign aimed at stopping trans children and parents getting the support we desperately need. Neither Mermaids or Susie 4/
deserve this campaign of hate and I have nothing but respect for all involved that somehow despite this constant vitriol they keep going and they keep supporting families like mine. 4/4
The transphobes constantly tell me my trans son will never be able to compete against the 'real boys' at swimmimg. Meanwhile my son just won another 3 races against those 'real boys' taking his total wins to 25.
@hasrock36
That is awful, im so sorry they put you through that. Its so bad that the one part of the NHS that you think would make an effort to get it right, get it so horribly wrong. I have made a complaint this morning, hopefully others will too.
Just pulled my child of the NHS waiting list for gender services after 4 years of waiting for help. It is truly awful that I have to pull him off that list to protect him from harm. When Hilary Cass is trying to persuade the Scottish government not to ban conversion therapy…
Why is no one paying attention to the horrific way this government are treating trans children? It’s impossible to get any help, 4 years my son was on NHS waiting list before we pulled him off to keep him from harm. Banned from receiving the meds he needs, social service…
@ImWatson91
@womensmarch
How many times a day do you ask this question? Do you not understand the answer or are you continually hoping for a different one?
As a parent of a trans child, let me be clear, the only person who will make decisions on my child’s transition is my child. Not the government or teachers. As a director of a church practicing conversion therapy, we see through your desperate need to hurt those who are trans.
The so-called ‘gender guidance’ for schools will only succeed if it meets two tests:
1. Does it shift the burden for making complex legal and medical decisions about ‘transitioning’ children away from schools and teachers and onto the Department for Education? 1/1
@JulieMontoya20
I phoned the complaints line this morning and raised a formal complaint. Part of that was that I wanted them to resend the letter in the correct name. I'm so furious they did that to him.
Utterly disgusted that
@TheGreenParty
has done nothing to tackle the escalating public transphobia/homophobia of Shahrar Ali despite promises to tackle transphobia within the party. Apparently he does not take kindly to his behaviour being pointed out to his boss.
@AlanaFeral
I love this, thank you for sharing. My son is trans, since he transitioned he is the happiest most confident child who swims for his team and is thriving at school, how can that be wrong?
Over the moon to hear how upset James Esses is that Childline volunteers tell children their pronouns and ask theirs. A while ago I complained to Childline/NSPCC after they continually misgendered my son throughout a call which left him quite distressed.1/
If you ever were in doubt as to who the anti-trans GC crowd are check
#JKRLadiesLunch
. Middle age + white women drinking champagne complaining about how unfair their lives are.
If you are coming here to be abusive or tell me all the ways in which I should be punished, don’t waste your time, I always hide and block. Life is too short to interact with bigots.
Yesterday I was full of rage about the Cass review but it comes from a fear of how dangerous this world feels for my son. Today I couldn’t be more grateful. I have the most amazing, confident and happy child. I have taught him how to be resilient and today he reminded me 1/
@AidanCTweets
He encouraged his followers earlier this year to find out where a lovely guy on here works, which they did. They then bombarded his employers with so much lies and vile accusations about him and forced him off Twitter. He is an utterly vile bully.
Feel utterly sick catching up with Mermaids vs LGBA, seeing Akua Reindorf, a commissioner for
@EHRC
, who is the LGBA barrister, using terms like transing the gay away.
and suggesting anti-depressants for gender dysphoria, what choice do I have? We have conversion therapists training staff at the clinics and conversion therapists involved in the review. It makes me feel utterly sick that this has been allowed to happen.
@caroline131212
@BenInLDN
I would imagine the majority of other children and parents would feel horrified that trans children are being traumatised at school. Most decent people don't set out to cause harm to minority groups.
@mech_mouse
@mermaids
I’m just so fed up of the lies. I worry that one day they will have enough and close the charity because I don’t know how anyone can operate under this amount of hatred. I genuinely don’t know what I would have done without them. And thank you for your kind words.
@CarlaGand
It really does make our lives better. My son doesn't want me to talk about his worries around this so I can't go into it but life is so much easier for us when we have this option.
@MillieCorner2
As a parent of a trans child, I completely agree with everything you have said. It's disgusting that your daughter is suffering due to the hatred of others. She is lucky to have such a fantastic, supportive Mum.
@hydropotato_
Yep, same old recycled abuse. What makes me laugh is that they spew such hatred and abuse whilst patting themselves on the back and telling themselves they are the good guys.
So despite the fact Tavi assured me that my son is on the waiting list and should be seen quicker I find out today that they are refusing to see any new children. No other clinics have been set up so over 5000 trans children have no where to get help. 1/
@KateronaBiscuit
He is too old and it’s inappropriate apparently. We are away for a few days without my husband, not normally an issue as the pool we go to at home has unisex changing. Oddly I was just talking about this very issue with someone the other day.
@fuckcisiety
@nyx_nyx_nyx_666
My son is trans and just got selected for the squad at his swimming club last night and will soon compete for the first time. Talking to his coach last night about regulations and he shrugged and said, he is a boy.
@keogh1992x
The cubicles are fully enclosed and the hand washing area is open to the corridor. Considering the amount of bullying that goes on in school toilets this is far safer for all children.
I sent an email to NSPCC who replied very quickly and were apologetic and asked me for permission to take my sons experience to a regional event. I am so happy that lessons have been learned and they are taking these steps to make the call more comfortable for trend kids. /3
@BloodWulker
My son is trans, is the happiest most confident boy and thriving at school. A very talented competitive swimmer who has tons of friends who fully accept him. He says he was sad his whole life until he transitioned. I cannot think about how he would be if he hadn't come out.
@IndiaWilloughby
@daniellismore
My son has socially transitioned, no one in the NHS will be telling me that’s wrong but the threats of being reported to social services are terrifying. Doing exactly what world experts suggest could have my son taken from me. I would go to jail but I can’t have my son removed.
@AidanCTweets
I do but I will need to check with him to make sure he is OK with them being used. He was really shaken up by it and I don't want to stir it all up again for him.
The call was unrelated to my son being transgender so they were unaware, however the impact of assuming his gender and the fact my son felt unable to correct them meant he has said he will never call them again. /2
supportive people who are so proud of the young man he is becoming. The abusive comments I have been getting all day mean nothing when I look at how happy my child is. To all the trans people and families who follow me, you are all amazing people and we will get through this.
@RevDaniel
My son got called gay recently. The adults who heard pulled the child aside to tell him off. My child was wholly unconcerned because he had no idea that anyone would think being called gay is a slur and was just confused because he isn't. I love this generation of kids.
@womensmarch
@BrodieMH
Its crazy that some women hate trans people so much that they are getting angry at you saying we should keep all women safe from violence.
threats if we go private. Unlawful guidance that gives permission for teachers and children to bully him, stop him from going to residential and even using toilets, now children are being banned from even learning he exists and if they do know they are to be told his gender…
@TonyGoldSE
I used to phone them on a weekly basis but that is utterly pointless now. I'm so angry that I csnt even bring myself to read the full letter.
@RondaSantis2
His name has been legally changed for 3 years. His deadname shouldn't even be anywhere on his records. That's ehat is making me even angrier.
@lacroicsz
Yes some people detransition and yes to some it wasn’t the right choice for some however there are nearly 13 million children in the UK and about 4000 kids on the waiting list for GIDS which is 0.03 ish percent of children, hardly the explosion you are making it out to be.
he genuinely doesn’t care what people people think of him, he is happy and comfortable with who he is. 4 years after transitioning he didn’t have a clue about all of this hatred that is happening, because he doesn’t come across it in his life. He is surrounded by loving 2/
@MillieCorner2
Last night I was going to delete my twitter account because I am so fed up of all the hatred and nastiness but I use twitter for the same reasons as you and your tweet reminded me why I do it, so thank you.
@piotralexb
With help from Mermaids I got them to back down and it didnt happen in the end. I would definitely have been speaking to a lawyer if it had happened.
@nadiajonz
@IndiaWilloughby
@PerkyWarbeck
@jk_rowling
I have a son who is trans and he is the happiest kindest most confident boy since he transitioned. He is thriving in school, is surrounded by friends and is a successful competitive swimmer. You won't hear this from the likes of Joanne as it doesn't fit the narrative.
identity is highly contested. Children won’t even be able to speak privately to their teachers about being trans because the government is forcing teachers to disclose to parents regardless of the possible harms that a transphobic parent could inflict. It is absolutely barbaric
Bev Jackson claimed that multiple doctors approached them now we hear it was Dr David Bell and the rest is hearsay. Their whole theory on transing the gay away comes from 1 doctor who has NEVER worked with trans patients.
and no one seems to care. If cis children were being treated this way there would be a massive uproar but because it’s trans children no one cares. No one in the media reporting these stories is talking about how incredibly harmful these policies are, the public are largely…
@SarahLudford
@Twitter
For 24 hours now you have been presented with evidence from LGBTQ people that the LGBA are an anti trans group and your response, as a supposed ally, is to tell them they are wrong, mute them, continually retweet transphobic accounts and then claim to be the victim.
ignoring the issue and constantly I see people on here, celebs and people well known say they won’t talk about gender issues because they get hate if they do. How lucky they are to have that choice meanwhile my child’s human rights are being stripped away day by day.
How is this acceptable behaviour from a member of the house of Lords? This is the third time she has quote retweeted me with name calling and suggesting my child doesn't exist.
@MavenOfMayhem
My son is 9 and transitioned 2 years ago. He is the happiest most confident boy and is thriving . He is an incredibly talented swimmer and swims for his club, his little face lights up when he gets to compete with other boys. He knows who he is and I'm a proud Mum.
@MForstater
How can you look at that and be more concerned about the language rather than the fact that our right to decide what happens to our body is being removed?
@Baroness_Nichol
You're a disgrace. The lies and misinformation about a charity who help trans children when many others won't get involved is disgusting.
@Sheisinformed
@Emini_Sir_Kay
@PopCrave
81 female players are refusing to play again until he is fired, I would say that is a fairly huge sign they are uncomfortable with this.
@helenstaniland
@Nike
Oh behave, there are and have been hundreds of Nike bra adverts featuring cis women of all ages and sizes. There has been one that features a trans women, who need and wear sports bras too. Of all the things in the world to be angry about this is pathetic.
@IndiaWilloughby
Even if this is true, wouldn't you get your daughter help if she is making herself ill not going into a toilet? I would be concerned for her mental health rather than boasting about it online.
@VMMChamberlain
@swklibdems
@LGBTLD
@LdnLGBTQCentre
@LondonLibDems
There is not even an ounce of decency with these people. They can't even accept how their behaviour could have such a negative impact. Can you imagine the outrage if a group turned up to behave in this way supporting trans rights?
My son has a hospital appointment next week, we have received a letter stating that we have to prove we are British Citizens and entitled to treatment otherwise they will report us to the Home Office. Is everyone getting this? Have never been asked to prove I'm British before.
We are in a position where we can take him private, however given the NHS are stating anyone who takes their child to the 1 and only clinic should be referred to social services, its a frightening prospect 2/
My son will be going through puberty soon and no one can help us. The GP is fab but cant do anything, there is literally no help available. What the fuck are we supposed to do? 3/
@LastRainbowFlag
@patrick_ness
Wow, as a parent of a trans child, I had no idea that I had that amount of power, I guess I missed that lesson. Hmm which organisation shall I paralyse first?
@charlottemm23
@mermaids
It’s so shocking to see this awful narrative being spread when you know it’s complete lies, isn’t it? Hope your youngest is doing well ❤️
Having kicked off, I had a call back to say they can't cope anymore and there is nothing they can do. New clinics are not up and running and it's going to be more than 6 months before that's even a possibility. Im so beyond angry the NHS thinks this is in anyway acceptable.
@lacroicsz
Secondly, the largest survey ever done in this area shows that allowing children to transition decreases their chances of dying by suicide by 40%.