‘Supporting the Transition from Breastfeeding: A Guide to Weaning for Professionals, Supporters and PARENTS’ covers self-weaning, weaning in an emergency, weaning under 12m, weaning a ‘booby monster’ and much more.
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Today, when I was walking with my 18 yr old son we talked about the concept that, ‘one day I carried him for the last time’. That idea you put a young child down & never pick them up again. We decided that was unacceptable so I gave him a piggy back for 20 yds.
Nice to see Katherine Ryan breastfeeding with a glass of wine on Instagram. It matters because message of abstinence during breastfeeding is out there with lack of evidence. Mums wean early, not because they love alcohol, but because they want to be normal with friends & family.
@rosstmiller
Birth. Waters break in inconvenient location. Rush to hospital. Much screaming giving birth lying down about 40 minutes later. In reality, fewer than 10% of births start with waters breaking. And when it does, everyone thinks, “Did I just pee myself, because that’s not unlikely.”
I am Stanley. I am required to rub myself on this bush whenever I pass by.
There is no ‘in a hurry’.
If my owner was being chased by zombies, I would still be required to rub myself on this bush as I pass by.
Just met a lovely secondary school teacher who is a new mum. When she returns to work next year there is a FREE CRÈCHE ON SITE at her secondary school. Her feelings about returning are utterly different as a result. Employers, you could have employees who feel like this too!!
Excited to say I have signed a contract to write a book. Working title: “Supporting Breastfeeding past the first 6 months & beyond: a guide for professionals and parents”.
The plan is to NORMALISE breastfeeding older babies and children and offer information and support.
Major London hospital accepts tongue tie referrals ONLY FOR BABIES EXCLUSIVELY FED ON BREAST MILK.
Hmm, what could possibly be some of the barriers that mean a baby who needs a tongue tie procedure may not be fed breast milk exclusively? It’s such a puzzle.
I would love to be in on the
@Specsavers
PR team Zoom call this morning. Someone just said, “I vote we do nothing at all and just sit back for 48hrs and let the memes roll in.” And they tossed their pen down with dramatic flourish.
#DominicStays
Some Saturday night breastfeeding trivia: Julie Andrews was a breastfeeding mum while filming ‘Mary Poppins’ in 1964 with baby Emma visiting her on set.
There are are generation of mothers whose children are about to turn 3 who really need support. They are negotiating boundaries, ending breastfeeding, sleep issues and feeling more isolated than new parents usually do. Many struggle to have a ‘village’ but this is often extreme.
A question for those who have been following
@nationaltrust
conversation.
Please LIKE this tweet if you are prepared to end your NT membership because of HiPP partnership as is (without a satisfactory resolution).
OR if you were going to start a new membership & now won’t.
If you’re a billionaire & you invest in lab-produced breastmilk but don’t invest equivalent or greater sums in supporting those who want to breastfeed, you:
1. Have an ethical problem.
2. Don’t understand breastfeeding.
3. Don’t understanding environmental impact of breastfeeding
When you say, “just stop breastfeeding for 24hrs...”
You may be subjecting parent & baby to the most upsetting 24hrs OF THEIR LIVES.
You may be risking physical pain.
You may be risking future breastfeeding & supply.
You are revealing your ignorance about what breastfeeding IS.
The sea of flowers thing feels weird. It’s essentially a pile of money that goes rotten. I wish there were more valuable ways to spend £20. We need a national, “please no flowers but donations to…”
Do you know that American Academy of Paediatrics recommends no babies under 6m are given water?
In the U.K., we have a major TV prog suggesting breastfed babies are! (
@GMB
)
Against advice of NHS & every health org.
Breastfed babies under 6m should never be given water to drink.
@AgentSmith34
@MajorTomCom
@rosstmiller
Yes, and when their boss is killed why don’t they say, “Sod it. He’s dead. I’m done. We’ve no beef with you personally, Keanu. We’ll be on our way now.”
It looks like the National Trust has not renewed their financial arrangement with a formula company. No longer listed as a partner. Not mentioned in reference to planting trees. This will be for various reasons but conversations with infant feeding orgs may have helped.
As we enter the 25th hour of the stand-off, the situation is tense. Estimates of how many times family members have walked past this roll edge into double figures.
Some babies will be fed in public for the very first time soon after months of being at home. The reality for the vast majority is warmth, support and acceptance. You can do it.
#FeedOn
#breastfeeding
Dear
@KLM
@KLM_UK
Thousands & thousands have seen your messages in last few days where you prioritise a hypothetical anti-breastfeeding person ahead of comfort & needs of a baby. It has gone viral and infected your reputation as an airline. You’re going to leave it like this?
“The only time you should stop breastfeeding is when you feel like it.” Yes! Chaneen Saliee speaking at the UK Black Breastfeeding Week event.
#BlackBreastfeedingWeek
As an ex-primary school teacher, the bit that REALLY mystified me was Reception & Y1 back first. Highest staff ratio, pupils least likely to cope with social distancing & hand washing, most adults needed for drop-off, close physical support common from adults.
#schoolsreopening
Don’t claim to be a supporter of breastfeeding if you can’t talk about stopping breastfeeding & bottles. It’s like teaching someone to drive but never mentioning brake/ handbrake/ parking. There are many ways to be a breastfeeding family and it’s our duty to support all of them.
So incredibly honoured to be awarded the 2022 outstanding contribution to breastfeeding at the
@LCGB1994
conference. The past winners include many of my heroes. Thank you anyone who had the idea. I’ll do my best to live up to it!
Breastfed Babies/ children often need feeds at night for 1-2 years or longer. Because <newsflash> breastfeeding isn’t just food delivery. May be contact/ cuddles/ connection (not hunger) & that’s OK. You can’t support responsive feeding & push ‘night feeds are bad’ after X mths.
That question, “Is he a good baby?” Don’t we all love it? I was once asked that about my son. He was in a sling on my back at about 13 months. I replied, “Well, he could be smoking crack back there and I wouldn’t necessarily know. You tell me.” Blank expression.
A 15 year study of 7,223 dyads showed the impact of breastfeeding (for as little as 4 months) on reducing likelihood of emotional and physical abuse. It may not create ‘perfect parents’ but it can help break cycles of trauma.
#bfconf
Know anyone who training as a midwife or health visitor? On 6th September, I’m offering a free hour’s training on early breastfeeding problems. You can get zoom link here:
A midwifery lecturer told me it was one of the best sessions she had ever attended.
Dear HV, this mum cared about breastfeeding & you didn’t feel that was important. I hope you answered her questions & directed her to support. I hope you could do that for the other mothers in your busy day. For many, it matters greatly.
So how many times have you seen headlines referencing a government fight against obesity? How many of those mentioned infant feeding & nutrition for under 5s? I’ve seen more references to junk food advertising on TV in last 24hrs, than infant feeding mentions in last 24 weeks.
Motion to rename “separation anxiety”. A phrase that describes a normal little person experience when healthy bonds with caregivers exist, described through the lens of 20th century focus on detachment. Parents dealing with it think they’ve done something wrong but far from it.
You know what, Dear Daily Mail, it doesn’t feel like tyranny when you desperately want to breastfeed and you’re sat in hospital googling ‘how to latch your baby’ because all the midwives are rushed off their feet & there’s no infant feeding support.
A huge sadness today is the loss of Alison Thewliss
@alisonthewliss
from Westminster. She was/ is dedicated to supporting families. She was a rare voice in support of breastfeeding but also fair pricing & support for formula feeding families. She support vulnerable people..
The mess made by just 15ml of milk (3 teaspoons worth) with a 20 pence piece for scale. Enough to completely soak the front of a babygro. I bet I’m not the only lactation consultant to purposely spill milk to reassure mums worrying about spit-up. Certainly not ‘the whole feed’.
#WBW2020
“Support Breastfeeding for a healthier planet”
NOT ‘Breastfeed for a healthier planet’
NOT about individuals (choice often stolen by lack of support.)
Nor those who choose not to (their call).
A call to govs, health services, society to support those who want to.
Breastfeeding is a way of mothering. If you lose it, you don’t just lose a way of ‘delivering milk’. It’s not relevant to talk about ‘at least baby is fed’ when mothers may be grieving losing the way they thought they would care/respond to baby.
@Prof_AmyBrown
#bfconf
Is there a ‘breastfeeding granny award’? Mum says, “I might still do a bottle to give me a rest. Not sure.” Lovely granny says, “When you feel a bit more sorted, the breastfeed itself is a rest! A nice sit-down. Break from rushing around.”
I have copies of a book! Available for pre-order now from Waterstones and other good and evil bookshops. Coming out in April: “Supporting breastfeeding past the first six months and beyond: a guide for professionals and parents.”
#breastfeeding
#ibclc
#supportingpastfirst6m
I’m seeing breastfeeding as part of family life all over the TV at the moment. The fab
@helenaworthingt
on Googlebox, an
@AldiUK
ad and a Sainsbury clothing ad has it going on too. Can only help normalise. Thank you.
My annual ‘we’re with you’ message to people worried about comments about why you are STILL breastfeeding or why you are breastfeeding SO MUCH from relatives. It’s called parenting. It’s called responsive feeding. Follow your heart and your child’s. You rock. You are not alone.
We know antenatal education impacts on
#breastfeeding
. This needs to include education of our 14 year olds, our 10 year olds and our 5 year olds. ‘ANTE’ by many years or even decades.
#bfconf
Continuing
#breastfeeding
isn’t always noble/ precious/ sacrosanct.
Sometimes it’s the lazy people who carry on bfing & all power to them.
Sometimes it’s easier not to stop. It helps toddlers sleep. It calms nurslings.
Not all those who continue are card-carrying advocates.
And I don’t know a single IBCLC or breastfeeding counsellor who likes the term ‘Breast is Best’. Not. One. It was created because it bloody rhymed. And breast as not ‘normal’ had a useful purpose.
Dear Microsoft, when I use the word ‘attachment’ in an email, it’s very likely I’m talking about nipples and babies and I’ve not forgotten to attach a document. Thanks.
Dear
@nationaltrust
I’m a paid-up member but I’m also professionally required to abide by the WHO International Code (). Your new commercial partnership with HiPP has put me in a very difficult position. Boundaries around milk promotion?
If you are doing your first school run + baby:
1. Offer a feed before you go. Responsive feeding means sometimes you can take the lead.
2. Try a sling.
3. If they get upset, you WILL be OK. They may settle once you’re outside & you are moving. If they don’t, you’ll still be OK.
You know this message about listening to women re:health? Breastfeeding & infant feeding support is part of this. If you think it’s about choice (which is usually stolen), an easy cut or an optional extra - you are simply ignorant to the struggles of thousands.
#womenshealth
Infants aged 6-12 months, only 21.1% did not wake at all. Waking at night is normal. Feeding at night is biological normal. ‘Counting’ night waking is not normal through human history.
#holisticsleepconf19
Mother/baby are one patient. The parent/baby dyad cannot be separated and should be treated together. It’s not about adult services AND child services but joint services.
@SHanciles
#bfconf
Published by
@pinterandmartin
in March 2019. The Breast Book - for 9-14yr olds. …
This book tells you all about breasts and helps you to feel confident about their arrival. It’s the WHEN, WHY and HOW of breasts.
How worrying it is when a breastfeeding group announces a ‘ban’ on babies over 12 months. What messages does it send to 2nd time parents who may also struggle & have no childcare? Those breastfeeding older children already feeling isolated but have so much to offer?
With the algorithm these days, only 3 people will see this but, ‘hey, 3 people! My new book on ending breastfeeding is out today!’ Thank you!
Supporting the Transition from Breastfeeding: A Guide to Weaning for Professionals, Supporters and Parents
What is it about weddings? When you demand a friend attend your wedding without a baby you are potentially giving them months of stress. Many times I have supported a new mum in the first few days of parenthood and something she is worried about is a wedding which is months off.
Ever saying, ‘tummy to mummy’ when discussing positioning? That doesn’t work if your nipples point down. A baby might have its tummy facing the sky. Respect the angle of the dangle.
#NBHWMstudyday
First post of Black Breastfeeding Week elicits the predictable, “Is there a white breastfeeding week?”
White people (myself included) are SO USED to be centred that it jars when it doesn’t happen. We must reflect and do better. This is a week for learning, listening & amplifying.
Thought for the day: 98% of 2 year olds are breastfed in western & central Africa (UNICEF). In most high income countries, it’s <5%.
We have parents feeling isolated here (& confused about where to access to support). And neighbourhoods elsewhere on the planet full of experts.
I was gearing myself up for possibility of public humiliation but thankfully I passed my IBCLC exam (with a higher score than 10 years ago, as it should be). Makes next year (with a book out and speaking at
@GOLDLactation
) a bit easier! Good luck to everyone waiting for results.
‘The best toy for a baby is an adult face. It’s squashy and hard and furry and makes noises.’ Conversations around the importance of emotional/ psychological development of baby alongside physical development at ‘What the U.K. thinks about the Early Years’ presentation.
Heard from an infant feeding specialist who is NHS employed & works in community. Spends 1-2 hours in a patient’s home. But not getting the vaccine like her maternity colleagues as she is not considered ‘front line’. Breastfeeding support devalued yet again.
Son of lactation consultant: I'm giving a presentation on the microbiome in biology.
Me: OOOOh! Are you.....
Son: <raises hand to stop me> YES! I've even got a oligosaccharides slide.
Sometimes you get a history of mum sent to you prior to a consultation and you read about the weeks of battles and struggles and determination and you think:
You, madam, are bloody amazing.
That is all.
#ibclc
Yorkshire shepherdess Amanda Owen in The Guardian: “it made far more sense to have baby with me and a constant supply of warm milk that was basically under my jumper.”
#breastfeeding
Talking about
#breastfeeding
positioning?
‘Tummy to tummy’ or ‘tummy to mummy’ are problematic phrases.
Some breasts hang low/nipples point down. Baby’s tummy may point towards sky! We want untwisted body & ear/shoulder/hip in alignment.
Respect the angle of the dangle.
Same survey: 66% of women who breastfed their baby say it was one of the best parts of being a mother. Article also forgot to mention cuts to services & instead made the focus on individual mothers ‘failing’. Mothers need support!!! Write that.
I’m repeatedly seeing comments from those who offer support to new parents online saying that Zoom fatigue is a real problem. It’s not working to keep everything online. After months, people are craving human contact and virtual groups are not the answer to everything.
A shout-out today to all those with babies & school age children. When your house is emptier, and it’s just you and baby, don’t feel you should be ‘doing more’. It’s OK to have space to just be with your baby. This IS achieving and doing. You’ve just had a full-on few months.
I know parents who don’t have anyone they can say, “I’m tired” to. It just provokes discussions about their parenting choices.
You can co-sleep, breastfeed older children and you are allowed to complain.
It doesn’t mean you regret how you are parenting.
You know the world of breastfeeding is in a difficult place where we get excited in 2022 about a major medical organization finally agreeing breastfeeding until 2 years *may* be a good idea.
I just posted this on Instagram and a NICU nurse told a story of a mum pouring colostrum down the sink because it was yellow and “infected”. I regularly hear of mums pouring milk away because it looks ‘clumpy/ separated/ a weird colour’.
So let’s recap. The NHS have committed to UNICEF Baby Friendly in the long term plan. The BFI includes an expectation of WHO code compliance & understanding of conflict of interest issues. The BRITISH JOURNAL OF MIDWIFERY organises a conference with formula company sponsorship.
Just remembered I swore allegiance to the queen when I was a brownie. I promised to “serve the queen” 😳 I expect a significant chunk of the population have done similar at some point. I was 8.
The article says, “The other alternative is formula.”
No.
@guardian
. You are missing efforts to increase access to screened human milk. Meet
@milk_foundation
Where is the interview with the breast milk researcher? Meet
@DrNShenker
A mother told to not breastfeed for 24 hours because she was given one dose of an antibiotic which is completely compatible with breastfeeding. I estimate that could have been checked in under 20 seconds & saved a family considerable distress.
#breastfeeding
If you are an academic lecturer (with an email address to match) and you think my book on supporting breastfeeding past 6 months might be suitable for your course, I can arrange to send you a free digital PDF copy. Please DM your email address.
#ibclc
#breastfeeding
“Do not deny that breastfeeding is difficult and try to sell ‘easy’. Embrace the difficult - show women the personal pride and sense of accomplishment that comes from breastfeeding, just like running a marathon or scaling a mountain.”
@iamKSealsAllers
I'm tired of meeting young women who can't pronounce 'areola', who think Montgomery's glands are blocked ducts, who don't know breast tissue goes up into their armpit. It's important to know about FGM, STIs, but I refuse to believe there wasn't space for breasts in RSE guidance.
I just changed my bio from chair of
@AssocBfMothers
to volunteer with. After 10 yrs, it’s time for fresh faces/ voices to take a lead. I will stay as a BFC & part of the marking team. The
@AssocBfMothers
is a brilliant organization made up of passion & expertise & commitment (1)
Breastfeeding peeps, the government is asking us a question: “How can we do more to support mothers to breastfeed?” We have until the 19th of October to answer them. Let’s not waste this opportunity:
This morning, I’m picturing the mother of 2 who was 38 weeks pregnant when I last saw her in March. Had no clue who would care for her children when she went in labour. Probably her husband so she would give birth alone. She wasn’t going to use her parents of course.
#BooToBoris
The new guidance specifically mentions again new parents as a group in need. They cannot be forgotten in this new lockdown. Health visitors cannot be redeployed. Face-to-face support should be available where ever possible. And it often is.
#2ndLockdown
If a staff member goes out into a car park to harass a mother like this, they are going to need one heck of a training session. What training will you provide,
@sainsburys
? We’d really like details. And who provides it?
#breastfeeding
What’s all this ‘stop moaning, students!’ bollocks. I would have been terrified as a fresher & so so lonely.
Haven’t we progressed beyond the ‘you can’t be sad because there are people worse off than you’ argument? Empathy isn’t finite.
A breastfeeding parent wants to buy wipes with
@BootsUK
. She is forcibly given a bottle. She doesn’t want it. She can’t remove the ‘free gift’. Is this how you roll,
@BootsUK
? If you don’t care about breastfeeding, how about the waste of plastic?
#plasticwaste
#breastfeeding
I would build a bonfire made from all the LACTATION COOKIES eaten by those who didn’t get effective breastfeeding support & reassurance about how milk production works and just got the cookie message.
Cookies are nice.
Deception cookies are not nice.
#breastfeeding
There’s a new resource on the
@AssocBfMothers
website specifically written for GPs. Written by GP Dr Naomi Dow,
@LittleDoctorVic
and myself. Please share.
Tomorrow morning I’m going to be on
@BBCWomansHour
on Radio 4 talking about parenting through puberty, body development and (I-don’t-imagine-this-is-shocking-news) the need for open conversations about BREASTS.