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Maddy Focus

@maddyhd_

5 months

What is something you could talk about for 45 minutes with absolutely no preparation?

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Maddy Focus

@maddyhd_

5 months

The worst thing about #adhd is having all these dreams of what your life could be, But none of the executive functioning to achieve it.

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@maddyhd_

4 months

I have #audhd burnout. Ever since December: I'm tired every day. I never feel like I've "woken up" despite getting adequate sleep. I've experimented with coffee/ other stimulants and I can't seem to shake the exhaustion. My ideal weekend is laying in bed, where before it was

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@maddyhd_

6 months

My family calls me peculiar... Because I notice the: - seams of my clothing on my skin - texture of the 3rd bite of banana in my mouth - sound of an appliance, like the humming of the fridge - flickering light bulb that you swear isn't flickering and so much more...

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@maddyhd_

5 months

One of the most damaging phrases for someone with #adhd is, "if you wanted it badly enough, you would do it"

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Being #neurodivergent is exhausting. I spend more time thinking about conversations than having conversations. - Rehearsing in my head over and over and over - Watching YouTube videos on “how to speak to people” - Creating scripts and prepared responses to common questions

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@maddyhd_

4 months

Is it just me or is the portrayal of people w/ autism in western media offensive?

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Idk if this is an #adhd thing, or just a me thing, but I find that I'm a very open-minded person. Like someone will say something that goes against my argument and I'll be like, "hmm that's an interesting point, I could see that"

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@maddyhd_

4 months

I often feel like I’m not “autistic enough” to tell people I’m autistic. Let me explain… I was diagnosed with adhd first. I was given a multi hour adhd assessment by a psychiatrist which consisted of timed tests and memorization tasks. At the end, it was like “finally I know

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@maddyhd_

5 months

I did nothing today... I sat at my computer for 8 hours and couldn't get myself to do anything. Sometimes I really regret stopping medication for my #adhd because today I didn't feel like I was capable of motivating myself to do anything on my own & medication would have

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Idk if this is just a me thing... But if I can sit down and focus on my 1st task in the morning, its a good day. If I procrastinate at all and have a hard time getting started, my whole day is screwed...

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Crazy thing happened... Once I accepted that I would never "fit in" or "be normal", and started embracing my quirks, people started to like me???

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@maddyhd_

5 months

My gut reaction in a professional environment is to over-apologize. “Sorry, didn’t mean to cut you off” “Sorry, that’s what I was trying to say” “Sorry for any confusion, we’re on the same page” “Sorry, I’m still working on that” Is this a #neurodivergent thing?

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Am I insane for wanting to get rid of everything and live in a van?

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@maddyhd_

7 months

What's something that was made for neurotypical people but a total nightmare for those who with #ADHD or #AuDHD ? I'll go first, 30 day return policies.

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Maddy Focus

@maddyhd_

7 months

@ADHDdesigner I don't put my groceries away in a cabinet or pantry. They go directly on the table so I can see them and be reminded to eat them. I've forgotten about so many bags of chips. When I'd clean out my pantry, I'd have to remove like 10 half finished bags lol

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@maddyhd_

4 months

It’s crazy how something as basic as: - getting enough sleep - going on a walk - not drinking - avoiding fast food - putting your phone down Can make you feel so, so much better but still takes intentional effort

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Recently started tracking my stress levels… My partner, neurotypical, 0-12 minutes of high stress a day. Me, #neurospicy , 2-3 HOURS of high stress a day.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@AutisticCallum_ The conversations I have with #adhd folks feel like ping pong matches, in the best way. Bouncing between topics, leaving sentences half-finished, really passionate and detailed explanations. When I speak with someone #nt it feels very flat...

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Someone I considered a "friend" referred to me as an "acquaintance". What's the difference?

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@maddyhd_

5 months

I've been on and off sick for the past 2+ months. And let me just say... It is incredibly hard to get back into every day life. I never fully appreciated my health until I lost it (I know, a cliche)... But after the 2nd time getting sick: - my employer stopped believing me

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@AutisticCallum_ Having to call and speak to someone over the phone is unbelievably taxing. The mental effort working up to it and the anxiety during it, by the end I want to collapse. Thinking specifically when having to call multiple pharmacies and my doctor trying to get my #ADHD meds.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

When you’re #adhd and feel the pressure to be productive at all times but also can’t… So you spend all your time worrying/ punishing yourself. 😒

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@maddyhd_

6 months

"I wish I had lived my own life" Is one of the top 5 biggest regrets of people on their death bed. Are you living your own life?

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Its not a problem with how badly I want to achieve something, its the fact that I can't make a list of steps and execute on it like you can...

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@maddyhd_

4 months

Have you noticed that you are way more fatigued now than before 2020?

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@Imani_Barbarin Sending love to their families 💜 If you ever need help, please text/call the suicide hotline in the United States at 988. Like 911 but 9-8-8. Please save it in your phone for emergencies.

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@maddyhd_

5 months

I spend more time thinking about the past now than the future. I see a lot of peers who have surpassed me and wonder what my life would have been like if I would have done x, y, z. It's painful to imagine what you would be like without your neurodivergence...

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@AutisticCallum_ If you failed at _______, then you will never be able to do it.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

What's something that drives you nuts as someone with #adhd or #autism that the average person wouldn't understand? I'll go first: the seams on clothing 😠

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@maddyhd_

6 months

People have told me that: - they love how unfiltered I am - I have a unique perspective - I’m not afraid to speak my mind I’m just autistic and don’t understand your social norms…..

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@AutisticCallum_ Before I was diagnosed, I was unhappy and definitely not thriving. I didn’t understand why I didn’t “get” social norms and blamed myself. Now that I understand why I am the way I am, I’m way more comfortable in my own skin and I understand my triggers better. Nothing about

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@neuro_lou You missed the collection of water cups on my bedside table 😅

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I just read one of the craziest statistics about people with #ADHD on X/Twitter. Supposedly only 5% of people with ADHD graduate from university?? Has anyone else heard this? Is it true?? Running my own poll to get to the bottom of it:

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I've yet to meet someone with #adhd who is not creative

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@Autistic_Lia Small talk? Terrible. Intentional conversations about specific topics? Great.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@Katywhite1991 People can't taste the difference in Coca Cola?! I think I can taste the difference in plastic bottle/can/glass

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@maddyhd_

6 months

#NotAloneTalk I often feel misunderstood by those closest to me. I jump from interest to interest and make it my entire identity. I realize how it comes off to other people and when I'm explaining my "new thing", they often roll their eyes or laugh, even though I'm being

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I would make a TERRIBLE lawyer

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@AdultingADHD My motivation comes in waves. Hear me out... Some weeks, I can barely get myself to be productive a few hours a day. Everything is hard, I sit at my desk for the same # of hours but the output isn't up to my standard. Other weeks, I'm super motivated, I go above and beyond,

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@maddyhd_

5 months

"YOU'RE TOO MUCH" Our favorite phrase... Its really difficult for me to know when I'm being: - too vulnerable - too needy - too excitable And saying "you're too much" makes me feel rejected... or that I don't get the "social norms" when I'm trying my best.

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@maddyhd_

5 months

It really bothers me as someone who thinks of themselves as happy, accepting, easy going... That I'm also filled with a deep rage when one of these things happen because I know its my #nd and not my demeanor causing it. Do you also feel like 2 totally different people in the

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@Autism1o1

5 months

There are common triggers that can lead some autistic people to experience a meltdown or a shutdown. Do you have any? #AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic image: @littlepuddins .ie

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@FolkyHel I can hear if the fridge isn’t closed correctly from the other room 😅

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@maddyhd_

6 months

All day I'm tired. Yawning, waiting for the moment work is done... And then the *second* I put my head down to sleep, I'm wide awake.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I'm so sorry. But I cannot have a conversation with you over the phone unless: 1. my background is perfectly silent 2. your background is perfectly silent 3. your audio is coming through crystal clear Otherwise, lets just text 😬

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@maddyhd_

5 months

@AutisticCallum_ My entire wardrobe is the same item in multiple colors 😅

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@StructuredSucc I feel this one in my professional life... I have never asked for a raise or negotiated my salary. When I think about if I should, I assume that they would rather fire me than give me more money and that I should be thankful I have a job.

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@maddyhd_

4 months

“cold” and “heartless”

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@drjenwolkin I had so many plans in my head for things to do today but ended up napping/laying around... Am I lazy or exhausted? Maybe both?

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@maddyhd_

5 months

I know I would feel better if I did this one thing but I can’t get myself to do it so it just lives in the back of my mind….

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Hey you, Yeah, you. You made it to the end of the week! It doesn't matter how productive you were or if you accomplished all of the things you set out to do. You made it. You can relax & recharge this weekend. And try better next week. Or not. You're doing your best.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Why do I feel the need to put my thoughts in ( ) when I'm explaining something??

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@AutisticCallum_ The thing that comes to mind for me here is: dress codes. It is incredibly embarrassing to go to an event "under" or "over" dressed. And as someone with a limited wardrobe/ understanding of fashion... Its hard for me to decipher what other people will be wearing unless I

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@maddyhd_

5 months

How people think motivation works: sticks & carrots How motivation actually works: avoidance of pain

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@maddyhd_

5 months

The great thing about being an #empath is that you feel a wide range of emotions. The bag thing about being an #empath is that you feel a wide range of emotions.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I was an extremely shy kid. - I didn't order for myself at restaurants until I went to University. - Girls made fun of me on the soccer team because I didn't talk. - I sat alone at lunch (or preferably in the library). - Sometimes I would come home from school and go

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@HealthyADHD This is why I committed my life to wearing hoodies and messy buns 😅

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@maddyhd_

5 months

What do you do when someone says something you know is factually incorrect?? A. Correct them B. Say nothing C. Agree with them because it’s too awkward to correct them D. ??

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Saying my #adhd brain goes “0 to 100” doesn’t do it justice. It’s more like 0 to a million 😅

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Hey, the world is a better place because you’re in it ❤️

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@Autistic_Lia Yes- I would set up a financial plan, organize the house, respond to the people I’ve been meaning to get back to

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@maddyhd_

5 months

I'm learning to be okay with not being able to do things... Shit happens. Its okay if you didn't try your "best". Life will go on. People are good and want to help. There's always tomorrow.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

People want you to listen, not try to solve their problems. People want you to listen, not try to solve their problems. People want you to listen, not try to solve their problems. People want you to listen, not try to solve their problems. People want you to listen, not try to

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@elliemidds As soon as an educator tells a parent your kid is: "smart but not applying themselves" that should be a signal they are #nd

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Nothing could be going on and then BOOM I’m overstimulated and the world feels like it’s falling apart.

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@AdultAuDHD My favorite part is if you have noise cancelling headphones on you're "rude"

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@maddyhd_

6 months

You're telling me, the average person, goes into social interactions without preprepared conversation topics?

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I’ve learned (over many trials and errors) that I can’t give my brain an inch. - no tiktok videos - no gambling - no candy - no online shopping - no snooze buttons - no ________ Once I’ve engaged in an activity, it is incredibly hard to pull myself away. For a long time I

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@adhd_ffs Yes, I can't do anything if I have something planned later in the day. Even something like a casual drinks with friends can derail my productivity, where for other people it is a motivator...

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Cycle of my life: “ooh new thing” “This is the best thing in the world!” *bored with thing* *Forget thing exists* Repeat

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@maddyhd_

5 months

I have an incredibly hard time hiding my emotions. Zero poker face… One look at me and you’ll know right away whether I’m enjoying myself.

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I feel like I have to be productive at all times. Spending my Sunday worrying about: - laundry / other household chores - groceries - money - all the work I need to do on Monday - the New Year’s resolution to workout that I haven’t followed

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@wiredoug thank you 🙏

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@maddyhd_

7 months

30 days seems totally reasonable except I have no sense of time and will forget. 😅

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@maddyhd_

6 months

One thing I don't think is discussed enough, is how quickly #Neurodivergent people can get sucked into things and become totally consumed by the new interest.

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@maddyhd_

5 months

When you tell yourself, “I’ll just wake up earlier tomorrow and do it then” But forget to set the alarm…….

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@maddyhd_

4 months

@DarenJ66 The good doctor and big bang theory come to mind… I was specifically watching grays anatomy last night (season 5) and there was a heart surgeon with “Asperger’s” that was unsympathetic to a family that lost their daughter.

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Hey everyone, sorry for going MIA, I got bored talking about adhd haha... But not bored talking to you all 💜 Let's mix it up, what are you looking forward to?

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@maddyhd_

6 months

No judgement zone. I really struggled with formal education personally... I just think this should be talked about more if its true!!!!!

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Hi, my name is Maddy, and I am NOT a fan of airports.

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@Autistic_Lia I used to default to "what do you do for work?" (bad idea) Now I ask "what do you like to do in your free time?" If someone answers with "accounting", its hard for me to have a non-surface level conversation with them about it. But if you get people to talk about their

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@maddyhd_

5 months

People who notice when other people aren't themselves & reach out, deserve the world. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@adhdjesse I got a few... - 50% blaming myself, 50% accepting this is how my brain works - 50% trying to improve and put systems in place, 50% self-sabotaging - 50% under-stimulated, 50% over-stimulated

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@maddyhd_

4 months

@AliSmith269 Bob’s Burgers can stay :)

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@maddyhd_

6 months

@Mollys_ADHD Me too... I think masking is to blame...

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I have another, those extroverted people that reach out and touch you when they laugh

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@maddyhd_

4 months

@crescentmooonn Thank you for this. I just assumed I was burned out but after the reading the comments it seems like I should see a doctor just in case

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@maddyhd_

4 months

@PenginRob Thank you 💜

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Do you think being #neurodivergent causes you to be more stressed (or experience stress more often) than the average, neurotypical person?

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@maddyhd_

5 months

The problem is folks, I'm not very handy. Like if anything ever broke, I'd never fix it... I mostly want to own nothing & be tied to nothing

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@maddyhd_

6 months

Last week I started a poll on University outcomes for people with #adhd , after reading a statistic that only 5% graduate with a degree. Here are the results from 3,626 responses: - 66% of people with ADHD graduated with a degree - 23% dropped - 11% did not attend What was not

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I just read one of the craziest statistics about people with #ADHD on X/Twitter. Supposedly only 5% of people with ADHD graduate from university?? Has anyone else heard this? Is it true?? Running my own poll to get to the bottom of it:

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I wish there were more people who are diagnosed #nd sharing tips/strategies rather than issues or complaints. Myself included...

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@maddyhd_

6 months

I can't explain it but sometimes the addition of 1 thing causes me to be overstimulated & other times it doesn't...

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@maddyhd_

4 months

@marketdoctor Good q, I'm offended of being portrayed as being so logical/factual that I'm heartless or cold.

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@maddyhd_

5 months

Turns out consistently not achieving your goals is not great for your sense of self-worth….

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@maddyhd_

6 months

My partner set up a shared list in Apple Reminders, for like chores and groceries, to help me remember tasks... But I don't use it. I can't explain it but it just doesn't "work" for me. There are tons of reminder/task tracking apps but there is something "wrong" with them

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@maddyhd_

4 months

@tardis_blue I hadn’t thought about it this way!

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@maddyhd_

5 months

You would not believe the number of times I reread this and didn’t realize I wrote “bag” instead of “bad” 🙃 Why didn’t anyone tell me?!

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@maddyhd_

5 months

The great thing about being an #empath is that you feel a wide range of emotions. The bag thing about being an #empath is that you feel a wide range of emotions.

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@maddyhd_

7 months

@adhd_ffs Yessss. I’ve lost so much money on those and the “30 day free trials”

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@maddyhd_

6 months

What changes would you make to the education system if you had all the power in the world? I would get rid of homework and instead have more interactive class working sessions where teachers would move around the room and talk with students/ answer questions.

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