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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

1 month

Yes the world is going to shit but also a toddler just dropped his Hot Wheels car on a rush hour subway and a dozen different adult strangers dove for it/pointed to it/etc. until someone stopped it with their foot and then everyone handed it off to get it back to the kid, so…

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Lilly Dancyger

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It's been so hard to keep this quiet, but I'm thrilled to finally share that I am a NYSCA/NYFA Fellow for 2023!

NYFA

@nyfacurrent

11 months

🎉 We're thrilled to announce the 2023 NYSCA/NYFA Artist Fellows & Finalists in Craft/Sculpture, Digital/Electronic Arts, Nonfiction Literature, Poetry, & Printmaking/Drawing/Book Arts! 🎉 Thank you to @NYSCArts & our 2023 panelists! Announcement here:

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2 months

Hey quick question for people who sit in the Amtrak quiet car and then talk for the entire trip—have you always been a piece of shit, or did something awful happen to make you this way?

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Hi hello I'm writing about women's friendship breakups, and collecting stories and reflections. If you've had a close friendship come to an end and have feelings about it, consider filling out my survey? (And pls share this!)

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Lilly Dancyger

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11 months

Feels a little like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic to change my profile pic here at this point, but oh well, at least the eventual Internet Archive scraps will include my new author photo

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17 days

listen we can all go back to hating her for being a cop after she wins, but for now it's time to rally. the enemy of my enemy etc.

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3 months

Hello I was on TV today!!

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9 months

So... where are we pitching fun, thoughtful, literary columns about writing now that Catapult is gone? Please, I don't want to start a newsletter

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2 months

Paused Law & Order to watch the verdict come in, so this frozen frame was up the whole time and you know what it really added a special something

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2 months

I wrote about not being able to decide whether I want kids, and hoping that books about motherhood would show me an answer. Featuring Jenny Offill, Sheila Heti, Rivka Galchen, Louise Erdrich, Rachel Cusk, Carmen Giménez, and @lsjamison

The Offing

@theoffingmag

2 months

"What I want, more than I want a child or a childfree life, is to make a decision and feel sure it was the right one." Read "Reading My Way to a Decision About Motherhood" by @lillydancyger

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2 months

I'm very excited to finally share what I've been working on for several months: a nine-month Essay Collection Incubator, starting in September! With special guest visits from @melissafebos , Kiese Laymon, @jill_christman , & @esmewang

Essay Collection Incubator

A nine-month course to help you develop and polish a full manuscript

www.lillydancyger.com

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

3 months

Today’s the day! First Love: Essays on Friendship is now available wherever books are sold!!! Thank you so much to everyone who has preordered, posted, & otherwise supported First Love along the way. Make sure to tell your friends you love them today 🧡

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Lilly Dancyger

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2 months

Today is my birthday, which makes it a great day to order a copy of First Love! Friendship as family, friendship as romance, identity as a mutable reflection of the people closest to you, mothering as a reciprocal form of care, get on board!

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3 months

Still processing the incredible First Love launch at @booksaremagicbk last night—in conversation with the wonderful @lsjamison and surrounded by so many beloveds. Thank you thank you to everyone who came out

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3 months

Thrilled to have an excerpt from First Love up at @Slate today! This is a kind of meta essay, essentially about the book I *didn't* write, and why.

I Spent Years Preparing to Write About My Cousin’s Murder. The Story I Ended Up With Was Not What I...

Lilly Dancyger on true crime, murder memoirs, and her cousin Sabina.

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3 months

I'm in @ELLEmagazine today, talking with @laurpuckett about how friends allow us to be different versions of ourselves, and the difference between loving your friends a lot and actually making them a priority in your life

Lilly Dancyger on 'First Love' and the Friendships that Made (and Sustained) Her

The author discusses her new essay collection and proposes a new way of approaching self-understanding.

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2 months

Just walked into my bedroom and discovered that my cat had tucked himself in for bed

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Lilly Dancyger

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5 months

Ok I managed to stay away from this place for literally months, but the Katespiracy theories may be drawing me back in

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1 month

First Love came out two months ago today! I think my favorite thing so far about having this book out in the world is how many readers have told me it made them immediately call their best friends to tell them they love them

First Love: Essays on Friendship a book by Lilly Dancyger

A "vivid, thoughtful and nuanced collection of essays" (Associated Press) that treats women's friendships as the love stories they truly are, from the critically acclaimed author of Negative Space "A...

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@lillydancyger

2 months

Finally convinced my former chef husband to watch The Bear with me (yes it took this long) and after scoffing nonstop for four episodes he goes, as if I couldn’t tell, “You know, I’ve got a problem with this show”

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4 months

Let's see if this place is still useful for this kind of thing... does anyone know of a publication that would be interested in a 2k-word piece that's somewhere between a personal essay and a book list... basically a log of an obsessive reading project with high personal stakes

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

2 months

Very exciting announcement coming Monday... here's a hint

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

4 months

So uh... where are we sending our short, mainstream/topical personal essays these days? I've been poking around and it seems the personal essay boom truly is dead

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Lilly Dancyger

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4 months

I'm going on tour!!! If you're in any of these cities, please come celebrate w me! cc: @booksaremagicbk @lsjamison @PeninaRoth @skylightbooks @ruthmadievsky @Booksmith @esmewang @ElliottBayBooks @Powells @bookclubbar @AthenaDDixon @HeadHouseBooks @pande_literary @penguinrandom

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Lilly Dancyger

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3 months

Excited to have one last First Love excerpt up at @lithub today! A flash piece written as instructions:

Lilly Dancyger on How to Support a Friend Through Grief

How to support a friend through grief: 1. Suffer a tremendous loss early in your life. Perhaps the death of a parent at such a young, pivotal age that grief becomes a central part of who you are. Y…

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3 months

Thank you so much to @TheBookMaven and @latimes for including First Love on this list (alongside @ninastpierre , @frumpenberg , & @rokwon !), and for the comparison to Essay Icon @lsjamison 😍

10 books to add to your reading list in May

Books to read in May include Hari Kunzru's concluding novel in a series about racism and the memoir of 'riot grrrl' co-founder Kathleen Hanna.

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@lillydancyger

3 months

This is what people mean by “literary citizenship”

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3 months

I received my copy of @lillydancyger ’s stunningly lovely essay collection, First Love, but I’m waiting for my cat to pose with it cute before I post a picture.

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3 months

"Writing is hard. It’s always going to be hard [...] no piece of advice or class or craft book is ever going to change that." I’m in @The_Millions today, talking to @lizapricot about what writers owe to ppl in our lives, & the truth about writing advice…

Lilly Dancyger Is Rethinking the Ethics of Memoir

"I do think that we, as writers, owe things to the people in our lives that we care about."

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@lillydancyger

3 months

One week from today! Come help me launch First Love into the world at @booksaremagicbk with the brilliant @lsjamison . (Don't forget to register in advance!)

In-Store: Lilly Dancyger: First Love w/ Leslie Jamison

"First Love is poignant, ferociously smart, and unflinchingly honest." —CJ Hauser, author of The Crane Wife

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

30 days

My favorite memoirs are the ones where the writer had to break in through a side door—where straightforward narrative wasn't gonna cut it, so they found or built a new form. These are the kinds of stories we'll study in my upcoming @OffAssignment course:

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@lillydancyger

24 days

I have thoughts that I am not gonna tweet

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

4 months

Hi you can now preorder a signed copy of First Love through @strandbookstore !

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

17 days

Well, the next few months are going to be absolute chaos. But at least it feels like there's a sliver of possibility to emerge from that chaos victorious—as opposed to the slow shuffle toward inevitable defeat

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Lilly Dancyger

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2 months

signed some copies of First Love at the new soho ⁦ @mcnallyjackson ⁩ 😈

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4 months

Spending time on here after being away really does feel just like when I picked up smoking again after quitting for a while

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Lilly Dancyger

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3 months

New First Love excerpt up at @Salon ! About my friend Heather, Sylvia Plath, social media, & the aesthetics of sadness.

Reading Sylvia Plath and my dead friend’s Instagram

We were Plath Girls in our youth. Claiming her was a way to elevate our teenage sadness from cliché to literary

www.salon.com

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@lillydancyger

4 months

Honestly I find kids less annoying than adults most of the time. They're *supposed* to be loud and oblivious, what's your excuse?

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11 months

@zoeschlanger @TheAtlantic In addition to the doom and gloom, I'd love to see stories about things people are doing to prevent/lessen the damage. Just a little bit of hope, as a treat.

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

3 months

It’s tour time! Come say hi if you’re in one of these places:

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

3 months

TONIGHT TONIGHT TONIGHT!!! Launching First Love at @booksaremagicbk (Montague) with @lsjamison !!! See you there!!!

In-Store: Lilly Dancyger: First Love w/ Leslie Jamison

"First Love is poignant, ferociously smart, and unflinchingly honest." —CJ Hauser, author of The Crane Wife

www.eventbrite.com

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

16 days

writing personal essays

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17 days

Observe the observer.

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13 days

Somehow feeling more anxious about the election now that it feels like there's a little bit of hope, rather than the resigned dread I felt before

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4 months

I am just a lowly adjunct, but still feels important to say that I'm furious at Columbia's handling of these student protests.

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3 months

I swear to god 60 degrees in San Francisco is colder than 50 degrees in New York

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1 month

In my happy place ( @randolphmfa residency)

Adrian Dallas Frandle

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THE Lilly Dancyger ( @lillydancyger )

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3 months

Book tour day number I’m not sure anymore: what are the drugs they give to elderly presidential candidates before debates and where can I get some?

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@lillydancyger

2 months

The two types of cats:

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@lillydancyger

3 months

@jamiattenberg I briefly thought weed gummies might help me sleep, but each time I tested this theory I woke up to at least a dozen emails to myself with ideas I just had to get down... so I think yes?

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28 days

The excruciating part is that Biden 100% should step aside, and the Dems who are saying so are taking an actual stand for once… and also if he continues to refuse, which it sure looks like he will, all of this outcry will backfire and hurt his campaign/help Trump

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4 months

Annie is THE BEST!!! Thoughtful and kind but also sharp and direct, knowledgable and bold and just generally everything you could want in an agent. Query her!

Annie Hwang

@AnnieAHwang

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After being closed for over half a year, I'm re-opening to queries in two weeks starting May 1st. Please be gentle...! 🐙 Focusing mainly on fiction these days: I love big, juicy, ambitious genre-defying literary novels that are as entertaining as they are profound(ly moving).

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4 months

Hi please invite me to be on your AWP panels. I pitched and moderated two this past year—I wanna join other people's this time!!

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@lillydancyger

2 months

Random early teen years memory just floated up from the depths of a time this guy we knew bought a pair of boots on the internet & we all thought that was the funniest/weirdest thing we'd ever heard—the internet! who buys boots off the internet?? we roasted him so hard for it

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@lillydancyger

22 days

Prepping for my ⁦ @OffAssignment ⁩ HYBRID MEMOIR class with these beauties! (Class starts 8/3, there’s still time to sign up—and I have a couple of discount codes, lmk if you want one)

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

4 months

verdict: twitter still has the juice

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@lillydancyger

4 months

Let's see if this place is still useful for this kind of thing... does anyone know of a publication that would be interested in a 2k-word piece that's somewhere between a personal essay and a book list... basically a log of an obsessive reading project with high personal stakes

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26 days

I have a good old fashioned 2010s style hot take coming out soon—I forgot how fun it is to write in a mildly inflammatory style about something totally inconsequential

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2 months

Today in "writing tips that are really just ways to trick yourself:" if you're hesitant to make big cuts bc they'll knock your word count down... just move the cuts to the end of the doc instead of deleting them so they're out of your way but still part of your wc

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2 months

ahhhh people getting indignantly defensive about a bad piece of writing on the internet and insisting it's actually brilliant and if you're not familiar enough with the obscure and irrelevant thing it's referencing to get the joke then really you're the problem... we are so back

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2 months

@rokwon It has its uses, we’re just fucked bc the people who *should* feel shame so rarely do!

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@lillydancyger

21 days

I drank my first 40 in that backyard 😭

nightshade

@eight4878

21 days

A Home for Anarchist Artists Rises Again on the Lower East Side via @thecityny

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24 days

Today seems like a great day to not be on the internet

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@lillydancyger

2 months

WOW this really struck a nerve!! More than 100 responses came in over the weekend 😳 I definitely have more than I can use at this point, but I'm gonna leave it open a little longer anyway because clearly the people have things to say

Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

2 months

Hi hello I'm writing about women's friendship breakups, and collecting stories and reflections. If you've had a close friendship come to an end and have feelings about it, consider filling out my survey? (And pls share this!)

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I wrote about how acknowledging what you don't remember in memoir can help gain reader trust—and also how that move can be overused.

Poets & Writers

@poetswritersinc

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“To avoid overusing the confession of a memory gap, I use a simple litmus test.” In today’s #CraftCapsule , @lillydancyger explores ways to handle lost memories in memoir:

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3 months

I wrote about turning real people into characters in memoir for @WritersDigest !

Turning Real People Into Characters Is an Act of Translation

On balancing truth and subjectivity when writing about the self and others in memoir.

www.writersdigest.com

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@lillydancyger

26 days

Ok my procrastinator friends, last call for applications for my essay collection incubator, due Monday!

Essay Collection Incubator

A nine-month course to help you develop and polish a full manuscript

www.lillydancyger.com

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@lillydancyger

2 months

Like truly… can even your mother stand you?

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18 days

I'm wading into the wedding hot take discourse today, over at @Slate

It’s Time to Admit the Truth About Being a Bridesmaid

It’s only gonna suck if the person getting married is a tool.

slate.com

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2 months

TONIGHT! I’ll be at ⁦ @bookclubbar ⁩ with Chloe Caldwell talking about First Love and the newly reissued Women. See you there!

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@lillydancyger

24 days

wistfully nostalgic all of a sudden for all the talk about Biden being old

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2 months

Me explaining why you should review First Love on Am*zon: "Nobody knows what the number is, but there's a magic number of reviews that makes a book show up in recommendations, it's all about the algorithm, see..."

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3 months

Have been in LA for less than an hour and just witnessed an altercation about Scientology fliers and a taco truck—not sure exactly what was happening but the key words gathered in passing were perfect

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20 days

Hey if you’ve ever assigned Negative Space at the university level and/or if you’d ever potentially consider assigning First Love, can you please give a shout? I know NS has been assigned a bunch but I didn’t keep a list and now of course I need one for a thing (😈)

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Lilly Dancyger

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3 months

Thank you @annlevinnyc & @AP for this lovely review of First Love!

Ann Levin

@annlevinnyc

3 months

Lilly Dancyger celebrates the power of female friendships in this thoughtful new collection of essays from Dial Press @randomhouse . Read my review for @APEntertainment . 📚📚📚 #bookreviews #writing #reading #essays #nonfiction #memoir #creativenonfiction

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3 months

(I'll go back to trying to limit book posts to one per day soon, but today is pub day so you get a deluge!!)

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@alexanderchee heh

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3 months

Today's the LAST DAY to preorder First Love! So, a little swag giveaway for all you procrastinators... To enter: 1) Preorder First Love btw now & midnight EST, & DM me a screenshot of your receipt AND 2) Share this post 7 random people will get these First Love stickers!

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2 months

watched The Man from U.N.C.L.E last night & can't think of another pair of actors I've ever seen w less chemistry & less overall charisma than Armie Hammer & Henry Cavill. Might as well've been two plastic Ken dolls bopping around set. Ultimate "go girl, give us nothing" energy

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Two weeks left to apply for my Essay Collection Incubator!

Essay Collection Incubator

A nine-month course to help you develop and polish a full manuscript

www.lillydancyger.com

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@theoffingmag Fun fact: this essay is built almost entirely out of material that I cut from the essay "Mutual Mothering" in First Love. I tried to fit this whole conversation about books into footnotes, and my writers group wisely told me to knock it off.

Reading My Way to a Decision About Motherhood - The Offing

Enumerate - The Offing Magazine

theoffingmag.com

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Lilly Dancyger

@lillydancyger

28 days

The real question is where was all of this pressure before the primaries, all the reminders that he said he was only in for one term, all this recognition of how high the stakes are and questions about whether he’s up to the task

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@ToriaJL Oh I said something immediately! But they’re still going, so now I hate them double

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