Normally when we do medicine, especially medicine on kids, we evaluate outcomes. We gather data. We ask questions. We look at risk vs benefit. In the area of gender treatment questions are forbidden. This is seriously troubling.
This is my oldest daughter. I havenβt seen or spoken to her since June 10 2018. Sheβs growing through her young adulthood without her mom. I have no idea what she looks like, where she is, what she does. I donβt know the sound of her voice. I hope sheβs ok.
#genderhurts
We got married in the desert last night, the most perfect nomadic lesbian wedding ever. I am so very happy. Thank you my darling for loving me so well. Hereβs to the future.
Me Too in 2006: Women speak up against rapey abusive men. Me Too in 2022: Women are told that men are the most important women of all.
#twitterhateswomen
@Katheri14581439
@STILLTish
Iβm so so sorry. I have nightmares that someone does this to my daughter. They might have already, I havenβt seen her for 4 years. How old was she when this happened? Itβs criminal.
I have talked to at least a thousand parents of ROGD kids over the last 5 years. Nearly all of the parents report their relationship with their kids deteriorating as soon as they trans announcement. We are very often accused of being abusive, as I have been accused. 1/11
Dedicated to my three children, who because of gender ideology I have not seen or heard from in years. Hold strong, parents. We get through this, together.
Here in Port Townsend to stand with Julie Jaman. Activists surrounded us, pushing and shoving, screaming and stealing our property. One woman had her shoe pulled off her foot. Police had to be asked to come assist. They did nothing until we insisted they uphold boundaries.
Imagine: a 10 year old patient comes into a doctors office and says she has cancer and needs chemotherapy. And imagine the doctor taking her word for it and prescribing powerful drugs on the first visit.
Let me tell you about my daughter. She is smart, funny, creative, artistic, amazing. I would give my life for her. But now she won't talk to me, and I'm powerless to change that.
@seattletimes
Schools have absolutely no business inserting themselves into the lives of kids and families in this way. Public education is supposed to be free from mandated religion, which is exactly what this is, a set of beliefs which are unfalsifiable.
Something most people donβt understand is that trans identified young people often invent stories of abuse by their parents. They do this because they actually know that their parents love them and their parents are right. They canβt change sex and they are ruining their health.
Itβs understandable really. We are the only ones who ever loved them enough to tell them the truth. They canβt look into our eyes, filled with love and concern, and stay in the trans cult. They have to make us the villain. Meanwhile we wait for them to come home.
This is the biggest medical scandal in the history of the world. How dare they continue to practice experimental treatments on our kids? Why are so many people doing this, without data, without restriction, in 2021 when we should know better?
The trans movement is destructive not only to the kids involved but to the entire family structure. Itβs kind an IED that explodes and no one comes out unscathed.
@DavidJFaber
Right, these were the people screaming at senior women, shoving and pushing us down and waving a noose at us. You are on the side of hate and intolerance, good sir.
Memories become twisted beyond recognition. βBut I always was a boy!β exclaims the formerly girly girl who suddenly dons oversized sweatshirts and shuffles along in a simulated βman-walkβ. Parents voicing even the slightest concern over the dangers of binders are labeled bigots
Loving parents walk on eggshells, terrified their kids will medicalize, estrange or both. Every word is held up to scrutiny as the kids are told by their newfound community that their parents are toxic hateful bigots
@dootdootootdoot
It will end one day, this medical scandal canβt go on forever. But there will be no apologies and no reparations for the kids who are harmed, or the families who are shattered.
She has a new name, one I've never called her. I'm no longer allowed to call her by the name we gave her on the day she was born, the name I sang to her in the night and taught her to print in big childish letters. It's a beautiful name but now it's considered an act of hatred
We are told that 1% of people detransition, or go on to regret. But guess what? That's based on OLD information, back when it was all older men who went through years of therapy first. With a rise of at least 4000%, a shift to mostly girls and informed consent we need new info
The kids are encouraged in this by therapists who tell them to go no contact, teachers, doctors, the media, but mostly by the exact same people who have been flooding my account over the last days, accusing me of gross abuse that never happened.
@oliviagatwood
DARVO much? Itβs not the responsibility of victims, or even society, to repair the feelings of men who abuse women. That job belongs to the men who commit the violence. Have some tea and get over it.
What is the long term effect of giving 10 to 40 times the normal dose of testosterone to female bodies, for life? We don't know. And yet Planned Parenthood hands out prescriptions on request. I've heard then call it "vitamin T".
Today, another mom wrote to tell us that today is the day. Her daughter got βtop surgeryβ today. This is dedicated to her, and to all the other moms and dads who daily live this grief. They are the silent heroes, the ones who love through the most painful journey.
She has a new voice, which I've only heard once. It was a stranger's voice, deep yet familiar. When I heard it, I knew she must be on testosterone. I knew then that I will never hear my daughter's voice again.
Just a few months ago we were still being told that there were 60 pediatric gender clinics in the US. We know now, because of the GenderMapper, that there are over 300. And more are still being identified.
And then there's the 41% suicide rate number that gets used like a club against anyone who dares to object. You would think they actually had data or something. This number comes from a self selected survey, and one single question: have you considered suicide
Even if she stops taking testosterone, many of the effects will be permanent, including the deepening of her voice. I recall the sound of her voice every day, but I worry that someday I will forget what it sounded like.
We are told that 2 percent of kids in high school are identifying as trans. Or maybe it's one percent. And then someone does a rather small but well designed study, and they find 10 percent. I would like to know how many kids we are talking about. Can we try to find out?
I know what it means to face adversity and come through stronger. But nothing prepared me for this. Being a mom was the most important, challenging, and deeply meaningful thing in my life.
Parents are suffering from PTSD. Marriages are dissolving. Siblings, grandparents, entire families have stories of trauma. Are we genuinely interested in this? It appears we are not.
Most painfully, we have a new type of relationship, or rather the lack of one. I'm supposed to forget that she exists while every day memories flood my thoughts.
I'm concerned about the side effects of the medications she might be taking. The statistics tell me people who use transgender treatments have a shorter life expectancy, a higher rate of mental health issues, and a host of other problems.
@seattletimes
Social transition of kids is a major psychological intervention. Teachers are not qualified to make these interventions, especially without consulting with parents.
They are judged as unsupportive and unaffirming. Their daughters and sons were bright, often happy, and now are angry, defiant, and distant. I wish I had answers for them. I wish I had some for myself.
Beyond her physical health, I know being transgender will not solve the aches of her heart. The suicide rate for transgender people is much higher after transition than before.
Or how about studying the long term outcomes of delaying puberty, without deciding the outcome of the study before you start? Can't we care enough about these kids to slow down and examine what we are doing? What is the hurry here?
I've talked to other moms and dads who are going through this. They come from all walks of life. They feel helpless. They can't find help from counselors, teachers, friends, family, or their faith communities.
I'm sure she believes her new identity will heal those wounds. I'm also sure it will not. When it doesn't, what will she be left with? I want to believe she will be alright. I'm here, waiting for her.
@jack_turban
It's ALMOST like automatically affirming everyone who says they are trans and immediately putting them on hormones might not be a great idea. Thanks for pointing that out.
@Glinner
βDark humorβ? I donβt even know where my daughter is. Sheβs about to have her 6th birthday without me. I donβt think I would recognize her if I passed her on the street. Sheβs living through her 20βs without her mom. Thereβs nothing funny about this.
It would have been good if they could have actually designed a proper study with things like control groups, looked at co-morbidity, do these people have other risk factors for suicide? Did they feel suicidal before or AFTER they transitioned? Why did they feel this way?
Thank you Kara. The anti woman hate brigade was indeed out in full force. I think they sense the end is near, women are beginning to speak up and we will not be silenced.
To those of you clinicians and researchers claiming that gender identity is biologically based, no malleable, that people should be affirmed or they will be harmed, that medicalization has been found to be safe, effective, and prevents harm, that almost no one regrets it....
@duchess_elle
And yet you just called yourself a woman. There are not categories of women. Reality is, all males are male. So call yourself a transvestite, a man in a dress, whatever. But stop saying youβre a woman.
@MForstater
@RichardDawkins
@HJoyceGender
@SexMattersOrg
How far we have come from that day in May 2019 when not one other MP besides Moony would even dare show up. A lot of this has come through your work. This broken hearted mama says thank you.
@genspect
I wonder every day where my children are. Two of them were seduced by the gender cult. The third is an ally. Someday they will realize their mom has always and will always love them.
By all means, continue posting abusive false charges. Everyone can see you all for exactly what you are. You are the same people who attack detrans people and blame them for their pain. If you think I care what you think you are very wrong.
@Self_Made_Dan
I got this nonsense shut down in my community. Attended public board meetings, raised awareness, attended and filmed the event. We basically embarrassed them. No further events x 3 years now.
As a parent whoβs life will never be the same after losing my family to the church of trans, I feel a particular bond with those who are struggling to recover their lives after defecting from it. Our lives will never, ever be the same. Looking forward to
#DetransAwarenessDay
@jack_turban
Actually, all pediatric care providers should be helping young girls to be comfortable and safe in their natural bodies. Breast binding is barbaric.
βAdults can do what they want but we have to save the kidsβ. Ok what if the adult is 20 years old, autistic, with a history of trauma, internalized homophobia and social isolation who started ID during lockdown while isolated at home on the computer? 1/2
@ImWatson91
You have not only grown, persevered, and healed, but you have done it publicly, which makes it enormously difficult. I doubt you will ever know how many people you have touched for good. As a mom grieving the losses, I know itβs a process. Stay the course sister. Weβre here.
@lazinafternoon
Well actually I canβt, because people like you have destroyed our relationship. Thank you for illustrating my point. Please feel free to continue. Iβll save all responses.
No actually you didnβt do anything right. It was your job as a parent to fight for your son to be whole and healthy in his natural body. This is 100% on you.
@Mckenzi79691567
I never abused my kids but I donβt owe internet strangers explanations. See how quickly the abuse narrative is confined to kids? This is why parents need to get their kids away from people like you.
@BuckAngel
Disagree. Bad medicine is bad, not only for kids but adults as well. Youβve gone too far too roll it back, and thatβs fine. But adults deserve safe, evidence based, effective medicine every bit as much as adults do.
Parents of ROGD kids are some of the bravest people I know. They have the tough job of both holding irresolutely to the fact that no one can change sex, while also holding the child close.