“Rich kids will eat for free too” is a good thing.
A) it reduces stigma for the kids who need the program.
B) there are very few rich kids. Instead there are rich parents and not all of those are loving & attentive as they should be.
C) all kids should eat
I’d be all “be grateful I only said she was weird after she first tried to frame my good news as a tragedy and then confessed she doesn’t love her daughter as much as her sons & tried to make that a Me Issue.”
He will still be autistic. You don't need to cross it out. Just put "and" in there. Crossing it out seems like it could be erased or that it's of lessvalue than being a doctor. It could even be
that his autistic traits are what makes him a brilliant diagnostician or researcher. >
I am shrieking non-internally at the folks who only see this pants suit as an overdone silhouette.
Y’all look at the fucking pleating on this. The way the scallops skim the floor like they were cut off implies amazing structure.
@GBBranstetter
@ItsTheBrandi
“Like most people marry their wives,” could not make it clearer that he sees only men as people and “wives” are a thing they get.
(Bc this is all very cishet framed, I don’t think he’s being unexpectedly inclusive abt lesbians getting their wives.)
He couldbe a doctor who specializes in treating patients with sensory challenges. You can't divorce our autism from us. Please don't cross
it out. Sincerely, an autistic adult who is no less an autistic adult for being a working member of society.
>
Throwing in a few more observations:
1) I was a little too strict in my framing. Not ALL ADHD folks react like this, clearly, but a vast majority were, and were trying to explain their cost and reasoning. They didn’t want to be penalized & wanted Now to be treated as valid. >
3) What came up again and again was the lack of specificity in the original request. Covering availability, agenda, scope, expectations would have gone a long way towards getting the response the NT person seemed to be fishing for vs RIGHT NOW. Being vague gets RIGHT NOW.
@JoeBiden
My husband and I are BOTH vaccinated. Our 3 year old cannot be and I am tired of you chiding us and acting like vaccinations are the only thing we can do. This is why I had concerns when you said you were taking lockdowns off the table, when checks weren’t re-upped.
2) Complexity of task at hand also factored in, as several NT folks said they also felt derailed and would prefer to deal with something immediately if possible. >
Sigh. I saw somebody claiming that it’s horribly violating/exclusionary for ace folks if there’s kink at Pride and I don’t know who told you ace people don’t do kink but don’t claim that for all ace people.
4) the biggest plea still seems to be to think about the impact on your ADHD friends and coworkers. When we say we have a hit to productivity & prefer to deal immediately, that’s not mere quirkiness or chaos.
Rethreading.
5) Anxiety was a major factor in determining strategy. Some folks preferred to deal with anxiety immediately, but others preferred the chance to prepare. (However they still required more info in order to prepare.)
Circling back for NT folks: improve communication and support folks better by considering asynchronous communication if not urgent, and be specific with your topic and availability AND consider that Right Now may be best for the person and be prepared for that.
Reminder that Doombringer made an awesome Baby Aziraphale
@michaelsheen
(Tweet prompted by my brother asking me if I had seen Good Omens and me wondering if brother knew me AT ALL. Sent bro pics of Doom.)
Alt Text for image at top of thread: A black child wearing a doctors uniform stands above the caption “I am autistic.” The word autistic is crossed out and replaced with the words “going to be a doctor.”
Fistbumps to everybody feeling seen.
I hope you find useful ways to communicate your needs and bridge whichever divide you face.
(I’ll be attempting to focus on my own tasks for the morning so will circle to this thread back for further observations after work.)
To the folks wondering if they might be ADHD: many folks of different neurotypes felt this way so I wouldn’t use this as anything more than an extra data point and validation that it’s okay to ask for more specificity in contacting you or that Right Now be valid. :)
Super appreciate a high profile person like the Duchess of Sussex modelling correct masking and community protection for our vulnerable patients.
Making masking look chic too! Thanks, Meghan.
Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, put smiles on a lot of faces at Children's Hospital Los Angeles with her visit for a very special story time! 📚❤️
🎥:
@childrensLA
@JoeBiden
This family and many others like us have sacrificed in many ways, withdrawing from aspects of society so we wouldn’t be vectors for those who are truly essential.
But you’d rather keep parroting, “Get vaxxed.”
@TheArtOfAsty
@Kalindlara
We actually had a stuffed animal arrive yesterday that my husband ordered from a small Ukrainian business a month ago.
The address is in Chernihiv and we literally don’t know if she’s fleeing or even survived. We hope she’s safe.
@ReeseW
Not every action a woman takes is rooted in ethics, equity, and environmentalism.
NFTs as they currently operate are largely an environmentally harmful grift. Do not do a girlboss here. If you want to promote women artists, there are better ways.
@ganglads_
I am horrified at how they treated her. It’s a support group for students who moved. If the age limit is a hard limit, they should have a transition ritual to move her to a new group instead of having her get ousted bc younger person thinks her problems are weird.
@WLBT
"Some say..."? That's straight-up racist. And hostile to black folks BECAUSE of its historical context.
Not every part of Americana is worth preserving, especially in a contextless decorative environment.
I'm going to say, again, that when long COVID effects kill me - sooner than later - I need y'all to recognize and say LOUDLY what it was.
Long COVID is keeping my blood pressure at 230/128, in spite of taking an elaborate cocktail of meds.
Long COVID is shredding my kidneys.
I really hate the whole “trans women have unfair performance advantages In sport” argument bc NOPE. Not every body is specced for every sport.
I bring back these pictures every few months. These are ALL Olympic athletes. Top of their game. Do you see the body diversity?
@kattenbarge
@byJudeDoyle
Pretty certain that’s why many yelling about groomers are mad about it: because actual education shows abused people what abusive behavior is.
@DeeLaSheeArt
@iglvzx
My toddler has missed some socialization milestones for sure. He was too little to have anxiety about missing friends or the virus as a danger but we had to re-teach him about the playground and battle mild agoraphobia. Today was first day he raced to play.
@LWavghist
@Karnythia
I’d feel sorrier for him if it wasn’t obvious that he’s complicit now.
When Harry’s talking about the person who says their wife had to go thru the Hazing-By-Press so why should M get protection—W never pushed back like H did.
@Karnythia
If he *instantly* had a girlfriend, he had her on the down low already. Every single couple I know that had the gut suggest opening & wife agreeing, the wife beat them to dating first. Every single one.
Most guys too doofy to just jump back into the saddle.
Rudy Giuliani wanted to have a press conference outside of Twitter headquarters which explains why we are setting up camp outside Tweety Brothers Pet Store in Phoenix.
@chrissyteigen
@hell_raisin_
I wasn’t aware that you could get anxiety attacks like whoa. I ended up with claustrophobia that took nearly two months to mostly shake, although I had an attack last night & this morning. Intrusive thoughts of worst case scenarios. Body refusing to sleep. Adrenaline.
@PaulaReidCBS
I honestly cannot imagine the current administration doing anything to alleviate my parental woes, but maybe ask why the President hasn’t demanded that relief bill that’s been sitting in the Senate for months.
I love how people love to tell you to move away from expensive ass cities like that’s actually an option we’ve never thought of.
What I would like is to reform cities so they are more affordable.
@UntoNuggan
@johnvechey
I think of it like attending a wedding or a birthday party for somebody else—it’s not my day and celebration but theirs. I can center them and celebrate them w/o making it about me.
@hunktears
The saddest bit is how he treated his first wife, when their first born died. :(
I read that in an interview w Justine and just was so so sad/mad for her.
Another reason to get your MMR vaccine and boosters. Turns out Measles resets the immune system almost entirely, meaning you lose immunities you had gained thru exposure.
@LauraRbnsn
@smokedgouda5
It is wrecking the cakes community too. People expecting structurally impossible works.
I imagine woodworkers are about to go through it too.
I’ve already seen people claim their prodigy child painted an obvious AI work & kids are being praised for this.
@abgutman
@guabili
AND YOU CAN’T KICK ANY TODDLERS OFF, only adults. So toddlers get redistributed every round with Star Baker earning a new toddler partner permanently.
Daphne is really mad about the lack of sex education. I have sympathy for her on some level but she knows about consent issues bc of her issues with Berbrooke and the coercion of Simon is awful.
Sigh.
@muddaub
The more I think abt it, the more grotesque the concept is. Joking abt the power to pardon people while thousands of folks suffer unjust sentences. Housing turkeys while the homeless encampments are raided.
Here’s how I’m seeing some responses to the Walden/Thoreau discussion.
Male Stans: OMG how dare you imply the Great Men didn’t do it alone.
Women: I find it relieving to know I am not failing bc I couldn’t do it alone. Imagine what I could accomplish with support.
Fuck you.
Side note: many people who live in small-ass apartments already aren’t buying in bulk bc they have nowhere to store it. Many already take bus bc cars expensive. And we already fucking know about lentils.
Inflation stings most if you earn less than $300K. Here's how to deal:
➡️ Take the bus
➡️ Don’t buy in bulk
➡️ Try lentils instead of meat
➡️ Nobody said this would be fun
@kindofsquishy
I feel like folks questioning this don’t remember childhood that well bc my sibs and I were always doing weird shit. Like the time we made all the neighborhood kids put pillbugs in a box of grass and called putting one in “passing through the Doors of Egypt.”
@TheBookN3rd
@FlyIngenuity
@sewalkerAT
@thejournalista
Oh boy. You know they were an autonomous kingdom an American corporation forceably took at gun point, holding the people hostage so their queen would abdicate.
Or did you ignore that bit.
@PaulaReidCBS
Also ask him how he expects to alleviate the trauma of parents who are in ICE custody? Because that’s waaay worse than my kid not being in daycare due to an outbreak.
@smalonemd
@jfitzgeraldMD
While there was no prolapse in my postpartum group, we all had something like postpartum preeclampsia (me) or diastasis recti or bilateral femoral damage or pubis symphysis or issues, & most of us felt sandbagged by lack of info. Allow folks to know risks & not feel alone.
@JoeBiden
There’s a defense act you can invoke. There’s pressure to disperse vaccines world wide you could apply to break vax apartheid. You could actively work with governors and at least demonstrate that mitigations help.
@SussexHenryVIII
My personal bet is:
1) they want us to see no rings bc this is a continuation of soft launch divorce
2) the photo might be from archive but the heads are all recent except Kate’s.
@TheSciBabe
@DrJenGunter
Did we cover toxic shock syndrome yet? Did somebody explain we change tampons every 3-4 hours which means 6-8 tampons a day, for 5-7 days? That estimate of 90 tampons would cover 2 months maybe. But doesn’t get into my Midol, detergent, heating pad, tea costs.
The wide legged pant plus the lapels are evoking cultural fashion touchstones as well.
Anyway? You can just plain Not Like stuff (“it’s not doing it for me”) but speaking with scorn when you make a poorly thought out complaint abt historically who is allowed to wear what? Naw.
@moniza_hossain
My odd detail was the description of her science class and I was annoyed bc she got a lab I never got to do in high school and my brain was all, “THIS LAB IS WASTED ON BELLA SWAN!”
@redditships
Gross. I hate pranks that are based on setting up an expectation and then laughing at you for it.
She should dump him if he thinks that’s a funny joke at 6 yrs in and she doesn’t.
@vandroidhelsing
@Quiara
I’ve been trying to pull back on “ALL GONNA DIE” but since I don’t have Animal Crossing, that means guillotines.
But mostly I’ve been trying to read a romance novel, listen to Terry Pratchett and play w my kid.
@veganbrieana
@Catuchee
It’s a solid first step but needs to followed by the second step of reiterating boundaries for the sake of everyone else in the public space. “I hear you are mad at me. We’ll talk about that after we do X, but meantime, we are here and sharing this place, so you need to Y.”
What’s a thing you’ve done you are pretty sure nobody else on your friends list has done?
Mine: Given an emergency Caesarian to a pregnant snake that was being eaten by another snake. 🐍 🥚 🐍
@DinobotTwit
@JMCwrites
@digitalmaverick
Anybody who says that all you need to do is hold them has never wrested their Mighty Toddlergator while they are thrashing around. In mid-meltdown, I figure all of us being on the ground is the safest since we can’t fall any further.
@illiniwags
@Hagstrom_Anders
Okay but once in SFO I was asked if I wanted to do a flight to Ontario bc Sandy Eggo had a marine layer descend and was blocked for hours.
And I didnt know abt Ontario, California and reading Ontario, CA didn’t actually clarify matters so I was all NOPE.
@chrissyteigen
@hell_raisin_
In our PEPS group we discussed the broader umbrella of postpartum mood disorders bc there really are so many ways our brain and body chemicals can go haywire.
BTW I super recommend PEPS groups for early parental support.
Oh and the designer behind this is Walter Mendez. Definitely should be getting more attention
I just feel like the people who are comparing this to BP’s Oscar look stopped at just the silhouette & aren’t understanding what the train & other choices do to push in new directions
@HarlemMC
@LauraRbnsn
@asinTriple
Me: great, please tell my doctor so she can get on board. Right now she just thinks it’s anxiety. Anxiety bc I can’t focus on all the things, yeah.
@nameshiv
Additionally 1) He decides to spoil it for many other folks bc he’s mad & doesn’t care if it gets spoiled.
2) He unwittingly shows that he still didn’t catch all the clues that DO support the story. Explicit lines said by characters, dates, movements, costuming, etc.
@EyeballTheater
I agree that it should be as healthy as possible. (But I also think that ppl in prisons deserve healthy & safe food too. Basic humanity. If somebody is under custody or stewardship of the state for a time, the state should be responsible with their welfare.)
@JoeBiden
Do better, Mr President. I didn’t JUST elect you to be less terrible than your predecessor.
I expect leadership and instead I feel like I’ve gotten handwringing and failure to plan for things many knew was coming.
@redditships
And I agree w the person who said it’s the aftermath of the joke that’s more concerning. As soon as he realised she was hurt, he owed her an apology. Instead he’s assholing even more.
My Hot Disability Take: I wish more people regarded strollers as accessibility devices & I wish people wouldn’t pit strollers against wheelchairs when both often serve the same function.
A stroller is a device that lets a person who cannot walk access public spaces w caretakers
@stephenablack
Hi, Olivia: I have been wearing glasses since I was 5. They help me as an artist and my optometrist says that I have an eye for extremely tiny details. Here is a pic of me and some of my art. Glasses can help you achieve your goals and dreams.