FFXIV people be killing me. Someone could say the most fucked up racist/transphobic/homophobic shit and fifteen people will make a vague post about "drama". Please learn the different between hateful rhetoric and drama. Drama would be Kevin getting kicked out of his raid group ->
for being late and him having a meltdown and the group falling apart in the aftermath. Drama would be Sally and Marry dating irl and running an fc together and it getting messy and the fc collapsing. Hateful rhetoric is having a meltdown because LGBTQ+ people exist.
Like, I understand FFXIV is fictional and yadda yadda but posting a pic of you harming an Arkasodara and treating it like a trophy kill is weird. Acting like it's not weird is weird, it's one thing to be edgy and a murderhobo but framing it like you bagged a exotic animal is odd.
@Adabear_Art
A movie where color and style is key to storytelling. A movie that made Jessica Drew a black woman and made her hair a key part of her design. They were intentional in all the character design, they had a lot of love for each spider person's design.
@Tribes1Game
@DreamerHyena
Trans and Drag aren't the same thing. Drag is usually done by Cis men, straight men too, like... You're asking for a group to take responsibility for a whole other group they generally have nothing to do with. People seem to ignore this it'd be like blaming white people for drag.
Someone out there needs to hear this:
Rp may not be real, it may just be a little diversion from your rl
But
Value yourself and your time more, I see so many people "working" at rp venues where the ownership is shit. Why do they got a chokehold on you? Leave, Walk out, Run.
Everyone is always size difference and it's just some big dude railing some small twink, which is valid.
But
But
Small dude railing a bigger dude is so much better. I'm not taking criticism at this time.
@vyrthandi
@LuxOnFiyah
I'm almost 40 and a cis man with a full beard and people still call me "ma'am" because of my long red hair. It's crazy people say they can "tell" when most of them barely look at you anyways. Just let people live their lives and be happy with who they are. It ain't they business.
Idk how I feel about this because yeah, realistically being in a gay relationship should be normal. But then y'all got the people in the comments basically calling them "the good gays" because they "don't shove it down our throats" and they're the worst.
Please... courtesy reminder. Don't call people of color or even people in a online space "chocolate" anything. My friend has been uncomfortable for two days and still talks shit about you.
The Wizard Game has literally become a litmus test for who really is an ally and not at this point, like, you can buy and play the game without making it a spectacle. Ya'll really going into his with your whole chest and then acting shocked people turn on you. Get fucked.
There's a difference between making Lalafell a horny anime stereotype for laughs than actually posting content of said NSFW. You're a niche race, that looks like a child, regardless of how ill proportioned they are. Not everyone will be comfortable with it, that's the short of it
@Tribes1Game
Drag is a performance. A purposely exaggerated stage production. Most of the performers aren't Trans or even specifically LGBTQ+ you don't have to be to perform. Again, they're separate things. There's no secret cabal of Trans Drag Show Leaders going after children. Jfc.
As far as RP "shipping" goes I'm all for it as long as you separate IC and OOC, I'm not available romantically irl and people seem to treat ffxiv like grindr sometimes. I don't mind lewd stuff and erp if I'm comfortable with you and feel like I can trust you.
You can be bi, or gay, or whatever and still make horrible decisions against your community. You can do harmful things and it's not just erased because you're suddenly like "HEY GUYS I WAS ONE OF YOU ALL ALONG TEE HEE." Okay, so do better now. Good luck. Learn from your mistakes.
So, just so we understand, when I talk about how I get treated different as a hrothgar/not being a hrothgar. It's not because I want to be railed by any of you.
I do not want.
Hrothgar Twitter and where it crosses with the gay community is gross as shit and deserves critique.
@48hourlockdown
I thought "bury your gays" was more about gay characters dying to progress a straight character's arc or move storyline in a specific direction. Not... actual dying for other valid reasons.
Remember when I commissioned a bunny version of hrothgar, I didn't, anyways if you the artist let me know and I'll credit you. I can't find your Twitter.
Happy Easter.
@HorseSkull666
@IronPineapple_
This! I rarely even read the Messages anymore. It's just people trolling you about hidden paths or trying yo goad you into aggro'ing an enemy. The NPC's are way nicer, even the ones who want to harm you. Lol.
I don't care if you use mods, I don't care if you erp, I don't care if you don't like those things either. Implying something is perfection and anything outside of the base game is a spit on developers is a weird take. Like, they're still struggling to get hrothgar right.
Hrothgar Twitter Wild, imma say, I'm not interested in dating anyone from FFXIV or Twitter. I'll never do long distance relationships. I'm not in a polyamorous relationship. I trust my partner and he trusts me, any romantic RP/ERP is not an extension of OOC. I don't self insert.
@RaikoFFXIV
Same with erping, like? Idc if you wanna be freak nasty in my house but can you give me a heads up so I don't wander into you getting railed against the fish tank.
People need to take notes on this. There's no doubling down. They didn't make themselves the victim. They took accountability. People make mistakes, yes, how you deal with them and respond will reflect how people react to your apology. I hope this person means it and thrives.
hi! i just wanted to say that i've decided to stop streaming wiz game. recently i messaged some friends to ask questions about the situation, and now i understand why this affects a lot of people. i grew up in a conservative environment where we don't have such discussions, (1/4)
So heads up other hrothgars; I don't care how much we end up looking alike. There are only so many limited options hrothgar have. Looking like someone else is bound to happen.
Don't.
Message someone in game with passive aggressive insults accusing them of stealing your look.
@DrainBammag
@LGBwiththeT
The original flag is still there for use? No one is holding you hostage over a flag, cutting out parts of a flag that doesn't apparently mean anything to you is pointed. There are marginalized groups within our own, for example bipoc, representing that doesn't mean "straight"???
Look, ya'll, I try to be understanding and flexible but... I can't deal with a straight man writing FFXIV comics about his queer characters coming out. When he himself can't understand the fear and outright danger some people face in doing so.
Y'all can cancel me if you want but overly masculine characters are not attractive to me. Yes, I know as a hrothgar with tiddy and muscle it's kind of hypocritical. But, it's more the personality over the actual looks. I like soft wholesome men who know when to not be aggressive.
Discussing gender and sexuality isn't inherently anything other than informative. They're 19 and non-binaey, Pedro has a Trans sister, it's only logical they might have questions. Conservative nutjobs trying to dilute word meanings to make it hard for generational communication.
"We don't know what he's been through"
"We don't want to scare off someone who might be gay"
If he's gay welcome to the team, if he's not, IDGAF I'm sorry. I'm not gonna cry over a cis straight man being told he's making people uncomfortable.
Y'shtola deserves to be with Runar; it's the only heterosexual relationship I want to happen on this game. Cirina and Sadu are dating too and I'll accept nothing less. Also, Arenvald deserves so much more "screen" time than he got.
"Trauma Dump" has ruined y'all, it's normal to seek solace from your friends and community. It's normal to share aspects of your life. It's normal to empathize with the people you share your time and space with. Your friends are not your therapist, no, but they should hold you up
I don't do friendship decay either (that post going around again). Time spent together trumps time spent a part. Relationships ebb and flow, it shouldn't matter that we go days or months without talking. As long as we stay on good standing I'm not going anywhere.
@Boffix_
My dad clocked me as gay before anyone else, I was so far in the closet I had a fake girlfriend and he knew. I think one parent usually figures it out. My dad was luckily really chill about it.
I've committed the greatest gay sin, being a traditionally masculine cis man and growing up in a heteronormative culture. Then, turning that on it's head and supporting Trans Folk and accepting traditionally femme traits because that's normal to do. Just be kind to people. Wtf.
Of all the Scions, Alphinaud included, I feel like Alisaie was more our apprentice and protégé. She took after our WoL more than the others, knew what we were willing to do and told us no. The growth of Alisaie from Coils of Bahamut to Endwalker is my favorite.
So.
I usually keep quiet about stuff but...
lol
If you're hrothgar and/or Roe... and want to make passive aggressive comments about me being a catboy/bunboy for the time being or hate twinks for some reason or fem gays. Get over it or leave me alone.
I'm not here for you.
Friendly reminder; people don't have to accept your apology. You are not owed forgiveness, you are not owed closure. This doesn't mean you chase the person down repeatedly trying to apologize when they clearly are running. You're just going to make it worse, please don't do this.
Someone's existence isn't politics. Being inclusive in an mmo isn't pushing politics. Being a decent human being isn't politics, even if it were you're telling me you'd rather side with the people actively harming others? Because even trying to be neutral ground is damning.
@SaltyLego
@PanderShirts
Because there are queer people who still live in red states, even if they aren't conservative? We're still fighting here. Do we not get to experience queer joy?
She's right though? Why are people mocking her. We spend so much more time at work than living our lives. Even still, people are struggling to make ends meet. Who has time for building a family if you ain't there to raise it?
Omg, poor baby has her first job. Like..she has to commute?? Like...she has to cook dinner?? Like...no time or energy to work out?? Like..she's working in person not remote??? Like...She. Has. To. Work. 9. To. 5 ??? What????🙄
Runar: gives Y'shtola a flower
Runar: is elated enough to show her physical affection
Y'shtola: allows it and doesn't verbally destroy him like she did Magnai.
Y'shtola: pretty much promises she'll return - giving him hope
Friend: she just tolerates Runar
Me: