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Emma - Fighting 4 Justice 💜

1 year

The reality of #familycourt is alarming. Victims of #DomesticAbuse are routinely FAILED by the system. REFORM is long overdue @GOVUK @UNHumanRights

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Emma - Fighting 4 Justice 💜

@DA_Survivor_

9 months

I'm going to say something that may not be very popular, but I believe it needs to be said: Yes, false allegations happen, but not in the way that people expect.. Let me explain: When a victim has disclosed #DomesticAbuse , a common reaction from the abuser is to loudly claim

Just an anonymous

@anotherDAstat

9 months

@earplifting @DA_Survivor_ @jadewelshy I worked with the police and vulnerable suspects and victims for a few years and the only false allegations I saw were by abusers against women and children they were abusing.

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

If you see or hear of a mum who has her children removed from her care by #familycourt , please DON'T assume she has done something wrong for this to happen... The reality is that mothers are often punished when they try to protect their children from an abuser, & children are

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

17-yr-old Ellie Gould was stabbed & strangled to death by her ex-boyfriend after she ended the relationship. Ellie's mother, Carole Gould, has since campaigned for justice, for women killed by men. Carole states that, "the ending of a relationship is the most dangerous time in a

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

I'm VERY concerned about how often #FamilyCourt order children into contact with an abusive parent,even when children disclose abuse. Children are told that the abusive parent loves them-This teaches children that: 1-their voice isn't important; 2-abuse is normal; 3-abuse is love

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

After suffering yrs of #DomesticAbuse & trauma,it takes a LOT of courage to speak about it in #FamilyCourt . To then be ridiculed for your trauma responses,& have your experiences dismissed,is HUGE trauma in itself. The lack of understanding,validation & support is soul-destroying

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

If a child has experienced/witnessed #DomesticAbuse ,its understandable if they don't feel safe with the abusive parent,& its unlikely they will want to see that parent. This is NOT"alienation." This is a child expressing their wishes to be safe & #FamilyCourt has a duty to LISTEN

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

‼️ Abusive fathers are more than twice as likely to seek sole custody of their children than safe fathers.🚩 A safe, loving father does not go out of his way to remove children from the care of their safe, loving mother. A loving father would not want to cause their child such

amykaufman

@amykaufman84

1 year

Abusive fathers are more than 2X as likely to seek sole custody of their children than non-abusive fathers. Courts award these fathers joint or sole custody 70% of the time. Would you leave a violent person if it meant leaving your kids behind with them?

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

🧵 1/6 I've been reflecting on the moment I escaped #DomesticAbuse with the children, a few years ago now. It occurred to me how much we, as victim-survivors, give up; how we, the victims, are the ones who have to leave, the ones who lose so much...

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

I fled #DomesticAbuse with children as we were at high risk of harm. In #FamilyCourt , I provided evidence of abuse -police reports, GP notes, school teacher notes, IDVA/MARAC letters confirming the high risk. The judge dismissed all this & told me I gave "too much evidence" !?!😳

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

This is so true 👇 How many of us have experienced this form of "crazy-making"? Not only from perpetrators of #DomesticAbuse , but the same tactics are mirrored in #FamilyCourt ... Twisting your words, gaslighting, threats & manipulation, continuous goading until the victim reacts

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@Author_Reva

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

I just want to say a huge THANK YOU to my followers for your support, your kindness & for listening to my voice on here. After #DomesticAbuse , My self-esteem is very low & I don't have confidence, so I can't express how much it means to feel heard, valued & respected by you🙏💜🥰

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

The judge in this case said the perpetrator was "clearly a danger to women" & gave a 4-yr prison sentence for destroying this womans life with #DomesticAbuse . 4 yrs does not reflect the amount of torture & suffering that led to Chloe taking her life.

Woman, 23, hanged herself after boyfriend ordered her to self harm

Marc Masterton's 'despicable' psychological and physical assaults 'significantly contributed' to the 'demise' of Chloe Holland's mental health before she killed herself, a court heard.

www.dailymail.co.uk

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

There are some terrible victim-blaming attitudes out there, & some messages can be very damaging to survivors of #Abuse #Rape #DomesticAbuse . So, here is a message for Survivors who need to hear this today 💜 :

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

The trauma caused by #FamilyCourt can cause severe reactions to events, such as: receiving emails, having the phone ring (particularly with an unknown number) & receiving letters. The anxiety this causes can be intense - shaking, sweating, heart pounding fast,

Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA

@s_ayebkarlsson

9 months

There is a scene in ' #MrBatesVsThePostOffice ' where Saman jumps out of the sofa and screams out of fear to the sound of letters being delivered through her door. Do take note the similarity with #FamilyCourt Induced Trauma and the experiences reported by survivor mothers. /1

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Some people claim that victims "make up" their experiences of abuse, to get the abuser into trouble.. 1- It takes guts to speak out. 2- Victims are more often disbelieved & blamed. 3- It's rare for perpetrators to be held accountable. Where's the incentive to make it up?!

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

It's strange how #DomesticAbuse can be recognised & recorded by professionals- GPs, qualified psychologists, trained therapists, police, local authority, schools etc.. but #FamilyCourt fails to acknowledge abuse, even with professional reports/records in front of them 😳😡

Grant Wyeth

@grantwyeth

1 year

This is an extraordinary piece of reporting by @Hannah_Dreyfus . But an all too familiar case of legal systems that are hostile to mothers trying to protect their children, and easily swayed by accusations of "parental alienation"

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Today, I want to thank the men who recognise that #DomesticAbuse is predominantly perpetrated by men against women. Thank you specifically to @AndrewCicchett1 @davidgmandel @David_Challen @amcampbell84 for your work & for speaking out. We need more men like you in the world. 🙏

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

#domesticabuse happens behind closed doors. An abuser may have a respectable job & seem nice,but secretly abuses their partner at home. If someone says they're being abused,please listen & believe them,even if the abuser seems like a decent human. No one sees what goes on at home

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

What really worries me about #FamilyCourt , is that children clearly express their wishes & their feelings, but #FamilyCourt dismisses them, silences them. This teaches children that their voice is not important. This is a INCREDIBLY dangerous message to send out to a child. 🚩

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Never ask why a #domesticabuse victim didn't leave sooner. It's not as simple as "just leaving"-it's finding a way to Escape safely,which is incredibly complex when you are being abused Don't judge the victim - hold the perpetrator accountable for the abuse they chose to inflict

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@AmberRefuge

1 year

Safely escaping an abusive relationship is never as simple as walking out the door. Many complex emotional, physical & financial barriers can stand in the way. Women are never to blame for staying. #domesticabuse #stopaskingwomenwhytheydidntleave #pivottotheperpetrator

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Too many children are court-ordered into unsafe contact with their abusive parent, with horrific results. My thoughts are with 10 year-old Sara Sharif's Mother, who lost custody of Sara & her brother in 2019, now experiencing the devastating loss of her dear girl. Important🧵:

Nataly Anderson

@natalyanderson

1 year

When I first heard on Nextdoor app that a 10 year old girl had been found dead in my town, I didn't jump to conclusions. This is now being called 'the horrific death of a child who appears to have suffered multiple injuries “over a sustained period"'.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

If a woman cries when describing her trauma in court,it's used against her,to say she's "mentally/emotionally unstable & can't be telling the truth. If a woman doesn't cry when describing her trauma in court,it's used against her,to say she must be lying as she's shown no emotion

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Mothers are blamed by social services,if they fail to protect their children from an abusive partner.. If mothers escape #DomesticAbuse with their children, #FamilyCourt punish mums for trying to protect their children from the abusive parent. Abusers should be held accountable

Dr Emma Katz

@DrEmmaKatz

3 years

'Women may be chastised for failing to protect their child from a domestically abusive partner by social workers... only to be reprimanded by a court for not encouraging that same child to spend time with the abusive father' (Mackay, 2018) The madness of current systems

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

In #FamilyCourt victims of #DomesticAbuse are expected to "forgive & forget"-to mediate, have joint therapy, co-parent with the perp. This is SO damaging - it allows post-separation abuse to continue, & the perp is not held accountable. Instead, the victim is expected to change‼️

your_recovery_matters

@recovery_your

1 year

The solution to healing from abuse, is not teaching the survivor to forgive. The solution is holding abusers accountable.. This is the message we need to pass on to abusers, so they are afraid of consequences. Instead of walking round like they did nothing.

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

This season, I hold in my heart & my thoughts all those who are: - alone or lonely. - without their beloved children. - grieving a loved one. - struggling with mental health. - being mistreated & abused. - suffering trauma. I want you to know that YOU are valued & I care. I hope

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

Do you often find yourself over-explaining? I know I do, & for me, it is related to the trauma of #DomesticAbuse , where I had to explain every little detail about everything - almost to the point of having to prove my very existence! 😕 He would ask me numerous questions, often

Dr. Nicole LePera

@Theholisticpsyc

10 months

Stop over-explaining. People appreciate quick, direct answers. Here's A Step By Step Guide:

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

An abuser engages in love-bombing tactics & portrays themself as an amazing person to start with- it's all part of their lure to trick you into trusting them. They cannot keep it up though- their mask eventually slips, causing a great deal of confusion & pain for the victim..1/2

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

#domesticabuse & #coercivecontrol should never be labelled as "dysfunctional" or "high conflict." These labels are often used in #FamilyCourt & it trivialises the abuse. Abuse is not the victims fault. Perpetrators need to be held accountable for choosing to abuse. 👇

Melanie Bridgen

@MelanieBridgen

1 year

A family with a coercive controller is not dysfunctional. It contains an abuser. Do not trivialise this violence and abuse in the family home. It enables the abuser.

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

When asked whether #FamilyCourt affected #mentalhealth , 98.2% of more than 500 participants said yes 👇🚩 Family court causes many people to feel suicidal. A huge number of #DomesticAbuse victims going through proceedings are at their wits' end, trying to advocate for their

Reform Family Court 2024 💜

@ReformFC2024

9 months

Even more important than money, what is #FamilyCourt doing to everyone? We asked whether Family Court affected your mental health and this was your response. So when someone asks why suicide is so prevalent in Family Court, show them this. 98.2% of more than 500 said yes.

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

Abusive parents often refuse to provide financial support for their children. The abuser thinks they are "punishing" the safe parent by withholding this support,but the ones who actually suffer are the CHILDREN. Safe, caring parents don't neglect their children's needs like this.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

A question for those who have suffered domestic abuse & are in/ have been through #FamilyCourt - What do you wish you had known before entering family court? #WishIHadKnown For me, I wish I had been more prepared - #WishIHadKnown to speak to other mums & receive advice first...

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Perpetrators of #DomesticAbuse are "domestic terrorists." Victim-survivors use a lot of strength, courage & determination to get through every day of domestic torture, having to be on constant alert. Victim-survivors: ✨️You are Awesome✨️ 🫶💜🙏

Rachel Williams

@Rachel_SUTDA

1 year

“You’re living on your nerves constantly!” “They are domestic terrorists”. “Victims & survivors are the toughest people you will meet”. Full podcast available to watch on @thecentralclub_

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

There is no worse pain than realising your child is being abused. The Truth is, many protective parents give Everything trying to protect their children in #FamilyCourt , but are seen as "the problem" for raising concerns over #Abuse . Victim-blaming is rife within these systems.

SHERA Research Group: Health Law Rights Support ©

@SheraFamily

1 year

The ignorance of those who victim blame is staggering 'I would never let that happen to my child': if you haven't walked a mile in their shoes, zip it please. It's so easy to say 'I would do X, Y and Z'. There is no manual on how to react when you discover your child is abused.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Today I would like to say something to all protective mums-victims of #DomesticAbuse in #FamilyCourt : You are your child's safe parent & you are💯right to advocate for your child's safety. Your child needs to know that you support them & that their safe parent is on their side💜

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

This👇💔 #FamilyCourt causes trauma to children. It is teaching children that their voices don't count,that abuse is 'normal,'& that professionals are not going to keep them safe. It's stealing childhoods & is creating life-long damage by removing children from their safe mothers

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@AshiyanaUK

1 year

@SheraFamily My child is quickly learning at 7 yr that everyone around him is failing him. Mom is his safety blanket. And every separation is added to his trauma. Every sound is scaring him. FC has already stolen his childhood and carefree days.

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

#DomesticAbuse causes more than outer physical harm. The psychological & emotional trauma, suffered by victims, is on the inside. The wounds cannot be seen, but the damage is severe & long-lasting, affecting the brain & nervous system.

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@NarcissistBox

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Yes, many women say, "If I had known about how bad #FamilyCourt was, I would never have left the abusive 'relationship.' I feel I would have been able to protect my children if i had just stayed." Says a lot about how the brutal system treats #DomesticAbuse victims.

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

Good mothers, who are loving, kind & devoted to their children are having their children taken by the very systems expected to protect. ⚠️This is NOT justice⚠️ Those who have never experienced the archaic, dystopian #familycourt & #socialservices have no idea of the way the

Emma - Fighting 4 Justice 💜

@DA_Survivor_

9 months

If you see or hear of a mum who has her children removed from her care by #familycourt , please DON'T assume she has done something wrong for this to happen... The reality is that mothers are often punished when they try to protect their children from an abuser, & children are

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

#DomesticAbuse can happen to ANYONE. It can take years to realise that you have slowly been manipulated, coerced, controlled, abused & torn down from the person you once were. 👇

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Beyond heart-breaking💔 When some people hear that children have been removed from the mum,their reaction is,"Mum must have done something terrible to lose her kids." No. For many Mums,the 'crime'=disclosing #DomesticAbuse & trying to protect their children from the fathers abuse

Surviving

@Survivingtoday1

1 year

I’m just a mum. I absolutely unconditionally adore my small ones. I never denigrated their daddy, he was theirs, despite what he did to me; their belief, was important. He claimed PA, despite DA being court found. Now they are gone

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

"Children who experience or witness domestic abuse and coercive control can feel scared and may have poor mental health as a result." Children also need to be protected from #FamilyCourt , which forces children into contact with an abusive parent. @GOVUK

Government urged to protect children from domestic abuse during holidays

The NSPCC says domestic abuse of children increases during school holidays as they spend more time at home.

www.bbc.co.uk

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

Day 2 of #16DaysOfActivism #DomesticAbuse is not only about being physically hit. Some of the most harmful,insidious abuse is psychological,emotional & #coercivecontrol . These types of abuse are well hidden - the victim has no outer bruising, but the inner damage harms the most.

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

An abuser cannot be a partner. Partnership is about working together. It's simply impossible for there to be a partnership between an abuser & victim, due to the power imbalance. Intimate perpetrator violence is a more apt description - @SheraFamily 👌

SHERA Research Group: Health Law Rights Support ©

@SheraFamily

11 months

@AndrewCicchett1 In our in press paper, we have referred to IPV as intimate perpetrator violence - diminishing any idea of partnership. We hope others will follow suit

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

6/6 & to those who disbelieve victims: This is the reality of the upheaval of fleeing abuse;no one would flee & put themselves through all this,if it wasn't critical to save theirs & their children's lives. This is real. We've lived it. Solidarity with all who KNOW this reality💜

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

"A good father does not abuse his children's mother." A good father does not haul his children & their mum through #FamilyCourt , & insist the children be taken from their mum. No good father would want to cause such life-long damage to their child by removing them from their mum

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

❗️To ALL judges, @MyCafcass officers, #socialworkers & all those in #FamilyCourt - please STOP ✋️ labelling domestic abuse cases as "high conflict" & "mutually abusive." Falsely labelling #DomesticAbuse as "high conflict" or "mutual" gives the illusion that both people are

Tigerfly Free 🪷✌️🏳️‍🌈🫶🌎

@tigerfly22

9 months

Mutual abuse & “they’re both toxic” are damaging to victims of abuse We respond to trauma in many ways. We’re human. Stop victim blaming & start holding abusers accountable

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

"Parental alienation" is used,mainly by abusive fathers,as a tactic to deny a victim's account of abuse,to turn the attention away from actual #DomesticAbuse ,to stop themselves being held accountable for their actions & to remove children from Safe mums👇

Parental alienation a 'handy tool for abusers', new study finds - Today's Family Lawyer

Parental alienation is a “handy tool for abusers” and a “national scandal”, a new study conducted by the BBC and the University of

todaysfamilylawyer.co.uk

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

It never ceases to amaze me, how clear evidence of abuse is so often "thrown-out" of #familycourt . I'm talking about police reports, #DomesticViolence advocate reports, GP records, school records - all recording abuse that has taken place over the years. Yet #familycourt chooses

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

⚠️ #FamilyCourt is used as a tool, by abusers, to continue post-separation abuse ⚠️ 🚩🚩🚩 ➡️ The victim may escape #DomesticAbuse , but when they have children, the abuser often uses the "system" to harass & maintain control over the victim's life, causing immense distress &

custodypeace

@custodypeace

9 months

“Many abusers misuse the court system to maintain power and control over their former or current partners, a method sometimes called “vexatious” or “abusive” litigation, also known as “paper” or “separation” abuse, or “stalking by way of the courts.” - How Domestic Abusers

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

It has really struck me -when victims of #DomesticAbuse speak out about their experience,some people react by victim-blaming & making an excuse for the abuser. I speak out on twitter & strangers who don't even follow me have replied,making assumptions,questioning my experience...

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

All victim-survivors want to do is ensure their children are protected from further abuse. It is the most natural instinct for a mother to protect her child, yet perpetrators use #FamilyCourt to continue their abuse,& to sabotage the mother-child bond. Children are being failed.

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

❓️Why are #FamilyCourt decisions not being followed up afterwards❓️ Considering that judges make rulings regarding children's futures, often life-changing decisions, surely these children should be spoken to & checked on, to find out how they are getting on... & to see

Louise Tickle

@louisetickle

9 months

@oneclickboedice @huyh_uk @laurarichards99 @JMoncktonSmith @hansummers @DrEmmaKatz @SheraFamily @ACLouisaRolfe @SteveReedMP Absolutely agree with this. Judges have told me that they very rarely find out if their rulings have been positive for children and families. It's a serious failing.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Safe parents can have clear, solid evidence of #DomesticAbuse , but #FamilyCourt are reluctant to accept this evidence. Safe parents are blamed, have their mental health scrutinised, their words twisted, & are treated as the perpetrator. All for trying to protect their children 🤷‍♀️

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

In #DomesticAbuse , a victim is constantly on their guard, gaging the perpetrator's mood, watching what they say, how they say it, walking on eggshells... we constantly have to calculate the risk & manage it as best we can. It takes huge strength & courage. It's exhausting. #DVAM

Defend Survivors

@defendsurvivors

1 year

Respect survivor’s strength, courage and intelligence. 🤍 #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #DV #DVAM #dontshouldveasurvivor #respectsurvivors

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

I find it deeply disturbing,that in 2023, #FamilyCourt is still allowing abusive fathers to accuse protective mothers of "parental alienation" when mums are trying to protect children from their dad's abuse "Parental alienation as a concept is rooted in misogyny"- @AndrewCicchett1

Andrew Thomas Cicchetti, Ph.D. (Cis, He/Him)

@AndrewCicchett1

2 years

Richard Gardner described women as coy, passive and seductive in his 1992 book True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse. He also suggested fathers raped their daughters because mom had grown cold. I kid you not. Parental Alienation as a concept is rooted in misogyny.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

If a child is abused by a parent, then is told, "but your parent really loves you"- the child grows up thinking that abuse is love. This becomes their 'norm.' #FamilyCourt forces children into contact with abusive parents, & this is sending a very damaging message to children.

Long Live The Butterfly

@SerenitysTruth1

1 year

There is something deeply flawed with how a lot of family system and ideals were built in society. It is deeply concerning. People have been literally taught that having an abusive family means having a loving one. How traumatic is that??

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@DA_Survivor_

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Thank you for this @DrJessTaylor - it makes a lot of sense to me - labelling symptoms of trauma as a mental illness actually ignores the fact that the body is doing exactly what it needs to do to cope with trauma. A trauma therapist once said to me: "You have suffered trauma.

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@DrJessTaylor

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Why YOU need to be anti-pathology in your trauma work. Being ‘trauma-informed’ isn’t enough...

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@DA_Survivor_

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It is often said to victims, in #FamilyCourt proceedings, that #DomesticAbuse is "historical & irrelevant." How then, can a victims' history of trauma responses suddenly become more relevant than the abuse that caused the trauma??!

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@DA_Survivor_

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It takes a long time for many victim-survivors to talk about the #DomesticAbuse they've suffered. It's not easy to do & takes tremendous courage.. then perpetrators are often the ones to receive support & himpathy from family, friends, #FamilyCourt etc- Further trauma for victims

Defend Survivors

@defendsurvivors

11 months

Even when we finally start talking about perpetrators, perpetrators are given the sympathy and survivors are yet again harmed.

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@DA_Survivor_

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🧵1/ #FamilyCourt claims to work in the "best interests of the child." It claims children have the right to contact with both parents, to the point of ignoring #domesticabuse & enforcing contact with an abusive father, against childrens wishes & regardless of risk to the child...

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

#familycourt also use false diagnosis' of personality & psychological disorders to silence victims of abuse. Trauma is a natural response to abuse & #DomesticAbuse . When will @GOVUK @JudiciaryUK @MoJGovUK take the steps needed to ensure that adult & child victims are listened

Dr Jen Daffin 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 🏳️‍🌈🍉

@Jendaffin

10 months

The diagnosis of personality disorder is how the mental health world has long silenced victims of abuse. When we use it we are part of that silencing. That silence perpetuates harm + violence. It’s time to move to a trauma informed understand of mental ill-health.

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@DA_Survivor_

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✳️ A fantastic article - sobering, but a very much needed read, highlighting the vile way victims of #DomesticAbuse (who are predominantly women) are treated within the #FamilyCourt , when trying to protect their children from abuse... the way their mental & physical health so

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@DA_Survivor_

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@DrProudman receives a lot of hate,yet never stops advocating for positive change for survivors. Misogyny & abuse is unacceptable..those engaging in this type of behaviour should be held accountable by @barstandards . Thank you @DrProudman for your strength, tenacity & advocacy.🙏

Dr Charlotte Proudman

@DrProudman

1 year

As a barrister speaking out about male violence, I’ve suffered abuse from my own colleagues. They’ve called me cunt, wanker, bitch, mentally ill — and @barstandards failed to take action — signalling they don’t take misogyny seriously. @MayaOppenheim 🙏

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🧵1/ It breaks my heart that mothers are driven to consider walking away from their children. Good,kind,loving mums who have given everything & more in #FamilyCourt to fight for their children to be protected, are left traumatised,exhausted; feeling they can't do anything more...

Fighting for Justice for DA victims and Equality

@jadewelshy

1 year

Do you know what really saddens me? Mothers actually considering walking away from their children. Not because they don't love them but because they cant take any more of family court and the way they are being treated throughout compared to their abusers. Being repeatedly

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@DA_Survivor_

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#familycourtawarenessmonth Raising awareness of how domestic abuse survivors are mistreated & failed by the system, Children are Not prioritised, abuse is ignored, Victims are punished, abusers often awarded custody, Children court ordered into further abuse. Anything else?

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

There have been many MRAs verbally attacking anyone who speaks out about this. I will not be side-tracked. For the record, I will not stop speaking out & advocating for change for adult & child #DomesticAbuse victims in #FamilyCourt , until we see reform

Family courts: Children forced into contact with fathers accused of abuse - BBC News

In some cases, family courts ordered a child to live with a paedophile, a BBC investigation finds.

www-bbc-co-uk.cdn.ampproject.org

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

This is true, & extremely concerning. #FamilyCourt makes life-changing decisions about children's lives, which are often very damaging. Family court holds a lot of power, with no culpability, no overseeing body to ensure safe decisions are made & hold judges to account.

SHERA Research Group: Health Law Rights Support ©

@SheraFamily

1 year

The public need to understand that the #familycourt are more powerful than the police, child protection services and criminal courts combined. @BandyXLee1

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@DA_Survivor_

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5/6 ...So, to anyone who questions why victims "don't just leave": this is the reality of what happens when you do; of how difficult it is to escape #DomesticAbuse & protect children, of why some stay...

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

🧵 1/ For Mothers who have suffered #DomesticAbuse , #PostSeparationAbuse & have had their children removed from their care, & handed to the abusive parent, by #FamilyCourt . You have my Support...

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

👇Yet in⚠️ #FamilyCourt ,I've heard judges & representatives laughing,mocking &belittling the pain &trauma caused to women who have suffered #DomesticAbuse .Women are called 'crazy,'belittled &dismissed when raising serious safeguarding issues.This toxic behaviour causes more trauma

Stopworkplacebullies

@Stopworkplacebu

1 year

It is never harmless to intentionally laugh, mock or belittle someone else's emotional pain, trauma or triggers. Toxic individuals will laugh, belittle dismiss, call you crazy and trivialize your pain, only a mind of seriously emotionally disturbed & immature person would do

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Excellent point 👇 Also, if #FamilyCourt judges, cafcass, social workers, psychologist "experts" are sure they are making the right decisions, then why not open up the courts to public & professional scrutiny? Why the secrecy if there is nothing to hide? #Accountability

kim green

@KimKimgreen79

1 year

If family court judges, SWs and Cafcass are so certain that they are doing an excellent job and that they only remove children and use switch residency as a last resort then why not bring in an independent organisation to monitor appeals as in criminal law, that is only fair.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

"Why didn't she just leave?" So many reasons:

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

If an owner harmed a dog,there would be outrage. The dog would be placed in safety,the owner would be banned from owning pets; possibly end up with a prison sentence.. If a child is harmed by an abusive parent, #FamilyCourt order the child into unsafe contact with the abuser...

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

This post is for all safe parents going through #FamilyCourt after #DomesticAbuse : If your child has experienced abuse at the hands of the abusive parent,if they are afraid,then they need to know that YOU 💯 support them,believe them & will do your best to ensure their safety..

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@DA_Survivor_

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✴️ A reminder that #DomesticAbuse happens behind closed doors... ➡️ Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it isn't happening... Just because you can't see any marks, doesn't mean abuse isn't taking place... Just because the abuser seems nice outside the home, doesn't mean

Right to Equality

@Right2Equality

9 months

So much abuse goes unseen and unrecognised. There's a deep need for wider education on the forms of abuse and how to help. Support all survivors, not just the ones that fit your idea of 'real'.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

This👇is what is happening. Victims suffer abuse, #DomesticAbuse . Systems meant to protect- #FamilyCourt etc-are complicit in further abuse of adult &child victims. Mothers naturally react when their children are harmed-this reaction is twisted & used to label mothers as "unstable"

Rachel

@RachelFree22

1 year

@1Soloneo @Zena86861610 @frenchf77139247 @DA_Survivor_ @Just_Stop_Abuse @Rocky3642 @AndrewCicchett1 @BBC @BBCPanorama @bbcnickrobinson @BBCNews @channelstv @channel5_tv @CommissionerDA @MoJGovUK @familycourtfilm @AlexChalkChelt @RefugeCharity @centreWJ @womensaid @NCDV_Official @X @CCChatMagazine @VictimsComm The more abuse I suffered- torture as I had to watch my children groomed, exploited, weaponised & coerced, the more I naturally reacted to torture and the more they twisted blame to label me as emotionally unstable. It was all provocation to react that way by harming my children

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4/6 ...It occurred to me how much of our lives we had to alter, all because of one perpetrator. He now continues to use #FamilyCourt to enable his post-separation abuse "legally." We wanted to escape, to be free from abuse, but family court do not allow this...

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

When a victim is raped, it is never "in the past" for the victim, because it changes us. Permanently. We are the ones left, struggling daily, to live & cope with the complex post-trauma, which can be debilitating. Soul destroying. When people worry about how a rapist may have his

#thecourtsaid

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RIP #ShaniLouk Shani was a 30-yr-old Jewish artist from Germany,visiting Israel for a music festival. The evil committed against her & many other women & children,by Hamas,is unfathomable. I am in so much pain over this. My thoughts are with her family Rest in peace, Shani Louk

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

⚠️ By dragging adult & child victims of #DomesticAbuse through #FamilyCourt , & trying to force contact that the children do NOT want, the abusers turn their own children against them. ➡️ The message these children receive is that they cannot have boundaries, because the abuser's

Nataly Anderson

@natalyanderson

9 months

To all the “dads” who are dragging their ex partners and children through “family court” just to exercise control over them: Your children hate you for it.

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

Yes, & why does the #familycourt cabal go out of their way to dismiss blatant evidence of abuse & twist the narrative to being in favour of the perpetrator? They knowingly remove children from safe parents & order them to see/live with abusive parents. This is far deeper than

Legal Advocate for You, not Family Court

@SandraSpeerPhD

10 months

Why do #FamilyCourtJudges think that it is right to award to #Children to grow up with their #Abuser rather than their safe #Parent ?

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

Children are victims in their own right when they witness their safe parent being abused. Not only that, but a perpetrator of #DomesticAbuse , towards their partner, is highly likely to abuse their child directly as well. An abusive parent is NOT a safe parent.

amykaufman

@amykaufman84

11 months

In families where IPV occurs, there is a 45% to 60% chance of co-occurring child abuse, 15 times higher than average. Even when not physically attacked, children witness 68% to 80% of domestic assaults. These children are not merely innocent bystanders. They are victims.

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@DA_Survivor_

9 months

I completely agree with @SheraFamily - when being dragged through #FamilyCourt proceedings after #DomesticAbuse , healing is impossible while you're constantly "under threat" from the abuser & his legal flying monkeys. You're re-living the abuse over & over, with the added trauma

@SheraFamily

9 months

We have spoken with some who say it is possible to heal while engaged in #FamilyCourt . What are your thoughts? Personally, I cannot see how being subjected to an ongoing tirade of institutional abuse/trauma, in an environment built on greed and gaslighting, can ever allow this.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

🧵1/ Speaking as a mum who has experienced serious #DomesticAbuse which directly affected the children, it was not easy to escape. It was something I had to do for the sake of the children. I so wish that the children could have experienced a loving father who did not hurt them..

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

There is concern over the affect of #familycourt backlogs & delays... of deeper concern is that #DomesticAbuse is not bring dealt with robustly, & children are being put at risk of harm through being forced into unsafe contact with an abusive parent. Judges are so determined to

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

"Resilient" - a term used regularly in #FamilyCourt , to justify ordering a child to see/live with an abusive parent. No child should be forced to live in fear, with abuse. No child should be forced to accept that abuse is "normal." This causes unimaginable harm to children.

Living with Trauma & Dissociation

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2/6 ..When we fled,we left behind belongings,friends,our home,our life. I managed to take some of the children’s clothes & favourite toys,but that was all I could do in a hurry. We fled with police protection,couldn’t tell anyone where we were going,couldn't say bye to friends...

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

We should not be leaving victims to fight, alone, for their children to be safe. This is what #DomesticAbuse victims are having to do in #familycourt . Many have no funds to pay for representation, no access to legal aid, & are left to fend for themselves & their children, with no

Victims’ Commissioner London

@LDNVictimsComm

11 months

Thank you @jessphillips for calling for #JadesLaw to be extended and for highlighting so well that the ‘ family courts in our country collude with perpetrators’ and that we should not be leaving it to victims to fight to keep their children safe. #VictimsBill must do this.

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

This really is an important read,thank you to @DrEmmaKatz . I relate to ALL of this. I experienced this escalation of abuse when I was pregnant. His abuse was horrific & caused complications in my pregnancies, one which led to a miscarriage. My heart aches

Why Coercive Control Worsens in Pregnancy, Childbirth & Breastfeeding

Emma Katz published a post on Ko-fi

ko-fi.com

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

With you @Aine_Liv 💜 #FamilyCourt is HORRENDOUS. The intense stress from receiving an email, a phone call, the next installment of #PostSeparationAbuse , is overwhelming. It causes a whole-body trauma response: shaking, sweating, palpitations, nausea - I can totally relate 💔

Liv

@Aine_Liv

1 year

I'm hoping being on this account will desensitise me to all this. Every phone call, every notification on my phone causes panic. Just waiting for more horrible news. My Fiancé keeps having to come home from work to support me because some professional has made me cry again

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@DA_Survivor_

8 months

👇 Triggers 👇 Flashbacks are common in people who have suffered #DomesticAbuse & #rape ... Triggers can be a smell, a comment, a song, seeing someone who looks like the abuser, or seeing the car they drove ... ➡️ Triggers can seem small or unnoticeable to a bystander, but to

Words Finally Spoken, Peace for 🇺🇦

@FinallyWords

8 months

"TRIGGERS" Author Unknown 👇👇👇👇

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@DA_Survivor_

8 months

✴️ It is impossible to co-parent with a narcissist... ➡️ In order to co-parent, there needs to be compromise... This just isn't part of the narcissistic abuser's vocabulary. ➡️ Abusers want to have all the control, & will use manipulation, threats & violence to achieve this

Words Finally Spoken, Peace for 🇺🇦

@FinallyWords

8 months

The only thing narcissists understand is "CONTROL". They need to be in control in all situations, or they aren't happy. Let's be honest, even when they feel in control, they aren't happy. They're angry, manipulative, monsters.

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@DA_Survivor_

1 year

Exactly this 👇 "It is not my "opinion" that my husband attacked me - it's my EXPERIENCE."

another lost mum

@AnotherLostMum_

1 year

@anotherDAstat @jadewelshy @Harrys_Garage @thelondoncowboy @DingsdaleJ95299 @MelodyPuppyDog @survivorstrong3 @Rocky3642 @SobukiRa @EdThomasNews @BBCNews @BBCWomansHour @BBCWalesNews @SheraFamily @jessphillips It’s not my “opinion” that my husband attacked me - it’s my EXPERIENCE. I was there. I was conscious. And if a judge decides on day that “it didn’t happen”, for whatever reason, that does not suddenly make that the truth.

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💯 agree with @Rocky3642 👇 ⚠️ In denying a child their voice, & invalidating/disregarding their experiences, this teaches a child that their voice, wishes & feelings don't matter... When a child discloses abuse & they are court-ordered into "reprogramming" & contact with the

Rocky3642

@Rocky3642

9 months

@Emma06755796981 @coercivecontrol @jadewelshy @StoppingAbuse1 @DrEmmaKatz @DrProudman @AlexChalkChelt @MoJGovUK How are the rights of one person more important than those of multiple others? Why is it acceptable to inflict harm to children and safe parents to fulfil the rights demanded by an abuser? How is it ever OK to inflict such trauma on any child? @AlexChalkChelt @MoJGovUK @MyCafcass

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@DA_Survivor_

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"Lessons will be learned" Seriously, how many times have we heard this? How many more lives need to be lost before systems ACTUALLY take heed & protect? Several issues are clear in this report: A 🧵:

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@DA_Survivor_

11 months

A barrister told a #DomesticAbuse victim she'd "be nothing without your husband." Seriously, what is this? What a disgraceful thing to say to a woman who has been abused, controlled & probably told the same by the perp. It's revictimisation & quite frankly, very disturbing.

HRH The Rt Hon Arch Duchess Rosie Heys QC, MDMA

@RosieHeys

11 months

@DA_Survivor_ @jadewelshy One woman told me her barrister said she'd be 'nothing without your husband' she was a really good architect... I mean WTAF? She sacked him... Dear Barristers, we do speak to each other, and that guy has lost A LOT of work from that one comment to that one woman.

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I just want to shout out to ALL the amazing people raising awareness,advocating for change,striving for better futures for adult & child victims of #DomesticAbuse in #FamilyCourt : @SheraFamily @ResoluteWomens @DrProudman @BarnettAdrienne @coercivecontrol - you are ALL valued 🙏

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@DA_Survivor_

10 months

The mother was 💯 right to dispute the use of an unregulated "expert" in the recently reported case by @hansummers . No safe, caring parent would want to put their child at risk by taking them to be assesed by someone who is not recognised by the regulatory body. So, if

Just Stop Abuse

@Just_Stop_Abuse

10 months

The writings of some of these unregulated #FamilyCourt "experts" read like little more than embarrassingly middlebrow attempts to impress or obfuscate. Surely this must be obvious to the courts? It is utterly ludicrous that they are taken seriously.

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I regularly hear from Safe mums,who have had their children removed & placed with the abusive parent,after they disclosed #DomesticAbuse #FamilyCourt is causing untold harm to children Time for #Accountability Time for Change Time for Justice @CommonsJustice @MoJGovUK @hrw

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