Psychotherapist, LCSW A straightforward therapist/human sharing truth without trolling. mental health tools and tips. art, humor. I don’t use punctuation
The right questions if you’re in therapy to know if this therapist is a “good fit” for you
1) Am I comfortable expressing myself freely?
2) Have we developed goals together in line with my treatment and what I’m looking to get out of therapy?
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#therapy
FYI: a duty to warn/breaking confidentiality of treatment with a patient is/should be solely
A plan for suicide or homicide.
*a plan for severe harm to self or others
Mental health terms and professionals:
Psychotherapy-(talk therapy) provided by a licensed social worker or psychologist to provide a safe space for a person to unpack, understand, process difficult emotions, help reframe and discuss potential treatment or tools to manage
@DarkPsychForMen
I’m curious if it’s that you feel you can’t experience real connection? You don’t know what it’s like?
You’re so afraid of being vulnerable or being authentic? Having an equal partnership and vulnerability means you can get hurt?
@Theholisticpsyc
Yes
And some people don’t even know they are emotionally unavailable
Partners have to continue to communicate how the others words/actions (or lack thereof) make them feel
And after making effort and the other cannot work on it be willing to walk away
Sometimes giving yourself a time frame to process, grieve, feel your feelings can be helpful.
Example: I’m feeling a dip in my mood from x, y- I’ll allow myself to process and feel tonight, tomorrow get up and (insert your go-to’s) meditate, exercise, be in nature (mine)
@Theholisticpsyc
It’s amazing how being around people who don’t understand you or are overly critical or don’t have the space to give out love can effect your mental health
@thejasonscriven
I hear this
I think that is a good possibility to clock for sure
I think there can also be other variables i love hearing
(Client is also working on being assertive, client is afraid of what he/she/they may uncover, clients spouse encouraged them to go)
If I ever become the type of social media therapist who is constantly talking down other therapists, sounding arrogant or as if I know all, not open to discussions/ideas-I sincerely want to be called out.
I do share opinions and love sharing ideas and try to do this w respect
FYI: a duty to warn/breaking confidentiality of treatment with a patient is/should be solely
A plan for suicide or homicide.
I say this from the data of my post asking why people hold back on telling the truth to their therapist.
You are helping increase independence, agency, sense of self worth, trust
When you let children/teens make decisions/do things on their own (that are not safety concerns)
Many of us are way too enmeshed with our children.
We get our self-esteem needs met when they're doing well.
Our control trauma response comes out when they're struggling.
The kids will probably live through it. But we are making it much tougher on them.
Confidence is not cockiness.
Confidence includes curiosity, admitting you’re not always right, you don’t have all the answers, sharing great ideas, including others, uplifting others.
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month.
What are the reasons you became a mental health professional?
Or as a human, what is most important to you about educating others or spreading awareness?
@Theholisticpsyc
This is a great topic. I think we tend to vilify emotionally unavailable in society. You can ask for clarity whenever you are seeking clarity. If the person is unable to answer-move forward. If you’re the emotionally unavailable try exploring w a therapist or journaling.
@lovewins11011
If you doesn’t feel right to you, you can change this decision in the future. If right now this feels best, trust yourself and try it 🙏🏻♥️
“I hear what you’re saying”
“It sounds like a lot of fear comes up for you when you think about ___ happening”
“I see where you’re coming from and I think ____ issue is important because the impact on individuals, families, our country would be ____”
Can go a long way in
@joshsilentmode
Loneliness is not feeling seen heard or understood whether you’re in a group or literally alone. It’s also just a feeling it comes and passes if you have self awareness ♥️
Emotional regulation on social media:
1) are you really angry at a stranger?
2) do you have all the facts/context?
3) are you making an assumption about a person based on your perception of a comment?
4) are you emotionally charged about something else?
Take care of you 💛
America elected Barack Obama in 2009 because he was fresh, confident, intelligent. He sparked something and inspired many people to vote.
Keep speaking to the important qualities such as these. It is pointless to keep reinforcing/asking if America will elect certain demogr
@Theholisticpsyc
A lot of parents, later gen x and boomer do not believe in therapy. They haven’t sat and processed emotions and separated themselves from their children. Any criticism makes them feel like you’re erasing what they did “right”
Many are just unaware of how to do this
@Theholisticpsyc
It is important that people understand they are having a whole human being
Not an extension of them to control or map out their life
Children require emotional time, energy care
And letting them discover themselves without control
💙
@Theholisticpsyc
This is great 👍🏻 sometimes it takes being removed from family for a bit of time to fully understand and see the patterns
Great thread 🧵🙌🏻♥️
1) Every generation think that their generation is/was “best” because they turned out “okay.
Truthfully, from silent generation to boomer to X many who did not identify or cope w feelings, life event developed addictions.
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Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by
@AbigailShrier
This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well.
The book dives into trying to figure out why
Try getting out of your own echo chamber. For a trial period.
See what it’s like to explore completely different ways of thinking, lifestyles, cultures etc.
I don’t understand hating on therapy influencers.
We know not everyone has access to mental health care and sometimes may still have concerns with going to see a therapist.
If you have elderly neighbors or people in your community, just saying hi or inviting them somewhere or doing whatever you have the space for-can make such a difference.
Loneliness and depression is high in this community. These little things really mean a lot
We can always focus on what we have control over and what we have space for, while enjoying what is certain right now. (Friends, family, relationships, etc)
There is an anxiety surrounding food that can be tough in adult life for people who grew up with parents working or “on the go” that we don’t talk about enough.
The grocery store can be overwhelming and the idea of meals/decision making surrounding food 🥘
@justin_garson
When you were a child, someone referred you to a psychiatrist you went and literally said “fuck off you’re not a real doctor”? Why even go?
You felt an overwhelming sensitivity for the fact that you may need support, a treatment plan or that things you were experiencing
3) con’t children get the consistency of classroom instruction, activities etc is important for well being and functioning
4) none of us have all the answers
5) removing access to mental health professionals will do more harm than positive outcomes
@Sandinista412
Exercise absolutely helps some IF someone is operating at a mild/moderate range of depression
They don’t understand that some people cannot get out of bed or get through their day without crying several times or they feel an extreme level of guilt for existing etc
T positivity: everything is wonderful! I heal myself with my words and speak all good into existence
Diagnostic identity: It’s okay to not be okay. I’m depressed and the world is on fire so I isolate
***Depression at times makes me want to isolate and it takes more effort for
@KenyaCrawford_
I love this thread so much!
These resonate w me
I’d add
I love getting to know their habits/patterns being able to help them recognize and formulating plans
Recognizing their progress, reviewing their goals, where we started and being able to say here’s where you’re at now 🙂
Letting someone into your daily life/world can add to your life in an amazing way or be terrible for your mental health.
Having a strong sense of self allows you to recognize this and let go if a relationship is concerning for your well being.
We cannot coerce people into having the same beliefs or passions or concerns or habits that we do.
We can only show up as ourselves authentically and speak from our experiences/perspectives.
It will resonate with some and not others.
Protect your energy. Take care of yourself
@Theholisticpsyc
I think we talk about and give so much weight to rejection in careers, relationships etc and it keeps people from expressing their feelings and going after opportunities.
Reframing as expressing my feelings and pursuing opportunities can lead to a more fulfilling life
Better questions:
Have you lost connection/communication in your relationship?
What role do fear/control have in your relationship?
How aesthetically you currently feeling about yourself?
3) When I feel ‘challenged’ or confronted is it for a purpose of growth and healing
Or does it just feel off and not for my benefit?
4) How do I feel after sessions?
5) Am I generally seen, heard and respected?
#therapy
@DrDoyleSays
If I share about NPD traits/behavior
I like to share that there is nuance and context needed, however if a person close to you often deflects when you have a concern about their words/actions, turns this back on you, often makes you question your reality
This is not a healthy r
@GrantHBrennerMD
I agree and see those posts often suggestion removing the DSM. Like everything in life, there is balance, there is nuance, they have been people misdiagnosed, over medicated, AND there are people whose diagnosis and treatment have impacted their lives in a positive way
All of these things can be true
1) old wounds can subconsciously keep people choosing situations/partners that have unhealthy dynamics
2) sometimes people can over analyze meaning in choosing people/situations
3) reframing in a way of trusting oneself can be more beneficial
We also owe it to our candidates to highlight their achievements, skill sets and accomplishments.
Although some memes/catch phrases may be funny try not to reinforce them
Some people just get tired of hearing therapy “buzz words,” I get it.
The most important thing is that we understand each other and that the words/actions we are discussing have meaning that is useful/impactful.
We can ditch the words that feel buzzy, just explain the actions
I’ve frequently had clients reference the sopranos in relation to how they feel in relation to characters, people in their lives-words/actions similar to characters, Tony’s experience in therapy.
Have other therapists had this?
People in general?
#therapy
#Sopranos
Its okay to start with setting “silent” boundaries if you’re working through guilt of not being available to those who drain your energy or whose words/actions are hurtful to you
E.g “I have to go now” “Something just came up” “I’m getting a call”