@the_wilderless
"You gotta push yourself to be better to yourself and grow a loving world around you" = I am become mommydaddy, the fulfiller of unmet needs
NPC's are real, but they're not people who are boring or who run a tribal script
Actual NPC's are terribly lonely people lost in their own trauma, too deeply nested inside their personae for you to see a glimmer of their humanity
Nobody who's met one treats that label lightly
@windgineering
@glennkelman
@Redfin
@federalreserve
@HUDgov
As a renter, this was a problem back in 2015. No houses to rent except those held by, you guessed it, a faceless holding company hidden by N+1 mgmt shell corps. My presumption is this is a result of foreclosure/buyup from 2008 crisis. 2020/1=real estate buyup 2, electric boogaloo
Oh yeah. I finally got married.
Ring given before the end of our 3rd year together.
An engagement that lasted 4 years due to circumstances.
And finally, after much waiting, a ceremony.
I am very lucky and very grateful.
@TheRadiantSky1
@BigSquishyDM
@GwenHIGHtowr
And it seems like anything that can pseudo-coagulate would be 1000% better than water, which feels like they never intended to make an effective product beyond "people will think it is just 'them' when it underperforms."
Sexist? Probably, but dystopic capitalist? Definitely.
I am pathologically avoidant of demand (read: don't respect authority) , and also have a pretty easy time (psychologically) quitting substances, so this tracks for me.
as someone who went to prison for heroin:
drug users way deeper into addiction than i had ever been have a deeper respect for order and authority than i ever do
i doubt that that is a coincidence
@MasterTimBlais
Sure, but all evidence of this vanishes quickly because only those who foresaw the possible problem and wrote it down keep its memory alive, which ain't long.
@the_wilderless
Completed changed how I percieve my own internal thoughts, consciousness (paved the way to opening up to Buddhist notions), and broadened my compassion for others when communication breaks down (it is all metaphor, after all, so why wouldn't it be buggy?)
@frogyfingers
@awildmaxdisapp1
Enjoying that show reminds me of being a Tool fan in highschool: enjoy the music, but dear GOD do not wear a band tee because 90% of the people who point and say "Dude, I love Tool! They are 3deep5me!" are obvious "Patrick Batemen is /me/, bro!" NT's with repugnant views on life.
@RizomaSchool
@Broskies629
I was "share a 2bd apartment with 3 people" poor the first time I did it. Every person I ever got it from was living check to check.
I'm only seeking to correct your impression of what social strata(s) *do* cocaine. It isn't actually expensive. Your take on it is understandable.
I'll admit I have no idea the depth of ego threat held in a rugpull as thorough as illustrators must be enduring, but that said πthisπ is childish i.e., characteristic of a child's worldview and their place in it.
The poster is losing their fight on purpose rather than face it
@datepsych
Can dynamically condense/transform content that is dense with info and/or high conceptual complexity e.g., quickly read a 3 paragraph "wall of text" slide and both accurately summarize and also explicate the content's relationship to the broader context
Reliability/speed -> ++IQ
@RahmSJ
@eigenrobot
This, imo: neurotic worry of being responsible for the trouble of others rarely leaves room for actually empathizing with the experience of others.
See: maxing caution way past the point of diminishing returns, tradeoffs be damned.
Sincere question:
Is the cult of "Let bullies run amok because raising your voice or showing anger is forbidden" ubiquitous across corporate USA?
IE Am I in a rarer sort of hell, here, or is this sort of mewling, 2nd-order capitulation to bullies pretty standard?
I'm beginning to think that making "stupid" a forbidden insult when I was a kid has done a lot of damage to how we model other people.
Now, it isn't kind to act like everybody is dumb, but it is much worse to dream up even more alienating explanations when people do dumb stuff.
This saddens me.
Know what sucks worse than being held back in a class that's beneath your ability?
Struggling mightily in that class and watching other kids trivialize your efforts purely by showing up.
Maybe I'm wrong, but that looked like it hurt when I saw it.
the honors treadmill continues in Seattle
the district is phasing out its highly capable cohort schools, instead tossing all students in the same classrooms and telling teachers to figure it out
bad but unsurprising. this has all happened before and will all happen again
@genovianwinemom
@ODanaos
@ariadnecrete
@MedievalJon
Yeah, it takes one by surprise, doesn't it?
Besides the laughs, that comic has made me think (rightly, probably) "Is this kinky, transgressive, kinky because it is transgressive, or am I just a square? Maybe all three?" several times.
Glad it was appreciable.
@crystalxduan
Or of being more monetarily privileged than you ever planned to have to account for.
Beats TF out of being poor, but the shame permutes and persists
Dumbest thing I ever did was climb a 30ft A-frame ladder connected by *mended* nylon ropes.
I did this above a tile covered concrete floor, while holding an unwieldy movie banner.
I think leaned *off the ladder* to reach the hookup lines.
Yeah. 21yo me was immortal doncha know
Dumbest thing ever done for work was a big server rack was being delivered βwithout knowingβ we didnβt have a dock so they put the 900lbs thing on the lift gate and I for a moment stood there trying to hold it still before I realized it would absolutely crush me.
They got it down
@KenBearIsland
Yep. Parents often forget that while they have had many precious watershed moments of broken trust, for kids it is likely their first ime and one never forgets a first time.
One should strive to not be your kids' first heartbreaking lessons if nothing else
@thinkagainer
You cannot adequately asses your risk of surfacing a latent potential for psychotic disorder that you'd otherwise avoid entirely. Sourcre: is me, popped my cork, got better.
Anyone have a special trick, or routine they use to make "actual work" more feasible on days with 3-5 hours of meetings?
I'm nearly convinced it is just hard and sucks irreducibly, but I'm all ears if you've found a tool which helps you.
@SilentSamIAm
Yep. That's why they look for easy to exclude "threats" to scratch the itch. Like an obsessive mind deciding that sanitizing their phone keeps them germ free, never mind touching their face in public.
Anybody who talks a LOT for a living got tips for preserving your voice? I mean "8 hours of lecture * 5 days a week" sort of a lot.
Salt gargling? Mouth tape? Sacrifices to some eldritch god of svelte vocal chords?
People seem to be keen on never learning how the world works.
Whenever I see people clawing at their eyes when shit that is 10000% predictable plays out as it always would, I wonder what they get out of it.
Like, doesn't it *hurt* to let life sucker punch you like that?
@EMF_EMF_EMF
@tszzl
So they can conflate his madness with this good take and make people associate madness with opposing franchising law. Maybe. Perhaps they are just too entrenched to realize what a based-AF anti-establishment take it is.
@sailaunderscore
My LinkedIn picture is damn good and was taken by my bff, but tbf most people don't go on weekend trips to national forests with their bff's.
@Tjdriii
Pretend to be a Kind of Person and gain much of the insight into what makes such a person tick and what the challenges are. Expanding yourself is costly, but reaps the reward of being adaptable when context demands it.
I'm *not* agreeable, nor cheery, nor "nice."
Yet, I am.
A great dog among all good dogs!
He brought us love and led us to be out best!
He has earned his rest.
He will be missed terribly.
Goodbye, beloved companion!
Goodbye, loyal friend!
Hail to Thee, Lucas!
May thy memory never end!
*ahem* I NEED NEW HOBBIES WITH DEEP AND WIDE PROBLEM SPACES OR INFINITE SKILL CEILINGS SO I CAN HAVE FUN MORE RELIABLY AND WORK ON MY SELF LOATHING. PLEASE OFFER WHAT HAS WORKED FOR YOU AND WHY. THANKS IN ADVANCE I LOVE YOU.
I need some new pursuits, hobbies, pastimes or whatever that are Fun and have a deep and wide problem space so I cam get lost in it rather than break it over my knee and get bored.
Suggestions of any kind welcome. Personal anecdotes with details preferred.
@quendergeer
@InternetHippo
@SAMOYEDCORE
The adjacent(?) (and likely unmeasurable) stat I'd like to know is "what is the median # of robberies commited by a single person/group w/o being caught?"
Is it > 1? Does the average skew higher or lower than the median? Etc.
@OrphicCapital
@nosilverv
Which depending on the mind and the frame, may in fact constitute "work" to a degree which outstrips being engaged in near constant labor
@superstarcrashr
@MenshevikM
Wow. Glad I missed that. "How DARE you respect a foreign culture so deeply you devote your life to embodying their rich history through practice and performance!"
Like, that's one of the heights of cultural appreciation right there. Wtf @ having even a superficial problem w/ it
@Authw8
@Nexuist
Yeah, this is what I thought as well. A truly random graph *should* catch the eye of an experienced analyst. Granted, they should probably also get frustrated/confused or admit "need more data" if they tried to actually analyze it.
@VividVoid_
Nothing an anti-establishment collective despises more than an anti-establishmentariam who is not currently adhering to the collective standards of established anti-establishment collectives.
@thinkagainer
Her name was Renee. She was sweet and bubbly. She was Ozzy Osborne level sandblasted by doing EPIC amounts of acid for ~3 years continuously. Result: she went from being a shrewd judge of character to needing a wingperson at all times to protect her from even the most obvious BS
Apex predator collapse! A predatory organism that has grown to dominate an ecosystem is the *most* specialized species in that system: a given system is roughly homeostatic and Apex success means special adaptation to it.
When change comes, they fall completely off of the ladder
Reminds me of a joke:
A man is out on an evening walk
He approaches a high bridge over a river and sees a man standing on the wrong side of the railing
"Hey there, friend. May I ask why you're about to do that?"
"I've lost my way and God will never forgive me." 1/4
i wonder if the Eve and the apple mythβs origin is a bunch of ancient folk tales of people eating psychoactive plants and breaking out of their cultureβs meaning systems in subversive ways
@RandomSprint
Yeah, it is rather depressing.
I would think it isn't real, but have a friend who has bought into that and also extreme non-coercive parenting
e.g., twin boys, age 4, neither remotely potty trained because it is "traumatic to push them to be potty trained."
I worry very much.
@astridwilde1
Many people want badly to be possessed. I'd go so far as to suggest that people who espouse maximum optionality (bi, poly) are more likely to want this due to the inherent contrarian nature of chosen lifestyle versus inner desires and dysfunctions Smth smth Freud wasn't all wrong
#vibecamp
was excellent. It is rare to feel truly satisfied by a community experience.
There will be more such things & may there be many among these called Vibecamp, but! each is precious & lovely *in its ephemerality*. Could not be other.
Vibecamp is dead.
Long live Vibecamp!
Best posture advice I've heard so far (credit to unknown redditor via
@JennTheMusical
)
"Pretend lasers shoot out of your nipples and you're trying to score headshots."
I've recently been confronted by the fact that I hate who I have made myself into. I need to exit this growth cycle and prune away the horny bits which have overgrown themselves.
8 years ago I set to become the hyper-competent, can-do, conscientious guy I wished I was as I kid.
@goblinodds
Lead poisoning across the board. For real. Consider where "elites" are supposed to come from and note that they are rarely places free from exhaust fumes ergo elites born and raised before or during the end of leaded gas are very likely to have been damaged by the exposure.
My calendly:
If I can record you with consent, then I will, but don't feel pressured to do so.
I'll make as much time as I can until I cannot.
Look forward to seeing and hearing you, friends!
Yo, dawg. I heard you were listless and agonizing over the purposeless banality of your daily life of repeating rituals that have lost their context, so I... oh, oh shit. My life is a lie.
@chaosprime
23yo - highlight anecdote was sitting in the breakroom pointing out to fem coworker that she was complaining about a bed of her own making. At this, simpbro pipes up smth smth whiteknight. Without looking up from my book "Go F urself, mama's boy"
Girl told me later this was hot.
What if I told you that some kids have always been this crappy and that pushing the window of accountability/adulthood further out causes children to develop empathy that much more slowly?
A 3yo with a 14yo body is a terrifying prospect.
So too with delayed emotional maturity.
@Aella_Girl
Funnier. Easily.
1) I don't need to have my intuitions become any further deranged from common knowledge and norms.
2) Humor is the best adapter to bridge between aforementioned deranged intuitions and minds clustered closer to the common knowledge and norms.
If you ask "is anyone else seeing this?", then the answer is "yep".
If you ask "is anyone going to do something?", then the answer is "not until you do first".
No Grown Ups
Just kids who got old
Some wise enough to know it
Some with courage to act
Most without enough of either
@nomanautomata
@h0mbre_
Seriously: nothing so exhaustive and specific as knowledge derived through dogged experimentation without much prior heuristics or expertise to draw on.
Imo we are approaching an inflection point where high quality goods and services are once again available chiefly/solely through personal business relationships with professionals and artisans.
Media led the way e.g. Patron, but now goods and services, too!
really infuriating how the only options for products nowadays seem to be dirt cheap garbage quality, moderately expensive garbage quality, and ultra-expensive good quality *i assume*???
Why am I considering this?
I had a nervous breakdown 5 years ago. I never took time to recover. I did what I've done since I was a teenager: pretend I'm not dying inside and soldier on.
I need to do something different and I need time to heal and explore what that could be.
It is far easier, and often wiser, to build a secret garden around the forbidden tree than to cut it down and fight the titan which feeds on its roots.
I seriously don't understand why people find gifs so annoying.
If randos are bombing your replies with irrelevant gifs, then mute/block them.
If your reply peeps use them, then appreciate the thought behind it as you do *literally all other symbolic communication.*
I think this hits on a true generational shift: an abandonment of the economic dream in favor of the dream of social importance.
Which is the same dream by another means and at another scale.
"I don't need to be rich, but what if I were Cool like I always wanted?"
I know they say a lot of middle class Americans identify as βtemporarily embarrassed millionairesβ but a lot of 27-year-olds on Twitter identify as βtemporarily embarrassed mean popular kidsβ
"But IQ isn't real. I don't have trouble with hypotheticals"
"Yes, but imagine that you did. How would you feel about the breakfast & lunch post in that case?"
"I don't understand the question"
"Ah, ok. Thank you for your time! Send in the next poster, please?"
@animalologist
The anterogrsde amnesia makes this as uncomplicated as such a tragedy could be: he will never even be able to ruminate on what was lost or compare it to what is now. He just needs to be cares for and every moment he feels loved and part of a family is an unalloyed blessing.
You don't need to stop horrors. You cannot.
You are grappling not with the enormity of human suffering but suffering your powerlessness.
You can hold the plight of the world in your heart without feeling it is yours to fix.
Thrive for the lost.
Do not suffer for their memory
@sonnenmimi
She is in danger and needs the safety of an ostensible male defender to deter some would be predator.
OR
I'm about to get mugged by a guy coming from the blind spot I just earned myself by turning to engage her.
Ever meet someone who you vibe with and whose happiness and struggles feel like they're kinda yours too without much effort?
That's the Good Shit people always talk about with Misty eyes and Wistful tones
That or you're down bad & they're a sociopath who is love bombing you π€£
Your boss fwd's the outgoing rec for a new hire that will *report to you.* The base salary listed in plaon text is +15% / $##,### more than yours.
On their part is this: