Terese @tresterese Twitter profile

Last Seen Profiles

@HobiSTW8

@bokeplokalmalam

@ibubohay2

@PremiumTable

@irishelectproj

@StwGendut

@RaR21651755

@BinorRaja

@AboutSherryy

@newlinesmag

@bokeplokalmalam

@multyfandom29

@KaleioDyer

@Zochrot

@SafaTweets

@HobiSTW8

@idokep

@Edsonicyouth

@RaR21651755

@KasihLudah

@mivanche

@SantosFred81831

@stwmaniax

@sexxxk1tt3n

@EriclysMai30652

@BrennanSki

@hovercraft_boy

@JulissaRic4178

@RilMulh

@asgharlab

@morea_boyM

@penyukastw21

@CSDrones

@DenBagu07314907

@City_Barca87

@DenBagu07314907

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

I recorded nearly every* breastfeeding session with my older daughter over 1.5 years. Mostly so I could someday make some charts. Yay charts! *I only missed a very small handful of feeds!

59

101

2K

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I’m not sure anything else in my life has made me so viscerally feel that something about modern society is messed up than trying to take care of a baby.

89

131

2K

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Marinara taste testing thread! I was feeling a bit overwhelmed by the large selection of pasta sauces at my local grocery store. So I decided to blind taste test 15 different brands of marinara. Here are some conclusions, ratings, tasting notes, and a little on the how

79

122

1K

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

There is a tiny human growing inside of me. Image 1: Ultrasound Image 2: Artist's impression

28

4

529

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I don’t want to RETVRN. I don’t want to give up diapers and modern medicine. But I notice that the social structure of our society is very ill suited to baby care.

45

18

531

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I feel like I ought to have seen this done before trying it myself. Most premodern parents probably did.

1

3

388

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Rao's ($0.46/oz) 10/10 This was the best sauce IMO, so I’m going to ramble about it for a little. It was one of the more difficult sauces to describe, as the flavors were very well blended. It was hard to pick out notes of particular things like garlic and herbs...

41

20

405

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I feel I ought to have more people around to hold her for me while I do things like wash up and prepare food and eat and use the bathroom. Most premodern parents probably did.

3

7

329

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

But I feel like I ought to have someone around who could give me personalized, instead of generalized, advice and information. Most premodern parents probably did.

4

322

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

It’s not that modern parenting feels like the most harrowing journey anyone could embark on. It’s that it feels sort of unnatural. For one, I realize I’ve never really witnessed a baby being raised before.

2

3

302

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

It makes sense in the context of most of modern life. I have different desires from my parents in terms of where I want to live. And I didn’t want them all up in my pre-baby life business. But in the context of baby raising it feels all wrong.

3

5

296

Terese

@tresterese

2 years

We taught the baby “fist bump.” She’s suuuper into it. Wants to fist bump first thing after I pick her up in the morning. Pauses while nursing to fist bump me. Thinks it’s hilarious to fist bump the baby in the mirror.

3

8

277

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I’ve met babies before. I’ve even seen them get fed and diapered on occasion. But it was always in the context of a short visit. I’ve never witnessed the day to day of baby care.

3

1

260

Terese

@tresterese

6 months

I had my baby last week! She is healthy and loved. And, I was able to have the sort of delivery I’d wanted.

22

0

269

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

I’m not sure of the answer to this question, but some thoughts: I started to feel a lot more strongly about sex imbalances after becoming a mother. In the culture I live in, I suspect women are more oppressed by their own biology than they are by society.

barbarous

@barbarousep

9 months

Life fairness survey Which sex do you think has an easier life?

87

17

60

8

2

247

Terese

@tresterese

10 months

Merry Christmas! @yashkaf and I are looking forward to welcoming our second daughter in April

27

0

248

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

It’s been over 3 weeks since my baby girl was born. I’m having a lot of very new experiences. New states of mind. And it’s all shifting and changing, just as she is.

11

1

232

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

Previously, I was very happy with my decision to move far away from my family. My sister also moved far away from my parents, and my parents had moved away from their parents, who had moved away from their parents…

2

228

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

My baby wants to be held almost constantly. Even when she’s sleeping. Especially when she’s sleeping! Holding my baby all day can make it very hard to do simple and necessary tasks.

16

1

214

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

It’s not that I’d never come across things like injustice, twisted incentive structures, and propaganda before. But those things feel more human. I would expect humans anywhere and when to hurt and manipulate each other.

2

0

200

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I wish I had some more experience with this. I wish other people with more experience were around to help. I wish more other people were around to help regardless of their experience level!

7

3

204

Terese

@tresterese

2 months

I decided to wean myself off SSRIs starting several years ago and the process took a lot longer than I normally see talked about. As in, when I tapered off 1/3 of my original dose, I had a really bad time for like around 6 months. But then things got better…

4

5

215

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I feel like I’m grasping and fumbling and messing things up without even knowing what it is I’m doing wrong.

4

0

196

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I’ve read about babies before. I’ve got plenty in the way of books and relevant social media content. I’m subscribed to parenting subreddits and instagram accounts and I’m googling about baby poop.

1

179

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

How do other babies sleep? What am I doing wrong? What does it look like to do it right? Why isn’t my baby sleeping in the way the online resources say she should?

11

1

172

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

My 8 Y.O. niece just said to me, “That’s a pretty swimsuit. Who gave it to you?” I responded by saying I had bought it myself, but briefly imagined a world in which all clothes were gifted

4

11

173

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

For example: I’ve been tracking my baby’s sleep on an app and all the online resources say she’s not getting enough sleep! But how do I get her to sleep more?

14

0

162

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

I just saw the Barbie movie and, hear me out, it reminded me of nematodes Note that this isn't much about the movie, so no spoilers ahead unless you count "general premise that could be surmised by considering the tagline" and "the ratio of Barbies to Kens in Barbieland"

3

11

170

Terese

@tresterese

4 years

“Playing god” is bad, but “doing god’s work” is good. So, being god-like is cool, so long as you’re not having any fun? 🤔

12

23

154

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I made a cake. Lemon raspberry with Swiss buttercream frosting and white chocolate decorations.

8

2

140

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

As a childless woman I was sometimes even a little offended at getting any special treatment for being a woman. As an actively reproducing woman I feel I need all the special treatment I can get, thank you, and I’m not sure even that is enough to make up for how hard this can be.

1

139

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

In the Barbie movie, the ratio of Barbies to Kens in Barbieland seems pretty even. This is a mistake! No wonder the Kens are unhappy!

3

130

Terese

@tresterese

2 years

I can’t believe my jerk-ass husband selfishly took the last ripe peach and gave it to the kid

7

4

119

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

@knowclarified I used to work in science and still feel compelled to collect and analyze data

3

0

120

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

BRANDS: I went into this expecting more of the smaller brands to taste better. Small-batch is usually a positive descriptor, right? As well as artisanal, local, etc... but all of my least favorite sauces were smaller brands

1

0

113

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

This is the same chart as above with some annotations. It shows a weekly average of feeds per day, color coded by time of day. Looks like the number of day feeds was fairly steady up until I started to wean. Night feeds increased over time except when affected by sleep training.

3

5

107

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

So, while I usually like to start eating my food when it dips just below the point of causing internal injuries, this made me realize I might do better to wait a while. A lot of complexity comes through at temperatures slightly closer to the dreaded lukewarm.

3

2

108

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

One of my favorite sauces was a smaller brand too! But I’d say that in addition to being higher variance, the smaller brands generally scored worse with me. Perhaps that big brand money spent on product testers really does matter.

1

0

100

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

I always feel a little shy about tweeting after a thread of mine gets more attention than usual. Husband suggested I dig through my drafts for something weird to shake up the expectations of any new followers. Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. Anyway, here’s a cool caterpillar I saw today.

5

0

94

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

PRICE: Note that the prices are listed as they appear at my local grocery store, which is on the more expensive side. With that said, there was almost no correlation between price per ounce and my scoring of a sauce. I was very surprised by this!

1

0

93

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

I suspect a lot of the allowances and special privileges my culture gives to women in general originated from: - Respect for vital role in creating future generations - Compensation for biological handicaps - Reparations for past systemic oppression

2

1

90

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

TEXTURE: Before this project I didn’t realize how much variance in texture I’d encounter. Some of the sauces were basically just a smooth puree, and some of them were like chunks sitting in juice. And it turned out that texture really mattered for my enjoyment of a sauce.

1

0

90

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Conclusions first because this is general stuff that applies even if you don’t care about which particular brands I tested. I definitely learned more from this experience than just which sauces I did and didn’t like, so I wanted to share that here.

1

0

90

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

... because everything was very well melded. I don’t mean to say that the flavor didn’t have complexity, because it did, but just that I couldn’t easily go, “ah, yes, that’s a bit of garlic flavor there.” So instead while taking notes I resorted to more abstract language.

3

1

88

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

TEMPERATURE: I already knew that things can taste different at different temperatures, but this was interesting to pay close attention to. I found that at higher temperatures, tomato flavor was pretty robust. Garlic and herb flavors tended to come through more as a sauce cooled.

1

0

88

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

She will continue to change, and so will my feelings towards her. I know there will be a lot of challenges and hard times ahead, but I’m really looking forward to experiencing more love towards this precious being. I already love her so, so much.

7

0

82

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

Also not trying to say that women are necessarily better off not having children. I’m happy with my decision to become a mother and I haven’t struggled with depression like I did pre-motherhood. But it is hard, and I do feel like I need a lot more help from others as a mother.

1

0

84

Terese

@tresterese

8 months

Toddler, pointing to a noodle on her high chair tray: The noodle is resting on the tray! Me: Huh, I don’t think I’ve ever used that phrasing around her before. Did someone else? Did she somehow infer? Toddler, picking up noodle: The noodle is awake!

1

2

84

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

There’s the things directly tied to reproduction, but also general differences in interests, personality traits, susceptibility to mental health problems and weird immune system stuff. All of this can be exacerbated or just brought to forefront by actually having children.

2

0

78

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

It’s one thing to live as a childless, educated, working woman who is free to medicate away some of their biological difficulties. Quite another thing to be pregnant, breastfeeding, or just spending a lot of hours taking care of small children.

1

77

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

... "Smell of tomatoes, but with an accent." "Distinguished, sophisticated, vintage." The flavors were interesting but came together smoothly, with well-balanced acidity and a bit of spice. The texture was good, pulpy with some small chunks of tomato.

3

0

77

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

I’m not trying to say that childless women always have it easy, or to take a strong stance on whether men or women have it harder in general. Just sharing my personal experience of some stance shifting on this topic.

1

0

73

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Newman's Own ($0.21/oz) 8/10 The flavor here was plain but pleasant. It was very tomatoey, but in a well balanced way with just a little acidity in the aftertaste. I could taste more herby flavors come through as the sauce cooled. The texture was smooth and mostly even.

2

0

73

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

Next, suckling duration. This chart shows a weekly average of total minutes per day. You can see a dramatic dropoff in suckling time over the first couple months. Cutting night feeds somewhat increased pre-weaning daytime suckling.

4

1

68

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

What I’m trying to say is that B̶a̶r̶b̶i̶e̶s̶ ̶m̶u̶s̶t̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶h̶e̶r̶m̶a̶p̶h̶r̶o̶d̶i̶t̶e̶s̶ Kens seem to live their best life when they exist in proportion to the desired number of boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, which is typically less than the desired number of Barbies.

2

1

71

Terese

@tresterese

2 months

… and I gave myself a 6 month period of feeling better before tapering off another 1/3rd, which again felt terrible, for months. But I repeated til completely off. I haven’t taken psych meds for 4 years now and haven’t been anywhere near depressed once.

1

71

Terese

@tresterese

2 years

Tried using chat GPT to help with my texting anxiety. Is this a terrible idea that will kill off my last few text-generating brain cells? A good way to learn what sort of messages are appropriate? An acceptable way to do what it takes? An immoral form of deception and trickery?

7

0

67

Terese

@tresterese

2 years

Baby loves to facilitate entropy

5

0

67

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

I wondered if the total suckling duration* was different between sides (do I have a slacker boob?). Answer is, a little, but not a lot. Interestingly, the difference wasn't steady over time. Some months she'd spend more time on the left, then switch to being more on the right.

1

2

63

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

And that's it for the reviews! Methods section next. I’m a trained scientist, this is important to me to include. But also I get why scientific journals sometimes put this section in smaller print; feel free to skip.

2

0

63

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

TASTING: I felt I got better at tasting as I went through this experiment. My notes became more detailed with sauces I tasted later. I wonder if this also had an effect on my overall ratings, but I didn’t go back and retest the sauces I’d tasted earlier, so I can’t say.

1

0

65

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Classico ($0.21/oz) 6/10 This one tasted more like bell peppers than tomatoes. It wasn't bad, but the peppery flavor made this feel like something other than a marinara. Interestingly, there were no bell peppers in the ingredient list, so I'm not sure what was going on there.

2

0

64

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Barilla ($0.20/oz) 7/10 This was a decent sauce. The aroma and flavor were dominated by an herb I guessed was oregano, which was a tad too strong. I could also taste basil and garlic over a mild and slightly sour tomato base. I liked the texture here, which was pulpy and chunky.

1

0

60

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

This is a non-averaged version of the data, zoomed in to show the weaning process. In this version you can see a more dramatic step-shape, where I was purposefully reducing by about 1 feed per month (skipping April) with some exceptions throughout each month.

1

59

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

However this may have been muddled by my trying a lot of small brands, which one might expect to be generally more expensive and have higher variance in quality. I supposed I’d expect there to be more of a correlation when only testing national brands.

3

0

60

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Most of the fun of playing with Barbies doesn't require any Kens. Outfit changes, political drama, murder plots, that sort of thing. Ken is really only required for (hetero) romantic drama, which is nice but optional for many a seven year old.

1

60

Terese

@tresterese

3 months

2

0

56

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

Sleep? Personal hygiene? Entertainment? Socialization? Meh, meh, meh, meh. Baby is everything! Everything is baby! And that felt right. It felt just. It felt good.

1

0

54

Terese

@tresterese

9 months

The toddler has started saying “thank you” unprompted, and it is so delightful

1

56

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I don’t think of myself as a warm person. I don’t think of myself as someone who is generally “good with kids.” I’ve worried that my personality might incline me to be an overly cold mother. And so, I surprised myself by how obsessed with her I was almost as soon as she came out.

2

0

53

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

A woman recently said to my husband that one reason she never wants kids is that she doesn’t want her brain to get rewired. I can understand feeling defensive over your sense of self in that way. But having parenthood rewire my brain is something I wanted and looked forward to.

1

0

53

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Michael's of Brooklyn ($0.34/oz) 7/10 I mostly liked this sauce, except for one aspect of it: it was overly sour. Otherwise though, it had a nice complexity to the flavor, and great texture - a pretty thick puree with some small chunks and garlic slices.

2

0

56

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Carbone ($0.37/oz) 2/10 I chose to toss this jar after I'd finished the tasting. It smelled and tasted like tinned tomatoes, without much else going on. It was acidic, stringent, and sour. I also had a hard time picking out the flavor of any spices or herbs.

4

0

56

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Baby has learned that old ladies on the subway are likely to smile and wave at her, so she’s started smiling and waving at them first

1

54

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Methods section next. I’m a trained scientist, this is important to me to include. But also I get why scientific journals sometimes put this section in smaller print; feel free to skip.

1

0

52

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

Here's a histogram of the suckling duration per feed. Looks like most feeds lasted only around 5 minutes. I wondered how this changed over time, so next I made little histograms showing the same thing on a per-month basis over approximately the first year...

2

0

53

Terese

@tresterese

3 months

Delighted my toddler by showing her how to cool her drink by stirring in an ice cube. She then requested we warm the drink. “You know, if you stir fast enough…” I joked. Mistake.

0

1

52

Terese

@tresterese

4 months

Took baby with me to a movie theater today. Changed two diapers and nursed without leaving my seat. Felt weirdly badass. It was a designated baby-friendly showtime with lowered volume, room lights dim but not off, and pre-show announcements to say that crying is expected and OK

1

0

53

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

But just like you never get to the point of nematodes spawning 50/50 hermaphrodite/male progeny, I doubt you ever see 50/50 Barbie/Ken ratios in the wild.

2

0

52

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Billy's Italian Market ($0.44/oz) 1/10 This sauce smelled a bit like black olive brine. It also tasted like black olive brine. There was also some tomato flavor, but that didn't come through strongly. The texture was overly watery, with a thin liquid surrounding small chunks.

1

0

52

Terese

@tresterese

2 years

I have something of a gift for finding four-leaf clovers. Today I found a rare five-leaf one.

2

4

49

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Pizza Girl ($0.46/oz) 3/10 The flavor of this one was pretty good (mostly of tomatoes, a little acidic, with some light herbal notes), but I just could not stand the texture. It was both overly watery and overly chunky. Felt a bit like chewing through a can of diced tomatoes.

2

0

52

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I’m interested in getting at least a third mRNA shot early in my third trimester so my baby can get some antibodies. But from what I understand, right now the only way to do this (for someone like me) is to lie to the officials, which I’m really not comfortable with =/

9

1

49

Terese

@tresterese

2 months

I went from being a very depressed teen to being a very depressed adult, still on three different antidepressants. And then something amazing happened - my life circumstances changed, and I wasn’t depressed anymore.

1

0

53

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

human reproductive system is bad on purpose to make you dick

0

1

45

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

This is my third pregnancy. The first two ended in miscarriages at about 8 weeks and 11 weeks gestational age, respectively. However, with both those pregnancies I knew things were going badly well before they ended.

1

0

49

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

… she picked up her toy guinea pig, crawled over to and up into the stroller again, and started trying to buckle the straps herself! When I came over to help, she was cooperative and cheerful.

0

48

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

This pregnancy could still end in miscarriage, but I'd estimate a low single digit percent chance of that. And, no matter the outcome, I feel I want to talk about it here.

1

0

49

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

And without further ado, here are the sauces, prices, ratings, and tasting notes:

1

0

48

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Yay, I did it! Some reflections:

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

I’ve never been a frequent tweeter, but I’m curious about what it would feel like to tweet more often. So my goal for the month of July is to do a least one tweet per day.

1

0

20

2

0

47

Terese

@tresterese

2 months

Grieving, yes. Very anxious, yes. I cried a lot at my OB/GYN visits around the time of my two miscarriages, which made my OB suggest I start taking SSRIs.

1

0

50

Terese

@tresterese

4 months

Bold of the grocery store to share this guide when accordingly their watermelons should be tasteless and watery

2

0

47

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

And that’s a wrap! I had fun with this project. I am slightly disappointed that despite the overall lack of correlation between price and rating, my favorite sauce was also the most expensive. But at least now I can rest easy knowing I really am getting what I like best.

2

1

46

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

We started cosleeping in May, and it took a few months for her suck-sleep association to really get established. Then you can see a flattening in Aug due to our two weeks of sleep training. The frequent feeds came back with a vengeance Sep-Nov until we tried sleep training again.

3

0

45

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

@WillGraywood Honestly, this was less about utility and more about me being a nerd

1

0

47

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

Our Ken only had one outfit (we often got packs of Barbie clothes for Christmas, but never Ken clothes), and it had been ripped down the leg for as long as I can remember. He wore it anyway, and was someone’s boyfriend anyway. He had good life.

1

47

Terese

@tresterese

5 months

Feeds were much longer over the first month, then generally got shorter. Looks like they were shortest in Sep-Nov, when she was at the height of night feeding, then got longer again in Dec-Jan when we sleep trained.

2

1

44

Terese

@tresterese

1 year

It's more about how Barbies and Kens are played with - for what purposes and in what ratios. As kids my sister and I had lots of Barbie dolls, but only one Ken. It seems pretty common for the ratio of Barbies to Kens to be very skewed like this.

1

0

46

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

I've been pregnant for most all of 2021. It seems I'm someone who becomes pregnant more easily than average but also miscarries more than average. I suspect the two are related. It's been something of a heartbreaking journey so far.

1

0

45

Terese

@tresterese

3 years

This has shifted a little since, but for the first two weeks or so, baby was undeniably CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE. Things that were not-baby mattered unexpectedly little.

1

0

43