Hello friends, I finally have the approval to kickstart my grand pickle project. If you know anyone who makes pickles regularly, pickle shops, traders or factories, send them my way. If you would like to participate or learn more about the project, get in touch. ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ๐ฅณ
TW: Domestic Violence
My father set my bed on fire in an attempt to kill me when I was 5 years old. I was unwanted by both sides of the family. My mother's side abused me for years. My father's side didn't want anything to do with me. I grew up dismissed and ostracised.
Dr Refaat Alareer studied at UCL and was brutally killed by Israel, and here we have UCL collaborating with Tel Aviv University. This is the state of academia in the UK and yet we are constantly told that universities believe in equality, diversity and inclusion.
When I turned 30, my uncle told me to think about marriage or else I would be past "my prime" and have to settle for "balding divorced men." Won't rant about my obnoxious uncle. I'm turning 35 in 4 days. This is the happiest I have been in my body and my dating pool is great. ๐
I was going to completely avoid this but since this is all over my TL -- India is extremely unsafe for women. I don't know a SINGLE woman who has not faced some form of harassment or worse while in India. Really vile to say that women are baselessly shaming the country.
I am not worried about the outcome (of course I want it to be good). I am most excited that my mum and I managed to reach here. Despite the odds. We are here and we get to tell our very own success story. Nothing else matters.
I was the child whose future those closest to me tried to repeatedly sabotage. I survived and thrived because my mother fought hard to ensure that I can build a future on my own terms. Tomorrow I get to discuss my thesis in a space I was never meant to find. I call this victory.
Unbelieveable that celebs like Amy Schumer, Gal Gadot and Natalie Portman believe that people hate them because they are Jewish and not because they are racist, genocidal war-mongerers. White feminist trash clowns ๐คก
This glow of happiness comes not from some fictive "prime" but from rebelling against oppressive heteropatriarchal sanctions. And, finding friends, partners and communities who exist outside these norms.
I passed my viva with minor corrections. Really grateful to my examiners Professor Ruvani Ranasinha and Dr Oli Hazzard for such robust and engaging discussions. My examiners were kind enough to tell me the outcome before the start of the viva. It is yet to sink in though.
Telling you this because women everywhere face so much pressure as after they hit their 30s. There is literally no dearth of garbage patriarchy and capitalism would not throw at women. So women do not settle or compromise. You do you!
Four years of dreaming about homes has finally come to an end. It is yet to sink in. I am excited and overwhelmed all at once. Still internally screaming. ๐ฅณ๐คฉ
Also Merry Christmas, everyone.
I have waited a full year to write this: I am joining the University of St Andrews as an Associate Lecturer in Modern and Contemporary Literature. So thrilled to return to my lovely department
@staenglish
. Too many people to thank in one tweet, so please be prepared for cards.
Dear great scholars of decolonization and the Global South, it is time to add Bangladesh to the list of countries you remain silent about while you go about publishing more articles and attending more conferences.
The time has arrived to announce to the world the wonderful labour of feminist love and care that
@profdebsen
,
@deyspecial
and I are putting together. If you work on any aspect of food and feminism, we want to hear from you. Taco out your inner
#gastrofeminists
and come join us!
I am in a huge crisis and away from home. My mother is being forcibly evicting from our property without any notice. Kolkata Police is not even giving her 24 hours. I don't have the energy to get into all the details. Any resources will help. Please share widely.
I wasn't expecting my DV post to blow up. I want to thank each of you who reached out and held a space of care. I am muting this because there are too many trolls such as these seeking justice for oppressed men. My apologies if you had to deal with trolls because of this post.
My only burning question this morning is how many people in Western academia pronounce Gayatri Chakraborty Spivak accurately? And if she goes around correctly people all the time? ๐ซ
University of St Andrews' Court has dismissed our Rector after a long, drawn out discourse on how she failed to perform her duty of care by speaking up about an on going genocide in Gaza.
I never thought I will feel this but I am glad to be leaving this uni.
People endorsing death penalty for child rape have zero understanding of child sexual abuse. In most CSA cases, the child knows the perpetrators. Often, they are family members, teachers and relatives. Death penalty does nothing other than coerce more children into silence.
Once again I am taking to Twitter to tell you that my favourite vegetable is korola/karela/bitter melon. I will tolerate no disrespect towards the glorious, bumpy green vegetable filled with crunchy seeds.
Those of us who grew up in India and mind you I grew up in Kolkata which is considered a "safer" city: we had codes and all kinds of techniques to protect ourselves in public places EVEN IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Some of the worst things that have happened to me were all in big cities.
I won 2 small grants this month: one I received unexpectedly earlier this month and the letter for the 2nd one arrived today.
I have really been struggling since the start of 2021. The pandemic has been relentless, but today I feel a little hopeful after many months. ๐ญ๐ฅฐ
This homesick Bengali's dinner: daal made with split pigeon peas, salad, collard greens sautรฉed with aubergine and mustard, dim bhaja (omelette), lime pickle and rice. ๐ป
The most precious catto Mishka is 13 years old today. She will accept all your good wishes especially if you come bearing tuna, chicken and dollops of fresh cream. ๐
I have faced frequent stalking, groping, eve teasing. I still cannot walk anywhere without constantly looking over my shoulders. Nothing and no public place makes me really feel safe. And this is true for most of us who have lived or spent time in India.
Hello folks, I have prepared this spreadsheet to try and collate as many fundraisers to support people in Gaza and make them widely accessible to more people. Please add any calls that you see and share widely in your networks.
Utterly shameful to say bad things happen in small remote towns. I was once nearly kidnapped by a group of men in broad daylight on one of the most upscale parts of town. To save myself, I darted across a busy intersection and threw myself in front of a moving taxi.
I don't know who needs to hear this. A lot of people hate/hated Lata Mangeshkar for her conservative politics (and rightly so) but also love/loved many of the songs she sang. She was a terrible person who sang some incredible songs. A lot of artists are in fact terrible people.
I am so enraged by the "progressive" white British academics/scholars in my circles.The shocking silence about what is happening in India. How about spare a thought for the nation whose resources exploited and continue to benefit from?
I was saved by a tea stall person. Who noticed something odd and ran towards me to save me and let me hide in his stall. Did I file a police complaint? No. I was so shaken and scared that I called my mum and waited in the tea stall for someone safe to come and take me home.
Order some Indian food and the delivery person/owner was Bengali. I spoke Bengali for the first time in this place (he spoke Syleti and me colloquial Bangla). Genuinely concerned that I live alone, he asked: Ya Allah, how are you surviving here without home or community? ๐ญ
A relative tried to demean Raees for not being a "pedigree" dog. My mum was livid and responded with: "We don't need to use our dog as a status symbol. So we let him roll around in grass, bark at people, chew bones and be a happy dog."
Clearly, I have trained my mum well. ๐ฅ๐
@CampusJewHate
@sarayupani
@Columbia
@BarnardCollege
What context are you looking for? You posted a video claiming that this is hate speech. When there is absolutely nothing against Jewish people in this video. I suppose you don't think oppressed people deserve to call for freedom.
Look what I found from my preliminary pickle research. I would have totally bought the Rs. 20 Chilli Pickle with Dilip Kumar's face on it. (if you know/come across any pickle or preserve references in literature, films, ads, etc connected to South Asia, please send them my way).
The trolls think I will be ashamed by this comparison. Little do they know, I absolutely adore donkeys. I would gladly be a donkey on any given day because donkeys are not fascists. ๐ด๐ฆ
Was going to avoid talking about this but it has been on my mind all day. I have had 2 abortions. Both were unwanted pregnancies despite using contraceptives. First was straightforward, I was young, my partner was very supportive, and I didn't have any complications. 1/2
I made pabda maachh'er shorshe bata, mourala maachh'er chorchori, patla masoor'er daal, begun bhaja and tetul'er chutney all by myself for lunch. Now my gran and mum are fighting over who has trained me to be this skilled.
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It always amazes me how every time there is any conflict or crisis in the Global South, it is always the brown and black academics in the forefront raising their voices. The so-called white academic allies disappear conveniently every time we need them to amplify our voices. ๐
She is moving around a little, grooming herself and drinking water on her own since this morning. A bit scruffy from all the force-feeding and medicines. Here's hoping things get better from here. Keep my small cat in your thoughts. ๐ฅบ
Disappointed to see Uday Chandra being invited to events despite his reputation of harassing women and queer folks. He abused a queer ECR not too long back and tried to sabotage their career and life. He also abused a prominent feminist. Why is he still getting recognition?
After a very long, tedious and complicated 3 days long journey, I have finally made it to Kolkata.
It has been nearly 2.5 years since I last saw my family. This is how my cat greeted me. ๐ญ๐ป
This tweet just shows the baffling ignorance that comes with the enormous privilege of being an upper-caste man. It is no surprise that terms like hegemony or structural inequality make no sense to you. That is precisely how privileges work. I don't think that you have noticed.
Mishka invited two unknown cats from our neighbourhood into the house. We found them sitting in a circle and staring at each other. What is my cat trying to do? ๐ฑ
Making my account private because of some family problems. Nothing new that we know assholes and are on the brink of a legal battle. Please keep us in your thoughts and hope that my mum finds the strength to punch them in the gut. Honestly, I can't move past violence right now.
Delivered a guest lecture at North Eastern Hill University. Had a wonderful interacting with their staff and students at their lush, green, beautiful campus. โค๏ธ
Getting rejected from a job where I interviewed while struggling with acute covid symptoms feels like a whole new level of sad. I am not sad sad. I am tired, angsty, annoyed sad.
If your feminism doesn't allow for the simple understanding that many of your male friends, allies, family and lovers might *in fact* be sexual harassers, seriously, screw your feminism.
This unexpectedly blew up. Thank you everyone for engaging and sharing your stories. I am glad that my tweet resonated with so many across genders. Reading your stories warms my heart. โค
I am not on strike since I am still holed up in Kolkata and currently jobless. Solidarity to everyone striking. Sending love and care from afar. Sharing a pic of the aloo ke paranthe I just made to add warmth to your day. ๐
Have you been raped Anubhav? If you have then you have my solidarity and apologies. If not, then I have no dime of empathy towards you for considering yourself some authority on the violence against Dalit women or any woman for that matter. Violence that you have not experienced.
A South Asian/brown person calling another a coconut meaning they endorse white values is not racist. If anything it is a collective rejection of white supremacist values by a community. Kamala is a coconut. Please think before you tweet or find a different hobby.
Isn't of the utter garbage by Zadie Smith, read this timely and necessary piece by Arundhati Roy. A reminder that renowned voices of our times can in fact stand up against genocide and injustice.
via
@scroll_in
This goes to show how deep the rot of sexual misconduct in academia really is. How victims, survivors and their allies are repeatedly silenced to protect perpetrators and maintain status quo. How the culture of sexual harassment and abuse are normalized within academic spaces.
I had booked a flight to go back home for the rest of this academic year before UK lockdown. Today my flight got cancelled indefinitely and I am left to tackle the financial, personal and emotional cost of it. I have not felt this vulnerable and displaced in a very long time. :(
Fell down on the street and injured my ankle really badly. Now waiting for an x-ray. Overwhelmed by the lovely people of Scotland. People on the street helped me up, a stagecoach bus stopped mid road and took me to the hospital, and the elderly women on the bus escorted me. ๐ญ๐ญ
It is amazing how my 88 year old grandmother just casually walks into the kitchen and whips up Begun'er Kaachhi (Aubergines in asfoetida and yogurt gravy) in half an hour.
This is a recipe I have not managed to perfect and probably never will.
Hardly a surprise that Rushdie feels that he lost an older brother today. The solidarity between elite, misogynistic, toxic men is truly one-of-its-kind. They reinforce their kinship ties through the violence they inflict on women.
#VSNaipaul
Reflections while I am sad and sick:
Our feminism should foster spaces where we can be vulnerable, tender and raw as we make and unmake ourselves. I have been incredibly lucky to have found comrades and friends who have held such spaces of love and care for me and with me.
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