you're not reading this by accident. everything is going to be okay. breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. you've been this uncomfortable, anxious and scared, and you survived. close your eyes and feel the universe within you making a way for you right now.
as soon as you feel that depression kicking in...
move.
literally move.
go outside and run around, dance, exercise, move your arms all weird like a jelly fish... idc how you do it but move. get your heart rate going and your body moving asap
it’s important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping and drinking and smoking and going out.
make friends who you can go get breakfast with, make friends you can cry with, make friends who support your life goals and believe in you.
shout out to everyone making progress that no one recognizes because you never let anyone see your darkest moments. you've been silently winning battles and transforming yourself, be proud of every step you are making in the right direction. keep going because you got this
right now you might be in a situation that you think you won't survive, but six months ago you were in a situation you didn't think you'd survive and two years before that you were in a situation you didn't think you'd survive and the point is you will always surprise yourself.
you owe yourself one hour a day of self-maintenance. it can include reading, writing, yoga, exercise, dancing, meditation, painting, or whatever, but you owe it to yourself. one hour, 1/24 of your day. that is less than 5%. it matters, it really does.
when you notice your mental health declining, do one small thing that brings you peace. take a shower, text a loved one, step outside. one little step is all you need to remind yourself that this is not permanent.
you're not reading this by accident. this is your confirmation. you are going to make it, no matter what it looks like right now. god is going to send blessings, solutions, healing, love, and positive change your way! you are next in line for your miracle. don't give up.
remember how blessed you are to be alive. breathing, walking, talking, having your vision, clean water, food to eat, being able to sleep and wake up. you are blessed.
if we're dating:
•please don't stop sending me selfies.
•please don't sleep angry at me.
•never be afraid to ask questions.
•trust me.
•communicate your feelings daily and clearly.
•don't ever hesitate to tell me if you feel uncomfortable with who i'm with/where i'm going
drink water. meditate. moisturise your skin. eat some juicy fruits. take long showers. stretch and breathe. read good books. start a business. mind your own business. love unconditionally. learn new languages and cultures. feel. understand. create art. forgive. heal.
you will be happy again, you will be more yourself than ever, you will understand your heart better when you heal, you will be whole, you will be healed, you will be okay
please, keep looking. not for a person, but for ur passion, ur love, ur goals and dreams, ur happiness, yourself keep looking. explore yourself before u explore another. know ur worth & yourself. only then will u know what u need over what u want. u need yourself to become ur own
gentle reminder:
it's okay to feel tired even though you have much work to do, it's okay to press pause, it's okay to stay in instead of going out if that's what you want to do; please take a break whenever you need, and be there for yourself. take care, love.
forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time.
forgive yourself for giving away your power.
forgive yourself for past behaviors.
forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up while enduring trauma.
forgive yourself for being who you needed to be.
whoevers reading this, i pray that u find someone who pays attention to u & notices things u thought no one ever would. i pray they dig deeper than ur physical appearance & get to know ur soul. i pray that they uncover every scar u hide & want to understand where they came from.
just because you lost me as a friend doesn’t mean you gained me as an enemy. i’m bigger than that. i still want to see you eat just not with me. take care.
self-control is strength. calmness is mastery. you have to get to a point where your mood doesn't shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. don't allow others to control the direction of your life. don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.
support your friends, listen to their ideas. go to their events. buy what they're selling when you can. share their posts. celebrate in their victories & remind them of their importance after their failures. push them. a little support can go a very long way.
remember that you are water.
cry. cleanse. flow.
remember that you are fire.
burn. tame. ignite.
remember that you are air.
be still. focus. decide.
remember that you are earth.
ground. build. give.
and then it happens…one day you wake up & you’re in this place where everything feels right. your heart is calm, lit soul, thoughts are positive, vision is clear. you’re at peace with where you’ve been, at peace with what you’ve been through & at peace with where you’re headed
start by doing 1 push up
start by drinking a cup of water
start by paying toward 1 debt
start by reading 1 page
start by making 1 sale
start by deleting 1 old contact
start by walking 1 lap
start by attending 1 event
start by writing 1 paragraph
start today
repeat tomorrow
your competition isn't other people.
your competition is your
procrastination. your ego. the
unhealthy food you're consuming, the
knowledge you neglect. the negative
behavior you're nurturing & your lack of creativity. compete against that.
may you receive the energy and strength to finish your projects, bring your idea to life, and accomplish your goals. may your path be cleared and all blocks be removed. may your creativity be multiplied and your imagination be filled with inspiration to make a difference.
i love a "i can talk to you about anything & not feel judged" kind of vibe. It’s really rare, so when you find someone that accepts you for you, someone that always listens & helps you without judgement, hold onto them
just read something about replacing "i'm sorry" with "thank you". so, instead of saying "sorry i was late", say "thank you for waiting for me". replacing negativity with positivity and gratitude and breaks the "i'm sorry" cycle. powerful.
remember that you were art long before they came to admire you, and you’ll continue to be art even when they’re gone. a masterpiece is still a masterpiece even when the lights are off and the room is empty.
focus on your purpose
focus on physical strength
focus on mental wellness
focus on more fun
focus on less stress
focus on simplifying life
focus on real friends
focus on being confident, but humble
focus on truly living life
focus on love
my next relationship will be my last, so i'm not looking i'm not worried, i'm not rushing... i want this love to find me, learn me, want me, need me, and love me in slow motion, we have forever to go. can i get an amen?
to anybody who is reading this, i hope and pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. stay blessed. much love.
repeat daily:
i will remain focused on my goals. even if i have a moment of difficulty, i will not give up. i know success comes with consistency. i know that i will make it. things will get better. no problem or challenge will stop me. everything i deserve is coming my way.
when you love yourself, you glow from the inside. you attract people who love, respect, and appreciate your energy. everything starts with and how you feel about yourself. start feeling worthy, valuable and deserving of receiving the best that life has to offer. be magnetic.
start this year with an empty jar. each week add a note with a good thing that happened. on new year's eve empty the jar and read about the amazing year you had.
love your life. take pictures of everything. tell people you love them. talk to random strangers. do things you're scared to do. so many of us die without remembering all the little moments. take your life and make it the best story ever. don't waste it.
i truly appreciate kindness. i appreciate people checking up on me. i appreciate a quick message, i appreciate those who ask if i’m okay, i appreciate every single person in my life who has tried to brighten my days. it’s the little things that matter the most.
it's all about finding an honest lover. a pure, selfless lover. a lover who looks at your heart and admires what it has been through, understands why it is the way it is and loves it anyway.
be a child again. flirt. giggle. dip your cookies in your milk. take a nap. say you’re sorry if you hurt someone. chase a butterfly. love. be a child again.
i don’t think people realize how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a dark place mentally. so if you’ve done that today or any day, i’m proud of you
a big shoutout to all my friends who stick with me through the tough times. i know, i'm not always easy to deal with so from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
this version of me wasn't built overnight. this is experience. this is pain. this is insecurities. this is abuse. this is depression. i had to go through things to get to the level i'm at now.
you’re getting better. you're flourishing. you’re leaving behind all that doesn’t serve your highest good. you’re getting rid of negative thought patterns, habits and behaviors. deep down you know you can do it. you know all the potential you have. now is the time to step it up.
not a diet, a lifestyle. not for him, for me. not for a day, but everyday. not to feel good in a dress, but to feel good in my skin. not for the beach, but for my mind. not for a competiton, but the competition i have created for myself, to become a better version of myself.