" I have already told some of my friends: When I see you in heaven, there’s only one thing I’m going to ask—Were you good to my son and my wife? Were you there for them? Does my son know you?"
If you are someone who grew up in a dysfunctional household in one way or another, I cannot recommend highly enough finding some way to regularly spend time with another healthy family with adults a generation older than you
Realizing how many people in their 20s-30s who haven’t held a baby in a decade or more makes it quite clear why raising kids feels impossible to so many people
It’s actually absurd that roughly a third of all women I know have some sort of auto-immune or endocrine disorder
(PCOS, endometriosis, hashimotos, or thyroid issues)
& often multiple of these disorders at once
teenagers vandalizing open source street maps to include fake bodies of water near their homes so that rare waterbased Pokémon would spawn more often is a particularly important variety of zoomer energy
something no one tells you about making food from scratch is that you will become addicted to the version made from scratch, not be able to buy it anywhere else for cheap, and so then you HAVE TO make it from scratch eternally
@kwhitaker_
the breeding kink response to me is truly heartbreaking… we truly live in a society so off kilter about sexuality that the idea of being into creating a human with the person you love the most is framed in kink language
Has anyone written about the sudden growth of “home cooked meals delivered to your door from a guy who left his 9-5 and really likes cooking” small businesses in Brooklyn? They’re everywhere
just got back wedding pics and i would like to say ,, an essential part of any wedding is the younger cousin who always asks you to kiss then gasps when you do
tearing up in the natural history museum over a four year old in a head to toe dinosaur fit, also holding his dinosaur toy, walking around in the dinosaur section of the museum with his grandpa, absolutely elated
You need to be hosting way too many people for the size of your apartment. You need to be packing people in like sardines. You need to be contributing to the increase of the national fertility rate by making sure people are close enough to eachother for the pheromones to reach.
that was ten years ago. I oughta call her up and tell her what she meant to me. I didn’t have the words at the time. what a beautiful girl. might even still be together if we weren’t separated by the Atlantic Ocean
Santi & I are moving out of our apartment in Nov & would love to pass it down to someone! Directly over the 6th/14th subway stop, technically 1 bedroom but we’ve set up the loft as a second bedroom for guests. DM if interested!
Few people seem to realize not only how many non violent people with personality disorders (sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists) exist in positions of influence and power but specifically that it makes them excel
The degree to which you can unintentionally learn by being passively exposed to a subject matter is consistently astounding.
Pay attention to what you surround yourself with.
realizing for the first time that lifestyle creep isn’t just consciously wanting to buy one tier more expensive things but literally just the people you’re around subconsciously shaping everything you see about a “normal” lifestyle
I think the death of polymaths is due in part to the loss of spaces where polymaths can iterate and discuss the full spectrum of their interests, without being funneled towards a specific career path -
What are the best examples of spaces where we still see this happening?
Even if people love kids and really want to help out parents around them the whole activity feels foreign to them
People don’t see babies out and about and so the psychological hurdle of learnings necessary to raise one feels overwhelming
The next decade where we understand health as it relates to gut health <> microbiome across oral /vaginal as well <> hormones <> autoimmune challenges is going to be absolutely transformational, especially for women's health.
Excited to announce my big career
#transition
to full time stay at home mom.
First day at work was great, I have so much to learn. Looking forward to more
#growth
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To be clear the relative lack of exposure to babies / kids also is true even for friends who love children - were more atomized as a society, and culturally the US doesn’t take as much a of a communal child rearing approach as most of the rest of the world
DEATH TO ALGORITHMIC POPULISM
DEATH TO FLATTENED TASTE
DEATH TO THE HOMOGENEOUS MEAN
DEATH TO DESIGNING WHATEVER IS MOST UNIVERSALLY FRICTIONLESS
DEATH TO "BUILDING" THAT IS A-POLITICAL, PRETENDS IT IS UNBIASED, AND REMOVED FROM AESTHETIC IDEALS
One rule of life that I hold strongly is that if you don’t know what you want or why you want it other people are going to decide what you want (likely motivated by their own interests) for you.
Im obsessed with breastmilk science - morning milk formulated w. cortisol to wake baby up, night milk w. melatonin for sleep.
When your baby is sick: significant increase in white blood cells to fight infection included in breastmilk (likely due to a cue in babies saliva)
I am going to create a Brooklyn community of stay at home moms and other baby loving people who hang out from 9-5, help each other do mundane life tasks together, and have fun raising a bunch of babies together if it kills me
my hottest contrarian contrarian take is that young marriage is quite good
there are plenty of reasons to not get married-certainly no one should be pressured to marry off randomly, or marry before youve taken time to grow/ learn individually but
young marriage is undervalued