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11 days

✨ Please RT and donate if you can! ✨ Your help can bring hope to Sridevi's life! Any amount is appreciated. 🙏🏾 - The QR code connects directly to her bank account. - You can also donate to her UPI id: mailsridevim @oksbi More details in next tweet.

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13 days

One problem with the usual age gap in old arranged marriages? My dad's in his 80s and can't travel much. My mom's in her 70s and wants to see the world but can't leave appa alone because he needs help because he's in his 80s and not as independent as he was in his 70s, when he +

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traveled to wherever he wanted to go with my mom helping him by his side as packer, washer, ironer, organiser, budget keeper, kids' caregiver, etc. She never gets to see his caregiving side. It was amma who had to take care of appa's mom in her last days. What a lopsided deal. +

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Worst is when appa is resistant to people taking care of him, not understanding that refusing care that is needed could hurt him too. I once told him he doesn't know anything about caregiving or accepting care because he has never had to take care of a single person in his life.

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He was so bewildered to hear that. It had never struck him to think of it like that. But it's true. Day to day caregiving and the acceptance of care and the understanding of what accepting/rejecting care costs the people around you seems to be out of syllabus for a lot of men.

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In their heads, they are the providers (even though my mom was a working woman who earned as much as him) and care is a question of their image and their dignity. Not an unselfish thought in their heads. Means, very selfishly they think they are unselfish and expect their dues.

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My advice to men: Just try to be aware of the ways you may be inconveniencing your family living the way you are. My dad isn't actively bothering my mom (at least in this travel example), but he doesn't SEE the odds are stacked against my mom in some ways. The fact that he's +

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My challenge these days is to empower amma to live her life the way she wants while figuring out how to keep appa going. (Also very interesting how gendered caregiving needs are in traditional setup. For men apparently caregiving needs to involve regular masseur for ego. 🤭)

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blissfully unaware makes him think he is selfless and that the status quo is good. This is inconsiderate, especially when women are conditioned to live in a way that puts their spouses' welfare ahead of theirs. Just pull your heads out of your own behinds, men. Be considerate.

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The precarity/dominance of one's presence in a space can have an impact on how aware and adaptable the other person is and needs to be. Some men don't even know their existence causes others' lives and worlds to shrink. Be better! Know what impact you have on those around you!

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13 days

Consider the woman walking alone at night. She is acutely aware of how she may be perceived. Consequently she changes her behaviour. She shrinks, hurries up. She has a heightened awareness. They occupy the same road, yet the experiences are different. Same with some marriages.

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As rough analogy, I offer you a man walking alone at night. He walks unaware that he is a threat. He has no concern how he is perceived and consequently has no incentive to change his behaviour. He occupies space with abandon and his lack of consideration makes him inconsiderate.

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3 years

Appa: After reading your medical advice forward I have bought N95 mask. The N95 mask:

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5 years

Today one neighbour aunty told my amma: This virus won't affect us because we are religious and god will take care. Amma was like: So if you are sick and there is only one ventilator, you will give it up to atheists, correct?

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5 years

Look at this PERFECT uthappam I'm making. Tempted to tag NASA.

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5 years

Here it is, the most beautiful thing I have ever made in my entire life:

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The reason I mentioned age gap: Here a man ages out of being able to take care of his wife and not the other way around. The responsibility to take care of the mother falls on the offspring/DIL. A patriarchal familial structure absolves men of caregiving at every stage. +

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One problem with the usual age gap in old arranged marriages? My dad's in his 80s and can't travel much. My mom's in her 70s and wants to see the world but can't leave appa alone because he needs help because he's in his 80s and not as independent as he was in his 70s, when he +

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4 years

WhatsApp group has alerted there is a monkey in the apartment be careful and appa swiftly took action and ate the banana in our fruit bowl.

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5 years

Boss do you even know you have summarised the entire problem in one line in your one sign?

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4 years

💔 Why isn't everyone in the Indian team reaching out to him in person and in public with unconditional apologies? Might also knock some sense into the Indian fanboys as they think over why their heroes who can do no wrong are apologising, and maybe they'll see their own racism.

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4 years

Darren Sammy "I'm very disappointed and angry and deserve an apology. I saw all of you guys as my brothers"

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5 years

@iamjohnoliver To people the world over reading this, you'll see comments in this thread that accuse this video of misinformation biased against Hindus. Look at the TLs of those who make these comments. The bigotry and islamophobia will be visible immediately, telling you what the truth is.

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4 years

I like how the video pushes character development further. Crowley actually agrees openly that he doesn't enjoy goading people into evil. The casual familiarity the angel and demon have has become more relaxed, the teasing and trust more evident. The yearning remains, but Crowley

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5 years

Amma is now proudly introducing bougainvillea to all guests like it is family member. This is my husband, this is my daughter and this is my bougainvillea.

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3 years

My heartfelt condolences to @Tejasvi_Surya for his utterly painful ordeal of having to see his own face in the mirror every day and being forced to live with himself for the rest of his life. 😞

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13 days

@mxhxrxbesque I hear you. In a patriarchal setup, the stark difference in the married experience can manifest in same-age unions as well. But here it is especially amplified. And about disability (chronic illness included), caregiving there too often happens to be gendered. +

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4 years

Random useful things rec time! 1. Bra extenders! If you wear bras, get them. If you're on such things gifting terms with people who wear bras, gift them! Specially older people who don't know these exist find them a gamechanger. My mother and aunts were floored these exist. +

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4 years

Sanghis waking up now:

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4 years

Finally found someone who genuinely appreciates my baking skills. 🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜

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4 years

I don't know how these bank account scammers happily call up seniors and get their OTPs from them within seconds. Trying to guide my ancient aunt to tell me one OTP for her Covid certificate is like extracting my own tooth without anesthesia or dental training. 🤧

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4 years

One anxiety problem is missing the people we love even when they're alive and well and with us. Preemptive grief. That's because anxiety makes you live on the brink of anticipated/imagined losses as if it's the only way to exist. So even in happiness you mourn its future end.

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3 years

Just want the world to know @Tejasvi_Surya is a 1. malicious 2. hateful 3. vile 4. foul 5. loathsome 6. putrid 7. bigoted 8. piece of shit. Oh sorry if I offended. 😳 I just tweeted out a list given to me. 🥺 I want you to remember that a lot of good has happened through me. 😌

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4 years

My plans: 2020:

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3 years

Tried to calculate the actual cost of vaccine based on the experience of one of my friends in rural cbe. She had to take an auto five times a week * two times a day for nearly two weeks to go to various government centres to check for availability for her parents. She lost +

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5 years

Sweet lord India, consult with Kerala already! Union government you absolute ostrich!

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5 years

Real women don't want diamonds. They want one (1) cream bun from local bakery.

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5 years

Once I collect the power stone and space stone, it's over for you bitches.

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4 years

Tika means bum in both Assamese and Kannada? 😭

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5 years

By mistake startled a balcony pigeon and the fucker laid an egg in alarm! WHO LAYS AN EGG IN ALARM! Madam you have startled me, let me instantly leave you with one of my babies.

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3 years

Tell your friends you love them, people. Life is really too short.

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4 years

Everything I know about Ananya Panday I've learnt against my will.

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4 years

The original Duolingo is Ramalingo and Sundaralingo.

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4 years

I rarely talk politics here but Vote for DMK+ nandri vanakkam 🙏🏾

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5 years

Anyone else extremely sleepy when awake and extremely awake when sleepy? (don't ask me to explain)

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4 years

😭😭😭

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4 years

Why one person in every family has to be fruit salesperson always buying fruit and eating fruit and telling everyone to eat fruit and asking why they haven't eaten fruit and getting upset when there's too much fruit or no fruit?

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4 years

Going to tell everyone migrating to Telegram that I'm on Signal and everyone on Signal sorry I'm in Telegram and everyone who's on both that I'm still in WhatsApp and everyone on WhatsApp that I'm in Signal/Telegram meanwhile deleting all apps and sleeping in peace.

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4 years

You have to wear mask alone in car but god will save kumbh mela from covid.

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5 years

Unironically appreciating how Rajni has side hair and Kamal has top hair and together they have one complete full hair.

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5 years

You either die an idli or live long enough to see yourself become idli upma.

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5 years

Imagined a tiny class 1 student suddenly promoted to class 9 and their tinier friend promoted to class 11.

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Guj govt to promote all students of Classes 1 to 9 and 11 without exams amid COVID-19 crisis: Official

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4 years

Can you believe the ratio of jam to bun in this jam bun? The utter disrespect!

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5 years

In these tough times, everyone contributing how best they can.

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5 years

Good morning! Who wants to see the tiniest rose in my garden? ˢʰᵉ ᵇᵃᵇʸ

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5 years

To all the young women on my TL 💕, here are some Twitter tips that have served me well: If someone is testing your boundaries and you feel uncomfortable, blocking/ghosting them is perfectly OK. You don't have to stick around and explain why you're uncomfortable. If you feel

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5 years

Tell me whether this is unpopular opinion: I think Saif is an *excellent* actor under the right sort of direction with the right sort of script and team. He's a natural at breezy yet sensitive comedy but he SHINES in intense roles that speak of internal turmoil.

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4 years

So strange being a single woman in late thirties and living with parents. Society doesn't know where to put you. The concept of someone WANTING to be like this is so alien that everytime people see you their two braincells are running around in panic trying to figure out the why.

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5 years

Modi is saying use quarantine time to sit at home and learn Hindi so you can understand what I'm saying.

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5 years

Salesperson swiping card: Do you want copy sir? My respected father: Ok, one cup.

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@Clyvin The problem is that it's not a good deal for the woman in the relationship.

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5 years

Just saw Vivek Agnihotri's TL (unblocked him to check something). Twitter India and Twitter are 100 percent complicit in allowing these accounts to incite communal hatred. I wish international publications would call out these people and this platform when they discuss the riots.

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4 years

Me: I resent your email. Them: Do you mean you sent it again? Me: No no. I resent it.

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4 years

One of the true masterpieces the internet has given us. I feel truly privileged to experience this again every single time it crosses my path. 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🔊

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3 years

Whether multitasking amma will eat mallipoo or thoduthufy popcorn

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5 years

Just vibin with my frens

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3 years

TIL amma's been thinking biobubble means IPL players have been living like this 😭😭😭

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4 years

1. Don't tweet defending the government. 2. They deserve harsh criticism. 3. You playing devil's advocate is grotesque, obnoxious and disrespectful in a forum overwhelmed by desperate calls for help in the vacuum of a non-existent support system.

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13 days

@suggesthandles I'll tell you why my thread is the opposite of abelist. Anybody can have disabilities, invisible or otherwise. In a traditional patriarchal setup, especially in the previous generations, the husband's disabilities are often taken seriously while the wife's is often dismissed. +

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3 years

Here just to grieve Surekha through others' words because I have none to spare just now. 💔

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4 years

A thread of baby elephant antics for whoever wants:

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5 years

What I did not expect is all old paatis I helped by buying groceries complaining like onion has hole tomato is dented orange has aesthetic challenges. Paatis pls understand my feelings.

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3 years

Happy "hello there" jayanthi to me frens! 😭

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5 years

FOLKS!

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5 years

Half past midnight. Time to have bath. Means it solves the problem of having bath both today and tomorrow. It's some Narasimha avataaram loophole for hygiene.

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3 years

Been visiting government PHC daily twice to ask about vaccine and yesterday random paati called Ponnatha thought I was the lady in charge and made me write her name and number down in the register and then a line formed behind her and now I'm waiting for salary from government.

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13 days

@mxhxrxbesque I didn't want to bring in gendered care wrt disability here because that's a whole other thread. My mother, for example, has chronic illnesses but they aren't considered worthy and are strictly her business. That is, taking care of both herself and her spouse fall on her.

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4 years

Hope Ramdev is Adityanath's corone doctor. Praying to god for best results. 😌🙏🏾✨

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3 years

Frens, whoever of us d*es we should take turns to haunt everyone responsible, but let's not all waste precious haunting time focusing on just one two people. There are enough hauntees to comfortably go around. Me personally I'm calling dibs on Tushar Mehta.

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4 years

Can't wait to become eighty so I can fall asleep in the middle of talking to someone and they'll think it's cute and leave me alone.

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4 years

Do you now and then suddenly just miss a specific tree from your past?

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5 years

Mosquito will bite

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13 days

@JoChopra It does take a lot of courage to ignore the criticism. Wishing you lots and lots of lovely travels! 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

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4 years

My favourite season 🤤

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3 years

How it started (Muthu) vs How it's going (Moth-u) Emerged this morning!

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4 years

explicitly asks for time with Aziraphale, spelling out that he just wants to come over and watch him eat cake. He's not hiding his desire for closeness behind any other excuses. No Arrangement, no other plans. Just a simple desire to be closer to his angel. There seems to be

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5 years

Amma's serial has brought in Corona virus plot. Heroine is infected it seems. HECTIC DRAMA onscreen. Everyone wearing masks and hazmat gear and doing all tearful hilarity. Amma is eating watermelon and watching happily.

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5 years

Every time I hear about a cousin who has achieved the stars and the moon and travelled all around the world and my precarious world feels like it might tip over, I ground it by thinking of my friend V who's never left Coimbatore but has a mind wide and clear as a cloudless sky.

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4 years

Enjoying tea with my obviously stoned friends Ramesh and Suresh.

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4 years

Amma, seriously trying to describe a serial actor to me: His face looks like a... mysorepak tray.

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5 years

Excellent perk of being a financially independent single woman is that bigots in the family know they have no hold over me and so are scared to discuss politics or let down their humane facade in my presence. When people talk about women who are too much, you know what they

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Appa got sent a news website link on WhatsApp and he clicked it and got error message. Me: Try again after sometime, pa. Appa: Ya, I'll try on Monday. Me: Why? Appa: They might have closed the website for Pongal. Next two days weekend. They might open it again on Monday. Me: 🥺

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3 years

I'm at that stage of the pandemic where I'm changing clothes without closing window curtain. If you see my unclad bum that's your problem not mine.

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Appa, calling his friend for the nth time in two days: Where are you? Friend: At home. Where are you? Appa: I'm also at home. Then tell what's happening. Friend: Nothing here. What's happening there? Appa: Nothing here also. Mesmerising conversation.

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4 years

Last night I read horror story and got scared and fumbled in the dark for god photo to put under pillow and slept very well and had wonderful dreams and morning I found out instead of god photo I had kept visiting card of sofa company, so thank you Damro Furniture Pvt Ltd I guess

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5 years

Still time is there. Kerala is just 40 minutes away. Appadiye if all Coimbatoreans slowly and quietly take one one step to the right, by morning we can cross border. 😭

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4 years

Good morning. I dutifully bring you your regular coriander update!

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4 years

Blessing your TLs with these morning walk photos of Marudhamalai taken about an hour apart. 😌

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5 years

After paati's death, we've gone through her things and found some secrets revealed, but they're all about how she lived the small parts of life that make up the big picture. Those that aren't noticed because we rarely share all the minutiae of daily life with each other. +

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All I want is to do one GREAT thing in my life so I can retire and never have to prove myself to anyone again. Everyone will see me sleeping at 11AM and say oh she did the GREAT thing, let her sleep, we'll make her some hot tea when she wakes up.

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The thread is not against age gaps. It is not against caring for someone with a disability. (Disability caregiving is often unequal and gendered. That's a topic for another thread though.) Saying this to answer comments I'm getting saying why age gap prejudice why ableist. 😭😬

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If you're participating in the protests, try to go with a friend instead of alone. Also, tell someone you trust (who's not attending) where you're going and give them contact numbers of your friend as well.

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One random uncle in amma's yoga WhatsApp group has changed entire group name to Palanisami because his name is Palanisami. 😭 When asked he's saying he thought he was adding his name to the group.

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