@JessPected
I disagree with the notion that rape strips women of their femininity or motherhood or softness...as if that's all a girl or woman has to lose that matters. Rape takes away so much more than that and it pisses me off that no one else seems to mention that.
@ask_aubry
This is the problem with making simple blanket statements. I've heard stories of women who've found out their partner had taken the condom off or lied about having had a vasectomy etc. So often the choice isn't available to women.
@JessPected
That's a good point. I get very passionate on the topic of rape and the way it's framed in public as well as how women are seen as more valuable if mothers.
@ask_aubry
She needs to see a doctor. Heavy bleeding, extreme pain & long-lasting period symptoms can be a sign of cysts or endometriosis. Also, heavy bleeding can lead to anemia and it can take 10+ years to work it out the cause. The doc will also explain sex ed.
@ask_aubry
There's nothing inappropriate about warning her daughter about predators. The talk she had was 100% necessary given that her father's family isn't at all concerned about the child's welfare. She used public info to protect her daughter from a dangerous man.
@ask_aubry
That poor woman, it must have been terrifying to be on her own and so heartbreaking to see her baby dying knowing there was nothing she could do. How is the guard only suspended and not facing criminal charges?
@ask_aubry
The indigenous Australians have the oldest continuous living culture in the world, about 60,000 years old. When I was in school we visited a sacred spot for the local tribe/mob where the women would go to menstruate and give birth. Pretty sure that's not recent toxicity.
@ask_aubry
Sounds reasonable for her to take the milk back. A should be at least trying to breastfeed or pump and frankly, if they can't afford formula they shouldn't have had a baby in the first place!
@fesshole
I did once ask why a serial killer was worth mentioning on the news. I was 13 and thought someone was stabbing & killing boxes of cereal which didn't seem all that important. Kids have odd beliefs.
@ask_aubry
I would hazard a guess that women use "I feel" statements because they're more emotionally aware and empathetic. Also "I feel" statements are less likely to result in a violent response, something women try to avoid.
@Morbidful
She recovered because her doctor friend was skiing with her and started CPR as soon as Anna was freed. Anna Bagenholm is why we say, "you're not dead until you're warm and dead".
@ask_aubry
So many WTF moments. I must admit I wonder why people wear skirts so short that they're constantly pulling them down, it just doesn't seem comfortable to me. That does NOT mean they're inviting assault.
@fesshole
I wish more people would allow their dogs to have as many sniffs as they want. It's the dog's walk, they should have fun with all the sniffs.
@ask_aubry
I have a big problem with the way it's being framed that she "covered up" the abuse. That implies she did something wrong, what she did was try to survive & minimise the damage of future attacks because there are always more attacks.
@ask_aubry
It's really disturbing that in 2023 this is still a predominant attitude. By this logic, rape should be rampant at nudist camps and yet that's not the case.
It's with great heartache that I have to say Stretch was put to sleep today after her arthritis got so bad she could barely walk. She stuffed her belly full of veggies on her way to the vet and went peacefully. Her friendly little brown nose will be missed.
#guineapig
#cavy
#OTRB
I'm excited to announce 2 new members to my piggie family. They've been with us for 3 days now and are settling in well. Mouse is 7 weeks old and Emma is 3 years old. Emma was given up after her human lost her job in COVID. Mouse was born at the shelter.
#cavy
#guineapigs
#pets
@holotaco
@nailogical
Given the rate of inflation pretty much everywhere in the world, these price rises seem reasonable and completely understandable. I appreciate that Cristine is being upfront with us about what's raising and why those products have been chose to go up. 👍👍
Emma update! She's not even trying to eat anymore and it's taking 2 hours just to feed her 10ml of Critical Care. The wonderful woman who I adopt from has a chin sling we're going to try on her tomorrow. But it's not looking good, Em is giving up. 😥
I've been keeping a secret! A week ago, we adopted 3 little piggies. I waited before saying anything to be sure they worked out. They're still a bit skittish so the photos aren't great. Gracie Grey Face in pic 1, Smudge in 2 & Abby in 3.
#guineapigs
#cavy
#pets
@ask_aubry
That's messed up. Yes, a heavy period can cause a tampon to need changing within 2 hours. This is especially true if the girl also passes clots.
Panda update, my exotics vet found that she had something going on in her lungs & her kidneys were failing. We decided it would be best to put her to sleep. She's no longer in pain. We're pretty devastated.
#guineapig
#cavy
Emma Update! Sorry for the long silence everyone, I'd been giving Emma Critical Care every 2 hours and it would take almost 2 hours to feed her. In the past few days she's started eating on her own again & is no longer in gut stasis. She's still not eating enough though. 1/
@ask_aubry
Does that actually work? Like I know we're a long way from internet safety as taught when I was at school but surly people still know not to give out their phone number to someone they haven't met yet.
@ask_aubry
She needs to find a shelter and insist they allow her cats, she's right to fear leaving them. I can also understand why her friends might fear her staying with them. It is a dangerous situation for everyone.
@ask_aubry
It's so odd the way people look at you as if you're something to be pitied because you're not in a relationship. Some people are just built in a way that they can cope without a relationship. I can cope without people for days to weeks easily.
@ask_aubry
@RCMaldives
That is awful! It is disgusting that it was covered up and the police were of no help. This woman is so brave for coming forward and going public. I hope she gets some justice.
@ask_aubry
I remember how sick I felt when I read about "comfort women". The Japanese military did a lot of repulsive things in WWII but the sanctioned sexual abuse was the worst.
Can I get some positive vibes for my porky Panda? She has a naked belly & it seems likely that she'll need surgery for ovarian cysts.
#guineapigs
#cavy
#pawcircle
@ask_aubry
He wasn't rude so much as brutally honest in the face of someone who wouldn't listen to anything except brutal honesty. I'd be pissed if my partner asked my mother, who I have no contact with, about marrying me. It's an antiquated sexist tradition anyway.
@HRHLou
If she can afford to do that I'd say don't listen to the neighbour. I know the minimum wage in the US is crazy low so helping struggling people is wonderful. Your mum is a hero.
@fesshole
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that! There's only so much you can do to protect them. I've had dogs my whole life, I'm 30, and I had no idea grapes were toxic to them. You didn't purposely kill him. 💜💜
@ask_aubry
Yep, that's creepy. But I can also see how this was a bit of an accident on his part, I've seen pictures and thought "Oh I know where that was taken!"
@LilyOLilo
@fesshole
Yes they are reversible but in many men it doesn't fully restore fertility. Cheating is wrong but tricking someone into having a medical procedure is just as wrong.
@gnuman1979
I mean I think his response was fair. She could get herself out of the situation, the kid wasn't necessarily able to. Closing the door was a bit harsh though lol.
Emma update! She is back to her usual self! She's eating enough so that I don't need to give her Critical Care & she only needs her heart meds nothing else.
#guineapig
#cavy
Thank you everyone for your well wishes. Panda is back home after her surgery, which went well. One of her cysts was quite large but neither looked too inflamed. She's sore and a bit sad but is okay.
#guineapig
#cavy
#pawcircle
@ask_aubry
🤣🤣 It reminds me of the episode of MASH in which the guy wanted the "right colour blood" so he wouldn't wake up black. I wonder if this guy thinks a Terrier would grow taller if they got blood from a Mastiff.
Emma update! Emma is doing much better, her pneumonia seems to have almost gone away. Her heart medications are helping and her breathing is much better. She's eating well and more or less back to normal she is sleeping a bit more but that's all.
#guineapig
#cavy
#pets
Mouse update! She's doing so much better, she's breathing easier and no longer sounds like a Giger counter. Of course, she thinks her humans are a bit mad taking her into the bathroom when we shower (for the steam). Thanks everyone for the well wishes.
#guineapig
#cavy
#pets
@ask_aubry
Poor girl, she's clearly very excited to learn and very aware of the situation her country is in. She'd make a wonderful doctor or engineer.
Panda update! My vet had a look at her skin flakes & a skin scraping and found no infection of any kind. He thinks it's just her skin shedding all at once likely due to the lack of hair & hormonal upset of the cysts.
#guineapig
#cavy
#pets
@ask_aubry
I had a similar "convo" with a guy I dated. He thought women should be the property of men because his single mum was somehow to blame for his father walking out of them. He was convinced if she was his property his dad wouldn't have left. I dumped him.