This lady said “Be comfortable with some of your female friendships being superficial and surface-level. You don't need 10 best friends. Get 1-2 close besties and the rest can be friendships at arms length...
Met in 2019, dated for 10 months, got engaged, and then married 2 months later. We have done a lot together, just celebrated 3 years of being happily married, and have a beautiful baby on the way. Marriage is beautiful! ❤️
Those people just married the wrong people…
Told my husband on Monday that I like working out at home more than the gym and guess who has contractors out today working on the garage…a good Man…my Man! ❤️🥹😭
I'm doing my hair, my husband’s putting some steaks on the grill, I can hear the speaker playing old school R&B from outside, the baby is sleep, and it hit me... I'm really grown grown!
This is crazy and beautiful!
I love being a modern-day housewife. We get our homes professionally cleaned, order our groceries, run our businesses, outsource whatever we can't/don't want to do, hire assistants/nannies, help our husbands, and take care of our homes. It's perfect!
Our love in human form.🤍
Baby B, you’ve changed our lives forever and brought us so much happiness and joy. We are honored that we get to be your parents, love you, and guide you through this thing called life. God is so faithful. 🥹😭💕
I think too many women want to have these super deep emotional bonds with a group of women (like the tv shows) and I just don't think that's really realistic for everyone.”
& I agree. Get you some friends friends and some girlies to Kiki with & call it a day.
For those saying they don't want surface level friendships...you have them if you're a healthy person. You neighbor...surface level relationship. Your child's teacher... surface level relationship. Your man's best friend girlfriend... surface level relationship.
A manifestation of God's love and the promises he made to me & my husband. We are so excited to welcome this beautiful baby into our lives, love on them, and we praise God for this miracle...God is faithful. 🥺🦒✨
Psalms 127:3 🤍
I seem to ruffle a lot of feathers when I tell women to focus on their careers. Realistically everyone won't get married and a percentage of those that do won't marry great men. I rather you have options, money, and not have to do xy & z to make ends meet.
Read your Bible. Not just the popular scriptures. Not just the scriptures your pastor chooses to get a whole sermon from. Look at the Hebrew terminology. Do the research. Cross-reference the word. Open your mind. Read your Bible.
A man will go into debt for the person he loves if he has to, will work extra jobs if he has to, will go back to school or change careers if he has to…men will do whatever it takes for the person they desire/love and its really that simple.
If you can't read between the lines and understand that surface level, arm's length, and superficial merely means an associate please move around this tweet/thread... let's use context clues ladies.
@thecindynoir
If you’re over 28 and you haven’t met a person you’d like to have kids with in the next couple of years I would suggest it. So many of my friends in their 40s can now have children because they froze their eggs in their 20s and early 30s.
I'm kind, not nice. You won't walk all over me, I know most people are phony, I don't need a lot of people around me to be me, I'm straightforward, don't do small talk, observant, I don't need to talk much, & I do my own thing. If that makes me mean...go.
I really wish Ciara would grow with her audience. You have a whole husband and kids...why are you still trying to be 21. It's very uncomfortable and embarrassing...hang it up.
As a woman and a wife, you need to have a prayer life. Often times God will give you instructions on how to prepare yourself and your household for where God is taking you, but if you’re not in tune, you’ll miss the instructions.
I wish the generation before us taught us how to be women. To be feminine, to be nurturing, to be keepers of our home, to be soft…to be in our natural element.
As a homemaker, one thing that's important that a lot of people don't discuss is making sure your home is stocked & you're prepared at any moment. You need to have stove top burners, lighters, flashlights, first aid kits, & everything your family would need in an emergency.
Honestly…when I stopped listening to so many people (pastors, public speakers…etc.) and focused primarily on hearing God…my life got better and I was able to see clearer.
A lot of it's just noise...same message different day.
I honestly wouldn't take advice from wives who don't enjoy being wives, wives who got married out of necessity, wives who believe infidelity is a part of “ups and downs” or wives whose marriages have no fruit.
Same with mothers…
There's nothing a miserable person can tell me.
You have to learn to make sacrifices for the things you desire. Every time I've changed my life in a positive way I had to sacrifice something in return...
If you're a virgin...please stay that way until marriage. Giving your body away to random men is never justifiable and most women/men regret it after meeting their person.
My husband traveled for work this week. Not only did I have the help from our nanny but he flew my MIL to help out as well. He didn’t want me to be overwhelmed or stressed in his absence with the baby and dog…that’s love! It’s always the small things. 🥹🤎
I pray that 2023 is the year that you walk into extreme obedience, you pursue your purpose like never before, that you accomplish impactful things, & become all you desire to be. I pray that 2023 is not only your year but a year of extreme purpose & alignment in your life.
One of my main goals as a mom is to teach my daughter to prioritize herself and self care by showing her early. You are no good to anyone if you don't take care of you first.
I stated modern-day housewife because you can have a business/wfh job and your home still be your main priority. Some people work/own businesses because it gives them something to do, and if they needed to let it go for any reason, they could. If you get it, you get it.
When I met my husband he was in grad school and lived out of state. He wasn’t the richest but he was intentional. He planned long distance dates, ordered me food & always made sure I was good. I told him I didn’t do long distance & he moved 2 months later... Intentional.
In your early 20s, you need to push yourself to reach your goals so you are not dependent on anyone. Get the degrees, start the businesses, learn as much as you can, grow, save money, & invest in your future...
If this👆🏾 isn't done... you don't need to do anything else IMO...
I don't care what anyone says having a child out of season is harmful to all parties involved—especially the child. So if you have to wait until you're in your 30s and more established...do that.
I've lost 35 of the 40 lbs I gained during pregnancy while breastfeeding in the last 2 months. Everyone made it seem impossible when I told them it had to come off immediately so I'm proud of my progress.
I've Never Felt more beautiful. 🥺 Pregnancy is such a beautiful sacred experience, a gift, and I love it here. 🤍
Someone recently asked how I’ve been able to stay in such good spirits and have so much joy and these are just some things that have worked for me…
Again I say...focus on reaching your goals, have balance, and get money!
There's nothing worse than waking up and realizing how much time and energy you wasted on the wrong stuff or doing stuff out of season. That's why people be miserable now.
He knew I was a wife from the time we first met. He just didn't know if I was his wife. He signed us up for premarital counseling four months after us knowing one another... intentional.
Update: So Stephanie ate! 10/10 will be going back every few weeks. Booked as soon as I saw this tweet, and I was in and out. My total was $101 for a silk press and trim.
Being able to pivot has made my life beautiful and made me successful. If I'm not happy, I pivot. If I want to do something, I pivot. If I don't like something, I pivot.
Many of women's greatest downfalls are the men they choose to spend their time with. You're a nurse. Why are you messing with a drug dealer? You're very smart; why are you allowing him to introduce you to pills, and crack? Make it make sense.
A good man is worth the wait. I promise.
You'll be thankful in the long run when you can look back over the years and see how God has blessed your union and family.
Single women. Guard your heart and unfollow and block women who continually perpetuate that men are trash or there are no good men out here…
They are miserable, often single, and part of it has to do with their beliefs about men.
I miscategorized a lot of relationships in my 20s thinking people were my friend when in reality they should have been at arm's length. I thought I needed a large friend group like tv shows...
This takes time to learn...one day it'll click
People on my posts talking about “finally” as in finally having a baby...yall do know everyone isn’t rushing to push out a baby after getting married. Taking time to enjoy my marriage was necessary for ME. There was no rush for ME to have a baby.
& something else. We enjoy being feminine and kept. We understand the importance of our husbands being a provider. Our money is our money and used for investments, things we need to do and take care of. That's it.🥂✨
Everyone isn't my friend friend & that okay. Some will become good friends and some won't. I'm not trying to be best friends with 10 women at my big age. I have a family, career and responsibilities. Those relationships take more time to nurture that I don't have & that's okay.
I can only imagine how marriage is going for them… if you can’t submit to a man, do not marry him. Submission isn’t just obeying but it’s following your man and allowing him to lead your household. It’s really not that complicated or complex.