Dr. Antionette aka Dr. Toni, LMHC
Doctor of Marriage & Family Therapy
I got a lot of credentials
My tweets are for inspiration and entertainment purposes only
Story time: In 2013 my friend and I went to a club on a Saturday night and it got crazy🫠. So the next morning we got up and agree that we needed to go to church ASAP after a long night of sinning. So, while we were still in our club dresses,
A YT woman commented under Ciara’s (the singer) post & said “It’s always black people whom require facial cream and makeup the most.” Someone replied and said “Now Meth-Ann” I’m literally crying right now because she tried it and got ate up in the comments but Meth-Ann is crazy😭
Client: “I know we’ve spent the last 10 months in therapy working on my heartbreak & moving on from my relationship but he texted me over the weekend. We linked to talk because I still needed closure. So the conversation led to sex & he blocked me afterwards”
Me as a therapist:
Yall. Look what I did to my brand new Louboutins 😭 and why did my husband get madder than me as if these are his heels; just know a time was had and I might end up on Worldstar💀
Bitch, I wear extensions and braids so much that this man don’t know how to act when he sees my real hair.😭 It’s rare he catch me with it out cause I take it down, wash it and get it done in the same day🤣
I was so hungover preaching that word I don’t even remember my sermon. Didn’t have a Bible or nothing just vibes, a little liq still in my system, and the Holy Spirit guiding me🤭💀
My client: “Doc, when I first started seeing you I was single. I remember when I told you about the guy I met and started dating, then he asked me to be his girlfriend, and then he proposed to me and I’m about to be his wife. Can I FaceTime you during my dress fitting?
Me:
Confessions of a Black Female Therapist pt.9: My client came into therapy and said “Doc, I seen you this past weekend.” My response was “Really? Where.” She proceeded to tell me that she seen me outside of a bar and in her words “Girl, you were going off on a man.”
I know this isn’t funny but I went to his IG and someone in his comments said “You from Alabama?” Lmfaoooooo 🤣🤣 they finna go off in those comments my boi
I ran into my old therapist at the store and to my surprise she spoke to me in public. She asked me how I was doing, I responded “I’m struggling to be honest.” She replied “well take care” and walked off Lmaoo
My client goes on to say “Well, next time how about you use those same effective communication skills that you keep trying to encourage me to use when I’m pist at my partner no judgement though.” 😭
So as she walked out of the church, I walked to the pulpit in that damn club dress and started preaching. Yall, why was everyone shouting and dancing and was slain in the spirit.
Ima set the record straight. I’m a BLACK therapist. 99% of the clients I work with are BLACK. Not once has a client complained of my mannerisms, facial expressions, or phrases that I’ve used. Black people seek black therapists for a reason. If you not Black you just WONT get it!
I asked my man if he’d consider letting me be a stay at home wife. He replied “Yeah, what would you do all day though?” My response was “I’d bake.” He goes on to say “What, your face?”
Me: “Is that shade?”
Everyone was just sitting down singing hymns. After about 30 minutes my friend and I looked at each other and was like alright it’s time to go. Why when we got up to walk out, someone walked up to us and said “We don’t have a preacher; do one of you think you can preach?”
Couples counseling sessions be like: husband “I’m not in love with you anymore, how can we fix things?” wife: “that’s fine because I’ve never been in love with you and our 10 year old daughter ain’t your biological daughter.”
Me as a marriage counselor:
The most random shit ever😭 Yall, I thought God was testing me and so I looked at my friend and was said “Look, this won’t take long at all. I’ll be back.” My friend decided she was going to the car because her hangover was kicking in.
Yall. So Sephora has a sale we’re you buy a perfume sample kit and get one full size perfume for free. You have to choose a full size bottle of one of the fragrances in the sample kit. I choose Juliette has a gun
we got in the car and drove to some random church. It was a smaller church with about 25 members but the Holy Spirit started convicting me as soon as I walked in. All eyes were on us when we walked in; there was no drummer, no choir, or nothing.
Client in therapy: Girl, thank you for encouraging me to stand up for myself. I ended up stealing his grandma’s wheelchair out the house while everyone was asleep.
Me as a therapist trying not to judge cause I know all my screws ain’t too tight either
Confessions of a Black Female Therapist pt1. I had a new client Monday but I was also having a bad hair day. So I threw on a headband wig I got from Amazon (looking tacky) and y’all why the hell as soon as I walked into the lobby to grab my new client, the wig fell off of my head
(The man she’s referring to is my husband I’m assuming.) Anyway, she said “Doc, your ass cussed him down, so I didn’t come up to speak, plus I was with my partner. I pointed you out to them and said “look at my therapist going off.”
And just a disclaimer this is not real and I do not disclose stuff clients talk about in sessions. My page states that these are made up scenarios. Just thought I’d put this out there before someone with no sense of humor or personality come on here too serious
For the last four years, I would give myself an at home Love Shoot. This consist of me going to Dollar Tree and Target, buy cheesy Valentine’s Day decor and coming home to decorate my wall, set up my iPhone and take pictures😭. Every year I have a different color scheme.
Tonight at dinner I asked my husband to say grace. Not once did he thank God for our food. He said “God thank you working on my beautiful wife’s attitude and Thank you for giving me patience even when she’s wrong.” I stopped him and held his hand and was like “nigga are you okay?
If you don’t wanna spend $275+ on Tom Ford perfume or cologne just opt for the Tom Ford Body Spray. Here are three of mine. Don’t say I never put yall on…
We both died laughing. And the first thing she said was “I already know I’m going to love it here” Chile, I sat in the session with my stocking cap on my head and did not put that wig back on.
When the Couple during the telehealth couples counseling session starts throwing hands
Me as a therapist watching it all unfold yelling “calm down please” to the computer screen
In honor of Black History Month, here’s to me being the First Black Female Therapist to…Obtain a Bachelors Degree, Masters Degree and Doctorate Degree in my family by the age 29. And being the First Black Female Therapist to allow their client to braid their hair in session😭💅🏾
Clients: “I struggled getting out of the bed this week. But today I was able to get up for 10 minutes just to brush my teeth, wash my face, and ate a slice of bread. I know it ain’t much.”
Me as a therapist when my clients make even the slightest progress:
@_kim_oy
I remember when my grandmother first met him and his dad, she looked at his dad and said “that boy can not keep his hands off my granddaughter or stay out of her face.”😭😭😭😩
@othershawnallen
Well I don’t think it was about whether or not my hair is long. He just NEVER sees my real hair out. I wear extensions 98% of the time. The other 2 percent is me washing it before putting more weave in it
@DrLRubalcava
I’m also a therapist. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would have spoke but I wouldn’t have asked any open ended questions like “how are you”
As a therapist, I think friends would benefit from going to therapy together to work through friendship issues whether it be learning healthy communication, re-establishing trust, setting boundaries or even figuring out if a friendship is worth continuing.
Me as a therapist in today’s therapy session trying to provide empathy and unconditional positive regard to my client when I really want to just be real and say “Okay bitch, look I’m gone keep it real; you are the problem.”
Today makes 4 years since I successfully defended my dissertation and became Dr. Edmonds. This is one of my biggest accomplishments that I down play so bad sometimes. But In words of my Chair, Dr. Beliard, “Toni, you don’t have be so modest.”
Somebody tell Essence to sponsor a Black Therapist Event for Essence Festival. A brand trip.. fly us out, let us be apart of panels at the convention center etc. Recognize us and the change we are making in our community. And make sure I’m one of the first picks🤣
I Will absolutely not tolerate my White peers to police what I do and try to use scare tactics. I have BLACK peers who I trust to hold me accountable and pull me to the side if I’m wrong. That’s it. I worked for my license & plan to KEEP my license. So keep strolling Or Block me
One thing clients gone do in therapy is give their love interests a nickname. As a therapist I be with the shits too. I be like “So how are you and Ghostbuster doing?” Or I’ll say “So are you and Mr.45k still talking?” I be like “What’s the update with you and Mr. Small Balls? 😭
Therapists/SW let’s not go down that rabbit hole of trying to defend why we should charge a cancellation fee. No need to argue with people who are committed to misunderstanding us and believe we should “be understanding” and work for free
Dear Black Therapists,
Be yourself. At all times. There are a group of people out here who’s committed to misunderstanding you. They police everything you do and throw the word “ethics” in there. They don’t understand us, our culture, our struggles or humor.
Confessions of a Black Female Therapist pt2:I am a therapist with a therapist. My former therapist had a damn mental breakdown in MY therapy session. It was bizarre! So I started talking to her as if she my client. I ended up having my therapist admitted into the psych hospital.
* Disclaimer this is not real and I do not disclose stuff clients talk about in sessions. My page states that these are made up scenarios. Just thought I’d put this out there before someone with no sense of humor or personality come on here too serious
Therapists and Social Workers, do y’all ever get tired of talking? Like you’ve talked so much that it feels physically and mentally taxing to talk and you don’t want to say peep out of your mouth for at least 3 days at a time?
Me as a therapist in therapy sessions resisting the urge to over share, self-disclose, and saying “me too,” anytime my client shares their trauma that’s similar to mine. 😭