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They/She | AuDHD enby who is surprisingly not failing at adulthood | aroace in denial | feminist till the day I die | currently hustling for bastard money
I don't know who needs to read this, but an adopted child is a "real" child. An adopted child is just as valid as a biological one. They are owed the same love, respect and availability. They do not owe you gratitude for adopting them, same as biological children.
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@kinginthewalI
@_theekword
I won't say there's malice to it. I think it's just reactionary. Men's mental health *should* be taken seriously. But if we keep saying this and men themselves don't take their mental health seriously, what we're really saying is that everyone else should give men a pass
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@modesire_
I hate the pressure to have my own profound things to say. What if I just like other people's thoughts? Why do I have to come up with my own stuff ?
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@kinginthewalI
@_theekword
Often, when men's mental health is not taken seriously on platforms such as Twitter, it's majorly by other men (or even the man in question)
And this conversation keeps repeating itself with little or no progress being made
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@GHMansfield
For non wheelchair users who can't understand this, imagine someone picked you up from the road and put you in the backseat of their car with child lock on and a screen separating the front seats from the back and they say they're just trying to get you to where you're going
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@ladidaix
@venusianhunty
Shahem made a tweet that they took down I think
They were explaining how SW is valid cause most of us allow ourselves to be exploited for our jobs anyway but they said "when you squeeze your fat back into your [car]" and that does sound very fatphobic
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@Ayodelebiodun
@TheIgboWolf_
@Adedotttttttt
I get this. But I don't think the tweet is making reference to individual encounters with smokers
I think it's referring to the way we *as a society* have come to view smokers
So more along the lines of making smokers out to be unworthy of meaningful relationships
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@jennai_bae
@MyTeeRocks
@Ay_Yo_Wood
It always ruffles my feathers how much hate people have for trans people
Like, gender is a social construct. Are straight people so insecure in their own identity that they'll go out of their way to deny another person's identity?? I don't get it
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@BigBadReni
I was on the fringes of what could be considered average throughout uni and it wasn't that I didn't comprehend what I was taught but the academic system and my executive dysfunction were tag teaming to make any effort on my part practically useless.
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I'm actually fucking pissed. You are less likely to be killed by a shark than by a mosquito. Will you or will you not get the fuck away when you see a shark? You people are so thoughtless with your faux intellectual positioning thinking you're giving sage wisdom gtfoh
The interesting thing about this is that over 70% of the time, women are raped by friends, partners, colleagues, etc. Men they know.
A random handyman trying to make his daily bread deciding to rape you in your home is nearly a myth.
This is just irrational fear.
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@jadapsmith
Why are y'all so triggered that she used his name?
Will Smith isn't complaining and HE'S the only who would have a right to
How will you be dictating how someone should love in their own marriage again
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@iAm_MEdAL
@ThatPHCBoy
What exactly is he projecting? He said it's depressing to watch and then he proceeds to show us what's depressing about it. Where is this projection happening?
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@evelynharlow_
I have many issues with this thread.
I think you might need to do some more thinking about this
Specifically: ask yourself why you believe your male romantic interest should be strong enough emotionally for you to depend on, but you don't need to be same for him
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@onechaoticbrain
@Dynystlunod
I think the most annoying part is, even if I was lying, that can easily be verified and the cost will be on me. So what exactly is the issue??
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@evelynharlow_
Is it really because of a biological difference or is that a convenient excuse to cover something else?
Also ask why in a situation where your romantic partner breaks down, instead of accepting their humanity and being there for them, you think only about your attraction to them
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@Tolumhen
Jon Bellion makes objectively good music. Anyone who knows good music will acknowledge his artistry. Liking it is another matter since not everyone can have good taste
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@_jaymonix
@kyletrentt
a horizon stretches from left to right (or right to left) and vertigo happens when I stand up too fast. So horizontal lies on the ground and vertical stands up. That's how I remember it.
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A bit of advice about generalizations and relationships
Generalizations are for broad social topics. Things that affect most people or everyone in a society. Generalizations do not imply that everyone in that group fits the generalization. It implies that the majority do
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@Lionelkings1
What's more interesting to me is the fact that a lot of anti-queer Nigerians are Christian. Their job is literally to push their agenda to everyone they meet. For people who push agenda as their calling, they're really pressed about queer people just existing & being represented
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@UjuAnya
Location: Abuja
Age: 23
Sexual orientation: Asexual/Pansexuel
Who you seek and for what: I'm trying to make new friends, preferably kind and self aware people with nerdy interests
A bit about you: autistic, ADHD and NB figuring out my path in life one day at a time
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The way you people talk about parenting as if children are not entitled to their parents' money. You create an entire human being and then think that you providing for them is you doing them a favor. You can't be serious
@ask_aubry
A child chose to intentionally starve her family. with the excuse of she was taking classes abi ?
She took time to go into that same kitchen to make herself something to eat from the sweat of her fathers Money he used to provide the said food she was consuming personally ???
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@TheGodfathee
@TobyfromJupiter
@ulxma
@hobisshawtyy
@PoliceNG
The point is that people are being hypocrites. Telling women to dress how they want to be addressed, whatever the hell that means. Then turning around to protest when SARS profiles young men. It's wrong but for some reason, they don't see it when it's women's bodies involved
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@Joeseph__S
@ulxma
@dlord_of_chaos
This is Joseph. Joseph believes anyone that complains about bad behavior has experienced that bad behavior. Joseph does not understand how empathy works.
Pray for Joseph ๐๐พ๐๐พ
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@Bombuzz_games
@blkgirllostkeys
Omg this makes me so sad! Communication is so important for all relationships but it can be hard when you don't know *how* to communicate your needs and you don't have a partner who can help you through that process
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To add to this:
If you are a child and you have an adult lover you are being preyed on. If you are a child and an adult takes special interest in you for the purpose of having a romantic or sexual relationship with you presently or at a future time, you are being groomed
@ese_belosagie
Then why make the comparison? It makes no sense to me
You want to look down on stans but also use them to justify what you're doing which according to you is definitely not stanning. I don't get it
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@shiloh__iam
@xx_thedami
@Ore_akiinde
It is a popular occurrence in Nigeria for men to be adulterous without getting the shame of the society. Some cultures even encourage it. Often, the adulterous man brings the baby home and the woman has to raise the child (because these men are usually not active in their kids'
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@sisi_alagboeko
Based on the comments on this tweet, I think a lot of you men need to be more expressive with your partners
It's one thing to not mind any gift. But y'all seem genuinely unhappy.
Talk๐๐พto๐๐พyour๐๐พpartners๐๐พ
Why be together if you're not on the same page about smth this simple?
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You people are really out here asking your significant others to choose between you and their close friends
When you want what's best for someone, you don't try to take away relationships from them
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@LotteOddities
@AsimovSophi
@ChaosIsCrying
The concepts seem linked to me. In both cases, the individual assumes a certain level of effort is not required of them since there are other people available to make said effort. Bystander effect seems like an extreme manifestation of social loafing
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@PapaKojoAmpofo
My own problem is, even if it does happen, why is it the job of someone else to sexually relieve you? At your big age, with your two hands and fine motor skills, you don't know how to wank?
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@silenciocrypto
@ulxma
If you're both single and attracted to each other and having sex will ruin your friendship, I think that speaks more about the friendship to begin with than anything else
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@iamfeyofficial
@abisola_spencer
@SamuelOtigba
It's interesting how little some men know about "virginity". The hymen is so easily broken (depending on its form sha)
And yeah, the "while thinking about you" part is weird. Sounds kind of performative
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Most of you don't care about the children you see on the street whose parents can't afford even their own lives, talk less of the children's. Do you fight for their right to a decent life? Do you try to ensure they are alive and healthy?
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@SNeurotypicals
@jingleAbelle
Probably the same way white people got to be in charge when there were far more people of color. I think it's about the one group believing in their supremacy, then going around to enforce said supremacy on everyone else
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@Daddyomish
After watching this about 6 times, I think I get what happened. She brought what she thought was a dead (or maybe sleeping) snake to show her mum. While they were talking, it started moving. She screamed because she saw it moving towards her and was afraid of getting bit
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Wanting to do everything and ending up never doing anything. It's having all these amazing ideas that you never execute. It's knowing you need to get something done, wanting to get it done, then either forgetting to do it or just being unable to get yourself to do it
@demigodgeous
My issue with this whole thing isn't whether she is qualified. I have no qualms with the lady
My issue is the fact that there are Nigerians who do the exact same thing that wouldn't get any recognition because they aren't white. If *she* wasn't white, they wouldn't care about her
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@femi_nyst
@Therealjayjayl1
@Everdiva1
Not normal or not ideal?
I think it's very normal
Maybe not ideal, but 12 year olds are going through hormonal changes in their bodies. If you won't give them proper answers about sex and sexuality, they'll find them elsewhere
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No one should be forced to go through pregnancy or parenting
And no child should be forced to live with parents that cannot afford them when abortion was a viable option from the get go.
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@shiloh__iam
@xx_thedami
@Ore_akiinde
also. She is pointing out that the men who actively claim that paternity fraud is a crime would not maintain the same energy for adultery.
Both actions hurt the partner and in both situations, the woman is the one held responsible
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Older Nigerians are actually addicted to being greeted cause why did this random woman feel the need to call me badly behaved because *she* didn't hear me greet. Are you using it to eat? To pay your bills? Idgi
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@lizabethdevon
I like to use this example to illustrate the point
If I run you over with my car and you need a bone-marrow transplant to save your life, no legislation or ruling can demand that I donate my bone-marrow to you.
Forced pregnancy is an active violation of bodily autonomy.
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Sex is both psychological and physical. It is emotional or even spiritual for many.
Sex should be had willingly. Consent should be enthusiastic.
If you repeatedly beg someone for sex it means enthusiasm is absent. Why have sex with someone who isnโt willing to have it with you?
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@dsecondjin
@karen_okonkwo
Did you.. understand the tweet?
Cause it's either you don't get the tweet, or you're not communicating what you want to be communicating
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@Abubakar_Imam1
@Mochievous
Actions have consequences
Odds are, the people in the school know what he was doing and didn't say a word
If they're comfortable with his actions, they deserve the heat as well ๐คท๐พโโ๏ธ
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@BigBadReni
When I didn't know I was ace, I used to think sex was just generally mediocre and that people were lying to save face
Now I enjoy what I can enjoy and stop when I'm over it
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Obtuse is never a noun. "A big Obtuse like you", your subject attempts to be a noun phrase and is singular and 3rd person, so your verb should be "doesn't" not "don't".
If you're going to insult someone, at least be grammatically correct
It really seems like you're the one being a hypocrite bc according to you, you're doing the same thing but when they do it it's obsession and when you do it it's fondness. Sounds like double standards, no?
I said youโre being hypocritical - nothing about similarities in fondness. You call Beyoncรฉ โmotherโ, your reason for doing so doesnโt signify. You call Beyoncรฉ mother, you canโt be making fun of anyone that calls their pastor โdadโ.
Itโs giving H-Y-P for the hypocrite.
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@ulxma
My current relationship is a friends to lovers trope and it's my longest one yet
Friends will treat you right, they'll respect your boundaries, you'll both have fun and of the romance doesn't work out, you have your friendship to fall back on
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Don't let people on the internet gaslight you. Sexual coercion does not have to include force, threats or duress. If you are pressured emotionally, if you are made to feel guilt, pity, shame, a sense of duty, you are likely being coerced.
Begging for sex without using force, threats, duress etc is not coercion.
The problem is that persistent begging makes a lot of women "give in". But the only crime the begger has committed is not having self respect/shame. Not Rape.
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I think ppl turn to religion to find meaning, to deal w the futility of life, to find any answers, whether they be logical or not. And that's not necessarily a bad thing, I just think there's something ab that desperation that prevents ppl from doing any critical thinking
@unclebeneji
@Ayodelebiodun
@TheIgboWolf_
@Adedotttttttt
You may not be demonizing people for it, but a majority of society is (and does)
Everyone has their preferences. Everyone is entitled to their preferences.
What we aren't entitled to, however, is the right to ostracize a person for not meeting our standards or expectations
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@AutisticCallum_
I *am* extremely privileged but not rich. I think my parents were well to do when I was in like primary school or something but we haven't been in over a decade and this tweet makes me feel so very seen ๐ญ