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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

11 months

I’ve watched No Country for Old Men twice. First time, I was puzzled. Second time, I got it. Men of pure virtue are helpless to stop evil because they can’t understand it. The best they can do is follow one step behind and clean up messes.

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A few things mental health professionals need to understand about men. Thread.

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1) We pay a price for emoting. Every society expects men to contain emotion because emotionally unrestrained men are dangerous. If a man can’t contain his tears or his annoyance, how can he be trusted to contain his rage, his lust, or his lethargy?

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3) We live under a burden of performance. As Chris Rock said, “only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something.” Overstated? Maybe, but not untrue. Prestige and love are earned, and can be revoked.

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11 months

My reading of the bodycount discourse: men want to know a woman will be loyal and dependable. Unfortunately, few men know what to seek in women. They mostly know what to avoid, hence the focus on disqualifiers. It’s not paranoid to assume high count suggests low loyalty.

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“Bodycount” discourse is largely just male paranoia that she’s had better

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@ironshrink

1 year

We have a generation of psychologists who believe men are just emotionally defective women.

Dr. Nicole LePera

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1 year

We have a generation of men struggling to understand their anger who act out in dysfunctional ways. Let's talk about "Nice Guy" syndrome.

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2) Sometimes a joke is just a joke. Yes, sometimes humor is a shield. Sometimes it’s an attack. Sometimes it’s a test of your personality or intellect. But often a joke is just an attempt at camaraderie. Don’t expect to convene on your level if you can’t convene on ours.

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@ironshrink

2 years

“Men don’t need therapy. Men just need the gym.” Maybe. But if a dude is working on his • 4th marriage • 5th disciplinary review • 99th wake and bake then maybe there’s a problem the squat rack can’t fix.

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1 year

High-value to whom?

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@ironshrink

2 years

This is why people mock and reject emotional men. It’s not good or bad; it just is. While you’re insisting that we emote, or lecturing us that stoicism is always and only destructive, we’re wondering why you’re trying to relieve us of whatever standing we have in the world.

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2 years

Vetting tip: if she can’t manage her emotions, there’s a good chance she will try to manage your behavior.

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@ironshrink

5 months

I repeat: Do Not Date Feminists. If she believes men oppress her, then she will believe you oppress her.

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@ironshrink

11 months

There are women who offer little beyond a well-practiced ability to be displeased. Those women appeal to certain men. Why? Because they provide instant sense of purpose to men who believe it’s their duty to rescue women from discomfort.

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2 years

I think all men understand this. We don’t all want to admit it, but we get it. We either embrace it, or we are tormented by it. If you can wrap your head around this — I mean if you truly can understand the implications of conditional acceptance — then maybe men can trust you.

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@ironshrink

1 year

“Princess falls for poor boy” is a trope because women search for traits more than outcomes. “Women only care about outcomes” is the belief of men who come up short on traits.

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@BritMartinez

1 year

If women only care about men with money, why is the “beautiful princess who falls in love with a poor boy” such a popular story trope?

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@ironshrink

8 months

Men are more benevolent than feminists believe; women are more loyal than red-pillers believe.

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@iHad2GoGetit

9 months

Unpopular relationships opinions that would get you in this position ???

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1 year

Divorce doesn’t come down to a coin-toss. There are factors under your control that influence the outcome. Off the top of my head: • Don’t marry when you’re young, dumb, and knocked up. • Don’t cheat. • Don’t be a drunk or an addict. • Learn how to argue constructively. •

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In Gatekeeper, I emphatically advised men to avoid relationships with doctrinaire feminists. However, I defined the term carefully in the book because antipathy toward men isn’t the issue. The problem among feminist ideologues is the belief in a zero-sum competition between the

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Interesting: Contrary to the popular perception that feminists dislike men, the average feminist is about as positive about men as the average non-feminist – and no more negative about men than the average man.

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1 year

Every man will eventually realize that character and values matter in a woman. The question is whether he will realize it before he makes a grievous error, or after.

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@ironshrink

2 years

Your periodic reminder that the “chemical imbalance” explanation for depression is a triumph of American marketing ingenuity.

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@ironshrink

10 months

I wrote “Gatekeeper” on this premise: men are insufficiently choosy about the women we commit to. That creates suffering for all concerned. No one teaches us how to be selective, so we rely on looks, impulse, red-flag lists… feeble strategies that can only succeed by luck. 🧵

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@ironshrink

11 months

“Idiot! Your interpretation of the movie did not match my interpretation of THE ACKSHUAL BOOK!” Look. I tried watching the book. I really did. But it just sat there, so I watched the movie instead.

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5 months

A progressive mother wrote this about her 13-year-old son: “…having a flesh-and-blood oppressor-in-training eating your spaghetti and meatballs can feel like a waking nightmare.” She’s worried he will turn conservative.

Can We Keep Our Sons From Conservative Politics?

It might feel dangerous to let a teen explore reactionary and unformed pseudo-ideologies. But no one should get canceled at the dinner table.

www.thecut.com

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@ironshrink

1 year

The red-pill wing of the manosphere exists in part because psychology has failed men. Men go there in an effort to understand why everything they were taught about women and relationships seems to be wrong.

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@ironshrink

1 year

Related, via @MalePsychology : “… despite constant criticism, the Manosphere - unlike therapy mental health services - has no trouble attracting men.”

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@ironshrink

9 months

Men generally need to raise their standards and be more selective about women. Everyone would be better served if men demanded more in return for their commitment. This message irritates incels, feminists, and men who can’t be bothered to learn how relationships work.

Dave Danna

@DaveEDanna

9 months

What opinion about dating would get you like this?

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@ironshrink

9 months

If straight men will pretend to be non-binary to get jobs, imagine what straight teenagers will do to get social acceptance.

End Wokeness

@EndWokeness

10 months

Holy sh*t Grace Hopper is a job fair meant to help women in the tech industry. GHC decided to be non-binary inclusive. This year, the event was overran by men.

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@ironshrink

9 months

Most racially tolerant place I have worked: My father’s bar (1980s). Mostly working-class white and hispanic men, some black men. Oil refinery, Caterpillar employees, etc. There was plenty of racial humor—not all of it in good spirit—but no real racial animosity. (Fights were

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@ironshrink

1 year

Sooo tired of women looking at me when I shovel snow in my underwear. It’s like, “Hello! My eyes are UP HERE!” Creeps.

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@ironshrink

2 years

More to come. Time for me to make the donuts. Have a good Monday, everyone.

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@ironshrink

11 months

When I was a kid, my father told me every cop is half criminal. At the time, I thought he meant he distrusted law enforcement — which he did. Now I’m pretty sure he was also talking about human nature.

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@ironshrink

11 months

Men are invisible when they’re young. Women are invisible when they’re old. Nobody rides for free.

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@ironshrink

1 year

Why are we looking for her? To mock her? To grill her about the lizard people? To call her a Karen? She was clearly suffering. Hopefully friends and family got her some help. Leave her alone. Jeezus.

Kassy Akiva

@KassyDillon

1 year

How the heck has no one found her yet?

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@ironshrink

1 year

2016 study on the sunk cost effect leading people to remain in bad relationships. People are “willing to invest more time in a relationship in which more time had already been invested.”

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2 years

Husbands. The new year is a great time to reflect on one’s marriage; to make a few resolutions and shore up those weak spots. So, what have you decided your wives need to improve upon?

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@ironshrink

8 months

Sometimes I wonder how many relationships would be saved if more people knew how to offer and accept apologies without being stubborn or manipulative.

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@ironshrink

2 years

High-functioning couples discuss their patterns. Low-functioning couples argue about their events.

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@ironshrink

5 months

I’m a big advocate of exercise for depression. Effectiveness is undeniable. Now, all you dudes saying “go to the gym” can start chewing on this: How do you get a severely depressed person to go to the gym? When you can answer that, you will have accomplished something.

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@markhoro

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@Rozewicz You are contradicting NICE's depression guidance which is bold of you! This finds exercise is as effective as antidepressants for severe depression.

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@ironshrink

2 years

Live in fear and be ALPHFA!

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1 year

“Narcissistic people send confusing messages to their friends and families: Their need for others is deep, but their love for them is shallow.” — Nancy McWilliams

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@ironshrink

1 year

I worked mental health a year in county, a year in federal prison. Prisons are not full of misguided “alphas” per @RationalMale . Does he just invent shit? Prisons are full of: 1) low- to mid-IQ sociopaths 2) men who got off to a very bad start and can’t escape the system

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@datepsych

1 year

Anyway I watched half of the Sneako/Destiny/Rollo debate on what a high value man is. What stood out to me is that Rollo said Jeff Bezos is not a high value man. However, he seems to believe people in prison are:

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1 year

Two vibes spiking in the manosphere lately: 1. Get a vasectomy… If you love her, dump her… If she sneezes it means she’s raw-dogging strangers. 2. Take responsibility for your relationships… Use your words… Build emotional flexibility. I sense a disturbance in the force.

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10 months

OnlyFans is nothing new. In Crime and Punishment (1866), there’s a teenage girl who carried a yellow ticket. That ticket was an authorization to sell her body — which she did for a pittance. She had an “account.” Why did she do it? Ultimately, because her father was a piece of

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@ironshrink

1 year

Highly recommend @hoovlet ’s book “T: The Story of Testosterone.” Not just for the outstanding endocrinology lesson. Also for her dispassionate candor in dealing with research that apparently gives some people the vapors.

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1 year

@tannerguzy “Oh, are you on a journey?” 😅

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1 year

Great thread by @alpharivelino . I’m with him right up to “She is like a child.” I didn’t marry a child. I married a woman. I am not her daddy, and she is not my daughter. Imagine how great a relationship can be when *both* parties act like grownups and take responsibility.

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@alpharivelino

1 year

I think one of the reasons I got divorced is that I blamed my wife for things and that led to massive fights With my new girlfriend, I don't blame her for *anything*. I take full responsibility when anything goes wrong between us and that helps calm her down

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Hypergamy is one selection factor among many. Nothing more. Contrary to red-pill dogma, it doesn’t explain how any particular woman carries herself in a relationship, or why she leaves. Using hypergamy to understand a woman is like trying to drive using only the turn signal.

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1 year

As it turns out, telling men that masculinity is a threat to their mental health reduces their mental health. Great paper by @MalePsychology . Lots to chew on here, but a couple details caught my attention…

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@ironshrink

9 months

On a serious note, I have no problem with her approach. She’s sending an honest signal: This will be a transactional relationship. You feed me at Nobu; I give you access to this unambiguously displayed ass. Anger toward her is silly. Honesty makes everyone’s life easier.

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@ironshrink

9 months

If she’s too good for Waffle House, you’re too good for her.

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@ironshrink

1 year

I’m told my new profile photo makes me look approachable. That was not my intent. Please excuse the error and go away.

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@ironshrink

2 years

Since some of you fellas think I’m mad at the red pill, here are three ideas I think are helpful. Oneitis. It’s real, and it’s miserable. Frame. Yes, it matters. Dread game. This one is complicated, but yes: get your shit together and don’t be desperate.

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@ironshrink

2 years

If her ideology requires her to believe she is oppressed by men, then she will believe her most menacing adversary is the one with whom she is romantically involved.

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@ironshrink

11 months

@alpharivelino And the purpose of Dillon’s trash talk is marketing/promotion. It looks like business, not genuine ridicule.

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@ironshrink

11 months

Barbie’s message to girls: 1) You are oppressed by an unseen, undefined force called Patriarchy. Grrr! 2) Women and men are locked in a zero-sum power struggle. 3) We can’t love, support, or admire each other. At best, we can grudgingly coexist. Super cute movie though!

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@ironshrink

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The red pill once had interesting discussions. Much of it was off-base, but it stimulated thought in a useful direction. Like feminism, reasonable people left. What remains is a platoon of mercenaries who prey on unsuspecting civilians. It’s the path of all nutty ideologies.

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@ironshrink

1 year

The Rorschach test consists of ambiguous images, devoid of context or meaning, upon which to project our own thoughts and feelings. Almost everything on social media is a Rorschach test. Sometimes I see the test; sometimes I react as if I’ve never even heard of the concept.

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@ironshrink

2 years

Study: ovulatory shift has no meaningful effect on real-life behavior. Oh, no! More bad news for the red pill. “Alpha seed, beta need” has never stood up to scrutiny. Don’t worry about the red pill, though. It will survive. It is impervious to information.

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@ironshrink

1 year

“What is causing her anxiety?" Dr. G pondered, then brightened. “She has generalized anxiety disorder.” “Generalized anxiety disorder is not the cause of anxiety,” I explained. “That is just the label we use to describe it.”

A Psychiatric Diagnosis is Not a Disease

Saying anxiety is caused by generalized anxiety disorder makes as much sense as saying anxiety is caused by anxiety.

www.psychologytoday.com

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@ironshrink

10 months

@datepsych Well-adjusted people can indeed have opposite-sex friends they admire but don’t want to bang.

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@ironshrink

1 year

ChatGPT will hit you with smug qualifiers like: “This is a complex, multifaceted issue,” and “it's important to consider…” Then it will just invent shit. It will spew utter falsehoods with perfect, unwavering certainty. It is more human than I’m comfortable with.

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I rarely post screenshots. It’s a puss maneuver in situations like this, but, well… 😢 I like his new hat, though 🙂

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@ironshrink

1 year

Voodoo works by inducing negative expectations. With sufficient persuasion, you can generate anxiety in people and lead them to focus on it. What happens when people focus on anxiety? They usually find a way to conjure that which they fear. Shit like this is voodoo 👇

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@ironshrink

2 years

@RenOfMen You gotta feel bad for those ladies.

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@ironshrink

2 years

Study (2013): 65% of men and 74% of women blame their former spouses for their divorce. They said their spouses should have worked harder to save the marriage. Only 31.6% of men and 33.3% of women said they, personally, should have worked harder to save the marriage.

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@ironshrink

2 years

Conscientiousness and agreeableness are a grim combo for the man who pursues unhealthy women. Conscientiousness draws him to the impossible mission of bringing happiness to a woman who thrives on misery. Agreeableness helps him tolerate mistreatment when the mission fails.

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@ironshrink

2 years

“Hi baby… How would you feel if a truck was driving toward you at full speed, and you were standing in the middle of the road?” It turns out “I’d feel like getting out of the way” is the wrong answer. Now I feel ashamed and unsophisticated.

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@ironshrink

1 year

Conflicting political opinions should constitute a romantic dealbreaker. Why? Because political predisposition is an extension of personality, and political opinion is an expression of values. Only in movies can love overcome fundamental personality differences.

Mary Harrington

@moveincircles

1 year

If you’re single, is there any political opinion you’d consider a dealbreaker in an otherwise appealing and interested partner, and if so what is it?

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@ironshrink

2 years

I had to back off Twitter for a bit. An anonymous user got under my skin. I didn’t lose my noodle or anything, but I reacted. No bueno. That meant it was time to reflect and recalibrate. Happy Monday everyone!

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@ironshrink

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@datepsych @cait_CST I’m not a woman (yet—anything’s possible) but I’ll take a shot. Lingering is creepy: • Leering from across the room • Finding pretense to walk by her desk without engaging • Social-media stalking Men should approach early. Lingering marks the line between cool and creepy.

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@ironshrink

1 year

Gentleman. I must share some devastating news: social worker Nicole is no longer accepting male clients. There will be a support group in the church basement this evening for those struggling to make sense of this tragedy.

Therapist & Wellness Coach

@NicoleLewisLCSW

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I’m no longer accepting male clients. They get in my email inbox and want me to prove why they should choose me as a therapist. No scheduled consultations or nothing to see if we are a good fit. I’m not the 1 or the 2 to prove my worth to anyone. We would not work well

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@ironshrink

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Female-dominated professions fueled by unresolved anger toward fathers: • Prostitution • Stripping • Social work • Psychology

Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

9 months

Some number of mental health workers (maybe most, at this point) blame male mental health problems on a deficiency of feminist ideology. Luckily, there’s a simple cure. From @MalePsychology ’s newsletter: “For example, Richard Reeves stated that: ‘As a lifelong ardent feminist,

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“Most women set out to try to change a man, and when they have changed him they do not like him.” — Marlene Dietrich

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@ironshrink

1 year

@MsMelChen Left: “You’re not allowed to say that. We will punish you.” Right: “Say what you want. We’re not obliged to play along.” Asymmetrical approach, asymmetrical outcomes.

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2 years

Book update. Word count. Sep: 107,000 Oct: 98,000 Nov: 94,000 Dec: 92,000 Working hard to not waste my reader’s time.

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New policy. I’m blocking anyone who is: 1) Anonymous, and 2) The slightest bit impolite. My new rudeness threshold is in the “barely perceptible” range. I have no problem with anonymous accounts in general, and I enjoy civil disagreements with people who have the guts to show

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@apxmindset Are you home and safe now? I hope they caught her!

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@ironshrink

2 years

Dudes can “run game” through their 20s and 30s, or they can learn how to function in relationships. Beyond “game” as a term for basic social skills, there’s not a lot of middle ground here.

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@sentientist Aside from women assaulting men (which happens, and more often includes striking with or throwing objects), there is a common pattern in which women corner men while arguing. Women will trap men in a shower, bedroom, car etc. Men sometimes push past (assault) to escape. Are the

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@ironshrink

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Products I have learned to stop using thanks to anonymous Twitter: • Sunscreen • Toothpaste • Hand soap • Common sense

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@ironshrink

2 years

Rookie husband mistake: thinking his world should revolve around her after the wedding. When a dude stops being the man who captured her interest, he gets miserable and she gets bored.

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“What is an attractive man?” 1967 I can’t recall what these ladies said because I was distracted by their ability to speak in complete sentences. It’s as if they’re from another planet — the planet Elocutia where the women are, like, rly sexy.

What is An Attractive Man? Ireland 1967

It is not all about muscles. Women give their views on what they find attractive in a man.Reporter Cathal O’Shannon asks young women about the physical attri...

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“When it’s good, it’s great.” Men in healthy relationships don’t say that.

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1 year

@AJA_Cortes Mostly agree. The gym is often sufficient for anxiety of the idling-too-fast variety, as well as depression of the idling-too-slow variety. But for problems like malfunctioning relationship patterns, the gym can function as a tool for avoiding real solutions.

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Great summary of @datepsych ’s recent work. • Most sex happens within committed relationships • Educated women don’t divorce more • Incels score higher on hostile attribution bias • “Virginity crisis” probably just extended adolescence Lots more.

2 Years Of DatePsych Research

Support DatePsychology on Patreon. Join our private Discord server where we discuss research on dating, attractiveness, and romantic relationships. Contribut...

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Related, via @MalePsychology : “… despite constant criticism, the Manosphere - unlike therapy mental health services - has no trouble attracting men.”

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@ironshrink

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divorce

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 🇺🇸

@creation247

1 year

In ONE WORD why do 50% of marriages fail?

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@seerutkchawla But they are worldly because their sociology professor made them discuss Foucault at a Moroccan restaurant.

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2 years

There are people who glide through life with unshakeable certainty that they know what’s best for everyone. They seem to end up working in journalism, education, and mental health.

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@ironshrink

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How it started, how it’s going: Patriarchy edition.

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…Every man will eventually realize that character matters in a woman. The question is whether he will realize it before he makes a grievous error, or after.

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@ironshrink

7 months

“Trauma-informed therapy” means the therapist is on a mission to find “trauma,” whatever that means to the therapist. It’s like going to a chlamydia-informed physician who’s hell-bent on finding chlamydia while he jerks off to the story of how you caught it.

Alexander

@datepsych

7 months

Systematic review of trauma-informed psychological interventions: “There is inconsistent evidence to support trauma informed interventions as an effective intervention approach for psychological outcomes.”

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

Vetting tip for the fellas. Every moment she ruminates over the patriarchy’s supposed mistreatment of her is a moment she ignores her own mistreatment of others.

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

“…so many people deal with their feelings of guilt stemming from their actions by encouraging others to make the same choices. As if normalizing and spreading them will cause their own feelings of guilt and shame to dissipate.” – @robkhenderson

You’re Probably Not the Person I’m Judging

Divorce, hookup culture, and elites

www.robkhenderson.com

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

Useful vetting question: what’s different about your life now, and why? Sometimes people actually mature and change, but she put herself in a tough spot because a lot men have an involuntary reaction of disgust when they hear a high number.

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

I wonder which women he is talking about? None in my circle behave this way. Posts like this one break my heart. You don’t have to keep repeating malfunctioning relationship patterns.

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

“The old script for masculinity might be on its way out. It’s time we replaced it with something better.” I have never found much use for female musings on masculinity. Women have many wondrous talents, but teaching men how to be men isn’t one of them.

Opinion | Men are lost. Here’s a map out of the wilderness.

No one's offering men a model except the right. It's time for a new plan.

www.washingtonpost.com

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

3 months

I wonder why gym bros tell men to avoid therapy, but therapists never tell men to avoid the gym?

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

This is what I mean when I say men sacrifice prestige if they cry in public. Like it or not, people judge. Hard. This woman is just honest about it. (Exceptions: a man may shed 1 shame-free tear at a funeral, at the end of Saving Private Ryan, or if a dog dies in his arms.)

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

When I say “raise your standards” I mean: transcend your upbringin’ and learn how healthy relationships work. She means: get moar free bagels and booze. I don’t know… I might be the one who has it backward.

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

Remember when 70,000 mental health workers signed a petition saying the previous occupant was “psychologically incapable” of doing his job? I wonder whatever happened to those guys 🤔

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Shawn T. Smith

@ironshrink

1 year

“Being good at being a man is about showing other men that you are the kind of guy they’d want on their team if the shit hits the fan.” — Jack Donovan @ph2t3r

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