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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

5 years

"what is #ADHD coaching?" A thread:

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Dusty Chipura

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7 months

Wow I did not need to be called out this early in the morning.

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2 years

Toddlers have no boundaries. My 4 year old and I took a bath and I was laying here in bed and she ran up and just literally spread my buttcheeks apart for no reason. “Ask before you try and look at someone’s butthole” isn’t something I ever envisioned myself saying.

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1 year

Hey girl Do you have #adhd ? Where’d those bruises on your legs come from??

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4 years

I'm always surprised that not everyone with #ADHD knows about RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) and it's like, a real important part of having ADHD. Let's break it down!

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5 years

Okay so theres this #ADHD thing where people w ADHD are notorious for wanting to do EVERYTHING THEMSELVES and NEVER ASK FOR HELP OR DELEGATE. Obviously this can contribute to our over-commitment problem & leads to stuff not getting done, being delayed or done sloppily

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5 years

The most important thing you will read today:

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2 years

I’ve heard ppl w ADHD say they could never manage pets or children but (assuming you like these smol creatures), you’d be surprised how much the urgency of care and routine can actually be *supportive* of an ADHDer. It’s easier to do things for others than ourselves sometimes!

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11 months

I need to take a hot second here to talk about a real special kind of neurodivergent grief: The grief of recognizing that most people don’t socialize, interact, or see the world the way you do, and that you sorta CAN’T just “be like them”.

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1 year

The weirdest thing about #adhd is that you can tell people you have it and they sort of SEEM to understand, and then later are surprised and upset when you do all the things that a person with ADHD would do. Like bro what did you think I meant when I said I had ADHD?

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1 year

This might be the most accurate meme capturing the neurodivergent experience that I’ve ever seen

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@dustychipura

3 years

I don't know who needs to hear this *side-eyes all my clients* but...

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

3 years

I’ve heard people in the #adhd community lately mentioning that they often have the common experience of having a profound insight that could really change how they see themselves or do things..and then *poof* it disappears until the next time and they have to relearn the lesson

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Dusty Chipura

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1 year

We need to talk about the connection between #ADHD and shameful body things. Because SO MANY PEOPLE I know with ADHD do or have in the past struggled with body things that are Embarrassing or Shameful. I mean, rotten-teeth, infected-picked-wound, real-bad-yeast-infection stuff.

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Dusty Chipura

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2 years

OK let me tell you a story about an #ADHD thing that happens to me and maybe you. It's when you slowly plan and build up to doing a thing but then your secret brain plan gets interrupted and you ABSOLUTELY LOSE IT.

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11 months

Ok this is the dumbest #ADHD hack ever and I don’t know why it works, but when I feel overwhelmed by all my tasks, I just pretend that I’m my own personal assistant.

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Dusty Chipura

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2 years

I love that magical adhd moment where you get just enough dopamine to do the non-urgent admin task you’ve been procrastinating on for months, ughhh that’s a good feeling

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1 year

I just read a quote that said that dating someone with #adhd is like microdosing Wikipedia and I’m dead now ☠️☠️☠️😂😂😂

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Dusty Chipura

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4 years

Relevant to current topics: Did you know women with #ADHD are more susceptible to gaslighting and emotional abuse? Here's a great article about that! Thanks to poor self esteem, spotty working memory and emotional dysregulation, we make easy targets 😬

Why Women With ADHD Are More At Risk Of Gaslighting & Coercive Control

Women with ADHD are more vulnerable to gaslighting. We explore why.

www.refinery29.com

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4 years

hey so sometimes I don't feel like doing anything and I like to use an #ADHD hack I call the 'reverse pomodoro'. I'm sure I didn't invent this & many others have thought of it too but if you're feeling super unmotivated - read this!

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1 year

I was early for my doctor appointment and talking to my neurotypical friend on the phone. It was just before 11 am. My appointment was at 11:20. I did something wise - I asked him, “I think I have time to go the plant store. It’s 5 mins from my dr appt. DO YOU THINK I HAVE TIME?”

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

1 year

HOLY SHIT 😂😂😂

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

3 years

Workplace accommodations for #adhd : can I have permission to wear a sign on my shirt?

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

Does this happen to you?

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

3 years

I think one thing people forget about #ADHD is that it creates a variable capacity. People don't understand how someone can be so high-performing and then the next time, forget something completely basic and important or make a really careless mistake.

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4 years

so for example, you ask me how I'm doing today, I reply, "fine" with a neutral/not smiling face - and your brain immediately goes to "oh God, is she mad at me? She must be mad at me. Did I do something wrong? Did I say something rude the last time we hung out?"

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Dusty Chipura

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4 years

If you've ever been told "youre too sensitive", "toughen up" "get thicker skin" or "stop letting people bother you", you know what i'm talking about. here's the thing - RSD is insidious. I would argue it is perhaps the most damaging aspect of having ADHD.

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

3 years

You know what is one of my least favourite #adhd traits? How challenging it is for me to shift gears when a plan gets changed, no matter how legitimately. This is an aspect of managing my ADHD which I think the people around me don’t understand how impactful it is.

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

1 year

Hey just dropped by to say that if you have #adhd and you also feel guilty and shameful all the time about all the shit you struggle with, simmer down. This is a brain disorder, it’s a disability. It’s not a moral failing. Go gentle on yourself, I know how hard you’re trying 🧡.

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Dusty Chipura

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2 years

Gentle reminder to all my #adhd friends struggling today that MUSIC IS A POWERFUL MOOD CHANGER! you can use music to help you get “unstuck” and transition to a different state or task. What’s your favourite transition music??

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

If you don't know, you don't know - hours spent stuck in emotional torture over one wrong thing you think you MAYBE said but aren't sure, making a tiny problem WAY WORSE than it needs to be, knowing you're blowing things out of proportion but not being able to stop yourself

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

2 years

#adhd fact of the day: Before a lot of people get their ADHD diagnosis, they often find themselves self-medicating with caffeine. If medication doesn't work for you or isn't your choice, timing your caffeine intake can really help you with your focus.

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

1 year

Here's a thread of all the #adhd symptoms & related traits I had as a child that were completely and totally missed:

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

while not officially in the DSM as part of having ADHD, RSD is widely known to impact many, if not all, ADHDers. It's the perception that one is being criticized or rejected as a result of neutral stimuli.

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

Maybe it's a curt email from a boss or employee, or a lukewarm reception to a gift you gave someone, or a response to something you said. It kickstarts a cycle of rumination & cyclical obsessing about yourself and others that is a one way ticket to emotional dysregulationsville

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

It's impossible to have healthy self esteem and good boundaries when you are suffering from RSD, because everyone's opinion of you is inherently more important than yours & you are in constant crisis mode so boundaries seem moot (whic makes a lot of social problems worse)

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

RSD has cost me more than forgetting, lack of focus & time blindness combined. Not only has RSD cost me relationships in my life that I *didn't* need to trash but did anyway, but all the emotional pain & obsessing that comes with that and the physical stress associated with that.

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Dusty Chipura

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1 year

Wow it’s been a hot minute since I had a real bad bout of rejection sensitivity & I forgot how quickly you can go from “everything is normal” to “I hate myself so much & I wish I was dead & I should never talk to anyone ever again because I’m a fucking idiot” when you have #adhd

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Dusty Chipura

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2 years

I must be the only ADHDer who is like 100% executive function at 7 am and 0% executive function at 7 pm. I swear y’all are night owls.

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Dusty Chipura

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3 years

Whenever I stay over at my partner’s house he plugs my phone in to make sure it’s charged in the morning and reminds me to gas up my car when I leave and that my friends is a slam dunk on supportive partnering when your partner has ADHD. I just came to brag.

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Dusty Chipura

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1 year

We discussed it, factored in parking, ultimately decided I didn’t and I was only moderately early for my dr appointment. Why did I never think of this before? Can I just keep a neurotypical on speed dial every time I am not sure if I have time for “just one more thing”?

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

#ADHD 101; things you may or may not have known were ADHD things (and yes I know some of these things can be connected to other diagnoses!) The well known: - chronic lateness /poor time management - chronic disorganization/ mess - forgetfulness

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Dusty Chipura

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4 years

If this rings true for you, definitely do more reading on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. I found that just understanding it was the biggest key to stopping the patterns of interacting with others that were really harmful to me.

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Dusty Chipura

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2 years

if you have #ADHD and you are GOOD at hygiene stuff like showering or brushing teeth, please share in the comments the secrets of how you do it, for all us filthy urchins.

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Dusty Chipura

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2 years

#adhd fact of the day: many ppl w ADHD find it easier to get to the boring task they've been avoiding if someone is hanging out w them, or 'body doubling' them. It can even be virtual, like if you always find it easier to fold your laundry when you chat to a friend on the phone!

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

3 years

Good morning! Here’s your Mon morning #ADHD basics thread: ADHD causes an inability to “feel” time. It is said that people with ADHD have a short “time horizon”; that we can’t see very far into the future. Since we struggle both to measure time (as in, how long something takes)

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Dusty Chipura

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4 years

Anybody else?

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2 years

#adhd fact of the day: ADHD meds, when used properly, are not addictive. In fact, studies have shown that treating your ADHD with stimulant meds actually decreases your risk of addictive behaviours.

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

Ok clearly I have a lot of time this Monday morning so let's talk about my all time fave #ADHD topic: Black and White thinking

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@dustychipura

5 years

This one wins /ADHD reddit today 1000000%

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

8 months

HI DO YOU HAVE #ADHD ? DO YOU STRUGGLE TO GET OUT OF BED IN THE MORNING? MAY I SUGGEST…. SPITE???? I just looked at the social media profiles of two dudes I really hate and now I’m too angry to keep sleeping and it’s not even 6 am. 😅

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

8 months

In the wake of a medication shortage, strategies and techniques to manage your #adhd become even more vital (and harder to implement, it’s a catch-22, I know!). Here are some of my most foundational non-medication #ADHD management techniques: 🧵

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

Eventually the scale tipped and one day I was able to *NOT* impulsively explode a friendship, quit a job or have a meltdown where I was sure someone hated me. One day I just realized that I could be OK even if someone else didn't like me and that it was probably fine.

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Dusty Chipura

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3 years

So many times I see people with #ADHD talking about how their systems "failed", and what they mean is, "I was doing this thing that helped me do XYZ but eventually I stopped". Systems aren't like engines in your car. They're like brakes, or tires. They need replacing.

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

5 years

I started asking myself why this is? One answer that seems obvious is that when we agree to a task or project it feels good (dopamine) and because of time blindness we legitimately think we can do ALL THE THINGS

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

5 years

Like, there's the shame factor: "this should have been done already, I've been lying about my progress on this and if I ask for help I'll have to admit I'm behind"

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

3 years

Happy Wednesday!

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

4 years

It's not easy to change, but it's not a curse and it's not impossible. One thing a lot of clients have told me is that the medication guanfacine apparently helps a lot with this but I have never taken it. I'm fascinated by the idea that this could be treated pharmacologically.

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2 years

#ADHD question of the day: If you were late-diagnosed ADHD or auDHD or autistic, whats the one thing you used to do as a kid where you were like "can't believe they missed that 🤦‍♀️ ...."?

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

2 years

Did you know that when you have #ADHD , a part of your brain known as the anterior cingulate cortex sort of.. doesn’t work the way it’s supposed to?

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@dustychipura

5 years

Here's the thing tho: if you've spent a lifetime overcommitting and then shame-hiding your failures or struggles, you have NO CONTEXT for what is actually reasonable to ask for help with. So we just....don't.

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4 years

hey you know how when you have #ADHD sometimes your thoughts are all swirly and you just keep chewing on the same thought over and over and you can't stop thinking about it and it's distracting you and sometimes even putting you in a really bad mood or making you irritable?

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

6 months

Did you guys know that 95% of those diagnosed with #adhd also have sleep issues? Also hello from 4:45 am!

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@dustychipura

2 years

Lies we tell ourselves when we have #ADHD : I'll go first "this time, I'm definitely going to use my bullet journal" Keep it going

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@dustychipura

2 years

#ADHD query of the day: are you Waiting Mode ADHD or 'cannot be unoccupied for a second and inevitably end up being late even if you had enough time' ADHD?

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@dustychipura

4 years

For myself, working on the pieces around emotional regulation, boundaries & self-esteem helped to alleviate the RSD. It's like my emotions were a see-saw and the RSD was really heavy and all three of the others were on the opposite end and I just had to keep fattening them up

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@dustychipura

2 years

#adhd fact of the day: Having ADHD doesn't mean you 'can't finish a book' or 'get good grades' (as I've heard from some people's doctors when assessing them for ADHD!). Many people with PhDs and many bookworms also have ADHD!

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Dusty Chipura

@dustychipura

5 years

Only later to discover much to our chagrin that trying to do 30 things in one day is...a bit much... I think it has a lot to do with the fact that ADHDers legitimately dont know what is OK to ask for help with.

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@dustychipura

3 years

The other day I was saying that I was having that neurodivergent issue where I knew I was hungry but didn't want to eat anything and feeding myself was a struggle and if you got #ADHD and are having this problem I got some ideas for ya

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@dustychipura

4 years

I use the reverse pomodoro method whenever I am in the executive functioning dumpster and it really helps me. So there you go!

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@dustychipura

5 years

And there's also the thing where we think the rules don't apply to us and we should actually be able to do everything: "I don't want to ask for help because I SHOULD be able to do this"

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@dustychipura

3 years

Have you ever heard the saying, “ADHDers have interests an inch deep but a mile long?” I sometimes wish I could be the kind of person who really knew or understood a topic (other than ADHD ha ha) or area of interest very thoroughly but I just… am not.

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5 years

Hey I'm really upset and overwhelmed cause my 75 year old dad w extremely untreated ADHD just screamed at me in the car and I screamed back and we almost got in an accident but I need to calm down and go to bed now so heres what I did and am doing for that:

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@dustychipura

5 years

And neurotypical people do, without shame or hesitation, and its beautiful and amazing! In meetings and in life they just own their shit, so bald-face. Have you ever heard a neurotypical person just deadass say, "no I didn't get around to that, I didn't have time this week"

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2 years

Question for my #ADHD friends: Do you ever struggle to know what feels "fun"? Like do you have the problem that even when you think about relaxing, you don't even know what would be fun?

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5 years

There's the embarrassment factor: "clearly I took on too many things and if I ask for help I have to admit I bit off more than I can chew"

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1 year

Like can I permanently just outsource this shit please?

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1 year

all righty, I said I was going to do a tweet thread on skin picking / Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours & #ADHD and I am and here it is.

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1 year

I just saw an IG post that said, “I used to think it was big of me that I didn’t hold grudges but then I remembered I have #ADHD and just can’t remember things that happened” and I feel very called out. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

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@dustychipura

4 years

You might be tempted to beat yourself up for how long it's taking you to get your kitchen clean, answer emails or just get going for the day. But the point is, YOU'RE DOING IT. Let's be real; you were just gonna sit there doomscrolling for 3 hours anyway

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@dustychipura

2 years

If you have #ADHD I have a question for you. How much water have you drank today? drunken? Dranken? drunk? HOW HYDRATED ARE YOU BITCHES?!

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@dustychipura

3 years

Tag yourself, I’m “figure it out as I go”

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@dustychipura

5 years

"Does ADHD Coaching Really Work Tho?" Oh, buddy. Strap in and let me tell you the story of the madness that is my life right now.

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@dustychipura

5 years

With NO GUILT? it is a sight to behold. Because they can actually register and know how much time exists + how many commitments they can manage = anything that falls outside those parameters is OK to admit you didn't or can't do and ask for help with.

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2 years

What is the thing you learned about your #ADHD that you were the most suprised to realize was actually a part of having ADHD? Like for example, when I found out that people with ADHD are more likely to have issues with tooth grinding/bruxism? What was that for you?

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1 year

there's enough things about being an adult with ADHD that make you CONSTANTLY feel like you're not a "real" adult or a "good" adult, but I can think of none more insidious than the shame that comes along with either neglecting or messing up your corporeal meat suit.

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4 years

ok #ADHD tips time. Drop your best *specific* hack for ADHD management here. Not the big life stuff like, "use a certain kind of planner!" or "get a project-based job!" but like, the wee little specific hacks that make life easier. I'll go first:

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4 years

Breaking: skinny blonde white American neurotypical woman has a hot take on shit she doesn't understand. *yawn*. Oh and if you come for my client again imma piss in your coffee, lady.

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3 years

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2 years

Good morning! Just a gentle reminder that rejection sensitivity and quick anger / irritability are a part of emotional dysregulation, which is an aspect of #ADHD not listed in the DSM and commonly overlooked by physicians!

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5 years

So what we gotta do #neurodiversesquad fam is start learning, measuring and ACCEPTING that there is a finite amount of time in a day, month, week, or life time and that WITHIN that finite time not all of it can go to completing obligations we committed to previously.

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5 years

IT IS OK TO NOT KNOW HOW TO DO A THING AND ASK SOMEONE ELSE HOW YOU WILL NOT LOOK WEAK OR STUPID NO ONE IS EXPECTING YOU TO BE PERFECT

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7 months

okay I have an #ADHD question. How do you deal with "waiting mode", as in, the feeling like you can't DO anything if you have an appointment or meeting later in the day, and are just sort of stuck? What has worked for y'all?

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5 years

ITS NOT BAD OR WEIRD TO ASK FOR HELP IT IS OK TO NOT HAVE ENOUGH TIME TO DO ALL THE THINGS ESPECIALLY SINCE YOUVE PROBABLY BEEN WORKING REALLY HARD ON STUFF ALREADY WITH THE TIME THAT YOU DID HAVE

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4 years

The lesser known things: - perfectionism - inability to get started on things unless the "mood" is exactly right - problems finishing anything - piss poor self talk (always putting self down or giving yourself shit) - black and white / all or nothing thinking

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@dustychipura

4 years

Now set another time for just five minutes and get up and DO THE THING. When the time is up you get to go back to the fun thing. Sure, this will feel hard but I guarantee you will be rushing to get that dishwasher unloaded or take that shower if it means getting back to the fun.

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11 months

I’ve been called naive, I’ve been told time and time again that my way of handling situations and trying to relate to people will only bring me heartache, and it often has. I wear my heart on my sleeve, I’m honest and vulnerable and authentic.

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1 year

Do you have #adhd ? How’s that laundry that’s been sitting in the washer the past couple days doin?

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4 years

I love that one person was like "hey how come all the ADHD influencers are female" and sparked a giant and amazing Twitter discourse re; gender expectations and neurodiversity

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1 year

and THATS how you know it's a real neurobiological condition. THATS how you know ADHD is impacting. When a person cares, and feels badly, and wants to change it, BUT THEYRE STILL STRUGGLING - that's the ADHD. That's how it shows up.

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5 years

These are great things to delegate or ask for help with. But to do that, you have to get past all the "I should have's" and the shame, guilt and embarrassment. Because its NOT WEIRD OR BAD TO ASK FOR HELP. From your spouse From your boss From your coworkers From your friends

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