@EscaflowneClown
I live in Chicago, the number of stories my friends have about 911 operators hanging up on them (for actual emergencies). My roommate had to bike to the police station because 911 kept hanging up on her for not having an exact numbered address for something happening in a park.
@theashleyray
Also, the reason most states have passed laws about arresting and pursuing perpetrators of DV even if survivors recant their story is because it happens most of the time. Victims have been taught to blame themselves as part of the cycle of abuse.
@true_twit
@hotwhitedad
@EscaflowneClown
It was a situation where we told them the name of the park, and the cross streets, and the numbered address it’s across from. I promise, 911 operators hanging up is not a cell issue, it’s a lack of accountability & an extension of a police force that neither serves nor protects.
@missmulrooney
A kid I nanny for got asked by her parents what we did that day, “nothing”. We’d gone to the zoo. There were monkeys. She’d pet goats. She’d flipped when it was time to leave.
@EllieMRoberts
@alhegland
Love these suggestions! I’m from the Caribbean & highly recommend sleeping with the bottoms of your feet on ice packs! (Or bags of ice, or frozen towels. Every person in the house also needs a fan by their bed - even a small one!
@mshvan
@theashleyray
In your opinion, what is the exact time window in which abuse victuals allowed to speak publicly about their experiences? When does it close, exactly? What life events are they allowed to open their mouths after & when should they remain silent?
@ambernoelle
I came home crying from one girl’s house weekly in 5th grade & my mom would be like, “why do you keep spending time with someone who is mean to you?” & I’d just sob, “Because she’s my best friend!” Haven’t seen her in years, but she still sends me occasional bullying DMs!
@rachsyme
Let our gross feelings about this speech be a lesson to everyone - don’t give up your job, create another one. Hire a nanny. You can never have too many people who love your children.
@Maladroithe
I waitressed in a cloud of smoke - my throat & lungs hurt after every shift. They did studies about secondhand smoke & service workers who didn’t smoke dying of fucking lung cancer. The smoking bans are the most logical of laws & they actually help protect the working class.
@TeacherOnTopic
When my little (by 18 months) brother would annoy me I’d bet him he couldn’t count to 3000 and he’d sit there proving me wrong out loud & leave me alone for a while.
@katiemcvay
At age 8, my grandma told me I should read The Diary of Anne Frank, but the librarian said it was inappropriate. The next day, I came back with a note from my mom, who answered all my questions as I read it. Then I started my own diary & checked out every holocaust book they had.
@prettycritical
No one-on-one time with another man? I’m married & have close male friends. We hang out one-on-one, sometimes *gasp* sitting next one another on a couch in one of our apartments. Doesn’t feel like a compromising position. I couldn’t live with her rules. Her marriage is a prison.
@vinn_ayy
A five years old is certainly old enough to pick up popcorn & maybe don’t bring a potentially messy snack like that onto an airplane & hand it to children? I know the airline staff didn’t hand her those kernels.
@lolacoaster
No one should be having a wedding w/ guests right now. Period. A “masked” weddings ISN’T perfectly safe, just safer than an unmasked one AND most masked ones have portions where people eat & drink maskless. A dance floor, even one with masks, has hard breathing. I’m a wedding DJ.
@TheThirdFlash
@samiandzoe
@allisongeroi
How far do you think they’d get going to the cops about unsolicited duck pics? Legal options aren’t there, my dude. Speaking up publicly about an asshole is what they’ve got. Maybe men who see this will simply stop.
@evduzit
@ZoeSTodd
This is (intentionally?) misleading. The vast majority of that soy (75%!) is used for animal feed. It’s for meat & dairy production. Soy’s role in a vegan diet is minuscule compared to a meat eaters. We’d grow a lot less soy if we stopped the demand for animal agriculture.
@1divinehammer
@JonathanQuist
@AshleyGWinter
I lived near a PP in college. I got yelled at on weekends for just being a young woman walking by on my way to get a bagel. Nothing made me more pro-choice than those harassing assholes.
@4jtweet
@johnsonloreno
@piemadd
@StarLineChicago
People cycle year round there - just like in Chicago, various Scandinavian countries & plenty of places with winter. Warm clothes & bar mitts make all the difference. Biking keeps you warmer than waiting in place for the bus!
@apeck422
I’m from a tiny Caribbean island & know some folks that grew up on MV (not vacationers). Our childhoods are more similar than with a regular statesider. Her comment is mockable, but it’s not totally wrong. Most folks vision of islands is from a tourist perspective, not a local 1.
@bakusatsukyouu
@woahitsjuanito
It was very loosely inspired by, NOT a biopic & it was directed by a man, written by a woman. Law & Order doesn’t consult folks when they do a ripped from the headlines episode because they want to be inspired & go off in their own direction. The movie ruled.
@ultramaricon
As someone who had a nightmare winter where rats reproduced in her apartment I cannot stress enough how smart & tricky they are. Where there’s one, there are more. The most important thing is to find out how they are getting in. Also, humane traps are bullshit & I’m vegan.
@youFamousEnough
@leahfrombklyn
This is a pretend street encounter, it is set up in advance & then both people are acting. I am very concerned you couldn’t see that.
@annabroges
My landlord claimed the guys upstairs must be overflowing the bathtub nightly when the ceiling above my shower collapsed. My friend’s landlord claimed the same. Do they all pass around a ‘slumlord excuses’ zine? It’s never odd bathing habits from above! It’s the fucking plumbing.
@kathbarbadoro
They took away a butter knife I’ve traveled to multiple countries with. I pointed out TSA says butter knifes are ok, but I think they’re too embarrassed to admit that they’re wrong. I follow the rules to a T, but it’s 100% based on who’s working & how they feel that day.
@jourdayen
He was the best thing in Into the Woods the only of the “movie stars” that both had the chops & understood what show they were in. I felt neutral about him before that, but I’ve been intrigued & crushed out ever since.
@AITA_reddit
Also, I guess I don't relate to the kind of money this family has, but at age 17 my mom got me, like, used books & scarves for Xmas. The gifts were thoughtful & I loved them, but we stopped making lists of what we wanted when we stopped believing in Santa. You're almost an adult!
@Hypername
@WakeuptimeNOW
@pallbro
@gretchemaben
Exactly, if I liked you enough to date you, you probably have many qualities I look for in a friend. So the relationship didn’t work out…you’re just supposed to eject that person from your life entirely? What a waste.
@shandra_mcjeql
@ambernoelle
These backpacks were $50 in the 80s & 90s where I was from. They were for the rich kids (or us if we could find one at the thrift store). With a lifetime guarantee that’s still a good deal?
@ehs06702
@theashleyray
Whenever folks bring up rape as an anti-abolition argument I KNOW they haven't tried to work within the system. We don't have abolition right now & rapists are not only rarely convicted but seldom brought to trial. The police don't protect us or punish rapists now!
@notfolu
She’s also horrific to everyone that works for her or on her sets, so there’s that. Verbally abusive to staff to say the least (although never in front of “the talent”).
@_carolinek
@finch960
@AITA_reddit
Including children - or dogs - is usually something negotiated in advance. The more people (especially unpredictable people like kids) the more challenging & complicated the shoot becomes. Not all engagement photographers do family/child shoots. It’s a different style/skill.
@dansinker
I just started working at a (suburban! Montessori! expensive!) daycare. I don’t get a single paid sick day until I “earn” it by working for at least 10 months. There is no regular testing. I promise folks are coming to work with covid & every kid there is too young to be vaxxed.
@aleximenez
@boneysoups
@markpopham
I came here to suggest this. I “shop” the app to turn off my brain & just treat it like a Pinterest board. Also, there’s tons of Shein at every thrift store & clothing swap if I really want some?
@DKThomp
We went on our first post-vax trip to see family & friends in Dallas & Austin. Both cities still had mask mandates despite what Abbot declared about the state & everyone we talked to was still wearing masks inside, socializing/dining outside & at least one shot into the vax.
@Justsydnyc
I’ve given dating advice in rideshares, I’ve met folks on first dates, I’ve given restaurant recommendations & wedding venue recs. I truly miss them.
@JoshuaPotash
We absolutely need to prioritize public transit, private car ownership is never going to be financially sustainable for the working class.
@naomicfisher
I always had perfect attendance awards - because my parents couldn’t afford to miss work, or pay for childcare, or take a vacation. I promise, nothing about that “award” felt good. It didn’t mean no one got sick.
@bubbly__creek
Moved here from Brooklyn in 2007 & it was the first thing I noticed. Immediately, daily, cars were honking at me as I tried to cross with the light become they were running a (long turned) red. The streets are too wide, we desperately need traffic calming.
@GoingDutchDEN
I tried to walk in & they told me I needed a car. I said I didn’t have a car & asked if I could come back on my bike & they said I could. When I came back on my bike they turned me away. Utterly ridiculous.
@msmfrancesca
@Gemmaisagemini
@offbeatorbit
Yeah, all my clothes are thrifted or from clothing swaps, so we’re back to me photographing everything. Also having the space for what is basically a dry cleaner’s circular rack.
@mamajcress
@rgay
Also, there are more affordable options than a nanny for a single child. Day camps, day care, nanny shares. There is nothing elitist about saying childcare providers deserve a living wage.
@avatar81
@AITA_reddit
Agreed. Influencers edit like crazy. She isn’t going to do it live & if she is she’d be prepped with the products right by her (& she’d have practiced before).
@rickperlstein
@LoriLightfoot
I recommend driving the speed limit & not endangering the most vulnerable users of the city streets. If you get tickets weekly you are breaking the law & making the city a scarier place too live. Folks don’t want to live here because drivers are out of control & killing people.
@theashleyray
I grew up in the era of landlines, in a place with lots of hurricanes. The aftermath of storms (if they didn’t wreck your house) was always the ultimate time to get away with shit because parents couldn’t call one another. It was an island, so we couldn’t really go anywhere.
@chiwhobike
Exactly! I used to be annoyed at bikes on the sidewalk (thinking “they’re making us all look bad” etc) until I realized it ALWAYS a symptom of unsafe infrastructure. Barcelona & Tokyo also have lots of bike lanes on sidewalks & folks are respectful of shared space.
@skull_screaming
@toronodon
@AITA_reddit
Thank you! I’ve been vegan more than half my life & I’ve met or legitimately heard of a vegan who has done anything like this - of anything I know freegans who won’t buy meat, but would eat it if free. This story is fake.
@rachsyme
Here’s the episode of West Wing I just finished in my semi-annual rewatch. At the very least I recommend firing up all the Xmas episodes in a row.
@jenawithonen
I cannot even begin to emphasize enough how police here don’t care even a tiny bit about solving or preventing crime. They truly don’t see it as their job.
@Segway_Batman
If someone has their bag on the seat I’ll specifically target them to sit next to. I’m MORE likely to sit next to you if it means politely asking you to pick up your stuff. Everyone should do this until they learn.
@jamesdgreig
Also, I DJ for a living &, uh, my worst nightmares are all the drunk men who scream at/threaten me and try to grab or grope me. Must be nice to be a male DJ and have this be as bad as it gets?
@Altair4_2381
@xkot
@juleejulee
@Meggito
@pulmyears
@solomongeorgio
Wedding DJ here. It’s impossible to make a crowd dance for hours without throwing on some break up bops. Pay attention to 1st dance lyrics if you must, but after that, no one is thinking about the words - even if they’re singing along.
@punished_cait
I’ve been DJing weddings for over a decade - the number of unhinged parent speeches that follow the theme of this essay is really depressing. Also, I dated a man in his forties with a mother who was wildly threatened. If he held my hand she’d grab his other one & glare at me.
@SpillingChai
@ExKage
@llison_codes
@TheSaxyOne
@AITA_reddit
Yeah, I’m from the Caribbean (live in the states now) & when I go home people love to comment on how I’ve gained weight - but they mean it as a compliment. They’re happy & proud I’m getting thick. That’s different than asking, “what went wrong?”
@alisousa4
Bathroom line discussions at Into the Woods last month revealed a shocking lack of knowledge about the basic plot points of various fairy tales!
@awkwardfoxes
Half the fun of traveling is that first night when you’re jet lagged & a little tipsy, stop by the 7-11 for new-to-you snacks & google translate tells you a bag of “moss people”.
@NonsenSegue
@justjan_jan
@JessicaValenti
As a wedding DJ, I also usually sign a contract about a year out from the wedding. If I break contract I face consequences from not only the couple but the venue or wedding planner either of whom may have recommended me. I lucked out & all my 2020 couples canceled or postponed.
@theSurlyBiker
Yup, someone with A giant truck offered my a ride home from our plant swap (I was just gonna walk home with a box) and then revealed the bed of the truck was locked & they’d lost the key so the plants all had to ride up front. It was useless as an actual truck.
@EricAllixRogers
I do not associate NASCAR with “living in a city”. I live in cities for public transit plus the theatre, music & literary scenes. Car racing is hardly a well-known urban attraction.
@mopeshroom
@skull_screaming
@toronodon
@AITA_reddit
Do people make up lies on the internet - especially on this popular Reddit thread? They sure do! Should I use my common sense & life experience to help sniff out what’s true & not? Absolutely! This doesn’t line up with the goals of veganism & it’s unbelievable, extreme behavior.
@womanislempicka
The Ballad of Sweeney Todd is the best song in the show & fucking beautiful Giles from Buffy sang it and then they cut it from that shitty movie version. Boo forever.
@chckmeowt
@lindaholmes
Also, I know not everyone has a computer or smart phone, but the combo of my library card & the Libby app has been such a boon during covid.
@helen_knott
Last week, our poetry book club read OBIT &
@VChangPoet
joined us for 30+ minutes. She was brilliant - I took notes on everything she said & shared it with the group like a good little student. Author drop-ins have got to be the rare silver lining of our new zoom existence.
@nahhhlina
I have DJed a wedding on every weekend eve 9/11 for the last decade, including tonight. I promise its plenty of people’s anniversaries. They usually don’t even get a discount, they’re just psyched to find an open date at their venue.
@ultramaricon
We set up elaborate huge floors of many feet of glue traps & now have video footage one of them climbing up to jump over them like a fucking Olympian. I thought my partner was insane when he bought 20 night-vision, motion activated cameras to spy but it’s how we found their entry