32, Native Jew, system of 4, slacker burnout, vibe curator, artist, psychonaut, unicorn fan, Volunteer, song and dance trans man (he/it)
@SM_Baudelaire
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being a gay catholic teenager is hilarious because you're told getting horny makes god mad and then you go sit silently in a building decorated almost exclusively in artwork of crying half naked men tied up to things
"trans men aren't seen as predatory, trans men don't have chasers, trans men have male privilege because of testosterone" for the love of god just leave us alone
picking up your HRT means you have to engage in psychological warfare with a pharmacy tech who has been working since the reagan administration and yet pretends they've never seen a trans person once
a lot of trans discourse would be solved if white trans people would just accept that Nothing Erases whiteness and if you are white, no matter how else you are marginalized, you're probably standing on a non white person's back at all times
"why are trans men making Malte's murder about anti-transmasculinity" oh golly oh gosh now why would trans men want to talk about the oppression we specifically deal with after a trans man was quite literally beaten to death for being a trans man
love when i google anything about vaginal health and every article is like "YOU GO GRRL! HOW TO MAKE SURE YOUR POWERFUL STRONG WOMAN LADY PARTS ARE HEALTHY AND HAPPY!!" like cool i'll just go die now i didn't want to know if I had a problem anyway
being a trans man is fun because you will just be vibing and someone you've never met or planned to meet feels it is necessary to tell you that 1) you are a bad person 2) your very existence makes the world worse 3) you should feel guilty about being happy
trans mascs, esp black trans mascs, will twist themselves into knots struggling to find a way to describe unthinkable torture in a way that won't make anyone feel blamed for that tortures existence, only to be told in the most infuriatingly childish ways "lol i just don't care!"
something rather odious about how trans masculine people have extremely high rates of rape and SA but we're often told that being perceived as "men" in turn protects us from said rape and SA
nsfw or whatever but i met up with a really nice guy last night and he grabbed my dick and quite literally jerked me off while calling me a pretty boy i have been riding that high ever since
i wonder if the "testosterone is poison and ruins your body forever" crowd even cares about how their words affect trans fems who don't or can't take hrt, or what it says about trans fems who are closeted
so if trans masc people take testosterone we're overly aggressive hormone-poisoned monsters but if we don't take testosterone we're fake trans trenders who are stealing resources away from actual trans people. do i have that correct?
if a black person tells you you're being racist and your response is "but im trans" you're no better than a cishet white person and haven't learned a Damn thing
@Stroudle
i wasn't really talking about being harassed by chasers. im sorry if it felt like i was being flippant or dismissive of that, this tweet was a joke i thought of in 10 seconds it's not serious
oppression is not a zero sum game and privilege doesn't work like Pokémon stats, if you're white you should be working on keeping non-white people safe, not debating them
@cloudystarrx
oh it can be since younger queer folks are usually more accepting as a general rule, but ive met cis gay men that are older who date or have dated trans men, the gay men i talked to were all older than me and nobody except like one guy was bothered by it
calling trans masc people "MRAs" because we're asking you to take our oppression and pain seriously is so callously dismissive and shows just how little some of you listen to us
@uwuFeffy
transition can often make trans masc people feel like we lose all support from friends, and to be honest we often are kind of forgotten or not checked up on as often. it's the toxic idea that men just don't need emotional support that causes so many of us to feel so alone
im gonna romanticize the fuck out of testosterone, i want the world to know how amazing testosterone is and i want everyone who wants to take it to do so without being afraid
being trans masc means you're stuck in the meat grinder that is patriarchal abuse but instead of people wanting to help you, you just get told it's all your fault, you caused it to happen, and you will do it to others no matter how careful you are
the sheer unmitigated audacity of turning a trans person's murder into masturbatory discourse fodder shouldn't surprise me and yet here i am, fuck why can't we have any space to talk? why do we have to pussyfoot around everyone else's feelings even when we die painfully?
trans guys will tell you the saddest, most gut wrenching story about their past and then go "but it's okay i know other people have it worse i don't want to take attention away from what matters :("
i hate when a large account with a lot of followers says shit like "oh why are we fighting amounst ourselves? stop blaming (insert group here) for all your problems" when one minute of Shutting Up would reveal that it's a massive problem of nobody listening to BIPOC trans people
existing as a trans masc person is being treated like a child who is also a hysterical out of control woman who is also a dangerous man who has unwavering amounts of power that hurts everyone around you who is also an untrained dog
being talked over, told to shut up, and undermining my intelligence has always been one of my biggest triggers since I was young and I wish someone would’ve given me a heads up that these are all a pretty significant part of the trans masculine experience (+)
"why dont trans men distribute gray market hrt?" i can assure you there are trans guys in your area doing just that, they just risk assessed you and found that you're a massive narc and aren't letting you in on the operation. hope that helps.
it's amazing how being a trans masc person that hasn't had top surgery makes you an abomination who reflects poorly on your community, cool to know my tits have the power to bring despair ruin and chaos on an almost biblical plague level
trans fems and trans masc people don't exist in opposition to each other and acting as if we're completely different species with no overlapping experiences hurts everybody
i always get angry when people are dismissive of trans masculine erasure and treat our concerns as if we just feel left out when in actuality it's because when we're invisible it means we can be abused and killed and nobody, not even some members of our community, notice
lot of you talk very big about how important community, protection, and trans joy is until trans men/mascs are involved, especially non-white trans men/mascs who white trans folks of all stripes seem perfectly okay with throwing under the bus
@ElizaCaseyxxx
it's transphobic to say you hate trans people but i don't think you actually care about that. i think you are just purposefully being obtuse because it's obvious what is happening but it's happening to trans men and when bad things happen to trans men nobody gives a fuck
i don't have bottom dysphoria much at all tbh so like it's just mildly upsetting to me, i can't imagine how much that fucks with trans masc people's heads who do, like this is the shit that gets up killed
trans mascs will go through something so horrifically traumatic it will alter the course of their lives forever but never bring it up for fear of hurting or alienating others
so we've reached the "trans men who still have periods are clinging to female socialization and if they were really trans they would magically stop bleeding" stage of transphobia huh?
people will say there is an abundance of free transition resources avaliable to trans mascs and they site one binder giveaway they saw on tumblr three years ago as proof we have it way too good
there is nothing shameful or bad about being a trans man/trans masc person, you're not "the enemy" for being yourself, and anybody who tries to put that shit on you isn't worth your time.
we get told to find our own language and make our own tweets and write our own theories and no matter how we try someone somewhere is angry we in some abstract way made them feel bad about themselves
yeah drawing a man with top surgery scars are great but what we really need is more art of trans guys who are fat and hairy, a real bears bear, with just the biggest fucking tits you've ever seen, like not pecs not muscles, massive fucking tits. it's 2023, don't be a coward
dysphoria is hard for me to explain because it isn't that i don't "look like a man" it's more that im Wrong in some way, im a Thing that just Shouldn't exist, i feel like im wearing a human flesh suit with an obvious zipper and everyone can see no matter how hard i try to hide it
white trans people who live in ritzy blue state gayborhoods with no desire to help others are killing this community. im sick of your shit, im sick of the neverending discourse about which of you has it harder with no thought given towards race and class
also we are not immune to sexual harassment either i still get hassled both by queer folks who can't take a hint and straight men who misgender me on purpose please don't tell trans mascs that we're safer now than before transition its insulting, untrue, and puts us in danger
always wild when trans mascs talk about our oppression and someone says "gee who else does that happen to? 💅" as a gotcha, like yeah transphobia hurts all trans people and there is a lot of overlap, it's almost like we should show solidarity to each other
"young queer/trans people have it easier" watching the boomerfication of millennials is so fucking painful like what are you people even saying anymore??
@AuruLupus
unfortunately yes, ive run into some people irl and online who think trans men don't have to worry about things like street harassment or being preyed on by other men
sorry but if you think sex between men can't be loving gentle and spiritually fulfilling, or is somehow less than other forms of queer sex you're just homophobic, like whether it's intentional or unintentional those feelings of disgust and scorn are homophobic
if a trans masc person having tits/wearing makeup/dressing in "girl clothes" is enough to make you misgender them, then you never took their gender seriously to begin with and are just transphobic.
i don't think it's a good idea to measure a trans person's value based on how much they have suffered actually. i think we should stop being catholic with it and accept people for who they are.
@secenby
not trying to start shit but youre wrong, trans mascs are not accepted by society, we are in fact usually pretty reviled. if you talk to a non-white trans masc who doesn't "pass" it becomes obvious it isn't any easier, implying it is only adds to erasure, our pain is real
people need to get over the idea that cis and trans men are bffs and we're all collaborating on how to make the world worse for others, because all that does is hurt trans men, it keeps us afraid and isolated, you're saying we have the same values as the people who abuse us
gonna mute this now, last thing i want to say is that trans men and mascs shouldn't be this afraid, we shouldn't have our experiences questioned and mocked, we face violence from cis people and then get told that violence doesn't hurt us, or that it's something we asked for
"trans men aren't seen as predatory, trans men don't have chasers, trans men have male privilege because of testosterone" for the love of god just leave us alone
trans masc people are allowed to talk about the things that affect us and im done putting everyone else's comfort over my own. im done trying to find the exact right wording that won't step on someone's toes, im allowed to take up space and the things that hurt us matter
stop lumping trans masc people in with the men who rape, assualt, and abuse us!! we're just trying to survive and a lot of you seem to want us to either die or not exist
it's so fucking embarrassing to be in the throes of a mental breakdown and feel as if nothing can help and then you take a shower and eat a sandwich or whatever and you're miraculously cured, i hate that so much
@gh0ulschool
for me it is always when i try to buy syringes/needles, there is one pharmacy tech who refuses to sell them to me, another who always brings me the wrong size everything and gets offended when I tell her, and one final one who insists that she can only sell them in boxes of 100
tbh as much as this discourse sucks i love being a gay man and being around other gay men and having sex with men, i love loving men and no loser who hates me because i have a vagina or im too fat or im non-white or whatever is going to stop me and others like me from being gay
also let's be real here most activism is done by black and brown trans people so when you say there aren't enough trans men doing activism that just tells me you are massively devaluing the hard work of most of your community
always disheartening to find yourself reading something about bodily autonomy, gynecological health, pregnancy or rape and getting hit with "this is a WOMAN'S issue only WOMEN experince this" halfway through
@adrienassturd
@oddgoblin1312
once had a guy trail me in a car and when i told him i was a man in a panicked attempt to throw him off all it did was make him switch pronouns, so i would Love to live in the world a lot of people have made up where nobody bothers queer/trans men
"being a drug addict made me racist" i spent about 10 years of my life whacked out on alcohol, coke, and heroin and i still knew to not be a white supremacist like please take responsibility for yourself
@RealDJCthulhu
gendered language in healthcare does nothing except hurt trans people, it keeps up from accessing help we desperately need and as a result we get sick and stay sick