J. Cole explained meditation SO PERFECTLY. It’s all about being aware. There is no right or wrong. Just be present and recognize the space between your thoughts and your Self.
I came, I saw, I conquered. Being a full-time law student and an entrepreneur while exploring the depths of my pain/trauma has not been easy. Worth it! But not easy.
Chasity,
I am so proud of you, girl. You are the bravest I know.
#NoteToSelf
📸:
@tangerinephotos
Affirmation:
Just because your phone creates access does not mean you have to ALLOW access. You are NOT obligated to respond to anything that comes through your cellular device. You don’t owe that text, DM, mention, email, or call ANYTHING.
I feel
@ScottieBeam
when she said “I didn’t intentionally date. I didn’t mean to meet someone. I just went on a lunch...and that lunch has turned into almost a year of a relationship”
My best and biggest blessings are the ones that came while I was minding my business.
At work, a white woman told me I needed an ID badge to get on the floor that I pressed. I told her I had one. She asked to see it& asked who I worked for bc SHE’D never seen me. Long story short, the ho was late on my files and she got a call from my Judge.
#BlackintheIvory
Today’s Goal: be intentional with your words. It’s not about being fake or covering up the facts. It’s about speaking life even in times of despair.
Ex.
“I’m so broke” v. “God is working on my finances”
“I guess I’m just not good enough” v. “I’m in a season or preparation”
Aye, let me shoot the shit with y’all real fast. Stop repeating yourself. Folks ain’t slow, hard of hearing, or oblivious. People are making DECISIONS about what they do and where their energy is going. Period. Speak only once to raise awareness then flow.
More people would also stop isolating themselves because society has foolishly fed us the idea that you have to be whole before you connect. We learn who we are and how we want to be through relationship.
So many people think relationship is a bonus...decorative...optional.
It’s not. Relationship is foundational to this whole life thing.
Maybe if more truly understood & accepted that, more would be intentional about how they approach connection.
Do NOT spend this month yelling at or preaching at white people. Do not center them in this month. Do fun shit. Flex. Eat INCREDIBLE food. Dance. Have amazing sex. Savor the flavor of champagne. Rest. Remember songs that make you feel alive.
This was before “branding” and “marketing” and “content” sucked the fun out of social media. It was literally just a place for your cutest pics and deepest thoughts.
This paragraph by Bell Hooks reminds me of something
@Maryamhasnaa
said. She says that being in love with another person is really translated into “I love who I am with you” so the real power is about learning how to tap into that for yourself. I love that
You don’t have ALL of the qualifications, but you know you can do the job? Apply.
You don’t have all of the tools they have, but you have the vision? Push forward anyway.
Your gpa isn’t as high as your classmates? Submit your resume anyway.
ALWAYS remember: Favor ain’t fair
Gentle reminder: everything isn’t about you. Also, when you make everything about you, you are willfully taking on stuff that was never yours to sift through.
Pack light.
My biggest lesson regarding friendships is that it is toxic and unrealistic for one friend to be everything. It is important that we have different friends for different things in order to maintain healthy boundaries and balance.
My bike. Recently, I hit a major low-depressed, resentful, bored, exhausted. I randomly shared with my husband that I wanted to learn to play again and I talked about things I enjoyed during childhood. For Mother’s Day, he surprised me with a bike🥺🥹
The very first jars v. Now.
Though I am not where I ultimately want to be, seeing my business grow organically and taking intentional steps is a feeling I can’t explain. I remember allowing friends to sample for the longest time because I was afraid to release it. START NOW!
Hey.
Stop fixing on yourself. You’re not a car project. You are a person with levels of wisdom, experiences, and inherited stuff. The work won’t miss you. Just stay present, stay grounded, and stay honest. Let life flow through you-to & from.
Contrary to what’s being circulated, I’m here to tell you that every skill or talent doesn’t have to be monetized. Leave something for you.
Hobbies are sacred.
I think what’s REALLY happening is a lot of people’s fairytale ideas about marriage are crumbling. My good friend and I often discuss marriage and marriage is simply the business. Marriage is the corporation and the love is sold separately.
Idk who this is for, maybe me...stop rushing yourself to feel “okay”. So much of our process that is necessary for ascension gets skipped when we rush to be “okay” or “feel better”. Sort through it. Be pissed. Just don’t stay stuck there and be mindful that there is another side!
And I am a woman who genuinely wants to be married because I value partnership. I value the business benefits of marriage as well as the opportunity to build a life w. someone. I value legacy & I don’t shy away from the real conversations that have to be had to make that decision