People say all the time “I would kill for my child”, but somehow, “I would cross dangerous borders for a better life for my child” is incomprehensible and looked down upon.
Seeing trans couples having children & building families together makes me sooo incredibly happy!
If these pics of Precious and Myles during his pregnancy and photo with their newborn daughter aren’t the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen just go ahead and block me now. 😭💕
Protect women.
That means:
Protect Black women.
Protect fat women.
Protect Muslim women.
Protect queer women.
Protect trans women.
Protect undocumented women.
Protect women sex workers.
Protect women struggling with addiction.
Protect women who don't attract you.
Protect women.
I’m a man who can get pregnant. I’m not an anomaly. Even if trans ppl only make up 1% of the population there are 7 billion ppl on this planet. There are over a million of us out here. These anti-abortion laws effect men like me & non-binary folks as well. Don’t forget about us.
You know what I hate? That dental isn't covered by medical insurance, as if your teeth aren't part of your fucking body with nerves, blood vessels and specialized cells. As if oral health isn't directly related to general health. Needing both medical AND dental insurance? A scam.
Things bisexual men deserve:
- Love
- Respect
- Positive representation
Thing bisexual men do not deserve:
- Their attraction to women invalidated
- Their sexual practices scrutinized
- Assumptions made about their ability to be faithful
- Any of your hot fucking takes tbh
Y'all know you don't actually have to announce "HIV- & STD Free" after you get tested. You can literally just say you got tested & encourage others to do the same 🙂. We can promote sexual health practices in a way that doesn't insinuate shame if one is to have different results.
This past week a 17 yr old Black trans girl named of Bailey was shot & killed in Baltimore, while another Black trans woman known as “Bee Love” was burned to death in a car in South Florida.
I don’t want to hear one more fucking word about how we should’t be upset over “jokes”.
Shoutout to non-binary folks who often present as their assigned gender because that's frequently the easiest and safest thing to do.
You are still valid.
"I could never date a bisexual man, I would just be too grossed out" says the woman still taking Tide pens to her husbands shit stained draws cuz he thinks spreading his booty cheeks to wash his asshole is gay
Having a black partner or a black child doesn't mean you can't be racist.
All it means is you find black people attractive. And guess what, the slave master's did, too.
We are not fucking our way to liberation. Never use these lines again.
Y’alls “New Masculinity” is old shit to me. Move past the aesthetics and do some internal work so you can actually be better men and not just better dressers.
Trans men should not have to bind for their identities to be respected.Trans women should not have to tuck for their identities to be respected.
Trans people should not be forced to put themselves through physical pain to cater to cis standards of desirability for your respect.
Little known facts:
HIV dies roughly 5 SECONDS after hitting the air, which is why you won’t get it from things like sharing toothbrushes, razors, food, etc.
Hepatitis however (which is deadly), can live outside the body up to 3 WEEKS & actually can be contracted those ways.
I’ll never understand how cis women can advocate for the respect of women proclaiming things like “WOMEN ARE NOT WALKING VAGINAS, WE ARE MORE THAN OUR BODIES! ✊🏽”
But as soon as it comes to talking about trans women suddenly it’s, “You’re not a woman cuz you don’t menstruate.”
I am so heartbroken to learn about the recent murder of this Black trans brother. He loved and was loved by his community. 💔 He was only 33 years old. Rest in Power Mar’Quis Jackson.
There is nothing shameful about bi or pansexuality. There is nothing wrong if the guy you like/likes you is also attracted to men. It doesn't make you less attractive. It doesn't put you in danger.
Women must do better about unpacking their insecurities & homophobic thinking.
I’m wearing a “Trans lives matter” t-shirt today. A Black cis man just walked past me & whispered as he walked by, “Yo, I like your shirt, but don’t tell nobody.”
I hope one day that man is secure enough with himself to support trans people publicly, instead of just in private.
Y’all “wE WaS KAANGS” brothers be giving me a headache.
Our ancestors were not all kings and queens, bro. A lot of are folks were hunters, gatherers, farmers, healers, caretakers, carvers, builders, etc. Just regular ass people, and they were still worthy of love and respect.
This is disgusting. Caster is a cisgender woman, but bcuz she doesn’t fit standards of white cis womanhood rooted in biological determinism, y’all want to humiliate her in this way. Meanwhile you don’t wanna let actual trans men & women participate in their respective categories.
You can cheat in a polyamorous relationship. Anything that goes against the boundaries that partners have set with each other can be considered cheating. If your partner isn’t okay with it, or if you can’t be honest about, it’s still cheating, even if you’re polyamorous.
Trans people don't have to hate their bodies. You can be trans and be perfect happy with your genitalia.
To be trans is to be unaligned with the gender that was coercively assigned to you, not necessarily to be in distain of your own body. Body parts don't equal gender.
Men can be feminine & still be genuinely attracted to women. Not all bi or pan guys are masculine. Also, It’s totally valid for women to be attracted to men who’re feminine.
Let people be who they are & date who they want without their sexuality being scrutinized or invalidated.
Being HIV+ doesn’t make you “dirty” just as being HIV- doesn’t make you “clean."
We have to stop using this stigmatizing language to reference our sexual health.
It only increases shame and stifles needed conversations around common sexual health risks and means of protection.
You can't gender physical attributes. For every gendered rule written there's a ton of cis ppl who break it. So many cis women w/ natural facial hair, muscles, chiseled jaws etc. So many cis men w/ hairless faces, soft skin, wide hips. Humans are way more diverse than we pretend.
I repeat, I REPEAT, please do not give men at the gynecologist dirty looks. There are lots of men with vaginas and it's already hard enough getting there in the first place being riddled w/ anxiety & dysphoria. We don't need other clients & clinicians giving us a hard time, too.
More gynecologists & their staff need to be trained to understand transgender men exist. When a person that “doesn’t look like they belong at the gynecologist” shows up, it’s best NOT to make a spectacle about it.
I'm so sick of straight folks gaslighting the fuck out of queer people.
Y'all will literally spend years making LGBTQ folks the butt of your homophobic jokes, only to act like queer folks around you are being irrational for having fears around coming out. Insufferable.
Reminder that Jesus was an anti-capitalist person of color who was constantly calling out the bullshit and corruption in both the church and the government, and was eventually executed by Roman police who considered him an enemy of the state.
Happy Easter. Abolish the Police.
A Black trans man, Nino Fortson, was murdered yesterday. 😞
May his attacker be reduced to ashes. Rest In Power, my brother.
#BlackTransLivesMatter
✊🏾
#JusticeForNino
⚖️
Prisons are ineffective. Prisons don’t keep us safe. Prisons don’t lower crime. They create crime. The govt creates crime.
Imprisonment is torture, and we literally lock people in cages over the most petty shit, and the govt has convinced us that it’s reasonable, when it’s not.
Just a reminder that more than half of transgender men have attempted suicide. Too often we are left to suffer in silence, our plights unseen, with little concern shown for our mental, physical or emotional well being. Trans men are also in dire need of love & community support.
Today we honor Marsha P. Johnshon, a Black transgender woman & revolutionary LGBT rights activist, known as one of the instigators of The Stonewall Riots, which lead to the birth of our modern day Pride & LGBT rights movement.
You will never be forgotten.
#ThankYouMarsha
I saw a FB status last week that asked,
"So are you like cis4cis gay...or like...actually gay?"
and honestly that was the most quality post to come out of FB in quite some time
Transphobia and colonialism are tied. Many cultures across the world have recognized the fluidity of gender for centuries, and honored gender-variant people.
Trans people of color are suffering from the constraints of a binary gender system that was forced upon their ancestors.
Y'all let these staight men raw dog you after having sex with God knows how many women, even tho he couldn't tell you the last time he got tested, and you don't bat an eye, but you so worried about catching something from a bi/pan guy? Whew chilé...
Intersex children don't need to be fixed! We must stop looking at being born intersex as a disorder of sexual development, and understand that it is a natural sexual variance of the human experience.
Sex, gender, sexuality; none of it is black & white. We exist in multitudes.
Trans men can be gay.
Trans women can be lesbians.
Excluding trans men from gay spaces or trans women from lesbian spaces is transphobic af. There's no debate.
Straight women who date trans men are still straight.
Gay men who date trans men are still gay.
Lesbians who date trans women are still lesbians.
Straight men who date trans women are still straight.
No, it doesn’t matter if the trans person has had surgeries or not.
My heart aches waking up this morning to hear about the death of
#TonyMcDade
, a Black trans man, murdered by Tallahassee police in broad daylight.
In the midst of a global pandemic and the most concerning virus being spread is still white supremacy.
I am not "cis passing". I am cis-assumed. I do not look cis. I am not striving to look cis. My goal is to be comfortable in my body. I am trans and I look exactly like what a trans person looks like, and the assumptions people make about my body are just that, assumptions.
Hey there. Just here to combat the notion that men who are polyamorous just want to be able to be with multiple women, but don’t want their partners seeing other men.
I’m a polyamorous guy. I have one girlfriend. My girlfriend has 2 boyfriends. I don’t mind this at all.
Really tired of DL men threatening the lives of queer & trans folks because they're ashamed of living their truth.
Really fucking tired of cishets shaming other men for their attractions to trans women.
REALLY fucking tired of gay men throwing trans women under the bus.
It’s June 1st, Pride month is officially here.
This is your reminder that Pride started as a riot, fighting back against transphobic & homophobic police who were payed and ordered to harass, abuse & jail us for living our truth.
Cops marching at Pride dishonors Pride’s history.
Hear me out. It’s really not an absurd thing to literally just give everyone a home. There are more empty houses than homeless human beings. Everyone deserves a home.
I'm a queer trans man, and this week I walked in my first ever NYFW show for
@CHULOunderwear
.
I'm not tall, white or muscular, I don't have a six pack, & my scars are clearly visible, but my body is beautiful, and there are so many bodies out there like mine.
#TransIsBeautiful
No more using "cis-passing". I been switched up my language to "cis-assumed", to reflect the reality of the situation. B/C "passing" sounds like a bar that has been set, & cis ain't my bar. And you making the assumption that I'm cis doesn't negate my reality as a trans person.
There are many topics regarding trans folks you may be curious about, that doesn't mean it's appropriate to ask about. Ask yourself first:
“Do I need to know this information to treat them respectfully?”
“Would I be comfortable if this question was turned around and asked of me?”
Seeing men constantly trying to "turn out" masculine women they wouldn't typically consider "their type" as a way of proving how manly they are just makes me think about rape culture & how often rape is less about sexual gratification & more about feelings of power & dominance.
Hiring cis actors like
#ScarlettJohansson
to play trans roles when there are trans actors to tell our own stories is a slap in the face to the community you claim support.
I'm an actor & a trans man. Next ⏰you're casting trans guys, hire me instead! 📽️🎬
#SupportTransActors
Y'all make the concept of using they/them pronouns way more difficult than it is.
I hear folks use they/them/their in casual convo to refer to people who have he or she pronouns all the time, but soon as some actually ASKS for general neutral pronouns suddenly it's so unusual.
You don't have to hate your body to be transgender.
You don't have to make any changes to your body to be transgender. The only qualifier to be considered transgender is an understanding that your gender does not align with the gender that was assigned to you at birth. That's it.
Cis niggas like to make jokes about trans dudes detachable dicks, meanwhile y'all living with detached ass emotions. Can't last 15 minutes, can't talk about nobody's feelings, got ya women emotionally AND sexually unsatisfied.
My girl happy, worry bout ya self.
Leave intersex children alone.
There is nothing inherently wrong with intersex bodies.
Performing "corrective" surgeries on intersex children is inhumane. Intersex people alone should be making the decisions about what medical procedures they have, if they want them at all.
Support trans people, and not just the one's you find attractive or cis-passing.
You shouldn't have to be willing to fuck someone in order to be willing to defend their humanity.
I love women. I’ve always envisioned myself marrying a woman, but I would never again date a woman that felt uncomfortable or made me feel weird about me being a very loud, proud, openly queer man.
Trans women have fed me, clothed me, put money in my pockets, helped me get jobs, been there for me before during and after my surgery, educated me, been the biggest uplifters of my work and stay having my back when I’m harmed. If the girls don’t support you, maybe it’s YOU.
Fuck rainbow capitalism. These companies slapping rainbows on everything to get all the money out of the LGBT community they can during Pride month is not solidarity.
I'd like to see these corporations actually donate money to queer & trans folks, not sell me rainbow sprinkles.
Being gender non-conforming doesn't automatically make someone transgender. You can be GNC and trans or cis.
Ex: Trans men who like to wear make up & paint their nails might consider themselves GNC. Meanwhile cisgender lesbians who are studs are also GNC but not trans.
Trans people are not lucky that cis people want to sleep with us, date us, love up on us.
Trans people are sexy, smart, funny, talented, captivating, more than worthy and deserving of love.
No one should be making you feel like a charity case by dating you.
The appropriation of ballroom culture is at an all time high.
These are NOT the faces of ballroom and this is not who you should be learning about it from.
Shoutout to the trans folks who will be presenting as their true gender around family for the 1st time this holiday season.
I know how anxiety inducing it is, there'll be awkward moments, but you're setting a foundation for the rest of your years. I'm proud of you. You got this!
Capitalism is detrimental to society.
Widespread homelessness despite there being more empty houses than homeless people.
People starving while good food is thrown out everyday bc it wasn’t bought.
Folks dying cuz they can’t afford meds just sitting on shelves.
It’s evil.
Cis isn't a slur, it's an identifier.
Just like there are Black men, gay men, tall men, there are cis men. It's not something to be offended by.
If you're uncomfortable w/ cis as a label, it's probably bc you were exposed to it via complaints, but being cis ain't the problem.
Trans men don't need to perform masculinity to your liking for their gender to be valid.
Trans women don't need to perform femininity to your liking for their gender to be valid.
Non-binary folks don't need to perform androgyny to your expectations for their gender to be valid.
And not one white person harmed. This is exactly why I say y’all need to put your bodies on the front lines for Black folks. You’ll knock down barricades, throw shit, push & scream at cops outside the WHITEHOUSE & live to tell about it. Now stop bullshitting cuz y’all playing tbh
Yeah, fat people can be athletic and/or otherwise healthy. But way too many people give “I support/respect this fat person because they can also dance/powerlift/some other skill associated with health”, as if that’s the only reason they’re worthy of respect. We gotta do better.