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Storyteller. Father. Partner. Other things. We write about #MalePatternBrokenness and #TheEtiquetteofFallingApart . Follow @SwearingsCaring

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Okay, y'all. I think we're doing this. Chapter 1 of #TheEtiquetteofFallingApart is live on Al Gore's internet now. A new chapter will drop every Friday — today through August. If you'd like future chapters to show up in your inbox, please subscribe.

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The Etiquette of Falling Apart: Faith, Hope, Love & How I Lost Them

Chapter 1: Waking Up is Hard to Do

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What if James Dobson had just focused on his own family?

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Twitter is a lot of things, and sometimes it’s an unexpected dating app. Better still, it’s a way for two people in two different states — but with very familiar pasts, presents, and visions for the future — to meet, connect, and go for it. This is us, and I’m in love.

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what is y’all most liked tweet?

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@jelani9 “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”

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@SwearingsCaring Even in churches that don’t break out Gothard’s umbrella diagram, there’s still a correlation between “you need a savior” and “you need a husband.” That need to be needed is strong. When there’s no woman to rescue, no maiden to save, a lot of these guys don’t know what to do.

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Pro-tip: When you insist to the man working the front desk that you do, in fact, have a confirmation number, and you can’t imagine why he’s not able to pull you up in their system, make sure you’re at the right hotel.

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My brothers in Christ, if you give this card to the person you say you love, I hope they get everything in the divorce.

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If you were given a copy of Preparing for Adolescence in place of an actual conversation about sex and bodies, you’re in therapy now.

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@SwearingsCaring Exactly. But they’re still being told they’re conquerors. Meanwhile, they’re still making other people — frequently the women in their lives — responsible for their actions and emotions. We have to stop coddling emotionally immature men — for their sake too.

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@SwearingsCaring You’re right. And what these men don’t seem to understand is that, if they began doing their own emotional labor (the work of being a safe and healthy person), they’d grow into really good partners because they would’ve learned how to love, level with, and listen to themselves.

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Relatedly, I sometimes imagine a world where David Ramsey paid off his debts and kept it to himself.

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If a wife chooses to end her life in order to get away from her husband, that man shouldn’t be a dog catcher, much less a pastor.

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This isn’t the most problematic issue with @TGC and @butlerjosh ’s sex article, but it is worth noting: It’s a sales funnel. They want you to: 1. Read the free article 2. Buy the book (linked in the article) 3. Register for the online cohort (also linked) It’s all marketing.

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@TylerKrumland I think about something @ANNELAMOTT wrote nearly every day (and I look at it every time I sit down to write):

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Sheila’s telling the truth — and not only would these men be unable to hack it outside the bubble, their success within the bubble was largely built on the invisible labor of their wives — the ones who wrote/edited their sermons, taught them how to dress, raised their kids, etc.

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Sheila Gregoire--She Deserves Better is here!

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Could it be that many men who have risen to the top of evangelical institutions just wouldn't be that impressive anywhere else? A 🧵.

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One of the ways Josh Butler demonstrates his unhealthy boundaries is by doubling down. His rape apologetics got @TGC to turn off their Twitter comments and pull the article for a minute, but he’s back like the ex-boyfriend who can’t take no for an answer. Now it’s condoms.

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I was homeschooled in the 80s and 90s. Of course I made a video about it:

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Male pattern brokenness. Until incoming data helps me think differently, this is how I’m learning to process much (if not most) of the harm done in these United States. This is going to be a thread:

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If you prayed for the rapture to wait until you’d had your first kiss, you’re in therapy now.

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In August of last year, @DavidDark tweeted that “believing (and surrounding yourself with people who also believe) that your opinion on abortion means you're part of the team that loves and cares for babies everybody who isn't on the team hates and wants to kill is a heady drug.”

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@ChristnNitemare In fairness, sad, codependent God is one of the most popular versions.

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What a tiny God we serve. What a tiny God we serve. Other viewpoints scare us. “The Bible’s clear” declare us. What a tiny God we serve.

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A lot of men would rather become police officers and assault people exercising their rights to assemble and protest than go to therapy.

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Things got weird when I realized the people who told me I had to believe all of the Bible or none of it were, in fact, picking and choosing their way through it. So: pick and choose, y’all — but trust your instincts. As it turns out, the heart isn’t deceitful above all things.

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@JustAmyZing Jeremy’s spoken and he’s pissed at James Dobson too.

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Houses of worship, Virginia edition:

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I’m old enough to remember when she was married:

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Them: “There’s nothing creepy about Daddy/Daughter dances. Stop imagining things! Why do you always have to make it weird?” The Daddy/Daughter Dance:

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@KaitlinCurtice The Protestants I grew up with would joke about the Catholics and their excessive guilt. Because I grew up in the youth group scene of the 1990s, I now know that a shit ton of projecting was going on.

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@ShaneClaiborne Stunning for a man who, from childhood, was surrounded by neglect, abuse, cruelty, and death. It isn’t lost on me that, even at the very end, the state misspelled Carman’s first name on the paperwork. “Pro-life” is clever marketing, but it’s still a scam.

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Who is this sad God that needs to be invited into schools like a guest speaker? How incompetent is this God that they require permission from a school board or state government to act? Miss me with prayer in schools as the great solution to our problems.

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“Work on your tone” is the language of abusive men. Same as it ever was.

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@dianabutlerbass Rick Warren’s Purpose Driven Wife?

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Praying to a bush league God made in your own hateful image is a waste of time and words. From what I can tell, male pattern brokenness is the result of generations of unresolved trauma. Men who look like me are the inheritors of a dangerous legacy of white supremacy.

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@drewdyck Drew, a male-centered pleasure narrative that reduces the role of a wife to receiving cum and birthing babies isn’t “cringe.” It’s a marital rape handbook. Please find another way to stick up for your buddy. This one is gross.

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Which lives are sacred? Was my friend’s life sacred? Do the people in prison count? What about death row? Are their lives worth saving? And if the people who taught me about abortion were this wrong, what else were they wrong about? Spoiler: a lot of things, it turns out.

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If you were the person who always had an unspoken prayer request in youth group, you’re in therapy now.

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Why some people get divorced. A thread: (1/25)

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A woman’s right to choose what she does with her body is up to her — not me, the courts, pastors, or pundits. I’ve gotten this wrong in this past & I’m sorry. I have a daughter of my own now. She just turned 16 this week. I will support her right to choose for herself — always.

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Did your parents allow you to read The Cross and the Switchblade as a child or were you not raised by religious zealots?

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“You were too busy steering the conversation toward the Lord / to hear the voice of the Spirit begging you to shut the fuck up.” Do you hear it, Josh? I know you’ve deleted your Twitter account, but I hope you’re still on the line.

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Male pattern brokenness is: nearly every single mass shooter in U.S. history being a man. It’s a president suggesting that his VP be hanged for not overturning an election, and it’s that same VP suggesting that serving the president was the greatest honor of his life.

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When I was a kid, my mom always put the lights on our Christmas tree. We’d pick it out as a family. My siblings and I would decorate it. But she was in charge of the lights. It’s been 22 Christmases since she died, and I can’t put the lights on the tree without missing her.

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Identify & name your own male pattern brokenness. Deal with it in as healthy a way as you can. Stop taking it out on other people. If you were harmed, if you have been the victim of abuse, name it. Confront your abusers without violence. Do what you can to heal. Life is waiting.

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I think In & Of Itself healed something inside me. Thank you, @derek_del and @TheFrankOzJam . You made me a little more whole tonight. #InAndOfItself

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One thing that’s worse than a white, male pastor making up a story about being hit on in a restaurant is a white, male pastor blaming his wife’s miscarriage on her “sin.” Fuck those guys.

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Male pattern brokenness is on full display when the SBC covers up abuse, enables abuse to continue, and both dismisses and degrades its victims. It’s also the guys who think more guns, spanking their kids, something called “biblical counseling,” or banning books is the answer.

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@bexisdunne That’s beautiful. This is what older sisters are for.

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My love. What a gift she is.

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In my 43 years, no one has ever asked me if I was gay more fervently than this stranger on the internet. Not answering is giving me such joy:

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@JoLuehmann It’s telling that so many of these real-life responses, from people who self-describe as Christians, are the same defenses white people use when confronted with racism. Will we know them by their fruits or by their fragility?

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@SwearingsCaring There are a lot of guys who are so used to deference — to respect, even when it’s fake — that any push back feels like aggression. They can’t help telling on themselves.

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@SwearingsCaring This is #malepatternbrokenness in a nutshell. The lack of curiosity, the insistence that they’re the expert of everyone else’s experience, and the unwillingness to take responsibility for themselves…those aren’t bugs, they’re features.

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I always thought the expression “you’ve met your match” sounded a little combative. I hear it differently now. I met my match. I’m still meeting her, in fact. What goodness.

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@presbycollege @btsilcott @HowardU Friends at @presbycollege , as an alum, I’m asking you to do more than apologize and condemn. That’s easy. Figure out who (or which fraternity) was involved and expel them. What happened to the team from @HowardU is a violation of the PC Honor Code.

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@roseman419 @SwearingsCaring Ron’s projections betray him.

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I do think asking questions is helpful and free. One might be “why am I angry all the time?” Ask someone that cares about you, or ask yourself if no one’s speaking to you these days. Do the work. Do the fucking work. Recognize the pattern and work to change it.

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Last night, Jenny and I watched the sun set on the lake and y’all…the only thing prettier than the sky was her.

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Women suffer when their access to basic healthcare is stripped by men in suits and robes; when they aren’t believed about the abuse they’ve endured; when they’re told their God-ordained role is to submit to their (frequently abusive) husbands.

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Male pattern brokenness ruins lives — everyone’s lives. But miss me, please miss me, with this nonsense about how more guns or more cops will solve this. It isn’t true. That’s just an excuse not to do anything substantive. The same goes for God.

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Black people suffer every time they can’t go to the store for some Skittles, wear a hoodie, go for a run, get pulled over by police, walk down the street, go to a Bible study, or shop for their groceries without a man — some white guy with a gun — shooting them.

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“…but they all share a vision of sanctified aggression constantly reinforced through confusing the voice of God for the voice in their heads.” I’m grateful to ⁦ @kkdumez ⁩ for this book, and to ⁦ @DavidDark ⁩ for the review:

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This is not the truth. It will not set you free. Here’s how I know:

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To truly become Christians we must also repent of the reasons we ever did anything right because even those reasons are tainted. (Rom 3)

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Fifty Shades of Frank Peretti.

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i wish they’d stop, it creeps me out

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I was a 23 year old kid in a rented tuxedo. I didn’t know what the hell I was doing, but I hoped it would work. I never intended to get divorced and I didn’t want to when it happened, but I’m grateful I did. Getting divorced was one of the things that saved my life.

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Being filled with the Holy Ghost is great, but have you ever had your scissors slide through the wrapping paper without stopping?

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Male pattern brokenness put on khaki pants and picked up tiki torches in Charlottesville, Virginia in 2017. It’s on stage every time someone like Greg Locke blames witches or Satanists or Critical Race Theory for something they don’t like.

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Youth group culture trained a lot of us to love an experience. Give us our mountain top weekends, camps, mission trips, and beach retreats. Turn up the music. Cognitively disassociate. Manipulate our emotions. Call it a revival. Make t-shirts. Market. Build brand loyalty. Repeat.

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And when there’s no shooting, they suffer in fear that it might. Today might be the day. Native Americans suffer with near invisibility — poverty, job loss, and discrimination that U.S. politicians don’t even acknowledge unless they want to run a gas line through tribal lands.

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The LGBTQIA community suffers from bullying, intimidation, willful ignorance, and physical violence. Male pattern brokenness fears what it doesn’t understand and hates what doesn’t assimilate.

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Children suffer in active shooter drills; when they smear a classmate’s blood on their own face to play dead; when they realize male pattern brokenness actively hates them for being born something other than white, rich, and straight.

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Deciding when to say no isn’t easy for me, but I’m getting better at it. Here are some of my favorite ways: “You seem committed to misunderstanding me. I won’t answer that.” “No, I don’t owe you that.” “Nope. That’s not my responsibility.” “No thanks.” When you know, you no.

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Last night, a few hundred people followed me on something called TikTok dot com because I made a silly video about a unique thong in Goodwill. Today, I’m trying to see who all I can run off:

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@ThatEricAlper I heard @amandapalmer say this on the @richroll podcast once and it was so good that I wrote it down: “If you don’t deal with your grief and trauma, they go into the cellar of your soul and lift weights.”

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Your regular reminder that grief isn’t linear. It’s been exactly 23 years since my mom died and I miss her terribly.

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In the U.S. it begins with the theft of indigenous lands, slavery, torture, rape, and murder. If that’s too distant, consider lynching, Jim Crow, and the collective fight against the Civil Rights Movement. Still too distant? How about January 6, 2021?

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⁦ @JeffTweedy ⁩ is writing some really lovely words over at Starship Casual:

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I think I understand most of the reasons to be angry at this website these days. It’s changed a lot in the last year. But y’all…I found the love of my life here. At 42. I’ll always be thankful to Twitter for that. For her. For us. Jenny, can we do this again tomorrow?

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@emilykmay I appreciate Anne Lamott’s take: “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”

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Three brave Davids (⁦ @DaultRadio ⁩, ⁦ @DavidDark ⁩, and ⁦ @davidbazan ⁩) make me less afraid to tell the truth. I can’t say that I love it yet, but maybe one day. Thank you for going ahead of me. The path is clearer because of you.

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Patriarchy—and specifically my father, who was breathing the same SBC air that I grew up assuming was normal—taught me that fear was a greater motivator than love. At 44, I’m still unlearning that; still undoing the damage; still healing.

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I’ve talked a lot of about patriarchy hurts women but not much about how patriarchy hurts men. I don’t have the range to speak on this as I have not moved through the world as a man. I would love if some of the men could share how patriarchy’s hurt you? If you’re comfortable.

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People debating church abuse like they talk about cops is revealing. Just a few bad apples?

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@DeeGoingsGirl Absolutely. These “differences” are powerful stories. “They’re not like us, so…” lays the groundwork for abuse. It provides a cover. In this country, white men have spent centuries weaving that story into our culture. Naming it is where the unraveling starts.

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Show me a picture where you were completely happy and nothing else mattered but that moment.

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The common thread is us— white men; male pattern brokenness. And here is where I tell you I don’t know what the answer is for everyone. I know what I’m trying to work on. I’m learning that healing isn’t linear and that insurance doesn’t necessarily cover therapy. Pay up.

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And so I have a sense — a real uneasy sense — that male pattern brokenness is a widespread problem. More often than not, though, it’s white guys like me who are doing the damage, inflicting the harm, and leaving devastation in our wake. And who suffers? Everyone.

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@RemakingManhood That’s a lot of words for Tim to tell us he wants to date a child.

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A lot of guys trust other guys to tell them what women want more than they trust the women (who are actively telling them what they want) and it shows.

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Micah Carver

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My love language is putting Gary Chapman books in a roaring fire. What’s yours?

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Micah Carver

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1 year

Y’all want me to believe @philvischer never thought to have Bob and Larry sing “friends are friends forever, if the gourd’s the gourd of them?” Of course he did. He probably even had Mike Nawrocki sing it to him in Larry’s voice. I’ll bet they laughed until they wet their pants.

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Micah Carver

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1 year

Y’all wanna know what’s great? Holding Jenny’s hand. Like on a walk. Or in the grocery store. Or just sitting on the couch. When I’m not holding her hand, I wish I was. When I am, I’m thankful to be. It’s the best.

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Micah Carver

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1 year

30-and-up Twitter drop a photo of you with your age. I’m 43, y’all.

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Micah Carver

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7 months

Twitter is never not revealing. The amount of guys on this platform who conflate heterosexual intercourse with a woman’s pregnancy is wild.

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Micah Carver

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6 months

I remain conflicted about the years I spent volunteering in para-church organizations, but one of my Young Life guys from 18 years ago reached out tonight to tell me I taught him it was okay to listen to songs that said “fuck” and “shit,” so I’m putting that in the win column.

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Micah Carver

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2 years

And if not for your sake, for your kids, your neighbors, the people who work in the gas station, for the great-grandkids you may never know, for the school kids you’ll never meet, for the women still not born, for the spectrum of sexual expressions you may not ever understand.

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Micah Carver

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1 year

And just to be clear, I get it. I’ve doubled down. Hell, I’ve tripled down. The option to steamroll ahead is almost always available. It’s just not the only option. Another way is to be quiet. David Bazan implicated a bunch of us when he sang:

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Micah Carver

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2 years

“Caught up in authoritarian settings where a premium is placed on obeying men, women & children find themselves in situations ripe for abuse of power.” Please read this whole thread:

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Kristin Du Mez

2 years

I'm not an SBC insider by any stretch, but one of the first things I did when I started to write JESUS AND JOHN WAYNE was consult a lawyer because I knew sexual abuse and cover-ups needed to be part of the story. How did I know? Because I'd been listening to women. 1/14

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1 year

Font choice was rushed:

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Micah Carver

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1 year

Life isn’t always linear, but it is what’s happening. Right now. Today. This moment. It matters. Forgetting all of this, or never learning it to begin with, is at least one of the reasons some people get divorced. (25/25)

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