I am the father of a boy that was born in Japan, where I met his mother, Yuka Kutsukake. She was a beautiful and kind woman, but she left me for another man. She said I was too old for her, and she wanted a younger partner. She may have moved to the United States by now, and
I can barely write these words today.
It was on this date one year ago that I last laid eyes on my son or even heard his voice. He was four and he will soon turn six. I will almost certainly not be allowed to wish him a happy birthday, let alone celebrate with my son in person.
I have not seen my son, TJ, since the day his mother took him away from me. It has been 18 months of silence and pain. But I have never stopped caring for him or providing for him. Every month, I send child support, hoping that one day I will get to hold him in my arms again…
Will I ever see my son again before he is an adult with no memory of me?
Japanese Family Law has created a legion of parents like me, cut off from loved ones and denied any viable legal recourse.
#InternationalChildAbduction
#ParentalAlienation
A Japanese wife who took away her five-year-old daughter from her American husband without permission was arrested in the United States five years later. She faced a maximum of 25 years in prison, but returned the child to her husband in a plea bargain. In the world, "child
My son was two in this photo. He was a month shy of five when I last saw him.
If my son turns six in August before his mother Yuka Kutsukake grants me so much as a video chat with him, my legal right to see him will have been violated for an entire year of my young son's life.
It is now May 26 in Japan, where my son lives with his mother, who has permitted him no contact with his father for 300 days and counting.
After 300 days without seeing or hearing from me, does he miss me? Does he know how much I miss him? When will it end?
#ParentalAlienation
My Dear Child TJ,
You are always in my heart and in my mind. I have tried for years to be a part of your life, but sadly, we are facing a system that does not support our right to family. A system that allows parental alienation to happen, and does not promote shared parenting
I'm creating a digital legacy of love for TJ through social media posts.
My hope is that someday, when he searches his name, he'll discover the truth about his father's unwavering affection and constant thoughts of him.
This archive serves as a counter-narrative to any
716 days without my son TJ. The pain is unbearable. Yuka Kutsukake took him, and I'm left with nothing but an aching void. I wonder if he even remembers me now. Does he know how much I love him? Or am I just a fading memory? I don't know where he is or if he's safe. Each day, a
Ten months ago today was the last day I was allowed to hold my son in my arms.
How many more months will pass before I am permitted to see him again?
When does it end?
#ParentalAlienation
#ChildAbduction
My heart aches when I look at this picture; my son jumped into my arms just as he did when he was two 🥰🙏🇯🇵
I pray that Japan ends the shameful Sole Custody system that does not befit a nation that is otherwise one of the most advanced on Earth.
#ParentalAlienation
I don't even want to think about Friday June 30, as it will mark 11 months since I was allowed to see my son. The damage caused by this violation of my rights under U.S. law and of my son's rights is immeasurable.
My son's mother, Yuka Kutsukake, will not even acknowledge I am
This message is dedicated to you – the fathers who yearn to be an active part of their children’s lives but find yourselves unjustly separated by circumstances beyond your control. You are the dads who face the heart-wrenching reality of parental alienation, where despite your
Parental alienation severely impacts children's emotional and psychological well-being, damaging their ability to form healthy relationships and maintain connections with both parents. It can lead to anxiety, depression, trust issues, and distorted perceptions of reality. The
I honestly believe that if Yuka Kutsukake fully grasped the extent that I have been hurt by TJ's absence in my life, she would rethink the situation.
I have to believe that!
Once upon a time, I could not imagine the possibility that I would ever be kept apart from my precious son.
His mother loves him dearly. As do I. So can we just please share in raising him?
It's been a grueling 635 days since TJ last saw his dad. That's nearly two years without those irreplaceable moments between a father and son, all while $130,000 in child support has been paid.
Despite the hardship, there's a flicker of hope. 2,800 people follow our social
This coming Friday will mark 11 months since I was last permitted to see this face. My son's mother Yuka Kutsukake collects child support in Japan from me, her son's American father, yet refuses to allow me the most minimal visitation rights.
If the tables were turned, I would
Consider how you would feel if this was your son and you had been denied even the briefest of visits with him for over ten months. He will be six this summer and I will have never known my son at age five.
Can you imagine that feeling? Tragically, I am far from the only parent
Some days the pain of separation from my son feels unbearable.
But I have received many private messages of support here that have uplifted me and renewed my hope that I can persevere long enough to see my son again. Thank you to all these good people! 🙏🙏🙏
#JointCustody
On
#FathersDay2023
I would settle for a video chat with my son.
A brief phone call.
A postcard even.
I don't believe my son's mother can fathom how much damage she is doing by forbidding me from even minimal contact with my boy.
This is an article about Japan’s new joint custody law. It discusses the legal issues of parental alienation syndrome and international child custody agreements. In the past, one parent could deny the other parent access to their children after a divorce. The new law will allow
Japan to introduce joint custody system after divorce
A bill to amend the Civil Code and other laws to allow joint custody of children after divorce was passed by a majority vote in the House of Representatives on April 16th. The bill is expected to be enacted during the current
It's been 703 days since I last saw my boy, TJ. Almost two years without his smile, his laughter, his hugs. Every morning I wake up hoping it was just a nightmare, but the emptiness in our home reminds me it's real. I miss him more than words can say. Sometimes I catch myself
This is the mother of my son, Yuka Kutsukake, and her lovely mother. I don't know if Yuka's mother is aware that I have been denied any and all contact with her grandson TJ for almost a full year now, but if she ever sees this, I pray that she would intervene on my behalf and end
Children should never be weaponized in parental conflicts. They have the right to love and be loved by both parents without guilt or manipulation. Parents should prioritize their children's emotional well-being over personal grievances, fostering healthy relationships with both
It has been 573 painful days since Yuka Kutsugake denied me the chance to video chat with my son, TJ. I am deeply saddened by this situation. Can’t understand why I can't see him and missing out on precious moments with him causes me immense heartache. I hope Yuka will cooperate
I miss my son, TJ, so much. It’s been 500 days since I last saw his smile or heard his laughter, and my heart feels empty. Every day seems endless as I long for his warmth. I cherish the memories of our time together, but the distance is hard to bear. I can’t wait for the day
Time slips away, a harsh truth I’ve come to know intimately.
As a father separated from my son TJ for two long years, my heart aches with an overwhelming desire to witness his growth and be part of his life once more. Each passing day deepens my longing to see the young man he’s
Great news for DV victims in Japan! The government pledged to strengthen support today. Abduction and blocking parent-child contact can now be grounds for sole custody or relocation for the non-abusive parent. Local support programs will also be expanded.
#DV
#abduction
This was the moment when TJ saw his daddy after I finally secured a visa to visit (after six tries!) and I arrived at the home of his lovely grandparents in Kawanakajima, near Nagano 🇯🇵
Would TJ still greet me like this? What has Yuka Kutsukake told him about me over the past
Will TJ miss me on Sunday? Will he even think of me?
Over 300 days since he even heard my voice, and if my pleas remain unanswered, it will be an entire year next month that I have been forbidden all contact.
#FathersDay
#FathersDay2023
#ParentalRights
"Every year as many as 150,000 divorced parents in Japan lose contact with their children."
But if Joint Custody becomes the law in Japan next year, countless parents in this predicament will rejoice!
I share the truth; you share lies. That's how we both survive. You tell our TJ that I don't love him, that I abandoned him, that I'm the enemy. I tell TJ that I love him, that I miss him, that I'm always here for him. You try to erase me from his life; I try to keep a place in
This photo is from just over a year ago - I wonder what my son is having for breakfast today. I may never know the answer to a question that simple as I have been denied any and all contact with my precious son by Yuka Kutsukake for 345 days and counting.
If I could say
Once upon a time, I took my son to a beautiful beach in Naha. He waded into the ocean and played in the sand all afternoon. A perfect day in every respect.
Will I ever be allowed by my boy's mother to enjoy another day with my son before he is a man?
#ParentalRights
How can I watch this little boy jumping up and down in excited anticipation for his father's return and not yearn for a moment like that with my TJ?
If Yuka Kutsukake or
#USNavy
Specialist Andrew Tucker ever see this, how could they not imagine that TJ would greet me just like
My son was so happy on this day.
Is he feeling this happy today? I would give the world just to put a smile on his face, as I always did when I was given the chance.
But it's now been over 300 days since I was allowed to see that face.
#ParentalRights
#ParentalAlienation
Thrilled to hear you were allowed those three precious hours with your son. I am sure your bond with him is unshakable.
I would give the world for three hours with my son to renew my bond with my TJ 💔💔💔
This is my son during the Shichi-Go-San festival last year, one of many special occasions I have missed over the last year that I will never get back.
How many more chances to love and honor my boy will I miss?
#ParentalRights
#ParentalAlienation
Parental alienation is not a myth, but a harsh reality for many parents and children. It occurs when one parent manipulates the child to reject and fear the other parent, who loves them dearly and wants to be part of their lives. This parent is often falsely accused of being a
Every day without you is tough, TJ. I miss all the little things - hearing you laugh, talking with you, just having you around. It's hard not having you here. You're such a big part of my life, and things don't feel right when you're gone. I can't wait to see you again, to hear
Blessings to the thousands of fathers who have been unjustly denied their rights. Many face this hardship because of mothers who allow their bitterness to cloud their judgment, causing harm to both the fathers and their children. It is essential to recognize the struggles of
My friend Jeremy is enjoying
#FathersDay
with his daughter, though she lives separately with her mother. But Jeremy knows his daughter is safe and sees her regularly.
Why can't Yuka Kutsukake, the mother of my son, allow me a handful of visits each year with my son? She collects
It has been 960 days since Tj last saw his father. His dad longs to be a part of his life, offering a loving and stable environment where Tj can thrive.
Regrettably, Tj’s mother does not share this vision. While daddy once believed it was crucial for Tj to have his mother
In a few short days, an entire year of my son's life will have passed without a word exchanged between us.
Yuka Kutskukake and
#USNavy
Specialist Andrew Tucker have chosen to exploit Japan's broken Sole Custody system to remove me completely from my TJ's life, violating my rights
385 days have passed since I last heard his voice.
We laughed a LOT together 💔💔 and he will turn six in four days — does he still know that his dad loves him and thinks about him all the time? 💟💟🙏🏼🙏🏼
Ai Fukuhara took her son to Japan in 2022 and did not return him to his father. Chiang accused her of abduction, and a court ordered her to return their son. The dispute escalated into a high-profile case in Japan. Eventually, Fukuhara agreed to a settlement that returned custody
On
#FathersDay2023
I would settle for just watching my son's angelic face as he sleeps.
Instead I will be forced to remain thousands of miles apart from the person dearest to me in the world.
#ParentalRights
I believe the number of parents involuntarily absent from their children's lives, myself included, is woefully underestimated.
There are over a million in Japan alone.
It will soon be one full year in my son's life that I have been deprived of seeing his face or even hearing his voice.
What do Yuka Kutsukake and
#USNavy
Specialist Andrew Tucker tell TJ about me today? How can I be sure they are not filling his head with lies?
#ParentalRights
It's hard waking up every day to a world in which the mother of my son, Yuka Kutsukake, can keep my son hidden away from me for a year without any legal repercussions under the Sole Custody system in Japan. Until it is reformed, the Japanese system will continue ensuring systemic
My son loves creme brulee. You can see it on his face, sitting with his grandmother, a wonderful woman I'd love to meet again.
Next weekend on Father's Day, I won't see that excited face or even hear my son's voice. And there are countless fathers like me facing that awful
Alienation ruins love. It turns love into something that hurts the people it's supposed to help. The distance and disconnect between people destroys intimacy. Where there used to be warmth and understanding, there is now just an empty, cold void. Love's ability to heal and bring
Alienating a parent harms the child more than anyone else because it deprives them of a vital relationship, leading to emotional and psychological issues. The child may suffer from identity struggles, low self-esteem, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships, ultimately
My son turned six last week.
The last time I was permitted to see him or even hear his voice, TJ was four.
This past week was nothing but immense heartache, and there is no end in sight.
This photo may be the most mundane image in the world, me and my young son on a walk, but now that I am forbidden any contact with my boy whatsoever, it's a brutal reminder of what I am missing every day of my life.
#ParentalAlienation
#ChildAbduction
I have a dream. A very modest one.
I dream of handing my TJ a birthday gift on his 6th birthday in a few weeks, just to see his face light up again. I have not been permitted to see my son's face in over one full year, or even hear his voice.
I don't expect that Yuka Kutsukake
The tactics employed by alienators involve coercive measures such as forcing a child to reject the targeted parent, encouraging secrecy, and withholding crucial information. This manipulative behavior, akin to brainwashing, contributes to severe psychological damage in children.
I’m desperately searching for my son TJ, who is 6 years old. He is turning seven this year. I have posted flyers with his photo and contact information in various places, such as the grocery store, the library, and the park. Many people have shown their support and kindness by
I don't know what to do with myself this coming weekend as it will mark one entire year that Yuka Kutskukake and
#USNavy
Specialist Andrew Tucker have robbed me of my greatest joy in life. My son.
One year of child support paid without permitting so much as a word from my son,
Another milestone in my son's life that I missed - the Shichi-Go-San ritual when he was three.
Did he eat chitose ame? ("thousand year candy" in Japan given to children on this occasion) Did he miss me? Does he miss me now?
#ParentalRights
#ParentalAlienation
To all the fathers who find themselves separated from their beloved children,
How does it feel to endure the heart-wrenching distance from the ones you cherish most in this world? To be torn apart by circumstances beyond your control, or to be kept away by a vengeful mother or
Nine months ago today was the last day I was allowed any contact at all with this wonderful boy, my loving son, TJ. The pain this causes me is real and never-ending. No loving parent in the world deserves this!
#ParentalAlienation
This is Yuka Kutsukake, the mother of my son TJ. I believe she truly loves our son, and that she also cannot fathom how much harm she has caused my son and me by denying my right under U.S. law to see TJ for nearly an entire year of our lives.
I love my son more than anyone in
Parental alienation is a form of child abuse that leaves lasting scars.
As a father, I urge you to stop this harmful behavior. Children need the love and support of both parents. Denying that can lead to long-term damage. I ask that you avoid speaking negatively about me and
It is day four of my stay in Japan and I'm hoping to ask TJ's mother, Yuka Kutsukake, to allow me to see my son. I would be glad to meet her in public with her husband whenever and wherever she would like.
I love my son dearly. It's been almost a year! 💔💔💔
#ParentalRights
I’d love to put a picture of my son TJ, whom I love very much, on the child support check that I send to his mother every month. I miss him so much that it hurts, and I want to see his face when I write him the check. I just want him to be in my sight as much as possible.
The best gift you can give your child is the freedom to love both parents. Yet, in a world of broken homes and bitter divorces, this seems a fading dream. Children become collateral damage, their hearts torn between warring factions. The ideal of unconditional love for both
I wish my son's mother, Yuka Kutsukake, a very happy birthday today. 🎂
I also wish that she would respect U.S. laws that protect my right to see my son, as Japanese family law enables her to exclude me from his life completely. Next month will mark an entire year that he has
Are you a parent or grandparent who has been separated from your child or grandchild due to parental alienation? Do you want to share your story and raise awareness about this issue?
If so, you are invited to join the powerful short film project The Stranger I Love. All you
It is
#FathersDay
in Japan, but my son will not see or hear from his father.
Instead he will spend the day with the man who lives with the boy's mother,
#USNavy
Specialist Andrew Tucker. I would just like Mr. Tucker to know that I would never deny him the right to see his son if
Will TJ give his mother a birthday present like this on Friday?
I won't know, since I am forbidden to even hear my son's voice. The child support I have continued to provide to the mother of my son is not a gift, but an obligation that I honor. How can she knowingly ignore U.S.
This brand new website is dedicated to TJ Tomu Kutsukake, a boy who was separated from his American father by his Japanese mother and taken to Japan on July 30, 2022.
Since then, he has been denied any contact with his father, who loves him dearly and misses him terribly.
The aim
It is hard to understand what kind of person denies a young child access to a father who loves them and wants to be part of their life.
When there are so many children in the world who crave for their father's attention and affection, how can someone be so cruel and selfish to
Things that melt my heart
Are not just having ice cream with him,
But also the smile of my son
Who fills my life with joy and fun.
He is my precious angel
I miss him so much when we're apart
I wish I could hug him and never part.
Someday our paths will intertwine
Reuniting with
The road ahead is long and fraught with heartache. But for my son, I would walk through fire.
Two years lost. But I refuse to lose another day. TJ, wherever you are, know that daddy's coming. And this time, I won't stop fighting until you see me again.
#andrewjamestuckerUSN
I love my son TJ and I don’t want him to suffer from the harmful effects of parental alienation, which makes him reject me and believe lies about me because of his mother’s influence.
Here are how children with PA show negative feelings toward one parent.
They say bad things
TODAY MARKS 600 DAYS SINCE I LAST SAW TJ🙏🙏😭
For 600 days, each dawn has weighed heavily on my soul.
The specter of parental alienation, a heartless twist of fate, has carved a void deep within me. The tender warmth of TJ's final embrace now dwells only in the chambers of