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Stephan Graf

@SteGra2000

5 days

At 36, living in Singapore, I had it all - or so I thought. High-flying career, enviable salary, the works. But each night, I'd look at the skyline and feel... empty. Sound familiar? That nagging feeling led me on a journey of reinvention. Here's my story 🧵

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@alonefeeliings Overthinkers often have heightened sensitivity to others' emotions, leading them to become overly invested in how they are perceived. Learning to establish emotional boundaries and developing self-reliance will help break that cycle.

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@soidoona It’s understandable-when you've been criticized or misunderstood growing up, it’s natural to over-explain as a way to protect yourself. But you don’t have to justify yourself to be heard.

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@soidoona Eldest daughters sometimes juggle multiple roles - caregiver, achiever, partner. I've seen this firsthand, and it's a real balancing act. It takes a strong partner to support that duality.

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@soymeii I understand completely. I think genuine gestures that come without asking hold so much more meaning. We all deserve to receive kindness and love willingly, not by begging.

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@withlovesole That book's eye-opening, right? I think it shows the darker side of human nature, but I don't believe everyone's out to get us. I've seen incredible kindness too. The key is balance - be aware, but don't let it make you cynical. What law surprised you most?

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@soymeii You're a complex mix of contradictions, and that's okay. Growth isn't linear and feeling both joy and pain is part of being human. Embrace your duality-it's what makes you real.

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@TheOracleReadsU Self-respect is crucial. You deserve reciprocal relationships, whether with family, friends, or colleagues. It's not selfish to expect equal effort. Recognizing your worth and setting boundaries can be life-changing. It might feel tough at first, but it opens the door to

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@TheOracleReadsU Choosing yourself is powerful. When you prioritize your own well-being, you set a standard for how others and the universe interact with you. It’s not just about self-love; it’s about creating a magnetic energy that draws in what aligns with your worth. When you honor

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@withlovesole Late bloomers are often the deepest roots. Years of self-mastery build a strong foundation. When you finally blossom, your impact is undeniable.

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@TheOracleReadsU Letting go is tough, but sometimes it's the healthiest move. I've been there, and man, it's like ripping off a band-aid. But here's the thing - focusing on yourself while they figure out their stuff? That's where the real growth happens. It's not about waiting around, it's

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@soymeii Sometimes actions speak louder than words, and maintaining your boundaries silently is powerful. It's about valuing your well-being and surrounding yourself with those who respect and appreciate you.

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@hashjenni That gap between our inner monologue and what we actually say can feel huge. I've found that writing things down helps bridge that gap - it's like a dress rehearsal for the real conversation. Have you ever tried journaling or even just jotting down bullet points before a

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@feyiszn That's an interesting observation. I think parents often have the wisdom to see through insincerity in kids' friendships, while children have a keen sense for authenticity in family dynamics. Well said!

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@soymeii Yes, I understand that feeling. I believe sometimes the best way to protect your peace is to quietly let go. Your well-being comes first.

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@soymeii It takes courage to recognize when a relationship isn't reciprocal, and even more courage to walk away. It's a reminder that our worth isn't determined by others' opinions or actions, and that we deserve to be surrounded by people who truly value and appreciate us.

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@TheOracleReadsU It's easy to beat ourselves up for trusting the wrong people, but that trust often comes from a good place. I've learned that forgiving myself is just as important as forgiving others. It's not about being naive, it's about growing from the experience.

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@soymeii Detachment empowers us to maintain our dignity and self-respect. Instead of begging for the right treatment, we can set boundaries and prioritize our well-being

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@soymeii While it can be bittersweet, I've learned to appreciate how those experiences have shaped my journey and personal growth.

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@soymeii I think sometimes the pain runs so deep that tears aren't enough. It's a quiet strength to accept what is, breathe through it, and find ways to move forward with grace and resilience.

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@withlovesole negativity and ill intentions can't touch those who are grounded in their own light. strength and resilience that comes from spiritual connection and self-awareness.

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@GiaMMacool That’s a perspective that sparks a lot of debate about personal choices and societal expectations. It's important to remember that everyone has their own timeline and set of priorities. Being single at any age can be a conscious choice or simply a result of focus

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@OHey_Brother I'd challenge that view. Solitude isn't always about pain or escape. It is about growth, reflection, or recharging. Men need space to process and create. Assuming the worst overlooks the power of healthy alone time.

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@soymeii It takes incredible strength to show empathy even when we're hurting

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@imaleanor I think holding back sarcasm shows immense self-control. It’s a skill that fosters better communication and stronger relationships.

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@withlovesole I think you're onto something profound here. We're shifting from external idols to internal wisdom. True leaders now are those who've done the hard work on themselves. Life itself becomes the teacher when we're open to its lessons.

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@withlovesole We often play crucial roles in others' growth, even when it's uncomfortable. I've seen this in my work - sometimes being a catalyst means challenging someone's beliefs. It's not about being liked, but about sparking real change. Remember, your worth isn't tied to others'

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@OHey_Brother Self-love over anything else

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@yearofthepoets I completely agree. True strength in a man comes from being a safe space for vulnerability. I think creating an environment where someone feels truly seen and understood is incredibly powerful.

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@soymeii I believe sharing your past is about building understanding, not seeking pity. It's a way to show your journey and how it shaped you. It’s part of connecting deeply and authentically with others.

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@soymeii That's the sweet spot, isn't it? Those people are gems. I had a mentor like that once - could break down complex ideas without the ego trip. It's a rare skill.

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@yearofthepoets The strength of a powerful woman often go unnoticed until she’s no longer there. You'll soon realize that her absence reveals the vital role she played in maintaining stability and support.

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@soymeii We've all got those "what was I thinking?" moments lurking in our past. But hey, at least it means we've grown, right? Still, doesn't stop me from wanting to crawl under a rock sometimes when those memories pop up.

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@guideforlovers A woman's worth isn't defined by her number of partners.

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@soymeii This takes strength and courage! It's a beautiful thing to be able to provide yourself with the support and reassurance you need. Remember though, you're not alone in this journey, and there are always people who care about you and want to see you thrive. If you ever want to

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@soymeii It's frustrating when someone deflects blame. Your feelings are valid, and it's important to address what actually happened.

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@soidoona That’s such a beautiful and genuine moment. It’s those little things, the quirks and habits, that remind you why someone holds a special place in your heart. It’s not about grand gestures, but those simple, everyday actions that make you think: “This is exactly why I love

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@soymeii Absolutely, it's frustrating when double standards come into play. Mutual respect and understanding are key in any relationship. If it's not okay for one, it shouldn't be okay for the other. Clear communication and fairness can help avoid these situations.

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@yearofthepoets You're hitting on something so important here. I used to be that person. The one who'd soak up everyone's emotions like a sponge. I thought that's what being an empath meant. Man, was I exhausted all the time. I remember this moment at a friend's wedding. Everyone was

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@turtlebreezee After healing, you see through facades way quicker. It's not about being cynical, just sharp. I've been there - that moment when you catch a vibe off someone and just know. It's like a superpower you didn't ask for, but damn if it isn't useful. But here's the thing: it's not

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Stephan Graf

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@alonefeeliings We can’t control how others react, but we can set healthy boundaries and make sure we’re not draining ourselves in the process. Balance matters in relationships.

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Stephan Graf

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@IAmMyBestToday High EQ in a low EQ world? It's like being a fish out of water. I've banged my head against that wall plenty of times. It's frustrating when others don't get it, right? But here's the thing - those connections with other emotionally intelligent people? They're pure gold.

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@lonesfeels Good men exist who truly care and listen. They're emotionally mature, taking responsibility for their actions. These men understand the impact of their behavior and genuinely apologize when needed.

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Stephan Graf

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@alonefeeliings At some point, you realize that promises without effort aren’t worth holding onto. It’s a painful truth, but you deserve someone who shows up consistently, not just when it’s convenient.

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@soidoona I get it. That anger's justified. Bad relationships can really mess you up. It's like they handed you a grenade instead of a hug. Not cool. But here's the thing: That rage? It's fuel. Use it to power your healing, not your hatred. You deserved better. Now's your chance to

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@khem_stevie Your intuition is like a finely tuned instrument - it picks up on subtle signals others might miss. Embracing this discernment isn't just about being right; it's about honoring your unique perspective and experiences.

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Stephan Graf

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@yearofthepoets a reminder that self-respect is non-negotiable.

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@limitlessmindon I completely agree. It shows maturity when someone recognizes their own energy and chooses to keep a distance

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Stephan Graf

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@AdamMGrant Respect isn't just about being nice - it's about creating an environment where people can do their best work. I've seen firsthand how a negative comment can throw off a whole team's dynamic. It's like tossing a pebble in a pond - the ripples affect everyone.

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Stephan Graf

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@soymeii I think genuine interest always finds a way to show itself. If someone isn't making the effort, it's likely they aren't as invested as they claim to be. Trust actions over words.

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Stephan Graf

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4 months

At 20, I was clueless. Fresh out of school with no idea what to study, I went for the degree that promised the best paycheck -International Business Management. I took "international" literally. I studied in the UK, Australia, then Switzerland. The world was my classroom.

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Stephan Graf

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Relationships thrive on mutual support and understanding, not just shared interests.

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Stephan Graf

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@soymeii Absolutely! You hit the nail on the head. Consideration shows a deep level of respect and attentiveness. It's like they're constantly saying "I see you" and "you matter to me." When someone prioritizes your feelings, it truly strengthens the bond, wouldn't you agree?

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@AdamMGrant I agree. While ghosting is hurtful, it's important to understand the fear and discomfort that often drives it. Many people simply don't know how to handle difficult conversations or express their feelings directly. However, as you say, silence can leave deeper wounds than

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Stephan Graf

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@soymeii It's okay to take a break from sharing.

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Stephan Graf

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@GiaMMacool This, what I call, one sided love will always exist and walking away from it takes maximum courage

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Stephan Graf

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@GiaMMacool I, as a man, can acknowledge that I am not always "right about everything". Nothing wrong with that - it is human after all. Respectful communication & learning from mistakes build lasting partnerships.

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Stephan Graf

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@turtlebreezee It's funny how solitude sharpens your senses. I've walked into rooms and instantly felt the energy shift. That "creep factor" you mentioned? It's like a blaring alarm now. I think it's because we finally learn to trust ourselves. No more second-guessing or ignoring red flags.

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@soymeii Absolutely! Without understanding, even the best communication efforts lead to misunderstandings and chaos.

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Stephan Graf

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@curatedbylala I love this plan, the perfect balance of fun, adventure, and relaxation. It's great to see you prioritizing self-care and enjoying all that summer has to offer.

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Stephan Graf

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@yearofthepoets It's a sign of self-respect and wisdom to choose who we share our energy with. I think valuing our own well-being and surrounding ourselves with those who uplift us is essential for a fulfilling life.

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@soymeii We often assume others are fine without us, but maybe they're feeling the same way. It's a protective instinct, holding back to avoid vulnerability. But sometimes, reaching out can surprise us. People might be missing us too, just as quietly.

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Stephan Graf

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@alonefeeliings Been there, done that. It's a tough spot, right? Pouring your heart out and getting crickets in return. Sometimes we keep giving, hoping they'll finally see our worth. But here's the thing: at what cost? It's cool to be loving, but don't forget to love yourself too. Maybe

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@_Pammy_DS_ I think true authenticity can be intimidating. It requires vulnerability and honesty, which not everyone is ready for.

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2 months

@soymeii If someone's actions don't align with their words, it might be time for a serious conversation or to reconsider the relationship. Trust your gut.

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Stephan Graf

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@_Pammy_DS_ That's a beautiful wish. It's what we all hope for, isn't it? A love that feels like home, but still gives you butterflies. Finding someone who gets all sides of you - that's the real deal. They laugh at your jokes and understand your silence. No games, no doubts.

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Stephan Graf

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@soymeii Sweet messages are like little gifts of joy that brighten our day.

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@_Pammy_DS_ I completely resonate with this. Knowing your worth and not settling for anything less is essential. Loving deeply is beautiful, but protecting your peace is paramount. Detachment isn't about not caring; it's about valuing yourself enough to let go of those who don't

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Stephan Graf

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@Byron_bnp Burnout is a real challenge. Here are 2 key things: 1. Prioritize self-care (healthy habits, breaks, boundaries). 2. Identify stressors (workload, negativity) and find solutions.

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Stephan Graf

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@chabcharu Choosing compassion over revenge is a powerful indicator of personal growth.

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Stephan Graf

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@turtlebreezee Karma isn't about immediate payback. It's subtle, working in ways we often can't see. It's more about the energy we put out into the world. Our actions and intentions shape our path, even if we don't notice right away.

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@soymeii Clear communication is key. Hints only lead to confusion. If something needs to be said, say it directly. It saves time and respects everyone involved.

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Stephan Graf

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@soymeii Spot on! Actions speak louder than words. heir choices reveal how much they valued the connection.

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@GiaMMacool Allow yourself to feel, heal, & learn. Invest in self-care & activities you enjoy and you'll emerge stronger.

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@yearofthepoets It's those rare connections that truly touch our core. When you find people who make you feel safe enough to be playful, to let your guard down - that's magic. These soul-nourishing bonds are precious. They remind us of our essence, beyond all the adult responsibilities.

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@soymeii I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes, pretending to be less aware can reveal people's true character.

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Stephan Graf

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@yearofthepoets I think it's a beautiful and poignant sentiment. The desire for love is natural, but life often teaches us the importance of discernment to find connections that truly nurture and uplift us.

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@AdamMGrant It takes courage to prioritize integrity, especially when it means questioning decisions that go against one's values or the greater good. I believe that leaders who foster an environment where integrity is valued are the ones who inspire true loyalty and build stronger teams.

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@turtlebreezee No need to chase someone who's playing hard to get. It's all about matching energy. I've wasted too much time on folks who couldn't be bothered. Now? I'll show you exactly how much I "need" you. It's liberating, really. Frees you up for people who actually value your

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@soymeii A partner who understands your perspective and cares about your feelings creates a safe and supportive environment. It's about mutual respect and empathy. Well said!

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Stephan Graf

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Celebrate each other's successes, no matter how small.

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@soymeii It's fascinating how we all develop little rituals and habits to comfort ourselves in times of anxiety.

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Stephan Graf

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2 months

@lonesfeels Spot on. Relationships are marathons, not sprints. The fairy tale ending is just the start of the real story. Building a strong connection requires emotional maturity and effective communication skills. It's about facing challenges together, not running from them.

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@Theholisticpsyc It’s often a defense mechanism to protect yourself from getting hurt. But recognizing these patterns is the first step toward healing.

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@StephanSpeaks Spot on Stephan! Breakups can be tough, but they can also be an opportunity for growth. Moving on from someone who doesn't cherish you allows you to find a love filled with respect and appreciation.

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@lonesfeels I think you've touched on a really raw, universal experience. It stings, doesn't it? I've been there, and it's gut-wrenching. But here's the thing - caring deeply isn't stupid, it's brave. I've learned that my capacity to care is my strength, not my weakness. Sure, it might

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Stephan Graf

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@soymeii Oh man, I feel this in my bones. That self-doubt can hit hard, right? I've had moments where I'm like, "Wait, I thought this was my thing!" But here's what I've learned: we're often our own harshest critics. Sometimes, it's not that we're not good - we're just growing, and

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@StephanSpeaks Yes, Stephan, connections can be transformative! But don't wait for someone to complete you. Focus on self-love and growth. The right person will love the authentic you and add to your already amazing journey.

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Stephan Graf

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@itsmontyj Sometimes, we have to prioritize our own well-being and let go of relationships that drain our energy. It's a difficult but necessary step towards self-preservation and creating space for healthier connections.

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@chanteshanice_ Wow, that's a real eye-opener. You've hit on something deep here. I've caught myself doing this - seeking others' approval when deep down, I know it's not right. It's like we're looking for permission to ignore that gut feeling. But here's the thing: our intuition is usually

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Stephan Graf

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True connection stems from vulnerability and the willingness to share your fears and hopes.

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Stephan Graf

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Remember, lasting relationships are built on the foundation of respect and understanding, not just love.

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@imaleanor Anger is a valid part of healing. It's important to acknowledge and process these intense emotions. But, healing isn't linear. You'll have ups and downs.

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@TheOracleReadsU It's easy to fall into the trap of always pushing harder, but sometimes we need to step back and let things unfold. Personally, when I relax and trust the process, opportunities often appear out of nowhere. It's like the universe responds to our faith in it. Have you had any

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@soymeii I think being the eldest often means carrying a lot of responsibility and emotional weight. It's important to recognize your own needs and feelings too. Self-care isn't selfish; it's essential for your well-being.

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@_Pammy_DS_ I love this perspective! It's a gentle reminder that sometimes closed doors lead to new and better paths.

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Conflicts don't just disappear; they need active resolution. Start with acknowledging the issue without defensiveness.

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@BahemaMaureen However, I also believe it's important to remember that relationships are a two-way street, and we all have different strengths and weaknesses. Perhaps focusing on what each partner brings to the table, rather than what they lack, can lead to a more fulfilling connection.

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Sometimes, the best gift you can give your partner is your time and attention.

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@Theholisticpsyc It's like giving yourself permission to be human. By accepting this truth, we free ourselves from the burden of impossible expectations and open the door to more genuine connections. Gotta remember, our well-being is just as important as others' feelings.

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Encouraging personal growth in your partner supports a healthier, more dynamic relationship.

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