@cbucksrules
I’m an old straight woman, my understanding of the world/times has gone to pot
I’m attracted to men, lesbians are attracted to women; we have an affinity because we are women, we can have a relationship based on friendship But lesbians are not attracted to men is my understanding
When I moved one of my hopes was that I would be able to have breakfast on the patio
I’d stopped sitting in the garden at my old house
Well this morning 😊
(It’s only weetabix & banana & coffee but it’s a feast to me)
I now have wine, I’ll be in bed myself shortly, was a little worried about having the grandchildren most of the day & overnight as I’ve not done it alone before, grandad was always around to help out (even cooking tea or playing with them)
But I’ve coped & managed - today was ok
Sat in the garden centre cafe with a quick coffee
Looking around all the customers are pensioners
Two are old fellas, alone & having lunch & reading the paper/book
A old lady on her own having lunch
Is this what life becomes, sitting alone in a cafe (I’m including myself here)
I very occasionally feel a bit sorry for myself, I’m now a widow & my life has changed
But
People on here uplift me, then I read posts from people who have lost a child, fighting terrible diseases & health issues, people caring for family members & working so hard
I am lucky 😊
@texastrilogy12
Twitter has given people like yourself the ability to post anything regardless of how cruel, evil or wrong it may be without being called out. I do wish legal action be taken by those on the receiving end of your comments
I’ll report your post in the meantime to Twitter
There are so many women on this site who like me are widows or have lost their partners. Each an every one has their own story to tell, each and every one has dealt with bereavement & grief differently and with grace. I admire all of them they are truly inspirational people
Thanks to all who gave me the boost needed to meet my new friend for coffee
We had 2 cups and chatted for 2 hrs nearly - she seems nice and easy to talk with
We will meet again
😊😊😊
@OliLondonTV
I presume when garments are designed for women that the “fit model” is a woman to accommodate a woman’s shape, breasts, waist, hips & thighs so why chose a man to advertise these clothes, a man identifying as a woman but with a man’s shape
A massive, massive error made
Today I’m meeting a lady for coffee
I met her while I was walking Rosie
I’m nervous
I’m great at meeting strangers and having a chat ……but I’m not so good at making friends
Anyone else the same
@jennyeclair
I go through periods of acceptance and then despondency and then utter rage. We’re all aiming for ‘normality’ but everything we try and do is nothing like normal. I’m fed up of abiding by rules when others flout them. I want my old life back NOW!
I’ve done it - will ask son to tighten it properly
It has cushions for the seats but as it looks like rain ☔️ I’ve not put them out
ps: ignore the garden, I need to get someone in to re-turf it
I’m “finding” clothes that I’ve not worn for years since losing a bit of weight
This morning I tried on a red dress that I bought for a Christmas many moons ago. I never wore it as it was a tad tight; this morning it fits
So glad I didn’t donate everything to the charity shop
Weigh in and I’ve lost 1.5lbs & I’ve eaten loads this week 🤷♀️ incl fish & chips
So I’ve lost 1st 0.5lbs since I started but I’m 2st 4lbs lighter since this picture was taken in 2021
@karenfthompson
Absolutely everything was unplugged, mirrors covered and we had to stay away from windows
Even when no storm everything was “switched off” at the wall before going to bed - TV, lamps, microwave, cooker etc 🤷♀️
Pottering outside today I made sure I had my house keys in my pocket just in case I got locked out and my phone in the other pocket in case I tripped or had an accident
This is what getting older does to you 😥
I’ve had breakfast in the garden - admittedly it would have been better had it been on the terrace of a 5* hotel served by a charming waiter but weetabix &banana with a cuppa in my own garden will do🤪
A big thank you to all who have followed my journey in selling up and moving to pastures new
I apologise for ranting and moaning over the last 7 or 8 months or so but am grateful for all the support given and good advice.
A new chapter begins this autumn
Thanks again 🙂
@RoyalCentral
These simple acts will have an effect on the family
On the way to the funeral of my husband there were road works, the workmen altered the stop/go signs for us to pass through and every one of them stood and bowed their heads as we passed-they didn’t know us
It was touching
It’s Palm Sunday
Who when younger would have come home from Sunday School with a Palm Cross. Ours was put behind the mirror/picture replacing the previous years cross
Just remembering 😊😊😊
Mowing the patch this morning once I’ve tidied up
Needs to be done today as it’s grown so much
Ready for a moan - I’m fed up of having to do everything, being responsible for everything, it’s overwhelming. I miss being able to share the load
I’ve signed up to a slimming group - yes I know people have view & criticise but I know it has worked for me in the past
I’m a fat old woman who needs the support of a group & accountability
I know exactly what I should be eating and what I should be doing - I just need help
I’m at a garden centre
Just realised I’m sitting at the same table where just over a year ago I was waiting to hear if the offer I’d made on my bungalow was being accepted
What a year it’s been
I celebrate moving into my bungalows in September
Fruit & veg isn’t lasting. Yesterday I threw away raspberries, an unopened pack, whole lot were mouldy. Today I’ve thrown out little gem lettuce, again an unopened pack. The tomatoes & peppers were past their best but used them
I hate waste - these were from either Lidl or Aldi
Back from seated yoga
I’m probably, at 70, the youngest there
That being so why do instructors feel it’s appropriate to play music from the war years- Glen Miller today
My youth was the Beatles, Stones, Kinks, etc etc and 80yo listened to rock & roll
Random things
I was sat on the bed, the cupboard door was open & I spied a Joules padded coat, label still on that I’ve not worn; it must be 4 or 5 years old, never worn because it was too small, I was ambitious 🤪
Tried it on, it fits 🤪
Only I’m not sure I like it anymore
@MartinSLewis
A staycation means that you’re not having a proper holiday this year, instead you’re having the two weeks off work but staying at home, doing jobs and perhaps having a couple of day trips out.
Having a week or two in a hotel/caravan/cottage/camping in the Uk - is a HOLIDAY
@KieranMcGuire
A small northern supermarket chain - Booths - is showing you big guys how it’s done. They no longer have self check out, they’ve been abandoned. Booths listen to their customers
I’ve bought a chicken to roast for dinner (yes I know even a small one is too big for 1 person) I’ve jersey royals and veg - tasty 😋
The chicken will do me and Rosie a couple of days at least
🙂🙂🙂🙂
Well everything went well yesterday- completion happened about 3pm
Drive down rain was biblical
Didn’t go to bungalow yesterday as it was late, dark and very very wet
BUT IM OFF THERE VERY SHORTLY
My weekend visitors - my middle son, his partner & her son - have left for home
Will put the house back to rights over the next few days
First load of towels in the washing machine, I’ll do the bedding tomorrow
Was nice to see them, son might visit again in October
My visitors have gone home now, kids looked tired - stuffed after an enormous dinner and an early start to the day
Enough leftovers for the next couple of days
I’ve had some lovely gifts
My first Christmas in my new home was successful I think
Isn’t it strange what pops up in your mind; this morning I thought of phoning my mum
For many years I phoned my mum on a Sunday at 11am and we’d have a long chat (at the end calls were shorter as she was deaf)
Mum & dad died a few years ago - I still miss those calls
Last weekend I got food in for the grandchildren - there was a choice of chicken nuggets or fish fingers (M&S ) they chose chicken nuggets ……… so for my tea I’m having fish finger sandwiches 😋😋😋
Food of the Gods
Watching the coronation & just wondering if all those in the congregation only had half a cup of tea before they left home and ‘went’ as they left the house and ‘went’ again at the Abbey and are hoping they won’t need ‘to go’ again in the next few hours
#bladdersrule
And today more sad news, another death
This and other passings make me think of my own mortality, Robyn was only 44, Steve Wright was the same age as me. I now particularly look at ages
I’m 70, my husband passed at 71
How long have I got left 🤷♀️
It’s a very odd feeling
Since losing some weight I’m managing to get into clothes that I’ve not worn for years - at least 5yrs - some never worn. Today tried on 2 dresses both were too big; then remembered the Laura Ashley skirts I’d found in the wardrobe, still with labels on, they fit beautifully
@Elizabe13014545
I took early retirement/ redundancy together with a lot of my colleagues. Three of those colleagues didn’t get to 60/65. A friends husband died before he was 60. My husband died at 71
It’s a myth that we are all living to a ripe old age
I’ve done it I’ve ordered furniture. A blanket box and a small sideboard/cupboard and I’ve ordered a small side table/cupboard for the kitchen that will match my dining table and sideboard that are in the kitchen
Taking a deep breath - phew 😥
Getting there 😊
@IvanMoore1
I wonder if you - and all other posters - would be so brave as to say these things face to face with those people you are defaming
Also have you ever thought your words could result in legal action, could you prove your “suspicions” in a court of law
This is my 3rd weekend in my bungalow. I’m getting there still lots to unpack & in the future there’ll be work and decorating to do.
I won’t say it feels like home yet but it’s an odd feeling, perhaps because it’s still unfamiliar
I am happy though
I’m shattered
Went to pottery class then called in at Tesco for supplies for me & Rosie & some petrol (poor dog had run out of treats) then home to put said shopping away …& I’m knackered 😳😳
What happened to the days where I’d clean the house from top to bottom & shop & work
Sleepover
Grandchildren in bed - for the past hour grandson has been up a dozen times - every excuse under the sun why he can’t sleep, he’s even turned my tv off as it was keeping him awake
Fortunately he’s not confiscated my G&T 🤣
Today met 2 lovely ladies. 1st as I was sitting taking in the view and we exchanged tel numbers; 2nd joined me at my table in the cafe & we chatted for over half an hour
Does anyone else meet & chat with strangers (should I be wary 🤷♀️) - I seem to attract people who tell me all
Just posting this as I probably won't make it to midnight (hopefully tucked up in bed by 10.30)
As we approach the new year I wish you all everything that you would wish for yourselves. May you enjoy good health & happiness & the future be bright & filled with joy
Happy 2024🥂🥳
A good week for Weightwatchers- I’ve lost 2.5lbs this week = 1st 5lbs since April (it’s slow and steady)
Aiming to lose another 9lbs by Christmas, I think that’s doable
Sold furniture that’s in little bedroom (collected today)
Ordered a small sideboard for the kitchen & a stool/bench for the bottom of my bed so I can do my hair/makeup
Will order a blanket box & cupboard for bedroom & move furniture
Gradually getting the bungalow how I want it
Well what an eventful few days
I drove down to the south coast without an overnight stop
I drove through the new forest in the dark after visiting family
I’ve just got home after a 6hrs driving back
And I appear to have made an offer on a bungalow which has been accepted
My tea of steak, salad & air fried new potatoes was delicious. I cut the steak in half and have frozen a portion ready for another day
The steak was well worth it, melt in the mouth 😋
@SoVeryBritish
I had to tell my mum that dad had passed and her response was “well that’s set me right back”
They were both in different hospitals at the time
@HandbookWidows
It’s neatly 3 years - I can’t believe it
Touch starvation and anger and having someone to do nothing with. That the raw feelings of the early days change. Having no-one to chew things over with and being responsible for everything.
My garden looks dull and boring so I bought some fence decorations & twinkly lights
But I didn’t have a hammer & nails
So now I’m the proud owner of s tool kit (& some nails)
That’s this afternoon’s job
Today I sorted out my lotions & potions drawer & my jewellery drawer
For the past 2 & half years I’ve just washed & applied a bit of moisturiser & worn the same necklaces & earrings
I used to have pamper sessions & wear different jewellery to match my outfits - I’ll start again
What a night - I’m going to need a nap later on
Grandchildren on sleepover, grandson fell out of bed at 2am, took a while to calm him, put him in his sisters bed, she was reading to him to get him to sleep, slept 🤷♀️& were up at 5am, said could play in room quietly - up since 6.30
@Az79923807
Crickey - any mum of a 4 year old has occasionally had to deal with tantrums or poor behaviour. They are particularly good at making a show of you in public - they excel at it
@JonjayNeedham1
Glad you’re here to actually post. A few people I follow are having tough times for various reasons, I don’t always comment as I don’t know what to say, so sometimes I use the like button although I hate the term - perhaps we could call it the support button
Sleepover going well so far, we’ve had lunch, done some clay crafting. Thank goodness for a cardboard box which has provided hours of fun
Having a breather before our tea of sausage, chips and beans with raspberry ripple ice cream (with chocolate sauce) for afters
I had a revelation
Saw a post where they’d moved before the death of their partner &were glad they did
I realised that I was glad I moved after; not a fresh start but a different beginning. This is my home, mine alone. It is - or will be - how I want it with only my memories
Weigh in day - so disappointed only half a pound off
I’ve virtually cut out alcohol- no wine just 1 G&T
No cakes or biscuits
Oh well - see what next week brings
@irenebritusa
Why questions 🤷♀️
Catherine had a serious medical procedure from which she had to recover. I’m sure she took this outing carefully and probably had to rest upon returning home - which is exactly as you would expect
Surely this is what recovery is like, small incremental steps
I’ve given in and bought a new summer duvet as mine is still missing after extensive searching
Obviously 🙄 my old summer duvet Will miraculously surface in the next few days
Do you remember as children looking out of the window and singing “rain rain go away, come again another day”
I’m feeling those vibes now - 🌧️☂️💦💧🌧️☔️☔️☔️☔️
Because I’ve been lazy and key things slip I’ve chores piling up, there’s an enormous pile of ironing to do, the patch needs cutting and the garden tidying
Where shall I start 🤷♀️
Perhaps a trip to the garden centre to ponder the problem 🤪🤪🤪
@JaneyGodley
@Gett_UK
I’m a northerner who rarely comes to London but when I do I get a cab from Euston to Waterloo
It costs around £15/17 each time
I was advised to only use a black cab
Drivers have all been lovely, chatty, kind & helpful
@BlackCabLondon
I’ve built a small cupboard (still working out the hinge adjustments)
Before (had an electric heater sitting there) and after
YES!! I know I’m supposed to be gardening but I got side tracked with the cupboard delivery 🤪
@mermhart
I’m quite short, my dear mother would say “she’s as wide as she is tall” over the past year, more so during lockdown I’ve put on 2stone. I got my summer clothes out a few weeks ago & nothing fits.
I’m an emotional eater, food gives me comfort, baking gives me joy
Dieting is hard
Off for weigh-in, it’s not going to be good 😳
Not been for 2 weeks, 1st week grandma duties & last week had an appointment with the chiropodist
I’ve been struggling for a few weeks to lose, it’s been the same pound going on/coming off
Anyway I’ll take it on the chin or hips
Ordered a calendar from Amazon and it arrived (yes I’m old fashioned)
Written all the birthdays and notable dates for the coming year
Ready for the new year now 😊
@claire88424030
Do you know what - being the mum of 3 boys I would have loved to have gender toilets at home, one for the boys and lovely one for me
All mums will know 😳