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My latest book, The Cost of Control, out now! Leading Bright City Church with @ikefmiller , PhD, and mom of 3!

Durham, NC
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Sharon Hodde Miller
9 years
It takes just as much effort to make a person feel small as it does to dignify them: surprisingly little. #speaklove
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4 years
10 yrs ago I sat in a room with a few pastors, one of whom was in the midst of a meteoric rise in fame. I noticed him frequently making sexist, inappropriate jokes, while the other pastors laughed. They brushed it off as harmless, and continued to commend him to me & others. (1/)
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4 years
And ENOUGH making excuses for a leader's ghastly immorality because of policy. Yesterday people died. Churches have died. People's faiths have died. We must have the moral fortitude to name what is clearly in front of us, because anything less is a dereliction of calling.
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5 years
The priceless face of @drmoore when @jenniferwilkin says, “If only we had devoted as much attention as we have to whether a woman could preach, to how qualified the men are that are preaching.” #sbc2019 God bless her!
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6 years
There are some Christian leaders that I look at and think, "Are they following the same Jesus I am?" But then I read stories about ancient Christian martyrs, and I wonder, "Am I following the same Jesus as THEM?"
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3 years
No one ever thinks they’re a Pharisee. They just think they’re being more faithful.
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4 years
Republican v Democrat is a man made division. Pro-life v pro-woman is a man made division Anti-racism v pro-police is a man made division. Complementarian v Egalitarian is a man made division. Just a reminder that these are not, in fact, the boundary lines of the Kingdom of God.
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4 years
My grandmother passed away tonight at the age of 95. One remarkable thing about her is that when she was in her 70’s, she decided to go to seminary and get her Master of Divinity. The last thing I said to her was that I was picking up her baton and I would carry it forward.
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3 years
Conservatism believes the ideal is behind us. Progressivism believes it is ahead. The radical claim of Christianity is that both are right & also wholly wrong, because our hope is neither nostalgia nor a secular utopia. The Garden is gone, but the Kingdom of God is coming.
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4 years
ENOUGH. You pastors who keep making excuses for your friends because of "grace." ENOUGH. You pastors making excuses for leaders with character failings because they are "anointed." ENOUGH. You pastors looking the other way because that leader's theology is "correct." (6/)
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3 years
“I told you so” was not the posture of the Prodigal’s father. This is so important to understand.
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2 years
Every time I pray for President Zelensky, I also pray for his wife and children. Courage is so costly.
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3 years
C.S. Lewis once wrote about a phenomenon he called the "Inner Ring." It's a group we long to be accepted into, but once inside it, we don't find belonging. We just find another ring. I'm telling you: the sooner you can *really* grasp this, the freer you will be.
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3 years
From time to time my kids ask me why we talk about Jesus all the time, and this is what I almost always say: “Jesus is the only thing I can give you that can never be taken away.”
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4 years
No matter how you spin it, meanness is not a fruit of the Spirit.
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2 years
He said that grief is like crashing waves, & those waves are taking you somewhere, so if you try to dam it up, it only builds & builds. And while there are times when you need to compose yourself (like work), church is not one of those places. At church, you can just let it out.
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2 years
Whatever is happening at Asbury, time will tell, but I do know one thing: It would be very much like God to bring revival without the presence of highly produced lighting, music, graphic effects, and trendy clothes.
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I say this with no sarcasm, no intention to stand over or “dunk on.” I am saying this because it is important in these moments to name what is true: The “good guys with guns” were not able to save 19 children from being murdered. This narrative is a sham.
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4 years
I want to encourage you that by honoring the CDC’s guidelines, staying home, washing your hands—this is all a deeply pro-life thing to do.
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But the reason I am sharing this today, is that I just read an interview with @albertmohler in which he essentially made the excuse, "How could I have predicted yesterday's events would happen?" And I only have to say one thing: ENOUGH. (5/)
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6 years
At bedtime just now, my 3 year old wraps his arms around my neck, tenderly strokes my hair, and then quietly whispers into my ear, "I'm glad you're my son."
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4 years
I cannot stop laughing at this. WHAT IS HAPPENING 😂
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4 years
There is a famous phrase--"Character is destiny"--and time and again, we think we can escape it. We think some other thing will be a greater determiner of the outcome, when Jesus himself has promised that if the tree is bad, the fruit will be bad. (4/)
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2 years
I will never stop laughing at the fact that John repeatedly refers to himself as "the disciple Jesus loved." Okay John!
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3 years
“You are enough” in the same way that a loaf of bread and a fish was enough.
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2 years
I suspect some of the widespread exhaustion we are seeing in people is the result of returning to our pre-pandemic pace of life without our pre-pandemic emotional reserves.
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3 years
Maybe we need less language about building something great, and more language about tending the field God gave you. Head down, hand to the plow, eyes on Christ. Because farmers don’t build Babels.
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3 years
Nothing weakens the tremendous power of the word “truth” like putting the word “your” in front of it.
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My forever take on Paul: I’m gonna give the guy who was beaten, stoned, imprisoned, shipwrecked THRICE, bitten by a snake, and ultimately put to death for his faith in Christ a charitable reading.
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“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they're falling in.” - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
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4 years
Goodness gracious Amanda Gorman! If this is a taste of the next generation we are gonna be alright!
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“Older Christians accuse younger Christians of caving to culture, not realizing they have caved to a culture as well.” @scottsauls
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2 years
I have been laughing at this photo all week. 🤣 If ever a photo made every parent feel completely normal, this is it.
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3 years
I once heard @stevecusswords say that a sign of anxiety is the absence of playfulness and I think about this ALL THE TIME.
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2 years
What the world needs from the church: A coherent pro-life ethic that doesn’t make exceptions along ideological lines.
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3 years
Scripture isn't fragile. You don't have to handle it like a delicate baby bird, as if you can't make any sudden movements or come up to it too fast. Scripture was meant to be wrestled with.
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3 years
Just a thought: any time you feel the urge to critique the next generation, remember: They are not rebellious weeds, but the fruit of the seeds we planted.
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4 years
And unfortunately, this is a pattern. I have a long list of toxic pastors who were once commended to me as "gospel-centered" or "theologically correct," even though their fruit was very evidently bad. And those who commended them were largely silent when the fruit bore out. (3/)
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When Jesus reached out to the sick and the sinners, he was sometimes accused of compromising himself theologically in doing so. Just sitting with that this morning.
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4 years
Grace was never meant to be a justification for excusing literally anything.
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4 years
Years later, this pastor completely destroyed his church. He was fired. Many of his church members lost their faith, or had to spend years in counseling. At no point did I hear any of those pastors acknowledge that the seeds of destruction had been plain all along. (2/)
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2 years
Jesus, I pray thousands of people would understand tomorrow, for the first time, just how much you love them.
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4 years
I am opposed to abortion whole-heartedly. It is one of the most dark & revolting consequences of the Fall. And yet, the way this issue has been collapsed & defined narrowly as “murder,” not only to create single-issue voting but single-issue Christianity, is not biblical.
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My spiritual gift is drinking coffee at 10pm and sleeping like a baby.
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4 years
I don’t know why no one ever talks about the fact that “women’s fit” t-shirts are universally unflattering on women.
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3 years
This week I heard someone say something I can’t stop chewing on. She said, “I’m not deconstructing my faith. I’m disentangling it.”
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3 years
Just boarded a plane, and I’m sitting by the window and a monk is sitting on the aisle, so whoever sits between us is GONNA GET SAVED on this flight. 🤣
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2 years
Some of the bestselling Christian books right now are about the end times, so I want to echo something I wrote in The Cost of Control: End times predictions are really just about control. They may cite Scripture, but they merely serve our idolatry of certainty.
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At church on Sunday, someone had a grief-induced panic attack & needed to step out, & another member of our church, who is a counselor, talked with them. I want to share what he said, because it so ministered to me personally:
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I think Jesus was probably a lot funnier than he’s given credit for. I often tell my kids that God invented humor (since humans are made in God’s image, and humans love to laugh). Ergo, Jesus—the perfect human—was perfect at being funny. 😊
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Sharon Hodde Miller
4 years
Today I was talking with a friend who is not a Christian, and she described being invited to a church where the pastor’s main presentation was not the gospel, but endorsing a political candidate. This is so infuriating. Pastors, we have ONE JOB.
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Jesus rebuked the Pharisees, but then he died for them. Remember this the next time you want to cast woes or instruct someone to go and sin no more. Every person Jesus had a hard word for, he also laid down his life for.
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3 years
2 points of discernment: 1. Is something true? 2. Are you the right person to say it? For better or for worse, #1 means very little if we get #2 wrong.
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4 years
I still laugh when I remember all the January 2020 sermons about "vision."
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4 years
I watched Ike literally fall asleep while he tweeted this. 😂😂😂
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5 years
One thing I have learned from church planting (and I am in the *south*) is that the church no longer has a moral authority in our culture. We must act like strangers to a new land, earning credibility, & until we assume that humble posture, our message will fall flat.
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6 years
Imagine Moses went to Pharaoh, prayed with him, took a selfie, went home, and called it influence.
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4 years
@KSPrior This is the great sadness. It is a special kind of lament, when an entire generation must repeatedly mourn the legacy of its elders with the words, “I thought you believed what you taught.”
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4 years
I’m realizing one of our new nightly routines is going to involve every one of us apologizing to one another and asking for forgiveness. 😂😩
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5 years
If there is a slippery slope toward liberalism, there is an equally slippery slope toward legalism, and perhaps that is why Jesus calls it the narrow way.
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6 years
Esther's first response to Mordecai was "I have not been called."(4:11) His response: Your position, your privilege, IS your calling.
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Years ago, I knew a man who was serially unfaithful to his wife. He would get caught, and apologize, then do it again. For years. Eventually, when she was ready to leave, he vowed to be faithful, once and for all. And he was. Sort of. (1/)
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5 years
Just left the Rwanda Genocide Memorial and I’m haunted by a quote I read there: “When they said ‘never again’ after the Holocaust, did they only mean for certain people?”
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4 years
What has become apparent over the years is how little Christians understand about the Old Testament prophets, biblical justice, and corporate sin. We really need to examine how a tradition that prizes biblical authority produced such specific biblical illiteracy.
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Talking about oppression, justice, etc doesn't make one a Marxist. It makes one a student of the Bible.
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This, to me, is a metaphor for racism in America. We think an apology is enough. We think not being overtly racist is enough. We think doing the right thing here & there is enough. So when Black Americans express hurt, we act surprised: "Why aren't you over that yet?" (/5)
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“In our country, we as Christians have ceased to think that the most important thing that we do is be like Christ.” @DianeLangberg
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It seems like 90% of villain origin stories are a cautionary tale about what happens when you don’t take time to process your pain.
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Pregnancy looms large in Luke 1, which contains not one but two birth narratives in it. Why? Because at Advent, God invites us to consider whether the darkness that feels so much like a tomb, might actually be a womb.
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In 18 months, my kids have not complained about wearing a mask once. Not ONCE! I think we should feel really encouraged about this next generation, and the fortitude God is sowing into them.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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Whatever you are doing right now, I invite you to pause and pray: Pray for the safety of the Capitol police. Pray for the safety of our Congress. Pray for the safety of journalists. Pray for the safety of the protestors.
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I take such comfort in knowing God is more zealous for justice than I am. Our God is not asleep.
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God has gifted us with a church composed of Christian doctors Christian nurses Christian scientists Christian journalists, and Christian teachers Which means these leaders and experts are not “the world.” They are the hands and feet of Christ too.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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Not to get all John Piper on y’all, but this pattern of disbelieving abuse victims, and also denying the severity of present racism, all points to a very weak and very unbiblical view of sin. If humanity is capable of killing God, we are literally capable of anything.
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@HeatherTDay Also, I know I shouldn’t be surprised but that level of question at a doctoral defense is stunningly bad. I’m so sorry that happened to you.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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I’m sure this will eventually change, but our kids do zero extracurriculars. Zero. Because of the constrains of leading a church, we have prioritized time together as a family in the evenings, and I am just sharing for other parents to know that this is an option!
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Jonah understandably resented the Ninevites, a violent people who ravaged the regions around them and boasted in their own cruelty. And yet, the sobering lesson of Jonah is this: We cannot harden our hearts to people, without also hardening our hearts to God.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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It is important for brothers in Christ to understand that their call is not to enforce the curse on women, but to join Christ in reversing it.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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My favorite part of @BethMooreLPM 's interview was this line about how her departure will affect her events: "Those events will likely be smaller, attracting a few hundred people rather than thousands." I love this humility, from a woman whose harvest is nearly unmatched.
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“When God wants to change the world He doesn’t send in the tanks. He sends in the poor in spirit, the meek, the humble, the brokenhearted, the mourners, the hungry for justice, the peacemakers. They are the ones through whom the world gets changed.” @profntwright
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Dear churches in NYC, Inspired by your example, I texted the neighbors on my street, and at 9am on Easter, we will sing "Christ the Lord is Risen Today" along with you, from our yards. Some are even playing instruments. With you, Some brothers and sisters in Durham, NC
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The problem is, most Christians have a ready explanation for why their idolatry is not idolatry.
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Jesus said that if the fruit is bad, the tree is bad. And what does Scripture call "good fruit"? Love Joy Peace Patience Kindness Goodness Faithfulness Gentleness Self-control. And as Jesus modeled, this is most clearly discerned in the treatment of one's enemies, & the weak.
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I’m just a girl, standing in front of our polarized culture, asking Christians to read their whole Bibles.
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Satan chose a woman as the entry point for his plan of destruction. God chose a woman as the entry point for his plan of redemption. However it is we talk about women it better reflect the heart of God, not His enemy.
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There is a type of Christianity that does not know who it is apart from being embattled. Its identity comes from its opposition to others, not its abiding in Christ. And we know it by what it talks about most.
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When you read the accounts of early Christian martyrs, one of the most remarkable things about them is that they didn’t act like martyrs.
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I can go a long way with folks who: - Affirm the Nicene Creed - Love and revere Scripture - Bear the fruit of the Spirit - Are just plain starry-eyed for Jesus #Unity
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It is an enormous, underrated, undeserved grace that young children don't hold onto our mistakes and carry them into the next day. Kids forgive so quickly.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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Single Christian men be warned: if you follow or like shady stuff online, single Christian women are GRADE A SLEUTHS and they will find you out! 😆
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Hyper-individualism is not a Christian virtue.
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2 years
Because I have seen more than one Christian leader declare that Russia is God’s judgment on Ukraine, and because scripture instructs us to correct false teaching, I want to be clear: This teaching is monstrous & obscene. It is not just wrong, it is unholy and utterly depraved.
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One of Jesus's practices that is SO hard to imitate is the way he dealt differently with identical mistakes, based on the state of a person's heart. He did not treat all Pharisees the same. Nor the wealthy, the immoral, or even his disciples. Instead he discerned their hearts.
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One awkward experience brought to us exclusively by 2021: Running into people at parties who haven’t been to church in a year “because of Covid.”
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Sharon Hodde Miller
1 year
I can respect the many good and reasonable arguments for complementarianism, but sisters, please understand: when you are told to pull back so as not to intimidate men, you are simply being asked to accommodate their insecurities. This is not reasonable or good.
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Two ways that I test the truthfulness of a statement: 1. Is it true for the poor? 2. Is it still true when my "enemy" says it? If the answer is "no" to either one, then the statement is either false, or incomplete.
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My dog has lived 15 years without being attacked by our vacuum cleaner, but this fact has not lessened her conviction—not even a little—that it poses a clear and present existential threat.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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Abraham debated. Moses protested. Jeremiah worried. And Elijah basically whined. But Jonah? Jonah ran. It's a reminder that arguing with God is not an obstacle to intimacy with God, but a primary channel into it.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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I think it’s time to call a spade a spade: Legalism is not just “zeal” for a good thing. Legalism is a sin. It violates the first commandment by placing the law of man over the law of God.
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Sharon Hodde Miller
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To this day, I do not understand how a certain strand of Reformed theology that preaches so loudly about GRACE produces some of the meanest, snidest behavior on here. The drive-by slander & barbed sarcasm, by folks with Jesus’ name in their bio, will never not jar me.
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It might be past my bed time but I cannot watch this without CRYING laughing.
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