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vibes mechanic, social process designer, breadcrumb dropper

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@RichDecibels

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28 days

I just published a new blog exploring what exactly is the magic of a very good gathering: reducing variance between strangers increases predictability so you can suddenly treat dozens or hundreds of ppl as if they were your close friends link in reply

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the coolest possible start to a rule book

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my favourite people have a near pathological aversion to bullshit. they'd rather burn every bridge, become unemployable, divorce their family, destroy their reputation rather than participate in socially convenient delusion

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maybe you're lonely because you're fundamentally broken or maybe it's because we spent the last 70 years dismantling social structures that took centuries to develop and we haven't replaced them with anything yet

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it's kind of a blackpill on humanity that there's such an enormous market for "a crap version of the thing"

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I made a dumb joke and she laughed like this spilling all that beauty into the room like copper coins dropped from a pocket and for the thousandth time I thought let's never stop doing this

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question for people who have experienced long dark depressive periods in the past and are mostly better now: how did that happen?

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2 years

guy who has never hosted a dinner party: I should start a network state

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2 years

embarrassed bc it took me 37 years to figure out my parents are entirely based

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ohhhhhh! if you learned early on “when I flow thru life intuitively I frequently get sanctioned, humiliated or ostracised” then it would be an adaptive choice to retreat into analytical modes of relating to others aka “cannot vibe”

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@jakezward YOU ARE SHITTING IN THE WATER SUPPLY

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2 years

America probably solves climate change the same way it won WWII: showing up inexplicably late, then finally retooling its entire industrial capacity for total annihilation and unleashing potentially apocalyptic tech in the process

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I just need to get my shit together before I ask for help

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if you, a girl, live in a house with a boy and you want him to tidy up more: don’t teach him how to build a boat, teach him a love of the sea. he lacks your aesthetic sensitivity, and you can patch that hole without risking condescension. train his pleasure receptors

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2 years

oh shit what if religions evolved to be a single source of truth that can be understood literally by the naive and metaphorically by the esoteric and therefore create solidarity across a great diversity of perspectives

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serious question what are all you tech people doing for a job next year

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state charts + wireframes + annotations

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dating advice: be visibly into the things you are into, around people you don't know yet

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10 months

allow me to indulge for a second about one beautiful word in the tv show The Bear: "heard" "heard" is used by kitchen workers to improve coordination. it's like "message received". reduces miscommunication. - "burger and fries for table 7" - "heard!" but in the show they exapt

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lol when they said "you are the company you keep" I thought they meant "the people you hang out with have a big influence on you" not "your companions literally set the limits of who you can become"

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as a teenager you look at your parents world like, "you guys are idiots. the government is dumb. the economy is dumb. jobs are so dumb" as an adult you learn that teenage impulse was mostly true, but you just underestimated how hard it is to make any improvements on that system

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dating advice your job is to discern who this person is becoming and who you could become in their company

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sufficiently advanced openness is indistinguishable from compatibility

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9 months

@mechanical_monk when Nati & I do this it means "hi, welcome to a shared experience of the present moment, you're present, I'm present, and we're mutually aware of each other being present" it acknowledges that we just crossed a threshold into intimacy

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2 years

I fucking love clumsily figuring things out from first principles without regard for existing bodies of knowledge 👍

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3 years

I promise you don't want personal sovereignty you want to be inextricably entangled in a mesh of mutual obligations

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13 days

seems like 80% of everyday creepy male behaviour mostly boils down to vibe blindness, making a pass at someone you're attracted to after drastically misreading (or not even attempting to read!) how she might be thinking or feeling in that moment. skill issue honestly

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@OneEyedAlpaca I met a client once and immediately had the most intense crush of my life, like tripping high on drugs, ready to blow my life away on a whim, called my homie to ask for advice and it went something like this... that was the last time I had a relationship-threatening crush

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7 months

I will not be sad in this world

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3 months

if you take a bunch of those people and say “here is a space which is much more tolerant of divergent social behaviour, you are less likely to be punished for being yourself intuitively” they can rapidly discover things like “holy shit I can vibe” and “I am loved & loveable”

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8 months

I drew this diagram to illustrate a lot of related insights about agency, hosting, community-building, collaborative leadership & social change come with me now, the thread is long and full of bangers…

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5 months

finding your people has surprisingly little to do with "who" they are and surprisingly much to do with "how" the encounter is structured

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4 months

they should invent a motivation that's not sublimated desire for parental approval

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2 years

capitalism is not in a late stage. the old system is not dying. a new world is not struggling to be born.

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2 years

culture war is a symptom of culture shortage, people bonding over political beliefs instead of local songs, gardening club, community theatre etc

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9 months

starting to think it might be extremely counterproductive to build a model of the self and of psychological healing on a foundation of "all the ways my parents let me down"

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29 days

there's this pop therapy trope where people discover "I was already Enough!" as if simply existing makes you worthy of love. do people actually believe this? I find it so hollow and unconvincing

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1 year

ok not to sound dramatic but I used to be kinda dumb and now I'm smarter than like 80% of people and I know when & how it happened & I think the same method would work for most people

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7 months

hypothetically speaking if your parents massively failed to meet your emotional needs growing up it would be a pretty smart strategy to transfer your family loyalty to a supernatural parent in the sky who never dies and always cares for you

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11 months

I am learning that sometimes when people say "I'm intimidated by you" they mean "I think highly of you and I'm nervous about making a good impression" instead of "you are acting in an intimidating way and should be different" 🤯

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2 years

a group is ruled by the conversations it can't have

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1 year

no one with secure attachment ever wrote a great love song

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2 years

rookie mistake for smart people everywhere is to obsess over truth at the expense of memetic fitness

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5 months

there's an emotional profile I've seen numerous people navigate but never adequately named, the unbelievably painful hangover that comes after a particular kind of peak experience: 1. lonely dissociated nerd has no life satisfaction, no feelings, no great friends, not engaged at

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1 year

is it universally acknowledged that taking a photo devalues the meaning of an experience or am I just an Old

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2 years

life hack: let people know when they have made a positive impact on you

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6 months

interesting to think about major quality of life improvements. surprising list, like: - loving wife - meaningful work - quit gluten - psychedelics - noise cancelling headphones - good friends what’s yours

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image an alien culture with a strict taboo on sincerity so if you wanted to signal intimacy you had to deliver a sick burn precisely calibrated to be painful enough to let your friend know you know them well but not so much to make them hate you wouldnt that be weird

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2 years

half my friends flinch when I say "wife" and the other half flinch when I say "partner" 👍

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11 months

low executive function is a symptom of being under fucked

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1 year

here, have a mass produced microtargeted identity, here's 100,000 people with the exact same values, beliefs, triggers and psychological baggage as you. yummy yummy why don't you enjoy this cozy monocrop community why are you still feeling isolated??

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1 year

whoever fixed the youtube comments section deserves a nobel peace prize

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5 months

I’ve been intensely depressed the last couple weeks. feels like the clouds are parting for a second so I want to write about it, see if that helps shake it off. hiding seems to be a key part of the depressive mechanism

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6 years

I published my book! Now I just need to finish it...

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Patterns for Decentralised Organising

Practical guidance for teams, organisations and networks to manage without hierarchy.

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1 year

@collider_sama @visakanv girl #63 may be different

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1 year

spoiler alert: the feeling of cringe does not originate in you, it arises in the tribal body. cringe is the tribal policeman threatening punishment if you don't realign your behaviour with the expectations of the tribe

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2 years

I'm sorry but mocking people who still believe something I stopped believing 3 months ago is an important part of the developmental process

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10 months

the "heroic dose" is misnamed. sobriety is the heroic choice. visit the present moment without armor, unmediated, in direct contact with your desire & pain. writhe under the touch of the animal currents of aliveness. meet reality without a prophylactic.

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3 months

I don't know who needs to hear this but it's completely normal and fine to be a bit fucked up about sex

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10 months

*slaps roof of muscle tension* this bad boy can fit so much unacknowledged grief in it

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5 months

if you're going to advocate for unguarded open-hearted intimate contact with the present moment please let me know you also understand the survival value of living with guards up, dissociated, tightly controlled by the grip of self discipline

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3 years

amazing how many people believe that what the world most needs is precisely their kind of extremism

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1 month

speaking as a specialist in non hierarchical organising, it is very confusing to discover in me a growing respect for hierarchy and understanding of the role it plays in nearly all groups of people

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1 year

not freaking out is the core of all spiritual practice

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2 years

when you feel you have no agency every problem is catastrophic

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3 months

well let us celebrate we live in a golden age of sculpture! every store filled to the brim with realistic sculptures that look almost exactly like a functional object

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I am not 100% sure that feelings and thoughts are different things

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3 years

just published a newsletter that's been 6 months in the making: a big hot list of web3 people & projects with real social impact potential if you're into coops, self-managing orgs, or mutual aid then I think it's time to pay attention to web3

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#9: Decentralised Tech & the Future of Organising

a big hot list of web3 people & projects with real social impact potential

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2 years

I feel like many more people could benefit from developing awesome spreadsheet skills, but most people don't know what they're good for so I'm going to document some of the nice things I do in Google Sheets in case anyone wants to pick up some tips

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1 year

so the good news is: it's not your fault bad news though: if you want to change this, it is your responsibility

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1 year

a recipe for changing yourself: (dont use this for brainwashing/cults ok) many of the traits you perceive to be "your personality" or "your limitations" are not "inside of you" they are your relation to specific social norms norms are enforced by shame shame is anticipation of

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groups have extraordinary capacity for coordination with entirely implicit norms, but as soon as you start adding explicit structure, there’s a mental bug that will activate in some people where they suddenly find ambiguity 100% intolerable and demand everything be 100% defined

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listen, this is not a call to retvrn. 1950s USA had stable social structures, but it was a fragile stability built on subjugation & marginalisation, belonging built on sameness we need to build new structures for belonging that are not predicated on conformity

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hypothesis: "sensory overwhelm" is a side effect of using your serial processor for tasks that should be handled by the parallel processor

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10 months

I can't keep up with all the comments but I offer you all fistbumps and/or forehead kisses if you're in a depressive period I hope you find some inspiration in one of these comments

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cycling thru Berlin today, beautiful day, I notice myself surreptitiously checking out the babes and I think, why am I being subtle? where did I learn I should pretend to not be admiring babes when babes are out in such numbers? so I switched my vibe, stopped hiding, allowed

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2 years

if I'm honest it's pretty hard to distinguish my desire to sleep with someone I'm attracted to from my desire to establish my place in the pecking order

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10 months

if you're grappling with a problem, and you seem to get stuck when you're trying to deal with it on your own, and you only make progress when you have the right people around, instead of beating yourself up about this,, have you considered,,, you may be a mammal

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2 years

years ago my friend told me about Ring Theory, it helped me to be better at taking care of people in crisis I've never heard it discussed since then, so I'll write up my understanding here bc I think it could be useful

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3 years

I'm going to curate a thread of my favourite educators on youtube probably mostly various types of engineering, music, science & DIY stuff everyone on this list produces exceptional material

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1 year

you get stuck in inaction when you're trying to satisfy multiple competing values simultaneously I've been practicing a specific move to get people unstuck in this situation...

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2 years

I think a lot of nerd problems are caused by us trying to use our 100,000 year old human symbolic reasoning brain to do tasks that are better suited to our 220,000,000 year old mammal intuitive vibing brain

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2 years

are NPCs real? when I meet someone new and I ask "what you been up to lately?" and there answer is incredibly dull I am confused, are they having a dull life, or do they lack practice in narrating their inner experience, or is it just a relational mismatch between us

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2 years

Twitter Is A Dating App For Making Friends here's some ideas about how to have fun on twitter dot com (this is the thread I will send to people on their first day here)

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2 years

so sweet to discover that the work of maturing/ growing/ healing is mostly just relaxing

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10 months

if you're stuck: increase momentum before optimising direction

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low executive function is a symptom of being under encouraged

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5 months

today I’m thinking about “How To Be a Vibe Mechanic” - a practical guide to making awesome groups I want to name what does an excellent host/facilitator/group process designer is paying attention to first thoughts...

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@jim_rutt hyper tolerant, brainy but not strictly materialist, autist adjacent, hobby psychologist/psychonauts, extremely online sweethearts who decided that twitter is actually a great place to make friends

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10 months

increasingly trippy instructions for a meditation on the self... Seeing Like a Superorganism On the surface, @micro_solid is a community-building framework, an engineer’s attempt to invent a cure for loneliness. But beneath the waterline, there's a deeper project. If I’m

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3 years

pessimists be like boo hoo I'm scared of the future after plugging myself into depressing news 24 hours a day waaaah I'm a giant baby who amputated my own sense of local agency for some reason why did capitalism do this nooooooo 😭😭😭

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my whole shtick: your behaviour is constrained to a surprising degree by the people around you so if you wanna change you mostly have to change who you're spending time with (or how)

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@bashu_thanks pretty sure every concept is a feeling

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2 years

OK so firstly you don't need to feel ashamed about your phone addiction. a major share of the world's intellectual, computational and financial resources are dedicated to tugging on your brainstem. your screen fixation is not a moral failing...

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1 year

if you're trying to practice new relational skills but you're surrounded by immature people you'll keep getting negative feedback even if you're doing all the right things

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10 months

I am experiencing intense amounts of its going to be alright when I think about the future these days

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2 years

there are people who broadcast a nonverbal signal that persuades your body that its safe now to unwind the tension you're usually holding

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10 months

sure sex is cool but have you ever booted up all the motivation and mental context for a complex project and kept it booted up for days without interruption

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4 years

What if 'OK Boomer' is not just a funny meme but a glimpse into the collective rage and terror of having so few worthy elders at a time of unprecedented demands on our civilisation. How are we supposed to grow out of this mess without role models we can respect?

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when the homies take psychedelics thinking the insights should just integrate themselves

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Young birds thinking food will automatically jump to their mouth since their mothers fed them like that

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imagine you're an earnest but slightly weird + bit lonely, extremely online person who joined a couple of twitter events and suddenly found belonging & rapid personal transformation (plus maybe some drugs & free love). how would you know you're not being pulled into a cult?

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stimulants are especially motivating if you learned to only take action under threat of punishment

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