I've seen this chart many times floating around on the internet. I have no idea who originally created it (so if you did, let me know and I'll give you credit!).
What's your ideal level of redness at the completion of a spanking?
Me? I like a 4 or 5 for most sessions.
Open-ended Poll Question:
Do you ever wonder where your interest and/or fascination with spanking came from, or how it started?
Was there a discreet point in time that you can remember that sparked your interest?
Or has it been with you ever since you can remember?
Spankos - let's try something a little different for a poll. Imagine you are getting (or giving) a spanking tonight. Outline the scenario that would best fit your needs right now.
Anyone else for a 1,A,9?
An observation: There are many dichotomies in the spanking world. For example,
- Spankees usually want the spanking to hurt, but dislike the pain
- All spankos want spanking play, but most don't like asking for it
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Do you have a favorite spanking picture or video that really speaks to you? Something you see and think "THAT is what I want!"
Let's see it! Post the pic/link in the replies. Please give credit where credit is due.
**Interactive/Shareable Spanking Poll**
Using the combinations below, choose the scariest, spookiest, most terrifying spanking scenario you can concoct.
Which of these scenarios makes you blush or gasp at the mere thought of it?
For me, it's probably 6-E-3
Open-ended question(s):
At what point in your life did you know that you enjoyed spanking?
Was this the same point that you *accepted* this part of yourself?
Open-ended poll/question:
What is on your spanking bucket list?
What do you *really* want to do before you die with regard to spanking? (Examples might be an outdoor spanking, or attend a party, or a specific role-play.)
An observation of mine:
Each spanker has their own unique signature.
It's the tempo of spanks, where their hand falls on the cheeks, how they hold their hands (flat, cupped, fingers apart, etc.), the snap of their wrist or lack thereof. Some will even ...
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I wandered up to my wife, put my arm around her waist and said,
"I always feel closer to you on the days I spank you."
Then I kissed her forehead.
Who else can relate? How does spanking (in whatever role you prefer) make you feel deep down? Does it change based on occasion?
Another open-ended poll/question:
1. What is your favorite role-play scenario?
(e.g., Professor/naughty student)
2. What is your *least* favorite role-play scenario?
(this could be anything that just doesn't feel right for you, "squeaks you out," or is a hard limit)
Open-ended poll question:
What constitutes a satisfying spanking scene for you?
In other words, what needs to happen for a spanking session (regardless of your role) to meet your needs?
Of the following common implements, one has to go.
Which one of the following would you choose to *eliminate* from your sessions forever if you had to choose?
- Spankees (or switches) hate it while it's happening, but crave it when it's not
What about you? Have you ever noticed or felt dichotomous feelings about spanking?
Have you ever found/met someone online and played with them (i.e., given or received a spanking) in real life?
In the comments section, feel free to share where you met them online if you're comfortable. Was it Twitter? Fetlife? Somewhere else?
Does anyone know of the source for this clip? Is it from a producer, or just a random couple filming their scene?
I think it's great, to be honest. I've seen it posted many times around the internet.
I had the most vivid dream about spanking last night. And, there's an odd, recurrent theme about my spanking dreams that happened again - I was giving a spanking but felt like I couldn't spank hard enough.
As in, my arm was moving through molasses or something. So strange.
... spank with each syllable while they scold during a spanking. Others don't. Ever notice that?
Have you noticed similar patterns and trends?
If so, what have you noticed? What peculiarities catch your attention?
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Hypothetical question
Starting today and for all future spanking sessions, if you could *only* have either:
- Hand spankings
- Implements
... which would you choose?
In your opinion, is it possible to have a platonic, spanking-only friendship with someone?
Or, do you believe it will always lead to something romantic?
What would you rather have?
- One spanking that lasts 60 minutes, and nothing else for the rest of the week
Or,
- Six 10 minute spankings six days in a row
Assume you are in your preferred role.
Alright spanko folks, I'm looking to add an implement to my collection, & I've decided to go with either a slipper or a sandal.
Which one would you go with? Slipper or sandal?
Also, this is open-ended b/c I'm curious if anyone has a specific recommendation. Like, maybe a link?
Does stress make you crave spanking?
Both my kids tested positive for COVID this past week. We're weathering the storm fairly well so far (my wife and I are boosted and remain negative).
I want to spank my wife SO bad right now. But sadly, no opportunities.
I'm bored today, but I found this graphic and I think it's interesting. I'm either a Neutral Top or a True Switch. Although, "knows what they want" is pretty accurate for me too.
What about you?
Is spanking a key part of your identity as a person?
(Imagine there was no spanking activity at all in your life - would you still feel like yourself?)
Have you ever found someone who was also a spanko (or at least interested in spanking) in normal, everyday life?
(i.e., not via a specific website or group online where spankos gather)
Have you ever found someone who was also a spanko (or at least interested in spanking) in normal, everyday life?
(i.e., not via a specific website or group online where spankos gather)
Do you ever have dreams that involve spanking?
I know I've posted this poll before, but it happened to me last night and I just keep thinking about it.
I'll admit that I was really curious to see the results of this poll. I still feel there is a time and place for *both* hand spankings and using implements.
But if I had to pick, it would be hand spankings every day. For me, the hand is the best feeling, giving and receiving.
Hypothetical question
Starting today and for all future spanking sessions, if you could *only* have either:
- Hand spankings
- Implements
... which would you choose?
Let's poll spanko world on how hard* a spanking should be given.
(*Equate "hard" with how much pain is delivered or received)
Complete the sentence:
A spanking should be given as hard as _________
I like this diagram. I've always thought that the upper portion of the bottom should be avoided during a spanking.
Now this "Secondary Focus" zone is fun if used sparingly. After all, why smack a leg when you could spank a cheek?
Open ended question:
In your mind, is there *one* thing (or maybe two things) that would help your spanko self feel fulfilled?
Picture yourself filling in this sentence: If only _____ were different, I'd be happier/more fulfilled.
If you have never attended a spanking related munch or play party (i.e., branched out into meeting people in the real world), what would you say is your primary reason?
Sometimes being a spanko can be kind of lonely and we can go through some dry spells where we don't have any spanking activity for a while.
I think those time periods are difficult and can certainly affect my mental health. If you've experienced that, know that I understand.
Question:
If a person emailed a Pro to ask about a spanking session, how long should that person wait for a reply before sending some sort of follow up email?
Asking for ... myself. Any and all thoughts are appreciated.
I love this video for many reasons, but at the very top of those reasons is what happens near the very end of the clip.
Watch it and see if you notice what happens. Do you hear what the spankee says? I think the spanker reacted appropriately.
@happyangelshark
Inaccurate spankings: spanks that land too high on the cheek, or too low (i.e., the thighs), or any wrapping when using belts/straps.
Too much talking during a scene, or giving one spank per syllable. There's a time & place for dialogue and scolding, but it shouldn't be the... 1
Many spanking sessions have multiple "rounds" of spankings (e.g. spank, short break, more spanking, break, etc.)
Q: How long do you feel is the optimal length for 1 round of spanking? (i.e. how long before the spankee gets a break?)
Assume hand spanking or light implement.
This might seem like an oddball question, but I've talked to (or read accounts from) SO MANY spankos who say they did this exact thing while growing up, so I figured I'd ask everyone.
Would you do a spanking session with someone - either as a spanker or spankee - who you knew voted for a different political party as you?
(If you choose to comment, please be respectful)
I don't know if anyone needs to hear this, but ...
We recently implemented Screenless Sundays at our house. No phones, tablets, computers, or TVs the entire day every Sunday.
It's actually quite relaxing. We read books, talk to each other, and go for walks. Highly recommend!
Hey there kind stranger. I hope you're doing well today. No really, count your blessings.
No, this isn't some Easter themed post, it's me playing the world's smallest violin for myself.
After recovering from covid, I now have norovirus. I feel like absolute garbage.
Not a multiple choice poll, but wondering if anyone else has noticed the following:
Ladies who identify as a spanko often enjoy watching M/m scenes.
Anyone else picked up on this?
When I really started to read a lot of spanking message boards and visiting chat rooms (back in the early 2000s), I noticed a trend whereby A LOT of spankos lamented how stressful their jobs were, and they often needed spanking as a form of release.
Curious if this persists.
It's my birthday this week, and I've arranged for a good spanking for myself!
Should I post a pre- & post-spanking photo?
(For those of you hoping to see a lady's bottom, I must inform you that I am a man)