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Kyle Nordwall

6 months

THREAD: 99% of your problems are from your unresolved childhood Affecting your Finances, Relationships and Health: Here's why:

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Kyle Nordwall

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7 months

@AMAZlNGNATURE Like, imagine if other beings that didn't speak your language hooked you up so some strange contraption and without explanation you were flying thousands of feet through the air 😲🫣

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@Theholisticpsyc I've got a whacky suspicion that most of us don't even know what emotional intimacy is haha. I know emotions were never discussed when I was a kid. I know my mom did not nurture me and didn't model intimacy in the household. I could see that void, that unmet need leading to

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@Theholisticpsyc Interesting to note: The "problem child" was the only honest person in the whole family The only person to point out that something is seriously wrong Not saying the response was healthy (most trauma response is unhealthy) but it was honest

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Kyle Nordwall

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@northstardoll @TheOnlyHJwriter I prefer a woman with little or no makeup I prefer a woman that shaves in the right places My preferences don't matter (except to me) There are 0 humans with 0 preferences

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Kyle Nordwall

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5 months

Difficult Truth: A lot of people are practicing emotional avoidance and calling it "A Positive Mindset"

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

unresolved childhood trauma doesn't announce itself as unresolved childhood trauma It makes itself known with: -weak relationships -poor discipline -lack of boundaries -anxiety & depression -lack of goals/structure -judging self/others -hopelessness -money problems, etc

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Kyle Nordwall

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5 months

@Theholisticpsyc Learning over and over and over that it all truly goes back to childhood Learning that my mental health can truly heal when I go to the root and learning that there is some dark scary stuff there, but with other people to share the journey with, it's less scary and manageable

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Kyle Nordwall

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Depression is anger turned inward If you struggle with depression, this may be from stuffing anger as a kid I did, and just now I'm learning to get it out All TRUE healing requires getting to the root cause Your childhood is the "root system" of your mental health

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Kyle Nordwall

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6 months

@Theholisticpsyc Every human is born with 10 needs, including -emotional connection -being respected, valued & validated -curiosity from a parent -unconditional love & nurturing none of those are money related kids know if the parents are genuinely connected

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Kyle Nordwall

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4 months

The funny thing about unresolved childhood trauma is that the answers to all your problems are found in the past this doesn't mean you are stuck in the past the past is stuck in your body use the present moment to do the work to set yourself free

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

acknowledging that your childhood was rough and that as a kid were hurt, neglected, sad, walking on eggshells, etc is not victim mentality noticing how that is affecting you today is wisdom Making positive changes, starting now and over the long term is a gift to the world

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Kyle Nordwall

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6 months

@Theholisticpsyc Love is a verb, it is action-based "Feelings" of love are just feelings, they come and go but even action isn't enough ...because it's possible to love someone, do loving things love for them, and still abuse them Real Love is echoed with INTENTIONAL loving actions

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Kyle Nordwall

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4 months

“Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That’s why healthy relationships are difficult for wounded people.” - Ryan North

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Kyle Nordwall

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9 months

Anger's original purpose is beautiful. It's a natural alarm system indicating something is wrong, that Love is being violated. When we are treated in an unloving manner, anger motivates us to try and stop it. In childhood we are too small so we learn to stuff. Hello cPTSD 👋

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Kyle Nordwall

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7 months

@Theholisticpsyc yah this helped me a lot the bigger picture is that abuse isn't only what is done TO us love, connection, nurturing... any of this that is withheld is also seen as abuse to our brains (meaning it is abusive)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

8 months

Mental health is not a hack It is a foundation you build your life around

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

@realdocv @DrDoyleSays Yes absolutely AND as people recovering from trauma, meaning doing the work every day, we learn, over time, to identify and seek SAFE people We learn to look for red flags and respond accordingly We remember we are worthy of connected relationships with healthy people 🫶💜

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Kyle Nordwall

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7 months

@gunsnrosesgirl3 @JaneNGrey I'm mesmerized watching those gorillas be mesmerized. They have better attention spans than most humans I know :-)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

@drjenwolkin "I did not cause my trauma... but I am responsible for resolving the trauma" Once I finally made peace with that uncomfortable truth, I was able to stand up, dust myself off, and show up for myself.

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Kyle Nordwall

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5 months

@Theholisticpsyc one of the hardest things I've done in the last few years is to set healthy boundaries with my family (siblings and parents) after years of trying to fit in and be loved and respected I finally realized "they can't give me what I need" (they lack the tools) but others can

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Kyle Nordwall

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6 months

@Theholisticpsyc What I've learned about high cortisol homes: *the stress stays w/ us for life, until resolved *walking on eggshells=stress *stressful childhoods is where most ADD/ADHD develops *stress comes from unmet needs (unconditional love, support, lack of validation & respect *we learn to

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

3 months

The only reason I started my 𝕏 account was to help my Past Self Since about 2010 I began to notice patterns in my life that were harmful to myself and others I noticed: *Harsh inner critic *Addictive tendencies *Weak relationships despite being charming and 'well spoken'

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Kyle Nordwall

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6 months

@Theholisticpsyc Some kids who had wealthy parents, then struggle in life eventually say things like -my parents gave me gifts instead of spending time with me -bought me stuff instead of connecting emotionally - were there but weren't REALLY there "what was wrong with me that that happened?"

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

@IAmMarkManson Yup, I love this. I'm 48 and starting my whole career over from scratch. I've got debt, minimal income not even a permanent address or a lady at my side cheering me on. But I do have a burning desire to teach those 1 or 2 steps behind me everything I've learned about healing.

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

unresolved childhood trauma doesn't announce itself as unresolved childhood trauma It makes itself known with: -weak relationships -poor discipline -lack of boundaries -anxiety & depression -lack of goals/structure -judging self/others -hopelessness -money problems, etc

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

@drjenwolkin If I understand correctly, both my ADHD and low EQ are characteristics of cPTSD. Not being raised where I felt safe and wasn't taught basics like focus and emotions etc. Now that I have my mental health on the right track (internal boundaries) I can practice focusing on tasks,

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Kyle Nordwall

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@Theholisticpsyc I discovered I was a "nice guy" a few years ago, there are great books on the topic (No More Mr. Nice Guy) In the last couple years, as I resolve my childhood trauma, masks are coming off (including Nice Guy) and I am getting to know my Real Self we gotta get to the root

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

@carasjournal Time alone does not heal Time WELL SPENT does and yah, feeling the feelings is time well spent. it's a dance between processing the hurt and memories, but also moving on with life, injecting this new pain/wisdom into a creative project if we're wise enough to have one

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Kyle Nordwall

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Since the dawn of time Being accepted by our "tribe" was essential for survival We are wired to be nurtured by that tribe Modern tribes are now just mom & dad (if we're lucky) and maybe siblings If Mom & Dad don't nurture us, our brain says !CODE RED! and trauma develops

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

@nate_postlethwt My childhood trauma household took from me "the freedom and encouragement" to use my voice, to fully express myself and to question authority Healing is giving me this back, and it's glorious

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

@Theholisticpsyc This helps with my own mental health There are 3 types of business in the world: 1. my business 2. other peoples' business 3. Gods' business I focus on my own business

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6 months

@AMAZlNGNATURE I could watch this all day! AND I was sorta waiting for the cat to eat his face at the end there

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

All humans are born with 12 needs that must be met in childhood to achieve a balanced life To the degree that this doesn't happen is the degree to which we'll struggle with mental health as adults This is the focus for this week's content and my first newsletter, stay tuned!

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

3 months

Did you know that emotions always show up as physical sensations? Emotions aren't thoughts That weight on your chest, the pressure in your head? Coldness? Something a little off in your belly? Every emotion has a set of physical sensations associated with it. The first step

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

@Theholisticpsyc Your book HTDTW was one of the first things that opened my eyes to "I think I know why I am the way I am now!" I have definitely left survival mode and here's a few thoughts in hindsight: *I had to quit drinking to finally confront the issues I had been "drinking over" *I had to

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

3 months

I always thought Mental Health just meant "self Care" Like, If I just: 💡walked daily 💡said positive affirmations 💡limited drinking 💡was nice to people 💡proper grooming 💡ate a balanced diet Then everything would be OK and I'd have no anxiety, depression or shame But now

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Kyle Nordwall

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4 months

Hard Pill To Swallow: The only thing holding you back from achieving a life of meaning is your unconscious and unresolved childhood wounds (which spill out into all areas of life including the relationships of those you love)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

@Theholisticpsyc One of the characteristics of 'unresolved childhood stuff' is to fix our broken selves by "doing" If we can just do enough to become great, then we'll be worthy! thia is shame-based "It's not that we're broken and need to be fixed. It's that we've been deeply hurt and need

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@NordwallKyle

6 months

The new mental health model: WILLING TO: *practice boundaries *prioritize sleep *unpack their childhood *evaluate friendships *be wrong *accept their dark side *see enemies as little kids *approach strangers to connect *take appropriate risks *turn off all audible notifications

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Kyle Nordwall

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4 months

STAGES OF HEALING When you notice negative patterns in your life, and you're ready to get to the root of the problems and heal from the inside out There are 3 Stages of Healing in order to effectively heal from Childhood Trauma: 1. Feeling Safe - you must be provided a safe,

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Every single human has the ability to notice their own character defects and to seek change Changing sometimes will require support from other humans but either way "The greatest gift you can give the world, is to work on yourself"

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@NordwallKyle

5 months

@Theholisticpsyc yes and I've learned the hard way that if I am fixing someone's problems (or vice versa) and they like it/accept it (as a pattern) there is codependency at play "I'll help you sweep your shame under the rug if you do the same for me"

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

@Theholisticpsyc Social media can have us believe a lot of things A lot of people complain about how negative social media is I look at my feeds and I see smiling babies, words of encouragement, friends on vacation, dogs chasing weird things... set up your environment to thrive

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Kyle Nordwall

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4 months

Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happens to you. - Gabor Maté

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

4 months

@Theholisticpsyc A couple years ago I was all over the dating sites (and I was a mess) I decided to completely stop looking for a relationship and take my own healing journey serious Now I have learned to meet my own needs and have resembles a somewhat sane adult life and I'm back in the

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

You can easily assess the mental health of a person by how they react to minor inconveniences

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

@Theholisticpsyc I am quite proud of my morning routine now haha I have 4 items on my a.m. agenda -pray -stretch 5+ minutes -read 10 pages of a real book -journal about my current emotions and fears I begin my day at 7 a.m. whether I finish my routine or not

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

A sad paradox is that people that are hurting in life, can find relief and healing in connecting w/ others but are usually scared of connecting with others because they tried as kids, and were deeply hurt by those closest to them

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

I've posting on 𝕏 for about 4 months and I love it It is part of a bigger Vision for myself and is the first time I've been able to take consistent action on a meaningful long term goal (pats myself on the back) In these last 4 months, I have been ridiculed? attacked? exactly

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

How to heal: *commit to resolving your childhood *educate yourself on the topic *evaluate current relationships *evaluate your degree of shame *learn to remove anxiety from the body *let other humans help Mental health is not a hack, it's a lifestyle you build your life around

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

8 months

A life of meaning and value is achieved through purposeful action. Risk is involved. Feeling insecure is natural, expected - part of the territory. (playfully laughing at/with self can help too) @patryanmadson "improv wisdom"

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

The Answer to Complex Trauma aka cPTSD or unresolved childhood trauma is reparenting ReParenting is learning to meet our own needs (see pinned thread) Especially those needs that were not met in childhood and becoming whole again (integrating the parts we represses as kids)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

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Many people become depressed around age 30 It seems 'to just happen' but it's actually from decades of unresolved childhood trauma (unresolved unmet needs) unresolved means it's still in the body it's the body's way of saying, "enough!"

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

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Part of my shame story (unresolved childhood wounds) says: -I'm a burden -need to be perfect -nobody wants to hear what I have to say In consciously working through all that... I just posted my first newsletter! Sure it took 5 months haha, but my 2nd and 3rd will be better🫣

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@NordwallKyle

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Difficult Truth: the seemingly subtle hurtful things our parents did to us as kids like 'not connecting emotionally' & 'not validating us' are as damaging as the blatant things like physical abuse

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

A newborn baby is loved and respected The baby doesn't contribute money or resources to a family, in fact, it only takes up resources & that baby is loved and respected THAT is an example of the respect that every single human is worthy of no matter their crimes Am I wrong?

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

5 months

When looking in the mirror Be hardcore, extreme and ruthlessly committed to gentleness, compassion and understanding

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

Connecting w/ Safe People is essential to heal safe people are not perfect people safe people own their mistakes and are willing to work on them we can love all people while we use healthy boundaries to surround ourselves w/ mostly safe people

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

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Shame is blame unfairly turned against yourself Shame is caused in your earliest years of childhood where you picked up a message of being bad, unwanted, a burden, etc Shame means you received faulty parenting (as opposed to unconditional love of which you are worthy)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

if you experience anxiety or depression, your goal shouldn't be to 'try and stop it' Your brain is trying to survive and is trying to tell you something We have to develop the practice of listening and interpreting THEN we can take appropriate action which means healing

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@NordwallKyle

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This is what healthy parenting looks like (the first 5): The child (more often than not): 1. Feels safe 2. Feels connected 2 parents: emotionally & physically 3. Feels understood 4. Feels valued and validated (for simply being who they are) 5. Feels loved and IS nurtured

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5 months

Unresolved childhood trauma is a spectrum that everybody is on Some people just don't have much so they're able to thrive, living intentionally If you are stuck on the hamster wheel of misery, you will need to, at some point, get to the root (childhood) Then, reparenting

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

Difficult Truth: A lot of people are practicing emotional avoidance and calling it A Positive Mindset

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

Uncomfortable truth: Are you in a relationship with someone not working on themselves? This is, by definition, a dysfunctional relationship ALL healthy relationships require that both people are committed to growing everything else is some version of codependence

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

Things you'll never regret doing: -unpacking your childhood -calming your nervous system -long walks -removing over-processed foods -regulating your sleep sched -discussing things that matter -watch Buffy the Vampire Slayer -boundaries Do more things that support mental health

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@NordwallKyle

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healthy parenting (the last 5): The child: 6. is encouraged to be authentic 7. grows in control of personal life (boundaries expand slowly over time) 8. Understands healthy boundaries 9. Is encouraged to speak their Truth 10. Is taught to resolve neg emotions

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Kyle Nordwall

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The funny thing about unresolved childhood trauma is that the answers to all your problems are found in the past this doesn't mean you are stuck in the past the past is stuck in your body use the present moment to do the work to set yourself free

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@Theholisticpsyc In 2016 I quit my lucrative sales job to become "a successful life coach" I had $100k saved and invested in workshops, coaches, transformational trainings, etc learned everything about marketing, funnels, copy, social media, etc 4.5 years later, I had $100k in debt, filed

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The only thing more painful than resolving your childhood stuff is not resolving your childhood stuff life was not meant to be mediocre

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If we grew up in an unsafe or even unsupportive home our brains were on 'high alert' we didn't have the mental space to play, explore and invest in a hobby or skill we may have escaped into something, but we didn't nurture and lovingly explore sincere interests this is sad 😢

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Your unresolved past is alive-and-unwell in your body and shows up as: *anxiety *depression *self medicating *people pleasing *anger issues *victim mentality *ADD, ADHD (poor focus) *co dependency and so much more Healing is guaranteed but 1st we gotta admit we're in pain

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@NordwallKyle

7 months

As a guy that struggled with depression his whole life and tried "doing action" to get out of pain... his whole life... I'm here to tell you it isn't that simple Most depression is a symptom of unresolved childhood trauma and there are DEEP grooves in the brain (neural

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@Theholisticpsyc I always thought I was SO deep turns out it was a mask & was enmeshed in a shallow life (I didn't feel respected or even liked as kid so I created masks to be more likeable) A few years back, sensing the connection of 'a miserable life' and 'a shallow life', I made a list of

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In my 30s I began looking for hypnotherapists because my dissatisfaction in life (unhappiness) did not match how I looked to the world I was: *reasonably attractive *well traveled and open-minded *charming and well spoken *had plenty of money when I needed it *really felt my

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@ZedEm12 @Theholisticpsyc Yah I took a long class on Complex Trauma and during 'Anger Week' I told the facilitator that I was happy to learn about it, but it's not really an issue for me She asked me if depression was part of my story "Oh, yah, big time!" Then she told me what I posted about depression

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@NordwallKyle

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you're not going to "heal" much today But today you can tweak your lifestyle so you are meeting your needs for: *Connection *Healthy boundaries *Movement *Hobbies & Pleasure *Rest *Purposeful Goals and day by day, you'll make plenty of mistakes and week by week, you'll grow🌻

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@NordwallKyle

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@Theholisticpsyc It all goes back to parenting and meeting the childs' needs ALL children need *Safety *Connection *To be understood *To be valued & respected *To be authentic *Grow in control of personal life *Understand healthy boundaries *Speak the truth *Resolve negative emotions *Feel loved

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@DrDoyleSays I have struggled most of my adult life and looked everywhere for answers and solutions Just now, at age 48, I have discovered cPTSD info and people specializing in childhood trauma and all the lights are coming on

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

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So happy that a 1Million follower account is helping make childhood trauma (cPTSD) a normal thing to talk about I just thought I was broken. The about a year ago I learned of it, studied the hell out of it, worked my ass off making positive changes and slowly healing. But for

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Complex post traumatic stress (C-PTSD) is often misdiagnosed as ADHD, depression, bipolar, anxiety, or other mental health disorders. C-PTSD is not yet recognized as an official diagnosis. Symptoms include: -hyper-vigilance -inability to pay attention -dissociation -“mood

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The major issue that comes out of childhood trauma is that it negatively affects our identity We call that shame And it affects every aspect of life Most shame is unconscious as it's from the 1st 8 years of life (prior to most memories, solid vocabulary and logical thinking)

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None of your mental health challenges are your fault bc most were caused when you were a kid kids are victims because they are dependent on the quality of parenting but we're not victims now bc we have access to tools The best tool is knowledge of Complex Trauma why? bc we

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everyone wants to be a healthy adult but very few want to honestly look inside (cuz what's inside points to reality. Unfinished business. Hurt) "Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." Carl Jung

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Renowned traumatologist, John Briere PHD, is quoted as saying, “If Complex PTSD were ever given its due - that is, if the role of dysfunctional parenting in adult psychological disorders were ever fully recognized, the DSM would shrink to the size of a thin pamphlet.”

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"Trauma must be regarded as a virus that can still be triggered years later; and when it is triggered, it produces unhealthy responses." You can't ignore it and wait for it to go away If you have negative patterns in your life as an adult, there is something deeper to look at

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In the world of Mental Health and Psychology Anything that "triggers" us is a signpost on our road of life saying 'revisit HERE for clarity and healing' these triggers are best revisited with curiosity and compassion triggers can't be avoided, so visit intentionally

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faulty parenting leads to wounded kids growing up and having kids and providing faulty parenting leads to wounded kids growing up and having kids and providing faulty parenting leads to wounded kids growing up and having kids until you break the cycle by remembering who you are

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@Theholisticpsyc Yah, I wish sex was discussed more when I was a kid. Neither parent said 1 word about sex when I was a kid. School treated it like a 30 minute "taboo but necessary cold science topic" In my house, there was no intimacy or nurturing so my brain was starved of those things ->

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@Theholisticpsyc My relationships improve when I remind myself that LOVE is a VERB people (Hollywood films) see love as a feeling but if you think about it the feeling isn't there often Love is displayed in the actions we do in a relationship, especially when we don't feel like it 💜=reliable

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@limitlessmindon healthy parents do this before being around their kids it's called 'regulating' and it takes practice. but when you realize how real it is and the stakes involved (the mental health of your child) you simply practice

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@NordwallKyle

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Results of unresolved unmet needs: *the child says "It's because of me" and shame develops *not taught healthy boundaries *not taught to resolve negative emotions *not taught to create healthy relationships *create unhealthy ways to cope *repressed "stuff" is stored in the body

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

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When you are "IN" the wound (triggered) you literally do not have access to the exit (picture yourself in a pitch black room) But you do have access to the tools on your toolbelt (like a flashlight) 🕯️The tools can guide you out. But you gotta learn how to use them 🔦

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@NordwallKyle

2 months

Shame is blame unfairly turned against yourself Shame is caused in your earliest years of childhood where you picked up a message of being bad, unwanted, a burden, etc Shame means you received faulty parenting (as opposed to unconditional love of which you are worthy)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

The biggest tip I could give you to move forward in life Is do the complete opposite of what most people do Following the herd is a one way ticket to emotional stagnation and repressed creativity This is a fact

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

3 months

healing anything in the world of mental health (anxiety, depression, addictions, etc) is about subtracting things, not adding removing certain foods, habits, people, triggers less is more every single time

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

Hard Pill To Swallow: The only thing holding you back from achieving a life of meaning is your unconscious and unresolved childhood wounds.

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

@Theholisticpsyc I am optimistic about my future (for the first time in my life, at age 48) BECAUSE I have learned about complex trauma and how my childhood programmed me and I have the steps to heal. The world? not so much but I am at peace (thinking of The Serenity Prayer)

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

6 months

As I keep learning about my shame how it got created by my brain and how it's affected me my whole life I've been feeling it a lot more this past week but there's a lightness to it I'm no longer fighting it and I think I'm feeling it, because it's on it's way out this time

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

7 months

@nate_postlethwt That was my bag for sure. My oversharing was from childhood shame... not being seen by mom. My oversharing was fueled by trying too hard too fast to forge intimacy with someone because I was dying of thirst. I guess I was desperate.

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Kyle Nordwall

@NordwallKyle

4 months

Relationships take time to develop Many of us rush them based on feelings before making an accurate assessment of character We go from casual friend to close friend to soul mate within a few days, weeks or months Unmet needs from childhood cause us to rush (or isolate)

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