One thing about Nigerians is that once it comes to anything that resembles "access or power" whatever morals they claim to have goes out of the window.
There's no principles that they stand on.
It's everywhere belle face, there's no dollar too tainted in blood for them to accept
Fell in bathroom last night and pAssed out. Woke up at 3 to find myself on the bathroom floor and I burst into tears.
I'm not sure if it's the fall or the fact that I would have died and nobody would know.
I'm not ashamed to say that I actually want love.
Love that makes me feel safe and happy, I want to know what it feels like to be held, wanted and actually loved.
I just want my person because doing this adulting alone has become really exhausting
I'm from a lineage of women who are bread winners and I know the implication of that on the women.
Where a woman is a submissive breadwinner?? The layers of abuse is so sinister because yes she's independent and earns her own money but it's not enough to shield her from anything
I just want the world to make space for people who are average, for people who are content to just having comfortable day jobs that pay their bills, for people don't have million dollar life changing ideas.
For people whose greatest ambitions is to life a quiet life.
My general rule is that if a person is misogynist, then they're hiding homophobia and tribalism and a few other vices in their pocket.
It's a rule that had never failed me.
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So this is the adulthood that I waited all my life for??
This one where I'm filled with so much fear and uncertainty about the future?? This one where I really cannot afford anything because when I manage to save for it, prices have doubled?
This is it???
I can't lie, away from the things I saw inside the Church, one of the biggest reasons I stopped being Christian was finally accepting that God had favourites and that regardless of how much you prayed or believed, if you're not a fave, you're not a fave.
The thing about this gifting topic is that a lot of it is coming from a place where the few women who get gifts are reallyloud about it. So there's a delusion that the average woman is walking around wrapped around in gifts from men and that men are just suffering but it's untrue
"Female privilege" and it's just receiving occasional gifts from men
That's just like saying getting gifts from a white person is black privilege
What is really doing you guys is jealousy. You could also experience the same "female privilege" if men just gifted each other more
Rice went from 2,200 to 3,500 a basket
King's is now 5k for 3 litre.
Spaghetti is now 500+
Palm oil is 1k for small bottle
Yam?? I don't even bother
Plantain?? Permanently 1k for some tiny fingers.
Mtn don add 500 to data
Generator oil don go 2,300 from 900.
A guy has kicked me out at 2am because I refused to sleep with him even though we were just friends and had never had a sexual conversation.
I was only spending the night because of rain.
And Ozzy is actually right, Sexual liberation doesn't mean sleeping with everyone that comes your way just to prove that you're liberated. That's another cage of its own entirely and it's not a good one because it leaves you feeling drained and empty
Today I want to say I'm really thankful for the men who have been kind to me without demanding for sex/sexual favours.
I'm genuinely thankful to the Universe for sending them my way.
I want to experience it in my lifetime, I love love. I see other people finding love and I'm genuinely excited for them and I also want that for myself.
There's got to be one person who would actually love me. Just one person because I'm not the worst person alive
I've tasted softness and there's really no going back. I cannot have any business with men that are not expressive/soft.
I don't care the kind of relationship we have, even if its only sex, I will demand for Softness and get it.
If you cant give it, move away please.
One thing I want to tick of my bucket list is mans buying me ashewo clothes for a dinner date but I get to wear it with that remote controlled vibrator so he can press it at intervals during the date night and make a video of my reaction.. Build up tension before we get home.
Since I put out this tweet, God's favourites have been in my mentions and my DMs telling me that
1. I don't know how to pray
2. I have a parasitic relationship with God
3. I should engage prayer warriors.
4. Reminding me they're God's favourites
5. I don't have understanding
I can't lie, away from the things I saw inside the Church, one of the biggest reasons I stopped being Christian was finally accepting that God had favourites and that regardless of how much you prayed or believed, if you're not a fave, you're not a fave.
Married people in general.
Married men are always coming on this app to tell us unprovoked that their wives are not the most beautiful and that they're big idiots.
The wives come and tell us about the incompetent man children they're married to.
God forbid oh
A case in point is growing up in Urhobo land.
Women go carry concrete for head, hustle finish enter house straight to kitchen to cook for a man that has been home all day doing nothing.
He will collect their money while claiming "I am the head"
There's rarely any state in the South South that speaks one language. You want states that have at least 30 different languages to speaking what?? How will they talk to each other?? This is why it's good to not be an idiot just yapping away without understanding
There's space in Feminism for Big issues like Rape, FGM, Oppression, income inequality and the supposed small issues like who will wash plate and cook Egusi.
We can talk about how aborhrent Female genital multilation is while letting you know that Child care is not a woman's job
We don't talk about how dangerous "Pick me" women actually are.
Every other girl/woman is a threat to them and it includes their daughters.
Their own is especially sinister because they will actively hurt without a man even being involved.
What do tweets like these even mean and wetin una dey agree with???
Do you understand the effects that poverty actually has on someone's life or were just tweeting for the sake of it?
That iphone 14 wey una dey buy 1.7 would have been about 500k but of course $ is 700+.
Bad bitches dey buy one wig for 300k+. Something that you could get for 150k+ before
Flight prices went from 30k+ to 180+.
You and the party you support are my opps and una dey craze.
So a woman and her sister came to fight and insult another woman for sleeping with her husband.
The side chick is married but that's not the problem, the husband in question is also sleeping with the sister that came along for the fight.
I've not seen rubbish like this
Plastic coke is now 200
Kilo of turkey?? 3,500
One lap of chicken?? 2,500
I don't even touch tilapia again because 4,500 and above.
Big Pulpy orange is around 900
Attachment is 2,300 and nothing inside.
Ear piece went from 200 to 1,500.
You people will like bullying.
And the problem is that the 5% are noise makers.
The reality is that the average Nigerian babe will not receive flowers or gf allowance or 5 star dates or baecation.
The reality is that they will meet and text for a while, their first date will be in his house for a weekend.
The men see your independence as a way for them to live large with their own earnings(if they earn)
You will walk on egg shells if they don't earn because you don't want to trigger them into thinking you're proud because you're the bread winner of the home.
Lmfao you people are telling Nigerian women to take notes?? Lmfao abeg nau, you want them to die? Look around you, does this look like what Nigerian women will even remotely agree to do??
We are seeing unprecedented levels of unhinged pick mes on the TL and you dey say take note?
I say God should punish those of you that voted this man in but today I want God to punish both Emilokan and Sai Baba people.
A carton of turkey is 44,500 and a kilo is 4,500
kilo of chicken is 3000
Spaghetti is 600.
Once again if morning say it be good for you, night will refuse
You see people like Qudus? I don't mind them because with them it's black or white.
It's cowards like you pretending to be good people that disgust me. People like you will never have vim for evil but will turn around and force victims to give grace.
Last year on Facebook, a married woman attacked her husband's side chick and filmed it.
After the Brouhaha, she was arrested for assault and the case went to court. Her Husband refused to bail her and left her in Jail.
You people are discovering that your friends are idiots because of elections but your friends have been idiots because of misogyny and you people were shinning teeth with. When your friends were idiots for homophobia, you people were joking with them.
Today, it's much shock
I understand why our mothers believed in secrecy as a woman. Some of use these days do Cho Cho Cho too much. Nor be everything Dem dey tell man. Woman dey keep secret, woman dey get savings, woman dey buy gold keep.
Most importantly, woman nor dey love too much.
Cannot do long distance relationship because of flight prices, how I want take see the love of my life??? I say una dey craze and you people will like bullying.
Insort never kill anybody
Also, people who are rich/comfortable but coming to the TL to claim sapa for bants.
Very weird flex because why are you trying to claim poor so bad??
I hope the poverty really finds you.
I bet everyone has a social media ick. Like obvs you can’t tell people what to do with their accounts, but when you see some posts you can’t help but roll your eyes 💀💀.
Anybody want to share their social media icks? Storymen? Incessant showoffs, Q&A addicts? 👀
I just want more feminist women in key positions tbvh because having Pick-mes in such positions does nothing for women on a grand scale.
They'll just be doing and saying nonsense.
When you say 80% of Nigerian women are bitter, I'd have to stop you there. Just say 100% of Nigerian women are bitter.
Who is the remaining 20% that isn't?? You?? Definitely not darling!! We're all bitter together, better accept the badge and be going.
Once again I'm reminded about how important women's voices are and why must continue to be loud and take up space.
I'm reminded about how important it is to document what were doing because one thing, society is always willing to write away the work we are doing.
Nothing you do will be okay and to avoid wahala, you will be working and handing over your salary to him as the "man"
He won't use that money to pay bills or Carter for your kids, you will have to beg and take loans for that.
You will be pregnant every other year.
The cheating, the emotional and physical abuse?? It will be off the charts.
You never know what will set him off, he will try consistently to sabotage your job even though he does nothing towards paying bills.
I have seen this play out too many times to engage in delusion.
I won't lie, I'm deeply afraid of what is happening because it could so easily be me.
Innocent people are dying in droves and it's not stopping anytime soon.
I'm deeply afraid and South South governors are keeping quiet.
Why are they keeping quiet? Can they not see??
One thing about dysfunctional homes is how differently each child experiences the dysfunction snd grows up because of it.
In a home of maladaptive and even abusive adults, the lack of unity among the children in the face of it will cast a long shadow over their individual future.
Because I have seen it in different layers, I understand why our mothers insisted on having sisterhood.
Women who will help you hold your children when he throws you out of the house.
Women who will help you hide money and buy gold.
Women you can call at 2am.
As a child I was always told that I should pray and ask God for whatever I wanted and he will answer me.
I was a child and I didn't have much to ask for but every single thing I prayed and asked for, I never got.
Not one single thing that I prayed for
Growing up with unaswered prayers after unaswered prayers, it finally hit me one day.
"I will show mercy to whom I will show mercy."
Meaning say if you nor be fave, nothing for you oh. If you like pray from now reach 500 years. Nothing for you.
My whole life in church was a lie
So truly una dey cook/eat unsalted rice?? I think say Na bants.
If you eat unsalted rice, please let me know when I'm visiting oh because if I bite into rice and it's tasteless, wahala oh
There's no reason for any of my mutuals to be following Odanz, If you're following him for whatever reason, let's do ourselves the favour and block each other
And the truth is part of being a good friend is the ability to be honest with your friends and tell them the truth(kindly) even on days they don't want to hear it.
Bread from 450 to 1000
Noodles is now 150 for that smallest pack.
Fuel is now 200
Light units?? Increased prices, lesser units.
Bra?? One bra is now about 15-20k for solid one. You go hold breast for hand.
If you run a food business, you're probably seeing shege.
You people should continue to give grace to "Pick me women" continue thinking that they don't know what they're doing.
Thankful that you all are kind enough for that because I consider those women my enemies.
Good luck to All of you sha
Heck it's almost like everytime I went ahead to pray for something I really wanted, God would take away my chances of getting that thing.
It's funny but I was heartbroken a lot because I truly believed that God was supposed to love everyone equally or so I thought.
Plus if he cannot answers my mother who wholeheartedly believes in him and lives her life for him, then you know say no hope for me.
It breaks my heart to watch my mother pray as believe so much in a God that doesn't rate her.
One Angel fit don burn my file sef but we move sha.
I truly hate when you're doing a talking stage or even casual sex with someone and then they enter a relationship without having the decency to tell you.
It's irritating when you find out months later and you're out there looking like a fool.
I want it to be easy for people to move from as many jobs and Change as many professions until they find something that sticks.
I want it to be okay to have professional life figured out and to just be winging it.
Being exceptional is good but being average should be okay too.
House rent in Delta went up from average 300/400 up to 2 million for a 2 bed.
Building materials don cost.
Cars?? Who born you to dey buy new car???
I better pass my neighbor generator went from 27k to 65k
32" tv is over a 100k from 50k+
I say you people will like bullying.
As a woman the fear that we live with is not okay. This is not a good way to live, you will fear for yourself, fear for your sisters, for your friends and even your unborn daughters.
You are a woman and you know that you're never fully safe regardless of what you do.
Whenever I see misogynists praying not to have daughters, I usually say an Amen out loud. No girl/woman deserves to be fathered by a man who holds strong prejudice against them before they’re even born.
An outright misogynist will tell you that he believes he's the boss of you by virtue of him being a man.
Benevolent misogynist will tell you how in his parents home, his father was considered a King by his mother but his father couldn't breathe without his mothers consent.
It's why I don't fear death or dying. Interesting Abi?? It's because I pray for it and know say as usual, he nor go Kuku answer me.
So maybe I'll be here for a long time.
I don't pray anymore and I wish people stopped talking to me about God and his supposed love.
Again, whatever ideology you decide to follow, find it on your own, question why that is your choice and try not to blindly follow anyone.
Learn, unlearn and grow
So let's talk about Virginity and bleeding.
I've always heard people say "that girl wey say she be virgin, she nor even bleed that first time".
So here are a few things we need to know about the hymen and bleeding