Existential Philosophy but make it Pop Culture. We need to talk about all of these things, and then we must figure out how we are going to heal through it all.
@leesmakeez
@aktion_hank
Stand up and clink a glass and call attention to their table and offer a short thought “We deserve better from you and your friends and you deserve to be uncomfortable in public spaces until you start doing your jobs!”
@thandoau
There is a moment where your actual brain hardens, I don’t know how to explain this but you wake up and you’re much more accustomed to the fact that you have to make decisions each day, that can be ones ‘easier’ if you lead an honest life with enough opportunities and community x
@Sgoloza_Esmehlo
No. Those who were spreaders in their families have felt and will for the rest of their lives feel every element of shame, guilt and misery. You saying it is unnecessary but also a terrible hot take. Awungeni ndawo in the loss experienced by others unless you’re offering empathy
@SbuMpungose
This year grief is attempting to break the human spirit. It is putting on a good fight, but I hope we are all collectively able to not fall apart. I hope there is enough life left in us to carry through this unkind year
Niphole nomndeni wakho Sbu 🤍
@YougottaLoveKaz
I know it sounds so cliche but lento ye-Self Love has saved me from so much of embarrassment. Mina I was the revenge cheat and make you a public joke type but I realized, it is better to take my L, cry, heal and be self-sufficient.
@canonsifiso
@yayahCreative
Having done this, I want to emphasise that aloneness isn’t a purely romantic pursuit of solo dates and such, it usually unearths a lot of trauma related to peoples attachment styles to begin with. You afford yourself the time to really see yourself without deflecting. Worth it!
@bongii_sibeko
and there is a cathartic moment I experienced where a very clear thought popped up that “hey, maybe all of this is so you learn to leave” and the freedom that comes with always knowing that you can pack your heart and leave whenever you are treated less than ideal is beautiful 🤍
As a “dad girl” I believe that although one has a sense of pride for having had a present father with whom a strong bond was possible, there are elements of unkind sentiments you learn to harbour towards women in general if your world view is influenced by your fathers gaze…
@_Motsoaledi
Love is not always loud, some days it is the remembering to boil the kettle for my cup of tea and others it is the extravagance with which you claim me publicly and others it is peaceful and resilient silence and one day you wake up and it’s been seven years too many.
@stha_nxumalo
The first time I did this (I am in fact a woman in tech lol) I jumped around for two minutes 😂😂😂 helps with referencing during work meetings!
@NomzamoMbatha
Zamo, unfortunately this is not enough. Activism is the embodiment of ones politics, one becomes inseparable with their politics. Symbolism means a lot as well to us 'activists' and absent mindedness is one such contradiction to the inherent significance of being an (activ)ist!
@Keney_Tazzy
Also, from personal experience, I will say hypergamy is a myth because one way or another you pay to be in that relationship, either through your own means or your dignity or loss of all control over your own life. It shouldn’t be this glamorised but we pay for everything in life
@__Nonhle
Nonhle you did absolutely everything and I mean everything and so did she. Nothing in this life or next will separate you from the love you crafted between yourself and your daughter. She will forever hover around you and ultimately you will experience love differently. Uphole 🤍
@uLuyanda_Gama
I keep thinking about this. And hearing that MK members were paying from pocket to go around campaigning and getting to voting stations etc? I am afraid this is the closest representation to signatories = n of votes!
I was taken on a breakfast date, kwathiwa please don’t wear those heels uzolokh’ umodela and I literally said ngizokuceba ku
@Zuki_Lamani
🤣 as for why that made so much sense to say angazi haha!
our leader of the taken masses surely!
@KMalatji
People are clearly no-longer interested in even coalition fear mongering. We all know who has festered the decay of our Metros and destroyed all accountability processes that left an open gate for opposition to do what had been done prior. You all need a serious detox from power!
You once had the guestlist for taboo and black door but you’ve always had your own club. You somehow lose interest in managing taboos guestlist then taboo decides to get Tumi213 to do it. You lose your marbles & bring your bouncers to trash their entire bar and Hennessy crates 😭
@I_Kimberraxie
Set very high expectations like a baby savings goal + a lavish push gift so you delay the process but start getting excited for the baby anyway 🥺
@SihleBolani_
1. I spent a greater part of last year working on my toxic traits and 2020 I was gifted a chance to be in a relationship and to experience myself anew.
2. and the most important, I achieved every single thing on my list of manifestations, save for finishing my dissertation.
@neo_sukude
The fact that Mika Stefano was the perfect summary of this entire Era for me has me dying 😭 I’m not nostalgic at all but entertainment was entertaining marn 🥹
@superb_gabstar
@ChloeBailey
@Drake
So she mad because she kept up with his bare minimum ass (flowers, flat strokes) and now he acting fresh with a new chick as if he ain’t serving mid so she’ll go ahead and do him dirty cause that’s what he deserves and she don’t care bout his feelings no more 👩🏾💻🤷🏾♀️
@Waviest_baby
@byebrybry
I am probably one of the fewest humans I know who still refuses to be on anything. I mean it really complicates your sex life but it has taught me so much about accountability, self-control and that men can tow the line, if you draw it hard enough. But it is the hardest line ever
@ThusoMbedu
Beyond this reflection, I hope this isn’t dragged out too long. Until black Twitter has a broader discourse on cancel culture, we will constantly run into these complex traps. And then the disingenuous outrage as though ubucushiwe?
@ThembaN24791294
@lasizwe
Please delete this before it is seen by anybody else. Noone should be as cruel as you are right now to someone in pain. Its a few seconds so redeem yourself please.
@neo_sukude
What I just realised is the warranted anxiety has robbed us of one fun bit in the finding love thing, being genuinely open and also just enjoying dates, without putting pressure on them to signal whether someone is “the one” just go eat and archive the toxic ones immediately 😂😂
Dr Sindi not getting a full experience of Spaces on here is so heartbreaking. I can just imagine her voice and laughter as we went on with our silly ways arg 😩
@AdHabb
Any intellectually honest person would have easily come up with a concept of 'Grave Museums' where all monuments of historically deplorable human beings are kept veiled behind the shame and concept with which their memories should be shrouded. Not them to feature in public spaces
@loki_monster
@DrChaeEd
Be soft with yourself and very intentional about your joy. Take those walks, have that salted caramel ice cream; be open to the possibility that kindness attracts at least one great conversation in a day and build a reference of a sweet life. You’re so so deserving ❤️
It’s almost like indirect internalised misogyny if you may, or on more colloquial terms, your learn very early to mistrust the judgements and decisions of other women as you fight earnestly to gain your fathers approval and that is something we ought to unlearn with time!
@Lebo_G
A new definition of love transformed my understanding of life. Self love or a partner can offer this. When I was able to separate love from obligation, I realised that even when I now give, it is from a place of desire and joy. Long thought: but I hope this love finds you!
@Okay_Wasabi
we need a reaction video please 😭
someone said ‘he has created monsters’ and my fave ‘is’George is killing the youth’
I am officially obliterated 😭🤣
I have always been swallowed by silence, a silence that balances my brilliance in ways even unknown to me. I am surrendering again to that silence until there is something only I could have said in a way that would alter the order of things. I am here, quiet, beautiful and sane —
@snimhlongo
Engathi ungangazihlupha ngo besazi thina. It’s enough that parts of this was publicised to begin with. He doesn’t deserve another moment of your attention or any thought for that matter 🤍
@moahi_karabo
If your nail tech cannot shape your nails they won’t perform magic so start the conversation there, Uhm could you make the ends more thinner, can you shape the sides of the acrylic as well, Uhm will you be able to blend that harsh pink with a neutral cream? Just Talk through it!
@MorganAlexaRose
At first it felt like the point of this post was to expose the dangers of con-artists but this read like a huge gotcha moment for your “friend” and victim shaming doesn’t help create further awareness on such issues. persons like your friend can be wrong and still deserve empathy
@KayNgonyama
The voice speaks in a sense that it feels like I am recalling something someone said a few moments ago. I don’t know if it makes sense but it’s usually somewhere between retrospective presence
It is not enough to be told that you must set boundaries if nobody mentions that you must simultaneously grow comfortable with the notion of disappointing others,
There are people and places yet to earn the grace I have flooded them with, they too must be readjusted. Hard gains—
@NonhleBeryl
Earn your worth syndrome:
Dignity is something that has always been gatekept from Black People, especially in settler colonies. So self worth and even ones life’s purpose becomes to attain this human dignity which translates to access to “reserved” commodities & experiences.
If I am being honest, the only influencer who has my heart. Whom I wish well, I mean publishing deals, Masterclasses, personal educational opportunities for her growth so she can influence with greater insight, every single good is
@ImcocoMash
we need this kind of influencing!
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I will say this again, sometimes people are invested in your growth only to the extent that their proximity to this better version of you actually increases their social capital but never to the extent that it will outgrow their delusion of being at a better footing than you are.
@MorganAlexaRose
I totally get this and I apologise for overlooking your own victimhood and also the safety risk is a huge one. It just really felt so heartbreaking that the person carrying the burden of the circumstances is someone who genuinely was seeking an honest connection. It sucks for all
As a self identified one myself, I must say that a greater part of my healing later on had to be directed towards unpacking all of the secrets I kept on behalf of my father. There was a sense that I couldn’t be an honest lover less I became more honest about the man I loved first
@NalediChirwa
Just. STOP. This is a moment in our broader consciousness that your letter triggered. Your organisation like any other institution is a mirror into our society. Why are you fighting when all women from all walks of life responded with empathy and care? You cannot take this back.
UCT SRC and Extended community, there is nothing as difficult and class specific as organising effective and sustained Protests on campus especially after the first wave of arrests, if you need legal aid and support please get intouch with previous organisers for legal contacts!
@MbaliMkh_
It's the intentional emotional distress that is so so cruel to me. He knew what emotions this will trigger, yet he still does it anyway?
Uxolo for having to feel all that.
@SissGugu
I am really sorry Sis'Gugu, here with my optimism. Well optimism again! I just thought of the book City Girls, and from that I want to say, I hope you live for the flings, enjoy the lights and spark before the main switch goes off 😆. We all, healers especially deserve love too!
We need “the LAW of Fashion” a once in a lifetime one print editorial book of everything Law believes we should know about fashion and all his favourite garments and textures and and and 😭🤍
@sibumabena
I am actually reflecting on how things can still be salvaged with the upcoming election because I was team angiyindawo but now I think I need a little exile (UK lol) before I come back to a fight of a lifetime if things do really go wrong
@Paully_Ms
@Sgoloza_Esmehlo
Nihlulwa yhini to use different phrasing then? Asking people to consider their families if they are still maintaining a social lifestyle? All we can do is caution each other but le yokungena to the point of even speculating cause of death. It’s uncouth and irresponsible.
@Forever_noir_
From time to time I pause my writing and cry about how much I would have been able to produce and bring forth in theory and mathematics had I not been born fighting for my life. This realisation every time my brain stretches breaks my heart even as I think of it now.
@Zenande_Mcfen
This is such a beautiful affirmation. I was thinking the other day that your intentions really find a way to follow you but it’s hard when ones perspective is shaped by their immediate experiences which sometimes suck honestly so thank you for this 🤍
@SatanOarabile
@ThusoMbedu
Oarabile please, you cannot piggyback outrage on equal measure here. The parameters or even timelines of cancel culture are so vague that if you weren’t really clued in that call out week, you’d have just? Treated the S|O as such.
Having to halt your life because a child who had high hopes for a funded degree is now speaking about self harm when the funds don’t come in💔 Niyasilimaza bandla and anazi how deeply these lavish lifestyles zokuntshontsha ruin lives. Arg day ruined let me log off.
I just became the sole Director of my wittle Consulting firm and I have such mixed emotions.
My business partner is such a gem, and to see the amount of entrepreneurs gamble stability over building entities of notable strides is another sign that our economy has much to improve.