I was having this conversation the other day & yep. Allow her to date that goofy little teen, keep eyes on the situation, educate her well + meet his parents before a 20 yr old loser stumbles across her IG & convinces her “she’s mature for her age”
Let ur daughters have a bf her age at her school that you can meet if she wants one because if you leave it to her, she will have a bf, online, that you can’t meet, that’s not her age 🤷🏾♀️
@miacsosa
In other words, “I have low self-esteem, I don’t trust you or my boyfriend so please come as plain Jane as possible so I feel better about the situation.”
All Gabrielle Union said was her ex husband was a cheater who had the audacity the cheat when she was paying all the bills & supporting the household — so she got her lick back. I don’t find anything wrong with her logic.
Some of y’all are insanely dense + insufferable. If you think your child will not have social until 18, you are delusional. You are even more delusional to believe that you will be able to control every move they make regardless of how well you parent.
Also dating and sex aren’t mutually exclusive but a lot of you have low IQs and pervasive thought, either way if you educate your children well they will at least make informed decisions with their bodies.
@djteekz_
There’s a spectrum of effects. Self-esteem issues, poor eating habits, sleep issues, self medicating/substance abuse, hypersexuality. I think people forget that it’s a real “trauma” but unfortunately it’s one of those things that has to be experienced in order to fully understand
@djteekz_
And then as a CHILD you’re thinking about stuff you shouldn’t have been exposed to to begin with and have this weight on your shoulders that’s debilitating. And god forbid you gotta see this person on a regular. Whole life robbed before it got started. That’s tough.
@PulOutNWalkAwaY
@HouseOfHeaux_
They cheating now but instead of leaving Keith Sweat on your voicemail, they’ll tweet Future lyrics. If you gone cheat at least cry damn. Put on a leather two piece in 90 degree weather and shimmy and shit.
@thedayamian
Don’t. You don’t have to, they knew what they were doing and it’s not your job to relieve their guilty conscience. Just place them where they belong indefinitely.
The “men” in the comments showing their mommy issues + empty pockets. Go away. 😂 Not y’all butt hurt b/c a woman said she cheated back and felt no remorse. Go slide down the wall then. If the shoe fits and you got triggered just say that. Therapy is covered through insurance. ❤️
@queenveej
People who consistently scream about how “good they are” are usually the worst ones. You don’t have to advertise what people can easily see.
@kycarrerolopez
Tyra spent all these years talking about Naomi & how her role model crushed her esteem…. When time after time black hopefuls came on her show for guidance and faced self-esteem crushing blows too. She needs to never speak on Naomi again.
Learned from my past that arguing with a narc is always going to make you look like the crazy one b/c they’ve mastered manipulation & can uphold a false image. You’re in the midst of raw emotions while they are maintaining an act. There’s no winning. Just disengage.
Narcissist appear healthy because they’re not confrontational. In fact, being confrontational with a narcissist is something they do not like. It exposes their behaviors, their patterns and cycles. They know what they’re doing and changing is not and option.
@onome_ir
Right. You think you’ll never recover and then one day it magically stops hurting, you stop missing them, you remember they exist but you can’t remember what it felt like to love them.
@Justice_Born
@K_Leinese
🙌🏾🎯 Because how are you going to lead, provide + protect when you can’t stand on your word? How does one deserve submission without being dependable — what is there to submit to?? Lies, betrayal + manipulation? — b/c that’s what comes from a man who can’t keep his word!
@SentFromMarz
He’s definitely not ugly, this is a bad angle. He’s Good looking black man. Melanin, physique, got his own little style…. There’s Nothing ugly about this man.
@spicebae_
I WISH I would have listened in my previous situation. I used to be “can’t no one tell me shit about my man” but sis, if you’re coming respectfully with proof, please let me know. I don’t want to be someone’s dummy. Even if he’s not doing it to me, the fact that he’s capable…😮💨
some people want “low maintenance friendships,” but still want to keep a foot in the door and have access to folks when it’s convenient for them. you can’t build real community like that. there has to be mutual investment, mutual support, mutual respect of boundaries.
@SadityBrat
Them “oops BMs” be the worst. Women who co-parent and go about their lives don’t give a damn about what the father is doing as long as business is handled.
@djteekz_
People really don’t talk about the ramifications of sexual abuse enough. And what’s sad is the healing usually doesn’t occur until adulthood for most people s they maneuver through intimate relationships.
A man saying a woman is emulating anything other than a woman is problematic and I wish y’all would see that as the truth that it is instead of as the attack you’ll take it as.
@liluziheart
@djteekz_
🎯 it’s like a never ending process of discovery and healing. When you get into relationships and then you have children of your own. So many layers. And no one warns you…
@SAlNTRlH
Forgiveness is a gift. Everyone doesn’t deserve that. Especially when your forgiveness is genuine. Otherwise you’ll just be giving it to people who aren’t truly apologetic — to ease their discomfort for their shitty ways. Save forgiveness for people who deserve forgiveness.
Y’all swear people be “fake positive” & have this “no one can be that happy” mindset towards people who consistently appear happy. But the real gag is some people have mastered a “no matter what happens in this life imma thug it out + smile” mindset and that’s a huge power play.
@gaialect
I love my libra man. He’s calm & logical. Always gets me to see things from a different point of view. Explored a lot of layers of myself with him. He’s the protective, provider all of that. I’ve always felt very safe with my libra.
I’ve noticed this, the pick-mes aren’t getting picked and they literally claim that they will do & be everything a man wants — and yet, there’s no man in sight — for miles. Jesus wept.