LDS sexual abuse coverup survivor. Writer. Fan of empathy, common sense, deep/ridiculous conversations. Hold churches accountable 4 abuse.
#ExMormon
#churchtoo
The Mormon Church insists that YOU must REPENT!
-Confess your wrongs
-Express regret
-Apologize
-Commit to change
-Make amends for harm done
Does anyone else find it odd that the LDS Church & its Ldrs do NONE of those things when they harm ppl?
Who's really "Unworthy" here? 🤔
David Archuleta's mom has resigned from the Mormon Church:
"...I was feeling so much pain to see my child suffer so much. I sat in Sac mtg one day & looked around & said to myself, 'God is not here'. How can a loving God be so exclusive?[]God is love!"😭
An INACTIVE LDS sexual abuse survivor began speaking publicly abt her LDS abuse & coverup.
She was called to a disc. council & attended. 8 LDS men verbally demeaned her, disfellowshipped her, & gave her a list of requirements to meet⬇️.
At the end, they asked for hugs. 😒
My elderly Mormon parents were told in patriarchal blessings that they'll live to see the 2nd coming.
Due to their age, they're CONVINCED it's happening soon & have begun spending $$ they don't have, stockpiling food & supplies. It's so sad to see them living w/ this much fear.
Mormons posting abt Sound of Freedom & the horrors of child trafficking…
Also defend when the Mormon church doesn’t report known pedophiles & abuse to the police. 🤔
Pls don’t pretend to care abt “saving the children” while defending/enabling abuse coverups in your own church.
More reasons an LDS Bishop resigned over the pulpit: 🧵
1) As Bishop, he caught a mmbr videoing young girls. He then found out this mmbr had sexually abused kids in the past & the church had swept it under the rug. He called KirtonMcConkie & they allegdly told him to do nothing.
Have you ever thought about how the Mormon Church will kick a teen girl out of a Stake Dance if they think her skirt is “too short”…
But they won’t kick a man out of a church building if they know he’s sexually abused a child? 🤔
Mormon boundaries:
After I left the church, whenever there was a gathering at my parents house, my dad wld call on me to bless the food. It felt manipulative/controlling.
When I finally responded "Pls ask someone else", he had an epic, angry meltdown in front of everyone there🙃
The fact that so many mmbrs switched overnight from being proud to be a Mormon, to believing the nickname “Mormon” is offensive…
Shows just how effective the Mormon church is at manipulating members thinking & instilling a sense of persecution.
If an LDS woman stands & says the Church enabled/covered up sexual abuse in the ward & she NEEDS to warn you
but she's told to sit
& mmbrs 1st instincts are to drown out her voice & assault a woman filming
Maybe LDS women don't actually have "the power" that the church claims.
"It's legal"... is now the moral bar for the Mormon Church.
How dare they shame members while they unapologetically fight to be able to cover-up child sexual abuse.
Growing up Mormon in the 80s, caffeinated soda (c.s.) was a sin!
-I recall a church talk that drinking 1% c.s. was still a sin
-My father SCREAMED at me for drinking a Coke
-If we accidentally bought c.s., we threw it away
Then one day in 2017, drinking c.s. was suddenly A-OK.😒
Mormon God loves sexual abuse coverups SO MUCH that He's chosen a Kirton McKonkie sexual abuse attorney... who fights LDS abuse victims in court to ensure they get NOTHING from the $120BIL church that harmed them... to be a GA.
LDSGod despises abuse victims who dare to speak up.
The First Presidency has called Alexander Dushku to be a General Authority Seventy. Elder Dushku will be sustained at the October 2023 general conference.
The Mormon Church, apparently:
“We believe in calling the police & legal consequences for:
✅ A hungry man stealing our chicken nuggets
✅ A freezing man breaking into a temple to escape the cold
🚫 A pedophile confessing he’s sexually abused LDS children”
2023 Mormons: The church never had a problem w/ caffeine! Caffeinated soda is fine, but coffee is BAD!
1965 Mormon 1st Presidency: Coffee is fine, as long as there's no caffeine. 🤔
✴️Bombshell✴️in the new Netflix Scouts Honor doc:
Not only did the Mormon Church coverup their own BSA abuse cases, they played a role in BSA not implementing child safety practices for ALL Boy Scouts.
Why is the Mormon Church paying NOTHING of the $2.5 Billion BSA settlement?
Man voted “opposed” at GenConf & reportedly is met by church security as he left, pressing for name&stake info.
Notable in video: How hard he’s breathing w/ anxiety to just vote his conscience.
Shows how mmbrs aren’t allowed to speak abt church issues.
If my Mormon parents had invested 10% of their income into helping me after I was sexually abused instd of paying the LDS Church…
The church wld still have $120+BIL today AND I would’ve felt loved, supported, important & I’d have rec’d life-changing help. 🤔
Choose your kids.
In 1992, I was a suicidal teen after the Mormon Church had enabled & covered up my sexual abuse by a church ldr.
When Sinead O’Connor ripped up the Pope’s picture, it gave me my 1st glimmer of hope that anyone in the world cared.
People & moments like this save lives. RIP.
in 1992, sinead o’connor shocked the producers of SNL when at the end of her performance, she tore up a photo of the pope to protest child sex abuse in the church. her career was totally derailed and the church’s abuse did not re-enter the national spotlight for another 10 years
In the Mormon Church, families are forever! 👼
Unless you/your child is gay
Or you drink coffee
Or you don't wear the right underwear
Or you get married outside their temple
Or you don't pay them 10% of your income
Or you say anything critical of the church on social media
Or...
LDS Church: “There is no other religious organization in the world, that I know of, that has so broadly given power and authority to women.���
Also the LDS Church:
#GeneralConference
LDS "clergy" who knew my abuser had sexually abused MANY kids... but who never reported it to the police.
At LEAST:
4 Bishops
3 Stake Presidents
24+ men from 2 separate disciplinary councils
4 General Authorities
LDS 1st Presidency (at the time)
LDS Abuse Coverup is systemic!
Just listened to an LDS Bishop, w/ a tearful, shaky voice, describe the LOVE that filled the room when a pedophile told 15 LDS men he was sorry.
Mormon men really think they're doing somethng special when they forgive pedos & then put ward kids in danger.
PROTECT MORMON MEN! /s
I believe sexual abuse & coverup in the Mormon Church is beyond that of the Catholic Church.
Why do we hear more abt Catholic abuse? B/C CATHOLICS WON'T STAND FOR IT, BUT MORMONS DO! Mormons will "do what they're told" by church ldrs, even when it goes against their own morals.
Here's ONE of the reasons a Mormon Bishop resigned from the pulpit:
The $150+ Billion LDS Church "robs" ppl who don't have two pennies to rub together.
That moment you realize the Mormon church's moral compass for helping sexually abused kids in their congregations isn't "Choose The Right" or "Do What Is Right, Let The Consequence Follow"...
Their moral compass is "Unapologetically, do the bare minimum required by state law."
Ever notice how in the Mormon church, it’s always male church ldrs w/ POWER talking about how great the church handles abuse?
Have you EVER heard a Mormon sexual abuse victim say they’re happy the church covered up their abuse & didn’t report? Never.
FAIR = LDS abuse apologists
My LDS parents physically cringe when I say the word "Mormon", but say nothing about me using the word.
After raising me as "Mormon" & referring to ourselves as "Mormons" for 18+ yrs, they must realize how absurd it'd be to tell me the word suddenly became "offensive" one day.
The Mormon Church sent two GA's/lawyers to talk to sex-abuse-coverup victims in my ward. NOTHING was offered to help victims,except a prayer.
The entire mtg was focused on how WE need to forgive&help our abuser (a serial pedo who USED the church to access kids), get rebaptizd.🤔
✴️AP Bombshell✴️It appears the LDS Church tried to pay $300k to get rid of evidence they've LIED in LDS abuse court cases, claiming they keep no records of abuse helpline calls.
In the recordings, they say they can check helpline records, contradicting their court testimony.
✴️The Mormon Church has settled a sexual abuse lawsuit for $1 million.
Allegedly, the victim was sexually abused for 9 YEARS by her stepdad & told her LDS Bishops... who didn't report it & used intimidation & shaming tactics to keep her quiet.
The church denies any wrongdoing.
✴️LDS GA Harold Hillam, BYU's Honor Code Office, & LDS therapist Jodi Hildebrandt seemingly all conspired to destroy the life of a BSA/LDS abuse whistleblower.
The corruption shown in this podcast is🤯.
Must-see clips in 🧵since podcast is 6 hrs.
Steed describes the coverups:
The Mormon Church has pushed LDS parents to choose the church/teachings over their own child's well-being for decades.
There are a hell of a lot of LDS children who grew up knowing that their parents' love was absolutely conditional on them being a "good Mormon".
Mormonism: The LDS man who sexually abused me for 6 yrs is on track to go to the Celestial Kingdom w/ God.
He:
🚫Apologized
🚫Took accountability
🚫Provided restitution
✅Gave a Bishop warm, fuzzy feelings to rebaptise him
✅Paid the LDS Church $$ instd of helping his victims
Another important article!
UT therapist says 90% of the abuse cases he sees are linked to the Mormon Church...& the church didn't report ANY of the offenders to the police.
The implications of this are huge. Your children aren't safe in the LDS Church!
🧅: UT Passes Social Media Law Stating Teens May Only Be Groomed In Person By Religious Leaders
“We believe that intrusive questions about a teen’s sexuality should be asked behind closed doors by a bishop—not on some social media site by a stranger.”
✴️BREAKING✴️LDS Stake Pres, Rhett Hintze (PA), has been charged w/ a felony for "FAILURE TO REPORT" child rape allegations against an LDS Bishop. He cld face 7 yrs in prison.
The SP allegedly knew abt allegations 2 YRS before the Bishop was arrested. SP was a mandated reporter.
More deception from the LDS Church.
Pilot program: No-name-tag, no-tie LDS missionaries befriending ppl on the street, & not telling them they're LDS missionaries in the INITIAL/1st contact.
Is it too much to ask the LDS Church not to deceive ppl?
Breaking: Mormon Bishopric Counselor, Byron Wiscombe (ID), sentenced to 3-33 yrs in prison for felony lewd conduct w/ a child.
See his surprise statement & the heartbreaking victim impact statement in🧵.
15+ LDS men knew a child in their ward had been sexually abused & did NOTHING to help her.
The LDS Church could've stepped up & said, "We did the morally wrong thing. We're sorry. Pls let us do everything we can to help you." Instd, they chose to hurt the kids further.
My Mormon parents considered me "rebellious" growing up. It's almost laughable. To any other regular family, I would've been considered a dream child.
What % of LDS "troubled teens" are just regular kids who didn't want their entire lives dictated by the Mormon Church?
That moment a member realizes the Mormon Church lets "secret pedophiles" roam the church w/ their kids, & then gets threatened to keep quiet.😬
Most Mormons won't care abt this issue until it affects their own kids. Even then, most will do mental gymnastics to defend the church.
After yrs of peace, my Mormon mom chose violence*
*Demanded I go back to church (where my abuse was enabled/covered up), so I can go to Heaven.
I know she's acting out of fear but it still hurts. The message I rec'd is that 'exMormon me' will never be enough for her.🧵
The Mormon Church uses women… to convince other women members… that Mormon misogyny is good/righteous/“of God”.
This TikTok compilation is peak *cringe*. (2-part video due to length)
Part 1:
TikTok:
@bj_the_lamanite
LDS Church, constantly: "Our 1st priority is to help victims!"
LDS Area Auth. be like: 'If you talk abt your LDS abuse coverup, we'll EX you. This is a threat. Get over it! We're not going to help you. Stop being bitter we enabled your abuse! YOU need to make restitution w/ us.'
AZ lawsuit is challenging the constitutionality of the LDS Church's "clergy privilege" to NOT report child sexual abuse.
And...the Mormon church is fighting to keep its "privilege" to hide sexual abuse & leave all kids in danger of LDS-secret-pedophiles.
Do you guys ever think about how over 50% of women will experience sexual violence at some point…
Yet the Mormon Church completely excludes women from making ANY decisions or policies or input on how the church should handle LDS sex offenders?
Are you really a “private person”?
Or did you grow up in a Mormon family/community, where everythng you said & did was judged & despite your best efforts, you were never ‘good enough’, so you learned it’s safer & less painful to just be invisible &keep everythng secret. Just me?
No, Mormon men shouldn’t get a free pass to sexually abuse children “once” w/o being reported.
LDS Bishops shouldn’t be able to cover-up ‘a little’ sexual abuse of a child.
It’s terrifying how the LDS church justifies coveringup CSA & then mmbrs just adopt it as rational/moral.
The LDS Church has started a global "Finding Lost Mmbrs" initiative & training.
They REALLY want you back & will go to great lengths to FIND you, but don't expect them to FIX any issues that caused you to leave.
You can leave the church, but they can't leave you alone! /s
An AZ judge has tossed out the LDS Paul Adams sexual abuse case, where 2 Bishops failed to report known sexual abuse.
The Mormon Church is "pleased" & feels NO responsibility for enabling a known predator to sexually abuse two kids for YRS.
Mormon Church: "Our 1st priority is to stop abuse & help victims!"
Yet they:
-Didn't report McConkie's grandson to police, even though they were "shocked" by his confession
-Enables kid(s) to be assaulted for 10+yrs
-Made alleged abuser a Stake Pres
-When caught, have no comment
The Mormon Church claimed "the Church has had ALMOST NO child abuse problem w/ its clergy".
Floodlit, posting only publicly-documented cases they've found-to-date, shows the LDS Church was clearly lying.
83 Bishops + all the other listed church ldrs isn't "almost none".
LDS Church:
"We ex'd a pedo!😇
...But we won't report to police. Or testify. Or warn/tell anyone. Or protect kids in his path. Or ask if there are more victims, as met alone w/ LDS kids. Or help victims w/o a signed NDA & deleted files.
We have zero tolerance!"
#LightTheWorld
Can someone explain why, in UT courts:
An LDS Bishopric Cnslr, who used his position of authority to groom/sext a minor (w/ text evidence)...
Would get a plea deal reducing his sentence from a potential 15 YRS in jail to only 60 DAYS?
#LDSPredatorsAreProtected
✴️BYU Professor charged w/ 7 felonies, incl. forcible sexual abuse, just got a plea agreement for 3 misdemeanors.😠
Alleged forcible sexual abuse & 3 victims got him:
-2 yrs probation
-comm. service
-counseling on boundaries!
UT protects LDS men.😒
Breaking: LDS Elder's Quorum President, James Toliver Craig, has been arrested for poisoning his wife / murder (Aurora, CO).
Bishop counsels the ward to not answer questions from the public / refer them to the Stake President.
✴️McConkie Sex Abuse Case Update:
McConkie confessed an "inappropriate sexual act w/ a child" to a church ldr in 2008! Yet he allegedly abused a child until 2013 & he was SP from 2016-2021.
Is this yet another LDS abuse coverup, protecting the Apostle's grandson over LDS kids?
Step 2 is my Gen Conf prediction.
LDS Teen Retention Plan:
-Step 1: Get UT to limit social media for minors
-Step 2: GenConf talk abt the harms of social media & urging parents to remove/limit/monitor kids' social media. (Bonus pts if TikTok or Reddit are directly mentioned.)
The Mormon Church is SCARED of young mmbrs hearing any outside info or point of view.
Instd of being more transparent & more Christlike to inspire youth to stay, they try to keep them through hiding info & exerting control.
An act of desperation.
How many times have you heard a Mormon abuse victim say:
-The church didn't report my abuser BUT
-They removed me from danger AND
-They got me the help I needed AND
-They protected everyone in danger of him AND
-They helped the pedophile AND
-He never reoffended.
NEVER.
Pls be aware: The Mormon Church argued in court that it's "Reasonable & Necessary" for the church to NOT report a known child predator, "per the concepts of the religion".
When the church tells you who they are, believe them! Your children ARE NOT SAFE in the Mormon Church!
LDS women: "LDS-assigned underwear gives us yeast infections & UTI's."
LDS Church, seemingly:
"The all-male LDS ldrship is dismayed when you women choose your own underwear. YOU SHLD KNOW BETTER. We don't GOF abt your convenience! Suffer w/ infections & prove your commitment!"
UT lawmakers claim they're so worried abt protecting minors from phones, while simultaneously helping the LDS Church keep actual pedophiles secret from the police & the congregations.
This isn't abt protecting kids. It's abt limiting their access to outside info abt the church.
A minor confided in her Mormon Bishop abt a man sexually assaulting her.
The LDS Bishop didn't ask abt the man or consent or if she was OK or safe.
He blamed her for wearing a tank top, saying, "If you dress like you're in a porno mag, you'll make these things happen to you."😠
The Mormon Church helped a pedophile sexually abuse me (covered-up his prior abuses, gave him positions of trust, warned no one)…
Then, not only did the Church do NOTHING to help me, they also took $$ from my scraping-by parents & my abuser & POCKETED IT, instd of helping me.
@sltrib
They know if they can control your underwear & get you comfortable with the church making uncomfortable decisions for you… they can control every other aspect of your life.
What a crazy coincidence that LDS temple changes related to “consent” are being made at the SAME exact time a high-profile ex-Mormon memoir is released, where the author talks about how culty the temple is. 🤔
Mormons: "Jesus is offended when you don't call us 'The Church of Jesus Christ...'"
Jesus: "I'm offended that you call yourself a 'Church of Jesus Christ'":
RMN: LDS women have an ENHANCED moral compass & discernment & detect deception!
LDS woman:
Great! Can we...
-participate in discplnry councils for sex offenders?
-create church policy re: SO's?
-decide if SO's shld remain in wards?
-make changes to keep LDS kids safe?
RMN: No
Therein lies the problem. In the Mormon Church, the only way to disagree w/ church ldrs is to leave the church.
In Mormonism, disagreeing w/ church ldrs = “hate”. There’s no way to ever be heard or say something is harmful or ask for change. They want you to leave & be silent.
If you tell your Mormon Bishop you’re in financial trouble, he’ll seek out your estranged family & tell them about it,
w/o your consent.
If you tell a Mormon Bishop you sexually abuse children, suddenly it becomes highly confidential & he’ll keep all your secrets. 🤔
On an all-girls hike w/ the LDS Church in HOT SoCal, I was abt to pass-out from heat. I knotted my t-shirt, exposing my stomach for air.
YW Ldr yelled I was being immodest & stopped the hike til I put my shirt down.
Me: But we’re all girls?
Her: God sees you & is disappointed.
Kids are NOT safe in the LDS Church. A perfect example:
-Bishop is told that Darrell is "too friendly" w/ kids
-Mmbrs witness Darrell sexually abuse a child
-He's allowed to keep attending
-Darrell arrested for alleged abuse of 2nd LDS child
-Former Bishop gives court statement:
The LDS Church won its AZ Supreme Court fight to keep the confession of a dead pedophile secret, proving who the church actually values & protects...THEMSELVES.
In Mormonism, confessed pedophiles in your wards, interacting w/ your kids, is "sacred info".
Are Mormons aware that per the LDS church, it's CHURCH DOCTRINE to NOT report confessed pedophiles to police?
-Did the Church lie abt church doctrine to win a lawsuit against abused children?
-Or is it CHURCH DOCTRINE to leave secret pedo's in LDS churches, mingling w/ families?
✴️New!✴️ Son of LDS Child-Rapist-Bishop says:
The Mormon church quietly ex'ed his dad, but never told/warned his FAMILY he'd confessed to raping kid(s), & let his dad attend LDS events w/ kids for 2 yrs w/ NO warning to mmbrs (who still viewed him as a trusted prior-Bishop).🧵
Mormon church asked 12-15 yr old boys to commit to serving a mission w/ a signed document, also signed by the Stake Presidency.
"We will keep this copy"... (to emotionally manipulate you with when you later decide you don't really want to go.)
✴️NEW✴️Mormon Church recklessly put LDS kids in danger of a sex offender orig charged w/ 24+ sex offenses.
The Church said he'd be ESCORTED on Church property & have no-contact w/ kids, yet a member shot a picture/video of him sitting w/ a young girl in the back pew.
THEN...🧵
Want to see how truly UNSAFE your kids are in the LDS Church?
The LDS SP kept a Bishop's prior abuse secret for yrs. When Bishop was arrested, SP resisted telling mmbrs their Bishop (who'd met alone w/ LDS kids for 4 yrs) had abuse allegations.
Fascinating to read w/ hindsight.
In Mormonism, members are required to be transparent and honest, while the church refuses to do the same.
After the 60 Minutes interview, Mormon Bishop interviews should go like this:
The Mormon Church can & DOES conceal crimes against children.
If LDS, how do you reconcile:
Your church paid major $$ to fight actual LDS abuse coverup victims, who's abuse they enabled, so they can keep concealing CSA, leaving secret pedophiles in your wards. Think abt that!
@Ch_JesusChrist
@AP
Pls stop lying. You don't care about LDS abuse victims.
The LDS Church didn't report a confessed pedo, enabling him to abuse 15+ more LDS kids, incl. me. Then you claimed you had "no duty" to report/protect.
Still waiting for the LDS Church to care abt the devastation caused.
Isn't it so wild that out of the MILLIONS of good, faithful Mormons in the world...
God conveniently picked the current LDS Prophet's son-in-law to hold one of the top leadership positions in the church? 🤔
Good morning to everyone except the LDS “Church of Jesus Christ”, who collects money from the poor…
& then pays the most prestigious/expensive U.S. law firms to defend themselves against LDS church ldrs who allegedly sexually assault children.
The LDS Church wants you to believe that SATAN is behind LDS women wondering why they can't have more ldrshp & influence in the church.
The answer is always that YOU are wrong!...There's never an issue in the LDS Church to be fixed. These clips have the same manipulative energy.
In 2 yrs, mmbr defense of LDS CSA cases has gone from:
“The church ALWAYS reports abuse!How dare you say otherwise!” to..
“The church is perfect, but sometimes Bshps make mistakes/don’t report” to..
“It’s LEGAL for the church to protect pedos & hide sexualabuse of LDS kids!🖕”
This one hits hard.
These videos make me cry, so clearly I still need to grieve the life, experiences, & family I could’ve had if Mormonism & its harm wasn’t an overwhelming factor.
🧵 - 2 parts due to length.