A person DM'd me to say I must care more about science than students (because I shared the trigger warning meta-analysis that shows TWs don't help).
Let me fix that for you: I care more about science than I do about FALSELY APPEARING to care about students. Sheesh.
“Because it feels fun” is not an alternative to an evolutionary explanation!
Sex can feel fun.
Making friends can feel fun.
Winning status can feel fun.
Better question: Why do some activities feel fun (or generate behavior consistent w those feelings)?
@TheAtlantic
Excited to say:
I've won the
#NSFCAREER
Award to work on FRIENDSHIP!
My lab will investigate the computational design of friendship---how people, e.g., find, make, keep friends.
We'll also emphasize science communication! Stay tuned for calls join us in Psychology
@UCLA
!
Thing you probably knew about Zoom being hard gets empirical support!
Cool new paper in JEP:G zeroes in on how Zoom disrupts the turn-taking fundamental to conversation...
(likely via transmission delays➡️neural oscillators helping us time turn-taking)
Love doing mid-term course evals, but sometimes you just get the chef's kiss of 💩:
"I don't come to the class, and I don't participate. But this course is way too hard. I don't understand anything."
"Why do we have to focus so much on social psychology?" (It's social psych.)
Our paper is out in Psych Science!
In 6 experiments, we detail a stereotype at odds w narratives of progress toward gender equality: Americans believe women (but not men) who have casual sex have low self-esteem. It is pervasive, robust, unfounded.
A🧵
Imagine two "obese" women: One has weight in her hips + thighs; the other in her abdomen. Are they equally stigmatized?
In work just accepted at SPPS we (me Steve Neuberg) focus on an under-explored variable in fat stigma: BODY SHAPE
() A🧵on the work...
My social psych lab has moved to UCLA, + we're looking for driven graduate student applicants!
More on the *NEW* UCLA Social Minds Lab👇
Please RT + share with your students!
Had a paper rejected with 2 good reviews.
We put data to a phenomenon for the 1st time. Really described it.
It was rejected bc we didn’t also show *why* it happened in the same paper (not JPSP).
(1) Descriptive data are valuable
(2) Not all papers should need to do it all…
Out today in Nature Human Behaviour, we explore possible adaptive benefits of ‘concealed’ ovulation in an agent-based model of an ancestral environment:
Might concealing ovulation have helped females avoid intrasexual aggression + its costs? A quick 🧵
Women actively defend themselves against same-sex aggression. Women perceived as sexually permissive +/or desirable attract more same-sex aggression. We show women are aware of this + some might
#DressDefensively
to avoid other women's slings + arrows.
How are we not talking about this new work on "guy's girls"?
Women who prefer male friends held more hostility towards + expected more aggression from other women
Other women (but not men) distrust + hold negative views of women who prefer male friends
Officially out in
@EvolHumBehav
:
You don't want the friends you think you do.
You want friends who are nice...but nicer to you than to others, AND...
Sometimes you want friends to be👹MORE VICIOUS👹than kind--when friends direct it toward your rivals.
My partner + I said goodbye to Twichard Dogkins today. He was 15, had been returned by 3 families before us, + still peed everywhere till the end.
If I Zoomed with you, he was on the desk next to me. Maybe you heard him snoring.
I miss him so much. Please hug your dogs for me.
Wooow. NSF reviews for a proposal on fat stigma are back.
Apparently, recent body acceptance movements mean that fat stigma---and specifically biases toward certain shapes---are probably less of a problem now.
Cool. I'll let everyone know.
Our work on friendship jealousy is in JPSP!
Feeling jealous when friends make new friends is probably NOT due to evils of Western capitalism, immaturity, or being a bad person.
Rather, friendship jealousy might actually help us hang on to valued pals.
New evolutionary econ work on gender + competition!
Women are as competitive as men when the incentive structure is made relevant to women—here including the option to cooperate post win, which can minimize costs of “seeming superior“
-Cassar + Rigdon
New in Psych Science: Parents' political persuasions influence how their kids punish.
In 269 3y/o-8y/o kids
- parental conservatism --> punish OUTgroup members
- parental liberalism --> punish INgroup members
Choosing not to have kids? 🙅♀️👶
In new work out in Social Psychology "...exploratory findings suggested that perceivers who intend to have children of their own perceive the childfree as morally inferior and less likable..."
Full paper:
Cool new work (!) on perceptions of bisexuality...
It's consistent with the idea that people think of men's sexuality like a switch (gay or straight) + women's like a continuum...
It hurt.
I’m sure it was well-intended. But essentializing a wide group of people + acting as if we're ALL the jerks you see on social media?
This (also) hurts some really great + often career-vulnerable folks trying to do good science--incl my students (real people/not jerks)
Less of this folks. Certainly there's bad ev psych, but it's a broad church.
Any anthropologists wanting to know what 'broad church' means should do a quick literature search on the topic of our own history...
Accepted at Psych Science!
We---my grad student Devanshi Patel, me
@ME_Stout
,
@dr_jbc
,
@Dr_MistyHawkins
---show that (1) parents of children with higher weights are stigmatized (deemed bad parents).
(2) We test + support an attribution theory model for WHY...
A short 🧵
Revision accepted at Psych Science! W
@jordan_w_moon
@ahra_ko
Michael Varnum. To unabashedly toot our own horns, from R5, it “got the tone exactly right for a paper on stereotypes and gender. It’s politically dispassionate but emphatic about the importance of the topic and data.”
Our preprint is up! Across 6 experiments, findings suggest the existence of a pervasive, robust (but seemingly unfounded) stereotype that women (but not men) who have casual sex have low self-esteem.
Our preprint is up! Across 6 experiments, findings suggest the existence of a pervasive, robust (but seemingly unfounded) stereotype that women (but not men) who have casual sex have low self-esteem.
Junior grad student: How can one person read all of these great papers?!
Senior grad student: How can one person do all of these great study ideas?!
Assistant Professor: How can one person read all of these g*ddamn emails?!
Misogynistic tweets predict domestic/family violence 1 year later.
New in Psych Science:
@KhandisBlake
+ co examine the relationship between the fq of misogynistic attitudes expressed on Twitter + incidents of domestic/family violence across 47 States.
NEW PAPER ALERT!
Women use some distinct tactics of intrasexual aggression--like directing disgust expressions at women they want to avoid.
In response, women (but not men) (1) interpret women's disgust faces as cuing exclusion; (2) report⬆️er hurt--esp women w⬆️Need to Belong
It’s nearly job market time—and grad interviews, etc.—so here’s a thread on clothes as a big girl.
1) Wear what makes you feel comfortable + what fits NOW.
2) You’ll likely have to shop online. If you can, get multiple sizes.
3) So plan early.
4) But from where?👇
New work suggests women + men 'use' different brain mechanisms to exact revenge.
Women: controlled semantic memory retrieval + novel re-combination of social/relationship information. Men: automatic motor-related imagery facilitating physical revenge.
Seen a lot of posts lately about work/life balance + evils of academia. I’m not denying their existence for many (+ some disproportionately), but I also want prospective
#phds
to know this: My work is to play w ideas + talk to smart people. That’s a great life!
#AcademicChatter
New in Emotion: DOGS!
A small group of dog-owners did a stress task + were assigned to (a) interact w their dog vs. (b) an expectancy or (c) waiting control.
Ps w their dogs had increased positive affect + reductions in anxiety (ds > 0.72, ps < .018).
.
@OCEAN_OKState
team science out today in a special issue of Frontiers on sex/gender + status.
Humans benefit from recognizing who has status. What cues do we use to do that? It depends on target sex/gender...
(+ twitter-free Laureon Merrie not tagged)
Here’s an idea: Plenty of people are what we might call sub-clinically lonely. Like people who are trying to find friends but can’t.
If we knew more about how friendship works—how people, e.g., find, make, keep friends—we could help foster friendships.
According to work in my field, attitudes toward abortion are not necessarily driven by what we say they are (on the left or the right).
They're not (solely) driven by abstract political ideologies or religion.
At the heart of the debate is a conflict over sexual strategies...
I’ve joined the Editorial Board of Human Nature.
Doing work on evo, bio + sociological processes wrt human behavior? Demographic consequences of human history? Cross-cultural, -species, + historical perspectives on human behavior?
Send us your work!
A thread on incredibly thorough meta-analysis that would seem to finally put trigger warnings out of their—and our—misery…
…at least for anyone whose standards of evidence are, you know, scientific (versus about the feels).
We just released a meta-analysis on the efficacy of trigger warnings, content warnings, and content notes (preprint).
Here's a short 🧵 explaining the results with graphs and figures.
I handed in my keys yesterday. Goodbye, Oklahoma State.
And since we’re in the pretend last throes of Twitter, when we apparently roast everything with an honesty previously reserved only for WhatsApp, let me say this about my former department…
New in JPSP: In 45 countries,⬇️belief in human evolution was asso w⬆️prejudice, racist attitudes, + support for discrimination v LGBTQ, Black ppl, immigrants.
Even controlling for relig+poli. Even AMONG nondominant groups (religious + racial minorities).
Just accepted---NEW friendship work from
@JessicaDAyers
, me, +
@AthenaAktipis
!
Some are loyal (but tight-lipped). Some gossip (but are shifty).
How do people make tradeoffs wrt friend preferences?And what traits are luxuries vs. necessities?
Preprint:
New in Emotion---and consistent with evolutionary models of friendship---work led by
@lanser_psych
shows that...
doing nice things for other people can decrease one's own loneliness!
DOI:10.1037/emo0001179
Friendships are so important—as are articles like this, which underscore that fact.
But articles like this also make it incredibly clear how little we know about how people form friendships (or keep friendships, or lose friendships, or make closer ones).
Hey Academic Twitter, I have an incredible undergraduate looking into PhD programs that would allow a dual focus in Quant + Social Psychology (for next cycle).
Do those w. experience in these programs have advice, wisdom, names of folks this student should reach out to? Thanks!
Doug Kenrick has a new book—out on evolutionary social psychology, the fundamental social motives, + living the good life.
This man is the best writer! Check it out here:
Why do females (vs. males) consistently score higher in Neuroticism?
In 2 pre-registered studies now in Psych Science,
@NicholasTKerry1
+
@DamianMurray1
find sex differences in "physical capital" drive sex differences in the anxiety facet of Neuroticism.
Just accepted at SPPS,
@jordan_w_moon
, me +
@AdamBCohen1
explore👌positive stereotypes👌about atheists .
In 3 experiments (N=1181), we find people view atheists (vs. believers) as fun, open-minded, + scientific--even as people possess anti-atheist bias.
Great lineup of plenaries for
#HBES2024
Aarhus: keynote by Brian Nosek, plenaries by Dorsa Amir, Lisa Feldman Barrett, Nicolas Baumard, Judith Maria Burkart, Joseph Carroll, Jaimie Krems, & Manvir Singh! Submit abstracts by Feb 1st, Early Reg. by March 31:
Just accepted at
@EvolHumBehav
:
What do we want in friends?
It depends. Our friends interact w *other* people + that can affect us...
We want friends to behave differently to us + differently to different ppl
Short🧵
w
@RandomMutations
Laureon Merrie
@kegwilliams
@dsznycer
I'm just going to say it. For me:
Work is play. I LOVE IT. I cannot believe that I get to do research (+ solve the mysteries of the mind + mentor the next generation, etc).
I understand + respect that others don't feel that way for many reasons. Please don't yell at me.
Proud academic parent moment over here.
Laureon Merrie just submitted* her first JPSP---challenging + extending Balance Theory---w me +
@dsznycer
. (It's also my first grad student-led JPSP!)
Hell yes, submissions are worth celebrating!
Revision
#6
(finally a conditional acceptance) is in---at a journal that some of my twitter pals are telling me should eat poo + die. And now all I have to do is the work I've been avoiding...and also renovate a house + move into it in the next week. Cool. Current mood:
I respect the author hugely, but much is off in this new paper on evolutionary accounts + policy--and on a basic level.
Perhaps I'm missing something? I'm happy to be wrong.
Maybe
@ed_hagen
@SpeciesTypical
@LaithAlShawaf
@lieberman_deb
can weigh in.
A🧵
Something to look forward to: The 19th Annual Evolutionary Psychology Preconference @ SPSP! (Feb 11th)
@michael_barlev
, Will McAuliffe, + I aim to take advantage of the virtual nature of SPSP to make a great, more global event!
Stay tuned:
#EP2021
JUST ACCEPTED in
@EvolHumBehav
:
1st author + new PhD Dr. Laureon Merrie is on🔥!
How do we feel about people who also love our friends, spouses or also hate our rivals?
Our Embedded Dyad Framework outperforms classic Balance Theory.
A🧵
Pre-print:
NEW in Developmental Psychology:
*TINKERING* is a pathway to innovation.
Of 129 4-12 y/o kids, kids were more successful at making challenge-solving tools when they kept more components from their failed tools + tinkered (added more novel objects).
SO EXCITING! I got to talk to
@dr_fraga
+ the
@nytimes
about my friendship jealousy research (w
@kegwilliams
, Laureon Merrie, Doug Kenrick, +
@AthenaAktipis
).
The great Mark Leary's in it, too!
Jealousy Doesn’t Have to Ruin a Friendship
Some work suggests that having 💕pet names💕 for our romantic partners (e.g., sweet pea, cantankerous little cheesebat*) is linked to marital satisfaction.
Out of curiosity, does anyone use pet names / nicknames for **friends**?
Let me know what you know!
*Yes, this is me.
Huge CONGRATS to
@DouglasTKenrick
+
@LundbergKenrick
for the
@SPSP
Book Prize
This prize is a awarded to an outstanding book written by a psychologist that makes a distinctive + important contribution to promoting an understanding of our science
First-gen PhDs, what’s most🤯to you about the academy?
Me:
Academics know best that uni prestige≠personal talent. We’ve MET talented+not ppl @ EVERY uni.
But we still use uni name prestige like it means something (eg >2of3 Harvard Psych faculty went to the same~5 grad schools)
Exciting to hang out with the folks
@UCDavisPsych
today to talk about friendship. (Technically, Friendship + the supra-dyadic nature of challenges in close relationships.)
WE NEED MORE FRIENDSHIP RESEARCH...+ I'll be looking for grad students this coming cycle!
Cross your fingers for my NSF CAREER Award!
The gist: To have friends, we must solve challenges (find, make, keep them). These challenges are not only dyadic (get friend to like me); they're also supra-dyadic (get friend to like me > other friends).
TLDR: It's rough out there.
Whereas I appreciate the attention to the research…FFS, Daily Mail.
Roughly 50% of participants were men.
But your headline is: “The Mean Girls effect: Women enjoy it when their friends are nasty towards people they dislike”.
And even👆isn’t right.🤦♀️
I'm going to give a talk on FRIENDSHIP!
Come see it @ the Evolutionary (Social) Psychology Pre-conference @ SPSP.
But really, I'll know that you're just there for the a STELLAR series of speakers! 🤩 Holy moly! 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇
Not complaining about the journal etc. Many factors go into these decisions. I❤️why questions.
Rather, after inspiring convos, I want to underscore the value of descriptive work (esp when starting somewhere new, describing something new).
I wish we acknowledged its value more
Incredibly honored to be named a rising star. HBES was my first conference and it has always been my home. Many years later, it is deeply meaningful to me to be recognized by this society
Hooray! Our
@SESPcon
symposium (
@DrMeltemYucel
,
@steverathje2
,
@nicolehhess
, + me)---From children’s gossip to partisan Twitter: How communication affects speakers, targets, and listeners---was accepted!
See you in Madison, WI!
So data consistently disprove the Freudian catharsis explanation for why people vent. Venting doesn’t make us less angry.
If you’re curious why we might vent to each other—and why it feels so good—tune into my talk at
#HBES2022
today at 4pm eastern.
WHY DO WOMEN CHEAT?
Multi-national quant/qual retrospective study tested between theories (n=254 cheaters).
Some support for dual mating (women want affair partner's good genes + current partner's good parenting), challenges to mate-switching hypothesis
NEW PAPER online in EHB from
@awiezel
,
@michael_barlev
, Christopher Martos, &
@DouglasTKenrick
!
Despite alpha male/dominant leader stereotypes, people often prefer women leaders,---esp insofar as those leaders use prestige- vs. dominance-based tactics
Using a new 45-country sample
@katyvwalter
+
@dconroybeam
et al. replicate classic work + test evolutionary vs biosocial role perspectives, finding support for the former (e.g., universal sex differences in mate preferences are robust).
NEW PAPER ALERT!
@vaillancourt_dr
et al. explored FRIENDSHIP JEALOUSY on SOCIAL MEDIA:
(a) Women reported greater friendship jealousy
(b) esp. younger women
(c) it was asso with lower friendship quality
(d) predicted ⬆️ in internalizing (e.g., anxiety)
Academic Serenity Prayer:
Darwin, grant me the ability to say "NO" to things, the bandwidth to do the things I must, + the wisdom to know the difference
California parking signs are like reading the 3rd R&R of a manuscript in track changes—and with new footnotes.
But, like, the first author never integrated the comments into a single coherent sentence. It’s just all comments added on the side.
Just out in Current Directions---a look back at 10 years of research on the Fundamental Motives and where we go next (e.g., friend retention?).
Cory Cook (w me + Doug Kenrick) on Kenrick et al.'s (2010) "renovation" of Maslow's pyramid👇
Are there sex/gender differences in how people respond to compliments?
In new work by Carin Perilloux +
@jaimemcloud
: Women (v men) respond more modesty to compliments from same-sex peers, + are sensitive to the relative status of that complimenter.
I can’t believe this guy is one of the awesome people I get to work with in
@OCEAN_OKState
/
@OSUPsychology
!
(He’s like the DJ Khaled of PNAS papers: Another one!)
(Also, we have TWO TT Devo Jobs open! The committee is still accepting apps! Apply! )
Your manuscript is far too lengthy! But please now take great care to add all of the new literature and studies that I, alone, care about. Sincerely, Reviewer 2
New work: How do people end friendships?!
A(n admittedly) small sample of Greek-speaking adults generated 43 acts of termination, classified into seven sub-strategies.
Most preferred the gradual fade out, but people also ghosted...
A few small sex/gender differences, too...
Massive congratulations to
@OCEAN_OKState
/
@OSUPsychology
’s Devanshi Patel who just won the $6000 Robberson Dissertation Fellowship!
Devanshi’s dissertation explores the psychological mechanisms that cause people to stigmatize parents of children with “obesity”.
New friendship manuscript accepted---led by
@JessicaDAyers
+ with
@AthenaAktipis
!
Relationships people, if you want to recruit new grad students ready to dig into friendship, keep an eye out for Jessica's undergrads!
@MARspidermonkey
Yeah.
Two things: (1) Student tears are student tears. We shouldn't relish ANY of them.
(2) My grad students are all women, 6 of 7 in OCEAN are BIPOC, most are LGBTQ+.
These are the people you're positively relishing cruelty toward?
In-press at EHB, we explore sex/gender similarities + differences in men's + women's friendship jealousy---those feelings that we sometimes experience when our friends make new friends.
A short🧵
1/8
Venting doesn’t decrease our anger.
So what does venting do for venters?
I’ll be talking about venting as a form of social competition (e.g., to get our friends to like us better than they like their/our other mutual friends) today
@SESPcon
!
.
@EvolHumBehav
’s remembrance of Tooby’s genius is live—ft favorite quotes (+ their meanings). Incl:
Entertain all hypotheses
But is it true?
“Learning” is not an “alternative hypothesis”
I will only know that our interaction is one-shot if I kill you