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This is the way

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Just got an email from someone who just discovered that men are asking out his scheduling bot (literally a bot that just schedules meetings via generically written emails), just because it signs off with a female-sounding name

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2 years

Perfectly done

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the only appropriate response here is murder, and any jury will acquit you

Am I the Asshole?

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AITA for going over my wife and speaking candidly to her boss?

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This is seriously f'd up: at-will workers quit their jobs for higher pay, old employer asks court to block them from starting said new jobs until they can re-hire, judge grants injunction preventing them from starting their new jobs. AT-WILL WORKERS.

What to know about the battle over Wisconsin health care workers now playing out in court

ThedaCare pursued legal action to prevent seven health care workers in Wisconsin from starting a new job at a nearby hospital.

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Until now, in 16 years of writing Ask a Manager, I've never had a flood of people from one specific field write to me to ask about how to leave their field. But it's happening now with teaching -- every day I have another letter from a teacher who's trying to get out

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3 years

my employee wasn’t respectful enough after the company messed up her paycheck

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I had an abortion when I was 16. Planned Parenthood gave me the kindest care I've ever received. It made my life immeasurably better than it would have been otherwise.

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3 years

YOU GUYS. Remember the letter from the manager who wouldn't let their best employee go to her college graduation so she quit on the spot? After all these years, the employee stumbled across the letter and just emailed me to say what a jerk the boss was.

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We did it! We made it through months of training and background checks and education on trauma and questions about our marriage and childhoods, and as of today we are licensed foster parents for teenagers!

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1 year

My mom, who 13 months ago was given 8-11 months to live, graduates from chemo today, with her stage 4 pancreatic cancer shrunk so small it's barely visible on a scan:

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@emmadrewinfo @jessicaliebman Hard disagree. And it'll discriminate against candidates from backgrounds where they don't get this kind of job search training, which has nothing to do with skills & ability to excel on the job. I like thank-you notes but making them a requirement is a terrible practice

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let's all agree to do this

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2 years

A surprising number of men think they should email me privately with their opinions about a column they saw from me--sometimes to disagree, other times to agree. This is 100% only from men, never women. They are supremely confident that women who write should hear their thoughts.

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4 years

I think I could run a service where I did nothing but assure people that it's truly OK to quit a job that's making you miserable.

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3 years

She is doing well! I'm asking her if I can print something from her.

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4 years

This employer, on the other hand, has the right idea.

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We have foster failed and they are ours. Meet Stella and Fig.

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2 years

this is a thing

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While I was lying awake at dawn, I came up with a business to cater to perimenopausal women: a sleep spa. You would go there to sleep. It would have lavender wafting in, soothing sounds, cooling sheets, a kitten to curl up with you, someone to come in to massage your neck, etc

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2 years

Certain letters I am just very, very excited to answer.

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Sometimes I think that when I'm ready to stop writing Ask a Manager, I'll start a service where I just call up people's employers and read them the riot act about whatever brand of crappy behavior they're indulging in.

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3 years

the new hire who showed up is not the same person we interviewed

A reader writes: This is a situation currently unfolding at my husband's office so I’m a very amused bystander and thought I’d get your opinion on this

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My cats have all agreed on a rule that if they are chasing each other, a cat who reaches the bathroom is safe and cannot be chased further. As soon as the chased target crosses the threshold, the chaser must cease.

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8 months

genius

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3 years

A funny story I've been waiting to tell about what happened when one of my references for fostering kids thought the reference was supposed to be about whether I'd be suitable to foster CATS. I'll just share the email he sent me after he hung up from the reference call:

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8 months

it's so hard to write when i am headachey but just when I needed it, a question titled "my coworker brought sex workers back to our hotel on a business trip" came into my inbox and now I can write again

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1 year

no it is not

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4 years

This person's employer makes them show that they're wearing shoes before Zoom meetings to make sure they're complying 100% with the dress code while they're at home. SHOES. Employers, some of you have lost your way.

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3 years

omg no

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5 months

Can someone please explain this question to me

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4 years

why is there not better language for this

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2 years

my last day of vacation and i am ending it as I began it 5 weeks ago: by reading random crap online from under a blanket, continuously thinking "I should do something else with this day," and then not moving for hours

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3 years

I'm sure it has nothing to do with the fact that he sells office space

The Wall Street Journal

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WeWork's CEO tells WSJ there is an easy way for companies to spot their most engaged employees: They’re the ones who want to come back to the office. “Those who are least engaged are very comfortable working from home,” he said.

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4 years

One of these things is not like the others

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5 years

Good lord no. People need walls. And quiet. And space to focus. And the ability to have confidential conversations.

Mike Bloomberg

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5 years

As president, I'll turn the East Room into an open office plan, where I’ll sit with our team. I’ll use the Oval Office for some official functions – never for tweeting – but the rest of the time, I’ll be where a leader should be: with the team.

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In what can only be seen as a holiday miracle, this person has agreed to do a full write-up about the cheap-ass rolls coworker AND let me question her intensely.

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3 years

Y'all, we may have heard from a coworker of the cheap-ass rolls person!

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2 years

what

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3 years

It is time to consult with a more competent lawyer

Nithin Kamath

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We are running a fun health program at @zerodhaonline . Anyone on our team with BMI <25 gets half a month's salary as bonus. The avg BMI of our team is 25.3 & if we can get to <24 by Aug, everyone gets another ½ month as a bonus. It'd be fun to compete with other companies 😁 1/3

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4 years

After 7 long years, I've finally received another letter about an employee placing magical curses on people

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2 months

for fuck's sake. this is an utterly normal thing to do. resumes are marketing documents, not exhaustive accounts of everything you've ever done. i am hereby banishing from the planet the person who thought this was a story

Peter J. Hasson

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NEW: Kamala Harris’s missing “summer job” at McDonald’s job. Her resume and job application a year after graduating college — @FreeBeacon obtained through FOIA — don’t mention it. Neither do either of her books, or either of the biographies on her. @SaysSimonson @ChuckRossDC and

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update: HR won’t do anything about a coworker who’s angry about my weight loss

Remember the letter-writer whose HR wouldn't do anything about a coworker who was angry about her post-surgery weight loss? Here’s the update. All I have

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5 years

@DocDre Please tell your brother to push back with unemployment. In most states, having your hours cut still qualifies you for benefits, even if you're technically "employed"

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1 year

This should be all conferences

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3 years

I just wrote an answer to a letter that made my blood boil and now I am going to need to lie in a dark room and play soothing music

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3 years

think about this the next time you take an authority figure at their word just because they're in uniform...

Jake Tapper

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Seriously, read it again knowing what we know:

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4 years

Seems like Trader Joe's violated the Natl Labor Relations Act by firing someone for speaking up w/coworkers for better working conditions

Ben Bonnema

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@TraderJoesUnion here's the letter they gave me

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4 years

@Cupcakes_n_Rap @emilyhiggs24 self-care in a work context needs to be redefined as asking for/receiving more money and taking time off. nothing else.

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3 years

When we first mentioned we were doing this, someone said to me, "Those kids have a lot of trauma, you know! You should consider a foreign exchange student instead." The trauma is the point.

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2 years

this is an intriguing response to someone asking what would make you come to the office more

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5 years

My 15-year-old niece and her friend are staying with me. Teenagers are amazing. They are living on nothing but Fanta, Reese’s peanut butter cups, chips, and a bag of raw spinach they’re eating straight from the bag.

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3 years

Washingtonian CEO doesn't realize she's writing about her own lack of management ability.

Polly

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I absolutely need to hear @AskAManager ’s take on this op-ed

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“At a previous job we received a 3-page resume that started with a list of accomplishments. One of the so-called accomplishments was ‘Met Lenny Kravitz.’ ...Then we got to the third page of his resume and it was just a scanned picture of him with Lenny Kravitz."

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5 years

read this whole thread immediately

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3 years

For anyone who ever thinks it would be a good idea to moderate an online comments section, please know one day you will find yourself writing rules like "if it’s coming out of your body in a liquid, gas, or solid form, it’s not an appropriate topic for this site"

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3 years

Always negotiate your salary, yes. YES. But also, be an employer that pays fairly and doesn't play BS games (games that lead to women and POC being paid less, something companies are legally obligated to care about...)

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🗣 Always negotiate your salary 🥴 #blackwomenintech #techtwitter #InterviewTips #techtalk #WomenWhoCode #BlackTech

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I just came across a compilation I did in 2018 of strange things people have seen on resumes and now you are going to get some of the best highlights. (thread)

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2 years

I cannot stop laughing at this

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2 years

my niece and heir

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4 years

this is amazing

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2 years

Unbelievable. Twitter employee tags Elon to find out if he's still employed or not, Elon demands he list the work he's been doing, then when he does he replies with "pics or it didn't happen"... why would you be so grossly disrespectful toward people who worked for you?!

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Dear @elonmusk 👋 9 days ago the access to my work computer was cut, along with about 200 other Twitter employees. However your head of HR is not able to confirm if I am an employee or not. You've not answered my emails. Maybe if enough people retweet you'll answer me here?

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Weirdly, had some plastic eggs on hand from who knows what. Added them, more grass, and hid things better. The final result:

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Every year this salary survey gets tons of responses from women and hardly any from men. Men, please share your salary info (anonymously) so we have concrete salary comparisons to inform pay negotiations and fight the pay gap:

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2 years

how much money do you make?

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We've got 12,000+ people sharing their salaries in this spreadsheet. Please add yours and spread the word! (And you can see tons of real-life salary data here, sortable by location, industry, etc.)

how much money do you make?

It’s hard to get real-world information about what jobs pay. Online salary websites are often inaccurate, and people can get weird when you ask them

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3 years

Y'all, we may have heard from a coworker of the cheap-ass rolls person!

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3 years

This post is going viral and reaching people who are unfamiliar w/how advice columns work and think that *I* am the manager writing in. So I'm getting lots of comments like this one.

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3 years

my employee wasn’t respectful enough after the company messed up her paycheck

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5 years

These are the letters I've consulted w/my husband about in the last year: coworker keeps adjusting his balls in meetings, LW can't stop looking at coworker's breasts, and now a bathroom masturbator. Every time he is more shocked + disgusted than me, which I think is very sweet.

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6 years

Coming tomorrow is one of the most low-stakes but fascinating questions I've ever received: "My coworker only drinks things out of caps and lids"

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1 year

Our vet sent us this after our cat had his final radiation treatment today and I can't decide if this is strange

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1 year

could there be a business that would set up a salad bar in your house and they would come and refresh the ingredients every 48 hours

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4 years

@lalaa_beee @AITA_reddit Wow. You don't fire someone for being 5 minutes late + you can't accept promotions to manage your fiancé's staff and expect people to like or trust you. I'll agree the culture of secrecy is a problem but the OP isn't going to be able to fix it (probably ever, but definitely now)

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3 years

“A husband and wife applied together for one position with a single resume. It listed degrees + experience w/ dates but did not differentiate between spouses. They explained they preferred to share a job and decide among themselves who would show up on any given day."

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4 years

@brixtandrew @sophsa @MooseAllain Neither -- it's for fuck's sake (you need the apostrophe because "fuck" is possessive here -- as in, for the sake of the fucks)

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5 years

what’s reasonable for managers to expect of parents working from home?

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6 years

rejecting anyone who doesn’t send a thank-you note is terrible hiring

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3 years

Coming at 11 am ET tomorrow and I will just give you the headline now: "my employee wasn’t respectful enough after the company messed up her paycheck" ... and that downplays it.

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2 years

One day before the 15th anniversary of the site, the AAM server finally collapsed under the weight of 15 years of posts and comments. There is now a new, much more expensive server running so if you got errors this morning, it should be fixed now.

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4 years

Presented without comment, a preview of the first 2 lines of the answer to tomorrow morning's letter:

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1 year

This little cat has survived FIP and was cleared to stop meds today!

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2 years

Getting letters from Twitter employees wondering what to do, and publishing an answer to one on Monday...

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2 years

update on this one coming later today (and it's even more drama-filled than you might expect)

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2 years

a DNA test revealed the CEO is my half brother … and he’s freaking out

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6 years

@mominiquematti @Nicole_Cliffe please read this immediately

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2 years

Coming Monday: "my male coworkers are insisting on taking period leave." My head has exploded and is in small pieces.

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3 years

I was the editor of both the official high school newspaper AND its competition, the banned-under-school-rules underground newspaper

Amanda ☠️ bert

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What is something you did as kid/young person that exemplifies exactly who you are now? One of those “wow, that is so me” stories

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5 years

basically this

Sarah Pauling

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5 years

every askamanager question: LW: my employee ate my dog and has threatened to eat the dogs of others. is this something we can coach out of her? AAM: have you, even once, addressed this directly at any time LW: heavens no, i don't want to be mean

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what

The New York Times

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Indra Nooyi, the former CEO of Pepsi, says she has “never, ever, ever” asked for a raise. “I find it cringeworthy. I cannot imagine working for somebody and saying my pay is not enough.” Read the full interview with her in @NYTMag .

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3 years

Had to cancel our deck cleaning because found this in a nest under it.

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4 years

OK, I think I am going with "my employee's clothes accentuate her chest -- how do I talk to her about it?" (Answer remains "don't.")

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2 years

I have never made an Easter basket until now (nor received one; am Jewish) and need advice from those who have: Is this too much candy? Should there be more grass visible? What am I missing?

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2 years

truly an ass. who will ever want to take a job for this man again? and that aside, how does he even have time for this?

Best of Dying Twiter

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"I hope that even my worst critics remain on Twitter, because that is what free speech means"

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5 years

Possibly my favorite headline I've ever written (coming tomorrow): "my volunteer is into BDSM and wants to be a servant at our living history events"

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3 years

We're at over 15,000 people sharing their salaries now ... and we're still at 84% women. Men, please do women a solid and fill this out to give us all concrete salary comparisons to inform pay negotiations!

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3 years

We've got 12,000+ people sharing their salaries in this spreadsheet. Please add yours and spread the word! (And you can see tons of real-life salary data here, sortable by location, industry, etc.)

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I've spent the weekend scheduling all the updates for December updates season. There are a LOT this year -- it's looking like 6 posts a day for most of the month.

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We are days away from being (foster) parents so maybe this is good practice

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This is a big deal -- as of yesterday it's illegal to put non-disparagement or confidentiality clauses in severance agreements (and they have been in basically every single one up until now)

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This is the small library of YA lit I put together for their bedroom. Further suggestions welcome. (I made myself learn about modern era YA rather than buying what I liked as a teen and it was pretty fun.) Further suggestions welcome. (They may or may not be readers, of course)

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