lily de mellow-orr @wooingofetain Twitter profile

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lily de mellow-orr

10 months

I wrote about performance culture and the manufactured self: 'if a girl is not a polyglot, does she still make a sound? does she still impress? does she still matter? I was always taught no.'

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11 months

the whole ‘i’m just a girl’ ‘explain palestine but for the girls’ thing is just a way for privileged western women to disassociated themselves from any adult moral duty and responsibility. they’d rather just be complacent in their ignorance. it’s lazy and embarrassing. grow up.

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it should be illegal for girls who wanna be just friends to show up to the hang in the most fuckable sundresses

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the way a woman can’t even post a photo without being accused of being a performative try-hard faux-intellectual pandering to social media audiences omg we need to ban that margaret atwood quote

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1 year

this is where i tweet from btw

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7 months

if you don’t read this as simply “i love (everything, endlessly)” then there’s no hope for you i’m afraid

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hardest shirt ever I ❤️ nothing

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Being a girl, and learning the world is not for you, it’s like a kind of death. Womanhood is a prolonged dying, starting the day you flower. We rot as soon as we ripen.

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binge drinking white wine instead of vodka

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1 year

don’t get all the controversy about the opening line of millie bobbie brown’s new book, i think it’s pretty good tbh

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6 months

me when sally rooney writes another unlikeable brunette with bangs irish communist protagonist

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1 year

wait, if you’re a joan didion fleabag marlboro reds girl, and i’m an esoteric french new wave material feminist girl, then who the hell is flying this plane?

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9 months

the worst person you know’s home screen looks like this btw

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4 months

my year of good posture and making eye contact

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7 months

tweeting something like this should get you sent to the hague

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7 months

Will you join this group?

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💌🍓

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6 months

ngl i thought we were all being ironic in our satirisation of hyperfemininity but recently realised a lot of you do actually live in the third person and perform yourself for the watcher’s gaze

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finally something useful

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1 year

what’s in my bag

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2 years

excessive blush not in a 2019 tiktok e-girl way but in a marie antoinette rococo revival catherine the great decadent enlightenment winter palace dionysus-esque way

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11 months

when dworkin said ‘no woman could have been nietzsche or rimbaud without ending up in a whorehouse or lobotomised’

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4 months

discovered it’s possible to be sad even on lake como

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3 years

the best thing i ever did was delete tiktok and develop my own personal style

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8 months

when james baldwin said ‘the place in which i’ll fit will not exist until i make it’ and when fatima bilal said ‘the world is happening in a room i can’t enter’ and when yesenia montilla said “what / do i know about heaven? the / same thing i know about wings, / i can’t have it’

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3 years

anyone else remember that girl who always bragged about how rich her family was and it turned out her dad worked for ICE

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8 months

@marcmcprostate it’s one of my favourites but it’s started to be used for sinister purposes unfortunately

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1 year

if your 20’s aren’t like this then ur not living

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11 months

mon dîner

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6 months

horrified by the new language men are using to make misogyny and gender essentialism socially acceptable again

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4 months

maybe not everyone’s meant to be a poet

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8 months

literally just turning feminist talking points into straight-up misogyny some of you cannot be helped

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11 months

how life feels rn for autumn girls

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5 months

@dragonfruitbby discovered this one from my home town recently that made me sick

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2 years

men who vape r so gross. women who vape however… ily <3

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currently

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a nap here would cure me

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7 months

i remember getting called a fake pretentious cunt for posting this last year even though this is exactly what i kept in my bag :(

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hate when girls do those incredibly staged “what’s in my bag” pictures like they’re carrying around a full bottle of tom ford lost cherry and a didion paperback at all times

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11 months

wore ballet flats to villefranche-sur-mer you can’t call me not dedicated to the coquette cause

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11 months

crazy how a man can literally just hold a child and be branded “good with kids”

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when men are good with kids >>> 😁😁😁

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6 months

this whole kate middleton thing has made me realise the large majority of twitter users are fucking idiots

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my analysis of the kate middleton photo saga is that they took her face from the vogue cover she did years ago and edited it in

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11 months

to be clear, i’m referring to this

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You People are BRAIN DEAD

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3 years

lonely not is a gross loser way, but in a romantic muse tortured genius esoteric starving artist no one understands me better than everyone else sorta way

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8 months

personally i’d rather kms that be financially dependent on a man

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11 months

don’t know how people are misconstruing this as being against simplifying information. i’m not saying you need to get a copy of edward said’s orientalism and write a hundred page dissertation on peace in the middle east. just don’t flaunt and aestheticise your own ignorance

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1 year

anyway

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1 year

@erifilii may i humbly suggest these two

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9 months

oh ok

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@postnuclearjoan éric rohmer would’ve eaten him up

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1 year

@VCHFPE here’s an article about it

Lost in Translation: What the First Line of “The Stranger” Should Be

www.newyorker.com

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11 months

i am going to make a beautiful life for myself (despite, despite, despite…)

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3 years

i am just like her (a virgin and suicidal)

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1 year

horny but in an anaïs nin way

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11 months

why are some people more invested in celebrities’ reactions to the palestine/israel conflict than the actual conflict itself. imagine watching world events through the lens of being able to cancel some d-list actor who hasn’t had a gig since 2017. you are not real people

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5 years

anemic culture is passing out when u orgasm

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call me big cos i’m moving to paris babyy

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1 year

i am nothing if not a fire hazard

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7 months

excerpt from mayakovsky by frank o’hara

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11 months

on being a girl with the gall to like things

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3 years

the way i’m in love with her

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6 months

ok maybe i’m guilty of this too but i’m trying not to panopticon-post as much these days

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10 months

having olive skin in ireland is crazy a woman just came up to me speaking spanish and calling me chica, girl i’m CZECH

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3 years

pretty girls read

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3 months

essay to be written on the recent liberal feminist obsession with anne boleyn and lady jane grey

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3 years

she just arrived <3

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8 months

don’t have the time to vocalise all my thoughts on this right now but last month i wrote about my own relationship to performance on my substack, here’s a link for those interested:

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4 years

someone isn’t gonna stop being mentally ill bc you’ve bullied them off twitter

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my aurora borealis is better than your aurora borealis

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I GOT THE JOB IN PARIS !!

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there’s no way a man wrote this

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anok is a real life angel

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musings on womanhood

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4 years

i’m such a carb whore ugh

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9 months

when florence welch said ‘being clever never got me very far’ and when alexander solzhenitsyn said ‘there’s a lot of cleverness in the world but not enough kindness’ and when franz kafka said ‘how about if I sleep a little bit longer and forget all this nonsense’

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nan goldin, breakfast in bed, hotel torre di bellosguardo, italy, 1996

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faye wei wei for vogue polska, 2021

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i’m not following the waif trend thing btw i’m just naturally irritating

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@themusingnotes it’s from an unpublished essay i’m working on! potentially will be posting it next week x

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just girly things

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3 years

lmao guess she hasn’t changed

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my irish dad’s live reaction to the trump shooting

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for autumn <3

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they’re discovering new ways of saying “no immigrants” ig

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grief is so strange all i did yesterday was spend seven straight hours learning italian on duolingo

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private GP just accidentally prescribed me meth

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italian charm bracelets

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being twenty and idle, somehow living both beyond your means and below it, pissing away your inheritance and stuffing your brain with philosophy in an attempt to become the most insufferable person there is. what a time to be alive

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horse girl, hope olson, 2023

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believe it or not, when talking about palestine my first thought isn’t “how do i make this kind and palatable? how do i say this with a smile on my face?” i’m not trying to be a joy. a woman doesn’t always have to be.